Aaaaaah, multiple orgasms. Who can resist the big O, O, O, and O? Men might say women are lucky because they can have multiple orgasms, leaving many women to ask “what is this amazing talent you speak of?” It’s true — for many women multiple orgasms are still illusive, even after years of practice.
The Mystery of the “Big O”
First, let’s talk about the wonders of an orgasm. If you’re a woman and you’re having orgasms, then good for you. Lots of women aren’t even able to have one successful orgasm, let alone multiples. So if you’re able to have an orgasm with relative ease, consider yourself one of the lucky ones and go masturbate in celebration! Seriously, go masturbate. If you want to be able to achieve multiple orgasms you’re going to need to practice a lot.
Now that we’ve explored orgasms, let’s take a look at multiple orgasms, as there are a few different interpretations of what that means.
Multiple Concurrent Orgasms: This is where you orgasm and then before you ride that wave back down, you have another, and then another, often within seconds of each other. If this was a series of waves, it would be like jumping from peak to peak to peak.
Riding the Wave: When you orgasm, you build up to the release. After the release, you come back down. While you’re riding the wave, you start to come back down but instead of going back to zero, you start your ascension back up. Your orgasm is not concurrent, but is still very close to the first one.
Independent Multiples: This is a traditional orgasm that builds up, peaks, and then comes back down. Then you keep having sex or doing whatever you were doing and start the build up again. Usually there’s a fair amount of time between these orgasms, which is why they are sometimes not considered “multiple.”
When you look at multiple orgasms, you need to understand that anything more than one in a sexual experience is considered “multiple.” Not everyone can have “multiple concurrent” or “ride the wave” orgasms, so don’t feel bad if your body won’t do that. In fact, there are many women who struggle with having more than one orgasm in a single sexual encounter.
Everyone’s body is different and responds differently. Just because one woman can squirt and have concurrent screaming orgasms doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to — and that’s ok. What’s more important is that you find the orgasms you do have to be satisfying.
So now that you love yourself and your orgasm, let’s see if we can love ourselves into having more than one. The first thing you need to do is understand what kind of orgasms you have. Do you have penetrative, clitoral, anal, a combo, or all of the above?
Stimulation and more stimulation: If you have clitoral orgasms, you can often stimulate yourself into having more than one. Masturbate yourself to orgasm, and then let yourself come down a bit. Before you come all the way down, start masturbating again and start the climb back up to another release. If you’re not able to attain the release but you are able to achieve the build-up, then just keep practicing. That will help get your body used to the idea of having multiple climaxes.
This stimulation technique works with any kind of orgasm. If you are penetrative, let yourself come down a bit and then resume masturbating. Keep in mind that you’ll have to change your speed or stimulation technique to build yourself back up.
The switch-a-roo technique: If you’re able to have orgasms from different kinds of stimulation, give yourself an orgasm from the one that’s the hardest for you to achieve. Once you’ve done that, switch to the method that allows you to cum the most quickly. You probably won’t cum as quickly as usual, but you’ll have an easier time getting your body to embrace the next orgasm, and you won’t be as tired.
Bringing in the tools: Using the help of a vibrator or dildo can be a great way to teach your body to have multiple orgasms. Again, the first orgasm should be the one that is harder to achieve. Once you have that one, work on the second. If the second just seems completely illusive, bring in some outside help, like your vibrator. The electronic stimulation can push your body back into orgasm mode and force you into an orgasm. In fact, there are people who practice “forced orgasm” using very powerful sex tools like a Hitachi Wand or Sybian.
Stimulate everything: After you have your first orgasm, change up the stimulation. If you like butt plugs, pop one in and keep fapping. If you like a glass dildo, start using it but don’t stop stimulating your clit. Bringing in additional stimulation can help your body to begin to climax again. Often times the second orgasm will require a stimulation that feels different than the first orgasm.
Just like anything worth having, practice makes perfect. If you are not able to have multiples, start by having one and then trying for another 20 minutes later. Once you can do that, try 10 minutes later, then 5, then 2, then 1. Once you are able to have a couple in row, start trying to have them closer together. Don’t let yourself come completely down from the first one before working on the second. The more your body gets used to the feeling of multiple orgasms, the more it will embrace them.
Not everyone will be able to have them concurrently, or even “ride the wave.” Maybe you’ll be able to ride the wave on some days but not others. It’s ok, and keep in mind that the more you pressure yourself the less likely you are to have any. Remember, you are doing this because it feels good and is fun!
All Hands on Deck.
Once you’re comfortable having multiple orgasms alone, trying getting your partner in on the action. If you tell them what’s been working for you, you can ask them to incorporate that technique into sex. Keep in mind, however, that bringing in a partner can greatly change the path to orgasm because the sensations are different. Just as it took time for you to get there on your own, it will take time to get there with your partner as well.
Start things off with an orgasm during foreplay – either your doing or your partner’s — then try for another during sex. Or have your first during sex, and the second one right after. Just like in the practice, changing up the stimulation can be really helpful. If you had your first orgasm during penetrative sex, try adding digital (finger) stimulation into the mix and see if you can build it up again. If you had one with penetration, stop the penetration and switch to oral and see if you can have another.
The key to having multiple orgasms is to enjoy not only the orgasm, but the process getting to the orgasm as well. If you don’t have one, or two or three, you can still enjoy the process.
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