Have you ever seen a couple that seemed physically mismatched and wondered how they make things work in the bedroom? Variety is the spice of life, and just because people have physical differences doesn’t mean they can’t have great sex. The solution could be as simple as figuring out the mechanics first, so let’s explore sex positions for couples with height and weight differences.
A Tall Order
When it comes to height differences in general, furniture is your friend. Tables, counters, and tall chairs are the perfect place to prop yourself up and raise your pelvis to a more accessible height for penetration. Adding props like suspension swings or ties to suspend your legs and arms can make finding the right position even more fun. Once you get into furniture sex, there’s a whole world of possibilities that could change your entire decorating and sex style, so give it a try and thank us later!
If he’s taller
Any short person who’s ever had sex with a tall man can tell you it can sometimes feel like you’re climbing Mount Everest. To alleviate the height difference, start with him on his knees. As he’s bent down, climb on top — from there, he can stand up, lay down, or keep sitting.
If she’s taller
If she’s the taller one, try positions with her on top. Sit in a chair and have her straddle you, or lay her down on a table. That’ll give you the excitement of furniture sex along with a twist on missionary that won’t feel awkward.
Big Love
If one or both partners are on the larger side, then it’s all about altering your body angles. Keep your torsos tilted away from each other; this will keep you from feeling squished and allow for deeper penetration.
Turning your partner into a human chair is an excellent position for heavier people, as it allows you to control the depth of penetration a bit more. If someone has a big belly or large breasts, you can lean back to allow more room between your torsos while maintaining a sense of intimacy. It’s also great for kissing, and you can hug your partner the entire time you make love.
If he’s heavier
If your guy is a lot heavier than you, the missionary position can leave you feeling a bit crowded. Try changing it up a bit by having him stand on his knees instead of lying on top of you or lying on your back and letting him penetrate you from underneath. This position will give you the same sensation without the potential for discomfort.
If he has a big belly, lie on your side and put your legs straight out in front of you in an “L’ shape so he can penetrate you from behind. This will allow him to go deeper without his belly getting in the way.
If she’s heavier
As plus-size models continue to grace the cover of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition and wander through the minds of curve-loving men from across the globe, the trend toward having sex with big, beautiful women is rising with fantastic trajectory. Thick thighs, soft hands, a warm smile, and a much higher propensity for squirting orgasms can all be yours if you learn how to approach your Rubenesque playmate properly.
First, it’s worth noting that bigger girls may be shy about their bodies due to years of unhelpful body shaming. Be a gentleman and offer to leave the lights on or off as she desires until she becomes more comfortable with you. Next, keep in mind that some positions may be more strenuous for her since gravity can sap her endurance and strain her hips unnecessarily. That said, positions like doggystyle, cowgirl, and reverse cowgirl are perfect because it keeps all those beautiful curves out of the way.
The Long and Short of It
Ever try having sex from behind, but your partner’s junk was so big it gave you more pain than pleasure? Doggie style is known for being a deep penetrating position, but by changing the degree of arch in your back, you can control how deeply they penetrate, so it’s a lot more comfortable.
Conversely, if your partner has a smaller penis, arch your back downward and tilt your pelvis upward to give him the best possible angle for deeper penetration. With a smaller penis, friction is your friend, so try squeezing your legs together to get an even tighter fit. You can also try something simple like putting a pillow under your butt to raise your hips a bit, so it’s easier for him to penetrate, resulting in an even more pleasurable experience for you.
Another position that provides maximum penetration is laying on your back with your legs up by your ears. The depth is controlled by how close your legs are to your ears – so if they are right next to your ears, your partner can get pretty deep. If you push them away from your head, it will lessen the depth.
Stand and Deliver
Many people like the idea of having sex standing up and facing their partner, which can be challenging if there’s a considerable height and weight difference between partners. Having sex standing up requires strength and stamina, so it may be tricky if the partner doing the holding isn’t super fit. If you’re not built like a bodybuilder and want to reduce some of the weight associated with this position, try doing it in a pool. The water will offset your partner’s weight, so you should have no problem holding on to them.
Get Comfortable and Enjoy the Ride
Many of the more physically challenging sex positions work better in the water, so if you’re having trouble in the bedroom, try taking it to the pool instead.
For example, in the wheelbarrow position, the woman is in a pushup pose with her legs wrapped around her partner. It’s highly pleasurable and a great upper body workout, but unless you do pushups every day, you may not be able to maintain it for long. Doing the same thing while submerged in a pool of water, however, will make it much easier to hold your partner up and enjoy the position for longer.
Sex can be particularly challenging if you have a bad back, so avoid anything that involves standing and over-exertion. Instead, try positions that involve laying on your back or side. That’ll be much easier on your body so you can sit back and enjoy the moment.
Any way you look at it, sex can be amazing, but sometimes you have to take the time to figure out what works the best for you and your partner. So experiment and see what works best for you, and check out the Adult FriendFinder advice lines for more tips from fellow members who know a thing or two about pleasure!
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