Have you ever seen a really tall person with a really short person and wondered how they make things work in the bedroom? Everyone has a different body type: short, tall, long legs, skinny, large, small penis, big boobs, etc. Just because you’re a little physically mismatched doesn’t mean you can’t still have great sex, though. The solution could be as simple as figuring out the mechanics first, so let’s explore sex positions for couples with height and/or weight differences.
A Tall Order
When it comes to height differences in general, furniture is your friend. Tables, counters, and tall chairs are the perfect place to prop yourself up and raise your pelvis up to an easier height for penetration. Adding props like suspension swings, or ties to suspend your legs and arms can make finding the right position even more fun. Once you get into furniture sex, there’s a whole world of possibilities that could change your entire decorating and sex style, so give it a try and thank us later!
If he’s taller
Having sex with a guy who’s way taller than you can sometimes feel like climbing mount Everest. To alleviate the height difference, start with him on his knees. As he’s bent down, climb on top — from there he can stand up, lay down, or keep sitting.
If she’s taller
If she’s the taller one, try positions with her on top. Sit in a chair and have her straddle you, or use a table for her to lie on. That’ll give you the excitement of furniture sex along with a twist on missionary that won’t feel awkward.
If one or both partners are larger in size, then it’s all about altering your body angles. Keep your torsos tilted away from each other; this will keep you from feeling squished and allow for deeper penetration.
Turning your partner into a human chair is a great position for larger people, as it allows you to control depth of penetration a bit more. If someone has a big belly or large boobs, you can lean back to allow more room between your torsos while maintaining a sense of intimacy. It’s also great for kissing, and you can hug your partner the entire time you make love.
If he’s heavier
If your guy is a lot heavier than you, the missionary position can leave you feeling a bit crowded. Try changing it up a bit by having him stand on his knees instead of laying on top of you, or lay on your back and let him penetrate you from underneath. This will give you a lot of the same sensation without the potential for discomfort.
If he has a big belly, lie on your side and put your legs straight out in front of you in an “L’ shape so he can penetrate you from behind. This will allow him to go deeper without his belly getting in the way.
If she’s heavier
As plus size models continue to grace the cover of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition and wander through the minds of men who are actively engaged in sex with stick-figure girlfriends, the trend toward having sex with big, beautiful women is also rising with amazing trajectory. Thick thighs, soft hands, a warm smile, and a much higher propensity for squirting orgasms can all be yours if you learn how to properly approach your Rubenesque playmate.
First, it’s worth noting that bigger girls may be shy about their bodies due to years of unhelpful body shaming. Be a gentleman and offer to leave the lights on or off as she desires until she becomes more comfortable with you. Next, keep in mind that some positions may be more strenuous for her, since gravity and her heightened libido can sap her endurance or may strain her hips unnecessarily. Most of all, be sure to think of her as the unique person she is… you aren’t having sex with a generic stand-in who happens to have big tits, a beautiful smile,and the kind of thumping orgasms you’ve always wanted to instigate – she has a name, she isn’t like anyone else and she deserves to be adored with the same kind of lust that she gives you on a personal level.
The Long and Short of It
Ever try having sex from behind but the guy’s junk was so big it gave you more pain than pleasure? Doggie style is known for being a deep penetrating position, but by changing the degree of arch in your back you can control how deeply he penetrates so it’s a lot more comfortable. Conversely, if your guy is smaller and you still want that deeper feeling, arch your back downward and tilt your pelvis upward. This will give him the best possible angle for deeper penetration. With a smaller guy, friction is your friend, so try squeezing your legs together to get an even tighter fit. You can also try something simple like putting a pillow under your butt to raise your hips up a bit. This will make it easier for him to penetrate and result in an even more pleasurable experience for you.
Another position that provides ultimate depth control is lying on your back with your legs up by your ears. The depth is controlled by how close your legs are to your ears – so if they are right next to your ears, then he can get pretty deep. If you push them away from your head, the depth will be lessened and you won’t run the risk of feeling like you’ve been stabbed with a meat missile.
Stand and Deliver
Many people like the idea of having sex standing up and facing each other, which can be challenging if there’s a huge height and/or weight difference between partners. Having sex standing up requires strength and stamina, so it may be tough if the partner doing the holding isn’t super fit. If you’re not built like a body builder and want to reduce some of the weight associated with this position, try doing it in a pool. The water will offset your partner’s weight so you should have no problem holding on to them.
Get Comfortable and Enjoy the Ride
Many of the more physically challenging sex positions work better in the water, so if you’re having trouble in the bedroom try taking it to the pool instead.
The wheelbarrow, for example, is where the woman is in a pushup position with her legs wrapped around the guy. It’s highly pleasurable and a great upper body workout, but unless you do a lot of pushups you may not be able to maintain it for long. Doing the same thing while submerged in a pool of water, however, will make it much easier to hold your partner up and enjoy the position for longer.
Sex can be particularly challenging if you have a bad back, so avoid positions that involve standing and over exertion. Instead, try ones where you lay on your side or your back. That will be much easier on your body so you can sit back and enjoy the moment.
Any way you look at it, sex can be amazing, but sometimes you have to take the time to figure out what works the best for you and your partner. So experiment and see what works best for you, and check out the Adult FriendFinder advice lines for more tips from fellow members who know a thing or two about pleasure!