According to studies, 75% of women can’t achieve orgasm through penetration alone. The woman you’re with now, or will be with in the future, will need a little more, and that’s where oral sex comes in.
Many guys see oral sex as a brief pit stop en route rather than a main destination, so they don’t put much energy into honing their skills.
There’s just something about being able to drive a woman wild with your mouth that feels like having a legitimate superpower. Want to drive her crazy? Use the following tips to eat pussy like a pro!
1. Make Her Comfortable
If you treat going down on your partner like a chore, she will notice, and it will take her out of the moment. Women, in particular, need to be relaxed and comfortable to enjoy sex.
You’ll put your partner at ease and boost their degree of pleasure if you show them you actually enjoy giving oral, rather than just doing it because it’s expected.
Make sure she can lie back and let every muscle go. Set her up with a few pillows if she wants to be propped up for comfort. Your comfort is just as important as hers. Position yourself to avoid any neck or hand cramping.
2. Be Patient and Take It Slowly
Some guys will jump head first off the high dive into her lap and start lapping her up like their lives depended on it. However, her experience will be way more pleasurable if you start slow.
Work your way slowly down her body paying close attention to her breasts. Once you’re down there, kiss her inner thighs and slowly get closer to her labia.
By starting slow and switching up the intensity from high to low and low to high, you create sexual tension, which eventually spills over in the form of orgasm.
3. Ask Her What She Likes
Showing interest in what brings your partner pleasure is a huge turn-on. Every person’s body is different, and people enjoy being stimulated in various ways. Ask your partner what they want you to do to them.
If she’s unsure what works for her, try touching her in different ways and encourage her to tell you what feels good. It definitely makes for some sparkling dirty talk. The thing is, you’re not a mind-reader. Ask and then do what your partner says.
4. When Something Works, Keep At It
The number one rule of great oral sex is consistency. What one person likes, another may not. Every single body is different and likes different things.
That being said, when you find something that’s working, stick to it. The moment your partner is moaning that she’s about to come is not the moment to try something new.
5. Gently Work the Clitoris
The clitoris is a gateway to some of the most insane levels of peak pleasure a woman could ever experience. This is because it has around 8,000 nerve endings, which is more than twice what the penis has.
You’re missing out on a massive treasure chest of sexual experience if you ignore the clitoris.
There are different ways to work the clitoris. Start slowly. Dance around the clit with your tongue, or lightly graze it to start building sensation.
Listen to your partner respond as you lick their clit up and down or from side to side. You should be able to tell which they prefer, and it never hurts to ask if they like it!
Instead of just licking her, use your lips and tongue to suck on her clit. You could try gentle back and forth motions, small circular motions, or even a light tap. Engage the clitoral hood, too. Remember, it also has nerve endings.
There are other key internal erogenous zones, but a decent percentage of women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation. So give it the attention, love, and respect it deserves.
6. Cover All Bases
Some people are just fine with clitoral stimulation alone, while others may prefer extra stimulation such as penetration. Here are some ideas for that extra stimulation.
- Work on the labia — The labia are sensitive too, so don’t forget about them. Stimulate them by gently licking them to offer a more all-encompassing sensation.
- Use your fingers — If your partner likes to be penetrated during oral, you can use one or two fingers to penetrate the vagina. Lightly stroke the G-spot with your fingers in a curling motion while licking their clit.
- Don’t forget the breasts — Again, breasts and nipples are super sensitive. With a free hand, reach up and grab their breast or rub their nipple as you’re going down on them.
- See if they like tongue penetration — Some people enjoy penetration from the tongue when getting head, but it doesn’t offer as much stimulation as licking the clit, for example. See how they respond, and if they like it, alternate between the clit and vagina with your tongue.
- Play around with her butt — Some people enjoy anal stimulation while receiving head, whether through your fingers or mouth. Again, always remember to get consent and make sure you know their hygiene preferences.
- Don’t be afraid to use toys — Sex toys don’t just have to be for solo fun. They can be a great addition to a healthy sex life with your partner. The options are endless based on what you and your partner like.
7. You Don’t Have To Stop at the First Orgasm
One orgasm is great, but two are even better. Note that the clitoris can be very sensitive after climax, so don’t dive back in for Big O number two right away.
In the meantime, focus your attention on other less sensitive areas. Then, once you’ve given the clitoris some time to recover, you can gear up for round two.
Takeaway
When it comes to oral sex, everyone is different. Therefore, a one-size-fits-all approach is pretty ineffective. Instead, as with anything else related to sexually pleasuring a partner, the best advice is to communicate with them before and during the act to find out what they like.
NOTE: She may not always orgasm, and it’s not a reflection of your ability. Please don’t keep at it for hours to prove your expertise. It won’t end well.
Use the tips above and give her the best oral of her life!
Sources
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- https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a26289062/oral-sex-tips-for-men/
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