A picture says a thousand words, and when it comes to online dating, it can say a trillion words. So, when you are putting together your Adult FriendFinder dating profile, how can you use photos to gain the right kind of attention?
For starters, if you are reading this article, there is a good chance you are not a professional photographer – which is fantastic. In fact, even the best pro photographers go out of their way to make dating profile pics look authentic and amateur. People seeking to find an oil painting are looking for fine art, but dating enthusiasts want to see the real you, and that isn’t a filtered and touched-up photo that makes your skin look like it was painted on plastic.
The first and most important thing to know about making good profile pics is that people want to see what you really look like and get a feel for who you are in real life—because they are deciding to meet you in real life, not in some Snapchat-filtered alternate timeline.
Consider the Whole Photo, Not Just Your Face
If you have a sexy pic of yourself that you really like, but there is a garbage truck full of waste on the street behind you, that image isn’t going to send the right message, no matter how good your smile looked that day. Before you post any picture, try to look at it as someone who has never met or seen you before.
Do you really want people to think you are super religious by showing off photos taken of you at your Bar Mitzvah, in a Mosque, or outside a church? Probably not. You also aren’t trying to make yourself seem like a hot mess, with a bunch of drunk friends smoking in a crowded dorm room as your background. Your photo tells people who you are, not just how you look, so make sure it sends a message you want people to see.
A Smile is Worth a Lot
Yes, workout photos can be sexy and send the idea that you value physical fitness, but if you are grunting during the photo like you are trying to give birth to a 50-pound dumbbell, that may not be the way to go. People are attracted to happy and energetic singles or couples, so be sure to show your smile. Even a smirk can do nicely, but the emotion you are displaying does actually matter.
Nobody Needs to See Your Group Photos Unless It’s an Orgy Invitation
Somehow, it became trendy to post photos of yourself in a group of friends. Sometimes, the profile pic includes people you might consider less attractive to make you look better by comparison, which is a super weird flex at best. Sometimes, the photo has so many people in it that it can even become confusing which of the participants is you.
Generally, people want to see photos of YOU since you are the one they are planning to date. Of course, if you are a couple, or if you have friends who are looking for group sex with you and your new partner, then including a photo of your poly partners with that explanation can make a lot of sense. But showing off Diana from work sitting across from you in the break room would be a much better photo if you cropped her out or just chose one of you by yourself somewhere else.
Your “Pretty Good” New Photo is Always Way Better Than Your Best Old Photo
We all have that ONE photo. That picture someone took eleven years ago where the sunlight hit your hair just perfectly, and your face is framed beautifully by the shade of that tree. Yes, you look amazing. Yes, it’s the best photo ever taken by anyone of anyone, and you happen to be the star of the image. However, unless the person looking at it has a time machine, they will never meet that girl. They will meet you now, as you look, and how you are now.
Your current good photo is always better than your best old photo, and you should be very proud of who you are now. Confidence is way more important than any picture when it comes to attracting worthy mates.
Find photos from the last six months and update them often so whoever checks you out online gets an honest, up-to-date look at who will be opening the door when they ring your bell. It matters, and you are way too pretty to rely on bait-and-switch photography anyway.
Ok, But How Much is Showing Too Much?
One of the most common questions we get asked, since this is an adult dating community of open-minded people seeking hookups and casual relationships, is, ” How much is showing too much?” The answer is a lot simpler than you may imagine.
Start by asking yourself who you want to meet. If you really want to meet a guy with a huge cock for a one-night stand that leaves you struggling to walk to your car after he rearranged your insides, then a very candid photo that shows your breasts out and your legs spread may be the kind of hook you want to use.
On the other hand, if you want to meet a couple who enjoys going out to dinner and a night of dancing and may want to have a fling with you for the whole summer, then a tight sweater and a skirt that hems just above your thigh-high stockings may be all you want to reveal in your profile.
Like any good huntress, the lure you want to use to catch yourself someone tasty depends entirely on deciding which sort of catch you are hoping to snag. With millions of members, Adult FriendFinder offers you nearly every kind of potential match, but the people looking for a girl with her hairless and most intimate areas out on her profile are not usually the same people seeking a smart-looking girl in glasses with a book open in a campus library pic.
Be yourself, and you’ll be great!
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