Back in the day, you may have wondered how you’d ever find a place to meet other like-minded people for hot new romances, casual sex, or polyamorous affairs. Now, thanks to Adult FriendFinder, you always know exactly where to go when you want to meet someone new – but so does everyone else, and in a community of millions of sexy singles, the new question becomes, how exactly are you going to find ways to stand out?
Creating a standout dating profile on a platform like Adult FriendFinder can be the difference between finding the connections you crave or too often being overlooked – but you also want to be authentic about who you really are, or the connections you make won’t have the kind of intimacy that only a real interpersonal hookup can bring you. Here’s how to craft a profile that not only grabs attention but also represents the real you:
An Honest and Direct Profile IS a Captivating Profile
Be clear about your intentions, interests, and who you are. Whether you’re looking for something casual, exploring new sexual ideas, or wanting to find a more serious relationship with other singles or couples, stating your desires upfront can help attract people with similar expectations. Skipping all the preamble is a great way to show people you are already at peace in your own headspace.
Your profile should be a mix of useful information and a playful look at your personality. Start with a catchy opening line that reflects some of who you are, perhaps a famous quote or an interesting fact about yourself. Then, follow up with details about your hobbies, skills, and what excites you. Keep it concise but engaging. You want to give enough information to pique their interest but leave enough mystery to encourage them to ask you more during an upcoming conversation.
As a good rule of thumb, mentioning what turns you on or turns you off is a plus, but telling them every last detail about the best blowjob you have ever given is something you should probably save for instant messages and emails after you have decided the person asking is worth all your time and effort to attract.
What Makes You “YOU” – Highlight Your Unique Qualities and Interests
What makes you different? Do you have unusual hobbies, talents, or passions? Everyone enjoys “long walks on the beach,” so saying those sorts of things won’t add much to your profile. Still, if you mention your favorite beaches are Ocho Rios in Jamaica and Jones Beach in New York, now you are starting to give the person checking you out a clearer and more specific look at the kind of person you are – and you are also making it easier for them to start the conversation.
Keep in mind that many people get shy about sending that first instant message, but if they see things they have in common with you, it gets so much easier for them to send a text saying, “I love Ocho Rios too. I was at Hedonism a few years back. Maybe we met there?” That easy opening to start a chat is all it takes to ease people into your dating life!
Include Suggested Things They Should Contact You About
Instead of just telling everyone what you are looking for, why not also let them know how best to contact you? Simple hints like “I love chatting about travel and I’m a long-time lover of text tattoos” give everyone an easy way to find that pesky end of the roll of tape in their mind, which leads them to start engaging in conversations with you.
Be clear about the type of person you want to meet. This doesn’t mean listing rigid criteria; just describe qualities you admire (everyone says things like kindness, a sense of humor, or a love for adventure), but you can dig deeper than that for sure. Perhaps saying something more like “I’m looking for a man with the hands of a sculptor and the tongue of a sommelier” – that doesn’t just seem flirtatious, it also lets them know you are much more into a refined gentleman than an angry construction worker. Again, there are no right or wrong desires, but if you want to find the kind of people worth meeting, you need to be specific about whoever it is you are looking for right now.
Keep It Positive and Sincere
Yes, you can show off your sense of humor, but you don’t want to be so jokey that nobody takes your profile seriously. Also, it’s fine to mention a few important turn-offs, like, for example, if you don’t want to hook up with smokers or heavy drinkers, but don’t turn your profile into a non-stop whining list of turn-offs that make you seem way too picky for anyone to approach.
Focus instead on positive aspects when describing yourself and what you’re looking for, and you can even use the positive voice to help you lay out your turn-offs as well. It may seem silly, but saying “I’m looking for a nonsmoker” is way more inviting than “I won’t have sex with smokers,” even though those two statements mean the exact same thing. One is just a nicer, more inclusive-sounding way to say it!
Update Your Dating Profile Regularly
Last summer you may have been D2F just about anyone who looked good in a bowtie because you were going through a phase, and what you wrote on your dating profile likely reflected your mood back then. If you are still in that same headspace it’s fine to leave your wanted poster up until all your needs get fully satisfied, but if your focus has shifted then you need to update your profile to show that as well.
All too often, people get offended because someone contacts them in a way they dislike when, in reality, it’s only happening because their dating profile information is way out of date, and the person browsing you has no idea your mindset has changed. Do everyone a favor, including yourself, and keep your profile fresh by updating it as things change in your life. Adding new hobbies, photos, or life achievements can reflect your current state of mind, and showing some photos that aren’t from eleven years ago also sets realistic expectations of who they will be meeting without having to employ a time machine!
Use Proper Grammar and Spelling Instead of ChatGPT
Good writing can make a big difference. Use spell check and read your profile out loud to catch any errors, but stay far away from ChatGPT. So many singles are making the mistake of letting AI write their profiles…. And all that does is make you sound just like everyone else. Even when AI says something clever on your profile, it has already said the same thing on thousands of other profiles. If you want to stand out from the crowd, you are going to need to invest a few minutes into actually telling people who you are without having a robot do it for you.
Have Fun With the Process
Dating is fun. Hooking up is fun. Meeting new people is fun. Creating an interesting, informative, honest, and sincere dating profile about yourself is ALSO fun! Let yourself enjoy the process of introspection, getting to know yourself, and sharing yourself with the world. You are an amazing person, and all you are doing with your dating profile is letting everyone else know just how awesome you are. If you put a little time and energy into your profile, they will put plenty of time and energy into you as well.
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