Technology is easily the single most beneficial advent of our time. It allows us to see the world in a more personal and intimate way, cure diseases, and access the writings and research of the most brilliant minds in history. Granted, ninety percent of us use it to watch videos of people falling or to send dick pics to that hot girl that sits in front of us during morning lectures, but the possibilities are incredible.
As the world transitions from being in each other’s personal space to taking a step back to stay healthy, there has been a decrease in unplanned pregnancies and an increase in sexting with partners worldwide. Many people prefer to take matters into their own hands, as it were, and control their own pleasure with the help of a partner’s imagination, all while avoiding the risks of any venereal disease.
For those new to the party, sexting is safer and just as satisfying when done properly. In addition, it provides the emotional connection of having a partner present, even if they are half a world away, and helps eliminate that headache you’ve been suffering from a lack of good orgasms.
When you’re just getting started, many people get shy with their fetishes and sexy talk, or they feel silly because they don’t know how to break the ice. Lucky for you, we have a guide that will help with that nervousness and provide you with all the basics you’ll need to sext like a pro!
1. Get consent before you begin. We’re not saying you need people to digitally sign a consent form saying they agree to participate in a mutually gratifying self-smash session. Just ask if they’re busy or in the mood to get a little naughty. This lets them know what’s on your mind without embarrassing them if they’re in a work meeting or visiting their mother during afternoon tea. Putting them in that position may also affect your ability to get some in the future, so tread carefully!
2. If you’re sexting with a partner with whom you’ve had sex previously, use those memories as a starting point. Remind them of something you did to them, whether it was going down or the sensations that caused you to claw at their back from the pleasure. The more intimately you describe the scene, the hotter your sexting will become. If you have any physical marks they may have left, like a discreet hickey or nail marks, send pictures and let them know you want more.
3. When sexting with someone you’ve never been with physically, ask them what they want you to do and picture yourself doing that while elaborating and adding those sensual and erotic details. For example, if they say they want you to fuck them, describe how your bodies move together or the feeling of penetration. Not only will this ensure you’re both enjoying the sexting, but it will also give you a few ideas on how to please them if you’re ever together in person.
4. Get visual when appropriate. Take those titty shots and dick pics. Send a clip of you touching yourself. If you aren’t comfortable sending actual photos, then use emojis. Ladies, send that eggplant-water splash-smiley face combo that gives your partner naughty ideas. Guys, show your ladies some love with the tongue-peach combination so she knows exactly where you want to lick her. Get creative, but don’t get overly complicated. Otherwise, you’ll confuse your partner and have to get them all hot and bothered again from square one.
5. Don’t forget the foreplay! Foreplay is incredibly important, especially for the romantics. Send them some suggestive questions asking where you should put your tongue or fingers. Send them selfies wearing lingerie or sexy underwear, or take a picture of the tent your erection is causing just thinking of them. If you run short on ideas, you have the entirety of the internet at your fingertips, so you can get a couple of pointers to guide you to the wet panties and messy hand jobs!
6. Turn off notifications, so you don’t get distracted. This also means not switching between text threads. There are countless horror stories of people sexting with a random partner, switching over to a text thread with a friend or family member, then sending an erotic and explicit photo to their mom or best friend. Don’t get me wrong, this could take your friendships to a new level, but it also falls under that “getting consent” category. Plus, your mom doesn’t need to know what you’re doing.
7. Don’t be too shy to get graphic and get carried away. Don’t just say you want to lick her pussy; tell her you need her pussy juice all over your mouth while you get your tongue as deep inside her as possible. Don’t just say you want to suck his dick; tell him you need to feel his throbbing cock slamming into your throat as you gag on it and his balls slap your chin.
8. Stay in the moment, so it doesn’t get confusing. For example, don’t switch from “I’m railing you from behind, right now,” then switch to “I’m going to use my tongue to write to alphabet inside your pussy later.” Stick with what you’re currently doing or with what you’re going to do later. Don’t switch back and forth.
9. Don’t get too wordy in a single sext. You want to be descriptive, but it does not need to be a whole chapter on how you will worship your partner’s nipples. A couple of sentences are fine, and multiple texts will give them a chance to respond with their own alluring sext. Sexting is an interaction, not a monologue. Otherwise, it would be an erotic novel.
10. Last but certainly not least, ensure your partner has a chance to finish. If you blow your load first and know your partner hasn’t reached the point of orgasm yet, keep up the dirty talk and sexy pictures. Making sure your partner finishes is good erotic etiquette, so have some manners and let them enjoy the session fully, too!
Whether your sexting style is mutual masturbation while focusing on what you’re picturing right now, or you prefer to tease all the sensual acts you’re planning to ravish their body with later, sexting is fun and relaxing in all the best ways. Now, you have all the basics to take a 15-minute break from work or strike up a steamy conversation with that hottie you’ve been chatting with online. So grab the lube, find some privacy, and send that text to see if they crave your body as much as you need theirs!
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