How Women Can Achieve Orgasms Without Penetration

There are many ways to achieve orgasm, which for women can include clitoral, vaginal, anal, and combination orgasms. Each can deliver a unique experience and intensity, moving through the body in different ways. Women can also orgasm without penetration, thanks to the numerous erogenous zones found throughout the body. While the clit is arguably the most obvious zone, it can also include the ears, nipples, neck, elbows, and knees, among other body parts.

Each of these places can have pleasurable reactions when they are touched, kissed, and played with. For more sensitive people, continuous play can lead to orgasm. There are also ways to focus on these erogenous zones, increasing the likelihood that orgasm will occur. There are many different personalities regarding sex, and how you approach achieving the best orgasm without penetration can vary from one person to the next.

General Strategies For Orgasm Without Penetration

One way women can orgasm without penetration is through the clitoris. Outside of the clitoris, however, there are many other ways to make orgasms happen. For example, to achieve a combo orgasm, people can use clitoral stimulation and stimulation in other erogenous zones. This action can cause a person’s mind to go back and forth from the pleasure they are feeling in one part of their body to the pleasure they are feeling in another. There are also erogenous zone-only orgasms, which are achieved exclusively through a lot of experimentation with a partner. While some are sensitive enough and know how to instruct partners on how to help them orgasm without penetration or clitoral stimulation, it is still rare.

Orgasms stemming from erogenous zones can take time, even for someone with experience. They are never an expectation, though, as they can only happen with awareness, understanding, and exploration. For example, some can orgasm from a kiss on the neck, teeth on their nipples, or fingers on the inside of their elbows. One of the best ways to find erogenous zones is to use a feather or other light external object and note where the best and worst sensations are felt. Some people have an aversion to being touched on certain parts of their body, so talking about sexual exploration with your partner is essential.

Communication Is Key

Communication is an essential part of orgasming without penetration. Talk to the other person about your limits, boundaries, wants, and desires. Explore these things and talk about different areas of the body that you would like to explore with your partner. 

Talking about what you want and how and where you want it done is the best way to ensure maximum pleasure. Talking about where you want to explore and what you’d like to do in the future, including areas of the body where you think you might be able to orgasm without penetration, is also a good plan. Many women can orgasm with their clitoris and know how they like to be touched there to orgasm. It is the other erogenous zones that are a little trickier.

If your regular sexual routines are not getting you off, experimenting with touching new areas at different times is a great step toward having harder orgasms. Some women, for example, get off while giving other people pleasure, including when giving oral sex. Others love a combination of head scratches and nipple stimulation.

You and your partners can always start slow, exploring different feelings and sensations together. Communicate about whether you’d be open to trying BDSM and what types of BDSM you’d like to try. Clitoral stimulation, along with spanking and other fetishes, can lead to some of the most intense orgasms. Everybody experiences orgasms and sex in different ways. Sex does not come with a manual, so explore in the moment and communicate.

The Stages to Orgasm

There are multiple stages when it comes to sexual response. These include excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Masters and Johnson wrote a book detailing all of these, but the basics are a great place to start and are, in many cases, enough. The first stage is excitement when a person is initially being turned on. Plateau is the repetitive motion that feels pleasurable, while orgasm is the burst of pleasure and the release of this pleasure.

The refractory period is known as the resolution. While this is too general in some ways, and the stages can cross over, it is a fantastic starting point. One of the inaccuracies, however, is vital to address. Sex does not always end in orgasm; there are many ways to have sex that are pleasurable, amazing, and intense without orgasm. In addition, suggesting that sex ends in orgasm may deny some women orgasms by expressing that sex stops when a male partner finishes. Also, take note that orgasms do not mean sex is great.

Defining Orgasm

Orgasms can be small, big, and can happen multiple times in a row or just once, and it is also okay if they don’t happen at all. Rather than defining the orgasms by someone else’s description, describe them using your own. This can help you avoid shorting yourself pleasure. A calm clitoral orgasm can be mind-blowing, and your partner’s ejaculation can be exciting. Combo orgasms can be fun, and there are many other descriptive words that people can use to describe the different types of orgasms. Every person’s body is different, so orgasms are different as well. However, the path to fantastic orgasms almost always involves communicating, experimenting, and trying again.

The Many Different Paths To Alternative Orgasms

There are many different ways to achieve orgasm, and each person is unique in what they enjoy. For example, some people love watching sex, whether on a screen or live in person. The live member webcams here on Adult FriendFinder are one great example. 

Rubbing orgasms, including rubbing on the clit and dry humping, is another way people can orgasm without penetration. Being fully clothed and rubbing up on things can arouse, tickle, tease, and be very intense.

Some people also have orgasms in their sleep, and while this is not an active motion, it is worth mentioning as a type of orgasm that does not have penetration. Others can orgasm specifically by hearing erotic words, sensual sounds, or otherwise. ASMR is also the cause of many intense orgasms; sometimes, people using it can have orgasms without penetration and touch.

Tickling is a fetish that leads to some of the hardest orgasms for some, and you don’t need an intense tickle session with a partner to have a tickle orgasm. Sometimes people’s sensitivity allows them to be aroused with hands, breaths, and various tickling tools for a calm orgasm from tickling.

Many people also have orgasms from sensations on their necks or ears. In many cases, these types of orgasms and nipple orgasms involve a person fixating on the sensations moving through their entire body. Hair is another orgasm type that fits in this category, with different speeds and sensations that can come from squeezing, pulling, scratching, petting, and more.

You can combine these techniques for a blended orgasm, which is an orgasm that uses multiple strategies to reach climax simultaneously. You can use these to achieve orgasms without penetration, give your partner orgasms without penetration, or combine these strategies with penetration to give intense orgasms. They are just a few of the many erogenous zones and orgasm strategies to discuss with your partner. Enjoy!

A Female’s Guide to Multiple Orgasms

Aaaaaah, multiple orgasms. Who can resist the big O, O, O, and O? Men might say women are lucky because they can have multiple orgasms, leaving many women to ask, “what is this amazing talent you speak of?” It’s true — for many women, multiple orgasms are still elusive, even after years of practice.

The Mystery of the “Big O”

First, let’s talk about the wonders of an orgasm. If you’re a woman and you’re having orgasms, then good for you. Lots of women aren’t even able to have one successful orgasm, let alone multiples. So if you’re able to have an orgasm with relative ease, consider yourself one of the lucky ones and go masturbate in celebration! Seriously, go masturbate. If you want to achieve multiple orgasms, you’re going to need to practice a lot.

Now that we’ve explored orgasms let’s take a look at multiple orgasms, as there are a few different interpretations of what that means.

Multiple Concurrent Orgasms: This is where you orgasm, and then before you ride that wave back down, you have another, and then another, often within seconds of each other. If this was a series of waves, it would be like jumping from peak to peak to peak.

Riding the Wave: When you orgasm, you build-up to the release. After the release, you come back down. While you’re riding the wave, you start to come back down, but instead of going back to zero, you start your ascension back up. Your orgasm is not concurrent but is still very close to the first one.

Independent Multiples: This is a traditional orgasm that builds up, peaks, and then comes back down. Then you keep having sex or doing whatever you were doing and start the build-up again. Usually, there’s a fair amount of time between these orgasms, which is why they are sometimes not considered “multiple.”

When you look at multiple orgasms, you need to understand that anything more than one in a sexual experience is considered “multiple.” Not everyone can have “multiple concurrent” or “ride the wave” orgasms, so don’t feel bad if your body won’t do that. In fact, many women struggle with having more than one orgasm in a single sexual encounter.

Everyone’s body is different and responds differently. Just because one woman can squirt and have concurrent screaming orgasms doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to — and that’s ok. What’s more important is that you find the orgasms you do have to be satisfying.

So now that you love yourself and your orgasm, let’s see if we can love ourselves into having more than one. The first thing you need to do is understand what kind of orgasms you have. Do you have penetrative, clitoral, anal, a combo, or all of the above?

Techniques

Stimulation and more stimulation: If you have clitoral orgasms, you can often stimulate yourself into having more than one. Masturbate yourself to orgasm, and then let yourself come down a bit. Before you come all the way down, start masturbating again and start the climb back up to another release. If you’re not able to attain the release, but you can achieve the build-up, just keep practicing. That will help get your body used to the idea of having multiple climaxes.

This stimulation technique works with any kind of orgasm. If you are penetrative, let yourself come down a bit and then resume masturbating. Remember that you’ll have to change your speed or stimulation technique to build yourself back up.

The switch-a-roo technique: If you’re able to have orgasms from different kinds of stimulation, give yourself an orgasm from the one that’s the hardest for you to achieve. Once you’ve done that, switch to the method that allows you to cum the most quickly. You probably won’t cum as quickly as usual, but you’ll have an easier time getting your body to embrace the next orgasm, and you won’t be as tired.

Bringing in the tools: Using the help of a vibrator or dildo can be a great way to teach your body to have multiple orgasms. Again, the first orgasm should be the one that is harder to achieve. Once you have that one, work on the second. If the second just seems completely elusive, bring in some outside help, like your vibrator. The electronic stimulation can push your body back into orgasm mode and force you into an orgasm. In fact, some people practice “forced orgasm” using powerful sex tools like a Hitachi Wand or Sybian.

Stimulate everything: After you have your first orgasm, change up the stimulation. If you like butt plugs, pop one in and keep fapping. If you want a glass dildo, start using it but don’t stop stimulating your clit. Bringing in additional stimulation can help your body to begin to climax again. Often times the second orgasm will require stimulation that feels different than the first orgasm.

Just like anything worth having, practice makes perfect. If you cannot have multiples, start by having one and then trying for another 20 minutes later. Once you can do that, try 10 minutes later, then 5, then 2, then 1. Once you can have a couple in a row, start trying to have them closer together. Don’t let yourself come completely down from the first one before working on the second. The more your body gets used to the feeling of multiple orgasms, the more it will embrace them.

Not everyone will be able to have them concurrently or even “ride the wave.” Maybe you’ll be able to ride the wave on some days but not others. It’s ok, and keep in mind that the more you pressure yourself, the less likely you will have any. Remember, you are doing this because it feels good and is fun!

All Hands on Deck.

Once you’re comfortable having multiple orgasms alone, trying getting your partner in on the action. If you tell them what’s been working for you, you can ask them to incorporate that technique into sex. However, keep in mind that bringing in a partner can significantly change the path to orgasm because the sensations are different. Just as it took time for you to get there on your own, it will take time to get there with your partner as well.

Start things off with orgasm during foreplay – either your doing or your partner’s — then try for another during sex. Or have your first during sex and the second one right after. 

Just like in practice, changing up the stimulation can be really helpful. If you had your first orgasm during penetrative sex, try adding digital (finger) stimulation into the mix and see if you can build it up again. If you had one with penetration, stop the penetration, switch to oral, and see if you can have another.

The key to having multiple orgasms is to enjoy the orgasm and the process of getting to the orgasm as well. If you don’t have one, or two, or three, you can still enjoy the process.

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