No matter how cheesy the acting is, porn can spice up your sex life in more ways than one. Whether you use it to get new ideas or just to rub one out so you last longer for your lover, porn can take your performance to a whole new level. Of course, with how over-the-top some of the performances are, it’s difficult to tell what’s good to try at home and what’s best left to the studio professionals. To help you figure things out, we’ve put together the top five porn themes you should try with your partner.
1. Voyeurism
Voyeurism isn’t just for porn stars; the thrill of getting caught is a massive turn-on for many people. You have the exhilaration and adrenaline rush of something new, exciting, and even a little risky.
If you’re a bit shy, start slow and crack the bedroom window open just a tad. You’ll have the rush from a neighbor or passerby potentially hearing your passion or even catching a glimpse of what’s going on through the crack in the blinds.
If you’re a bit more adventurous, or even a full-blown adrenaline junky, let your partner watch you masturbate but don’t let them touch you until you give them permission. Get into it, use fingers and toys, and go slowly so they can see every movement, whether it’s penetration or the slow, intentional hand motions that tell them precisely what you’re doing. And don’t forget to moan.
For some added enticement, plan for the future. Record yourselves having erotic, passionate sex to watch later as your own homemade porn. Make sure to get loud and keep the camera angle in mind to have the best view possible. If you’re using your phone, try recording up close, too, so you can see intercourse, body parts bouncing, and fluids dripping. You’ll get all your favorite moves combined with your favorite person, so it may be your favorite home movie of all time.
2. Roleplay
Roleplay can be anything, from the most complex cosplay outfits to basic costumes or just pretending like you’re strangers in public. There are a million different scenarios you can act out with your partner that will make you both feel sexier.
Keep in mind that the acting doesn’t need to be amazing. No one watches porn for the acting, so no one expects you to give an Oscar-winning performance. It’s more about the commitment to your role and the emotional connection that comes with trying something new together.
To really get into your scenario, wear costumes to make the experience better and more believable. Whether it’s a French maid outfit, a corset, a collar, or even a corny Halloween costume, it will help you get into character and give your partner a sexy view.
There are countless options for fun roleplay ideas, and you can even take your playtime to new locations if you really want to set the scene. Some ideas might be repaying debt with sexual favors, dominatrix play, strangers picking each other up at a bar, or cop and criminal. If you’re ever running short on ideas, do a quick search for roleplay scenes, and add some new outfits to your shopping cart. Get creative and have fun with it.
3. Backdoor Penetration
If you’ve never tried it before, anal sex can be a bit daunting. However, once you get past the initial mental block, anal can be a lot of fun, and many couples get an even more intense orgasm from the stimulation.
The main thing to remember for rear-end escapades is to use lots of lube. Then, when you think you have enough lube, use a little more, just to be safe. There’s no such thing as too much lube when you’re going in from behind, and if you want to be even more considerate, warm the lube in your hands first, or let the bottle sit in warm water for a few minutes to get rid of the cold shock. Cold lube on the anus will cause a pucker, making it harder to enter.
Take it slow at first, and find a position that’s both comfortable and that doesn’t cause any clenching. A great starter position is to bend your partner over the edge of the bed with you standing behind them so you can slide in easily.
For maximum pleasure, ensure your partner is stimulated in multiple ways, so they get as much enjoyment from the experience as you do. Of course, the classic reach-around is always helpful, and the extra stimulation will help the receiver relax, so you may even get a repeat performance next time.
Once the back door gets more comfortable, you can switch it up with things like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl (so your partner has more control over how deep you go), reverse missionary, or plenty of other positions for easy entry. There are a buttload of possibilities and plenty of enjoyment to be had by both parties.
4. Get out of your bedroom
Many couples tend to keep most of their playtime inside their own bedroom. However, just because they’re called “bedroom activities” doesn’t mean they need to stay there. Instead, move your playtime around the house and try places like the kitchen counter, in front of the bathroom mirror, the couch, or even on the floor. The whole house is a playroom with endless possibilities for new positions and locations.
If the house is getting mundane, or if you have roommates, try changing up the scenery even more. Try out an expensive hotel that you would normally never go to. Bump naughty bits outside, whether in the fenced-in backyard or the middle of the woods somewhere. If a lake or ocean is nearby, go skinny dipping in a secluded area. Just make sure you don’t get sand in your cracks.
Locations are really only limited by your own daring and possibly any local laws. A skirt with no underwear can help you get some discrete action in many different locations, with no one being any the wiser.
5. Oral until orgasm
Oral sex almost always feels amazing, especially when the person performing the oral gets into it. Even if you don’t typically give blowjobs or head, get messy and naughty and give your partner an orgasm purely with your mouth and hands. The effort you put into it will make them finish in no time, and they’ll most likely want to return the favor.
When giving your partner the most erotic oral, they may try to switch over to sex. This is all about the head, though, so get into it and give them the most amazing oral you can. Try different motions with your tongue and fingers to mix things up. Make eye contact to add emotional connection and watch their face as they enjoy the sensations. Don’t be afraid to touch yourself at the same time, so you get more into it, too. The bonus of your moaning will give them even more pleasure.
Once they’re about to orgasm, let them finish in your mouth and swallow if you can. Let your partner finish on your face or hands if you have a particularly sensitive gag reflex. The mess and the sight of you enjoying their fluids are almost as exciting as the oral sex itself.
Your favorite porn moves or scenarios don’t have to stay hidden on your computer screen. Communicate with your partner, and don’t be afraid to suggest new, adventurous ideas that’ll spice up your sex life, and make you both happier, overall!
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