Even the best artist is better with the right tools, and the same rules apply to the art of pleasure. Every good pleasure artist has a treasure chest full of sex toys, gadgets, and gizmos aplenty. If you’re new to the lifestyle and looking to start your collection, it can feel pretty intimidating with so many products on the market. Just relax, take a deep breath, and KISS (Keep it, simple sweetheart). All you need to get started is a toy or two that fits into a tidy shoebox under your bed or can be stored in an easy-to-access nightstand drawer for your next one-night stand.
Sex Toys Come In All Shapes And Sizes
Whether you’re in the mood for a big thick cock, a vibrator that hums a mile a minute, or something carefully crafted to tickle even the most hard-to-reach places – there is a toy for it, and you can own it if you like. Unfortunately, what you can’t do is wave your magic wand and make a new toy arrive during intercourse with your new lover. Even same-day delivery is unlikely to be fast enough to get the toy you fancy into your hands before this fantasy session has reached its climax. So, the lesson here is to order in advance!
Suppose you’re considering several devices to try first, splurge, and get them all. Of course, you won’t need three similar items that all do the same thing, but having different devices that offer a variety of sensations will empower you to tick all the right boxes during your next rendezvous.
Think of New Toys As Accessories
When you’re alone, you may want to focus on that one signature toy you can count on to get you off every time. However, when you’re with a partner, the goal changes quite a bit. You aren’t trying to take out a giant toy that makes your new lover feel inferior to his mechanical overlords. Instead, you want to enhance the experience you’re both enjoying together and share the excitement.
Look for toys designed to accessorize lovemaking. A glove with vibrating fingertips is a good example of an item that includes your lover while heightening their ability to arouse you.
Batteries Not Included!
Beware of the dreaded moment when you’re both about to cum as your new toy grinds to a halt and ends the moment before you both reach sexual nirvana. If it’s a rechargeable toy, remember to plug it in before your date arrives. If it uses traditional batteries, be sure you have a drawer full of replacements just in case your next session in bed goes hours longer than you anticipated.
Lube Now or Be Sore Later
Strangely, many seem to forget the importance of having quality lube in their kit until they feel the wrath of their hubris at least once. Why wait until after you’re sore and uncomfortable from hours of intense friction to obtain the right lube for next time when you could add a variety of lubes to your kit right now? A simple water-soluble condom-safe lube is an excellent place to start. Something a bit greaser can come in handy if backdoor adventure is on your wish list, and you add even more excitement with some conversation starters like flavored lubes, scented lube, or warming lube to keep your encounters spicy! Recently, CBD lubes have gained popularity, so you may want to explore those as well.
Many Ideas, Many Devices
Sex in a rut is worse than no sex at all. If you were going from one date to the next and digging out the same trusty dildo over and over again, you probably would be better off just staying home to masturbate with that dildo on your own. That’s why it’s crucial to think about variety when putting together your treasure trove of delights. Think about past encounters and ask yourself what would have been handy to have in the box to make that afternoon even more exciting. Then, imagine upcoming dates with new mates and let your mind unravel as you think up some out-of-the-ordinary items that might turn on your partners even more. Yes, that leash from the pet store is a good idea, but so is a vibrating egg if it’s unlike anything already in your kit.
Ask For Input From Your Lovers
If you’re thinking about putting together your kit in one shot, you may want to reconsider. Think of your sex toy kit as an always-evolving entity. One where you take out items that have become boring and add new ones that fit your current mood much the same way you would change the music playlist on your phone. Just like a playlist, you will likely find that input from others can lead to significant improvements. Be willing to ask your latest lover if they see anything that might be missing from your kit or anything in it that might turn them off.
You don’t want to give anyone else control over what you put into your sex toy kit; it’s a very personal decision and one only you should make. But having a fresh set of eyes and opinions can always be helpful.
What Not To Have Around
This is perhaps the most important consideration. It’s your new toy kit, and it needs to be all about you. If you’re not into anal, don’t hand your new lover a box full of butt plugs and give them the wrong ideas. Dislike pain? Then avoid keeping nipple clamps in your top drawer. Whatever goes into your kit is likely to spark your lover’s imagination and will find its way into your lovemaking. So be smart about what you choose to include, and leave out anything that doesn’t get you excited.
Always Think About Aftercare
It sounds simple, but it can make all the difference if you include some simple household items in your kit as well. Breath mints can go a long way. A lighter is vital if you plan to play with candles, and so is a first aid kit, just in case. Try to think about what may happen from the moment your lover knocks on your door to the moment they leave. Sex isn’t only about what happens between the sheets, and your kit should reflect that fact. Sometimes the most appreciated part of your sex kit may be an ice pack or a spare key to the handcuffs after your primary key falls down the heating vent.
