It’s no secret that Adult FriendFinder.com is home to the world’s hottest sex-positive community. Members ambpea have been a part of that community for many years, and today they’re dishing on hotwifing, glory holes, and how they use Adult FriendFinder to fulfill their fantasies as a couple!
How did you (as a couple) decide to try the lifestyle?
We started years ago as swingers, and right before COVID hit, we had actually decided to try this in our own home. So we changed our profile on AFF to invite other men over as hosts for dinner, drinks, and talks so my husband could watch me with other men inside our own home as comfortable as we all could be.
What exactly is Hotwifing in your experience?
For my husband and me, Hotwifing is just that. He thinks it’s extremely hot for me to go around dressed up and have other men flirt with me. He loves showing me off and encourages me to go out without panties, a bra with the right dress, shorts, a tank top, etc., to get other men’s attention. It’s a tad different than cuckolding. He allows me to play with other men alone at times, and that in itself excites him. He definitely wants me to date outside our marriage.
Do you have any boundaries you set before hookups?
I don’t allow other men to go down on me because I save that for [my husband]. Other boundaries are cleanliness, be polite, no drugs, do not come here drinking. During oral sex or sex, boundaries are no S&M stuff, nothing weird or out of the ordinary that makes me think the situation is getting weird.
Many of our readers may not know why gloryholes are so amazing. What do you like most about them?
I’ve honestly been reading, studying, becoming a subject matter expert and have blogged about them years ago for several years now. I’d say since the late 80s to early 90s; I’ve just been intrigued, infatuated with them and the anonymity that they bring. I have talked and interviewed men who were married, professors, high 6 figure jobs to the average guy next door about them. They all say the same thing. It’s the anonymous/ privacy/the not knowing or caring who’s getting them off on the other side. Men can honestly go to an adult bookstore, go in, find a booth and be back in their car in 15 minutes and forget on the way back to work or home all about it and absolutely zero strings attached. I have been to ones in Ky, Indiana, Tennessee, Georgia, and Florida over the years. There are times when they’re not fun. As for being a woman, most gloryholes in adult bookstores are set up to where I cannot get in by myself unless another guy is with me. This is for the safety of the woman and the men in back that are waiting for the right person to show up for them. There are unwritten rules, codes, etiquette that goes along with a Gloryhole. I’ve contributed my knowledge to articles before on GH Etiquette. And yes, trolls (men who just hang in the hallway that are desperate for action) make GH not fun. Most men who are trolling a bookstore are introverts with no life; some have a drinking problem and those types of men there make for a bad night when other people there are looking for a good time. The thought of being in a semi-dark room with a hole waist high and not knowing who or what is coming through that hole is an extreme high for me. You sometimes think after like was that a president of a bank, a college athlete, my neighbor, did I know him type thoughts occur after.
Tell us about your first Adult FriendFinder experience.
My first experience was I found this guy, and we talked for a week. I told hubby about him, and he told me to invite him over. We discussed when and where and details, and he was married with a full-time job. He came over around 11 am that day and asked if he could have a blow job because he needed to grab lunch and then get back to work. True story. So my first time from a guy on AFF was a blow and go while hubby sat across the living room and watched.
Do you share the fact you are in the lifestyle with those who know you in real life or do you choose to keep your sex lives private?
My best friend knows everything and those that are into this lifestyle know. When I worked, my co-workers did not know. Hubby’s co-workers do not know.
How do you screen potential partners?
Of course, first, we have a profile on AFF, the best site ever! It basically states what I want and what we want out of this. It says that my husband usually watches. So when I talk with another guy, I try and get to know him some. Get a good feeling, maybe share a laugh or two. See if he and I will connect. I like guys who can write a creative sentence or paragraph instead of the men who just send you a message saying, “when can I get my dick sucked” or I have had some guys just be flat rude because this isn’t going to happen within next 5 minutes of them messaging me. I like to talk, connect and get a good feeling about who I’ll be inviting over and I always share a selfie with them to see if they’re still interested after seeing me. If they are and we connect, I’ll set a time and date to have them over or meet them somewhere.
How often do you participate in the lifestyle?
Hubby and I try to get to a bookstore with a gloryhole every 2 or 3 months. Since COVID, it’s been longer since some GHs were closed. We try to have someone over once or twice a month. If we connect with a guy and he wants, he can take me only to a bookstore for fun. That happens a couple of times a year.
Have you had any amazing experiences since our last interview?
I have met a guy that I see regularly, and he’s perfect and just everything I ever wanted out of this. Plus, he’s in the same town as we are, so I see him once or twice a week! We haven’t had any gangbangs thanks to COIVD, and overall they’re hard to set up due to getting guys and trying to work around scheduling for everyone. So we are hoping maybe this year sometime we’ll have another one.
What excites you about the swinging experience?
That I love to see a man happy, satisfied, and knowing I helped in all that for him! So when we swing, I’m happy, hubby is happy, and hopefully, the other guy or guys are happy, so all in all, it’s a very exciting experience!
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