Adult dating has gotten a bad rap over the years, with most vanilla folks assuming sites like Adult FriendFinder are rife with catfishing and debauchery. The ironic thing about adult dating sites is they’re far more honest, open, and forward-thinking than so-called mainstream dating sites.
Why would someone go on a “mainstream” dating site that’s all about finding a future spouse for a long-term relationship if all they’re interested in is a no-strings-attached arrangement that leads to exciting, consensual, and memorable sex? Adult dating sites do away with all the pretense and allow consenting adults to cut to the chase.
Is that to say every experience will be purely no strings attached sex devoid of connection? Absolutely not, but by jettisoning the nonsense found on mainstream sites designed to appeal to timid hausfraus looking for hand-holding while watching lifetime movies forever, you cut through the traditional resistance and talk about what matters to you.
“Do you want to fuck? Do you want to fuck me? And do you like Sushi?”
It makes for a refreshing bottom-up experience – both figuratively and literally. And it’s certainly better than messing around with faux-coy and blandly flirty introductions, a couple of uncomfortable phone calls, and a pleasant dinner or two while you tap dance around critical issues like”when can I see your boobs?” or “how big is your penis?”
Adult dating sites blow that dance away by placing the issues front and center in your profile. With the sex question already out in the open, everyone can focus on the how, why, when, and whom? Since wanting to have sex is a given, it also makes approaching strangers so much easier. No more worrying that they’ll think you’re a perv when they’re just on a dating site for cups of tea, conversation, and cookies.
By acknowledging the importance of sex over endless questions about morality, politics, and economics, adult dating sites surprisingly provide a much broader relationship experience. Of course, you can use the site to have as much casual NSA sex as you can handle. Still, since we all enjoy and need physical intimacy, it’s also the core of many long-term relationships, regardless of a monogamous commitment.
Adult Friend Finder is a great case study of what an adult dating site is. If people just used the site to hook up, there wouldn’t be the rich community that’s developed. But, whether it’s the active forums or member diaries – there’s a lot of human interaction going on beyond swapping spit and sweat.
By being open about your kinks, fetishes, and sexual preferences, you can easily find people with similar interests. For many people, it may be the first time they’ve been able to discuss that aspect of themselves and find others to share it with. That may seem trivial, but for many people, it can be an incredibly empowering environment that helps them find even greater sexual satisfaction in their lives. With the bonus that AFF is designed to enable casual hook-ups, you can easily find partners to experiment with no matter what sort of play you have in mind as part of your intimate dating experiences.
Let’s be honest: who hasn’t had a relationship where everything clicked well, but the moment you got into bed, it was a veritable shit-show of incompatibility. Rather than looking at each other to say, “I guess we would be better off as friends,” you end up wasting time trying to make things work, only for it to collapse in a smoldering heap of resentment and sexual frustration.
Sex dating websites help you avoid all that. Instead, you find a fuck buddy and work out for yourselves what you want to make it after you’ve given each other multiple orgasms.
Before cellphones and swipe-dating apps, adult dating sites lived in a porn ghetto with members joining via popup ads on adult content sites or a whispered suggestion from a more worldly-wise friend. Dating sites were uniformly deep-dive exercises into your personality, and any hint of wanting to have sex was sanitized.
Hook-up and casual dating websites nowadays keep gaining popularity because people have finally realized that ultimately it’s our initial sexual attraction that drives a relationship. While our social media and image-conscious trends seem driven by younger demographics, you’ll also find a widely diverse set of demographics in most adult dating site memberships.
Yes, there is a major difference between mainstream and adult dating. One relies on acknowledging the primary human condition of enjoying sex with other people is a critical aspect of human interactions. The other doesn’t.
Whether you’re looking for Mr or Ms or Zs Right, many of them, or something longer term, it seems pretty clear which platform provides a more realistic environment to achieve those goals!
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