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Why So Many Sexy College and NFL Cheerleaders Prefer Online Dating

As a 23-year-old NFL cheerleader who also cheers for Team Poly, I’m here to give you the ultimate playbook on scoring big in the digital dating game. The energetic, high-spirited world of cheerleading and gearing up for the big game has appealed to so many students over the years that the desire to date the cheer team captain is now almost cliché. 

For current and former cheerleaders who use online dating sites to find new lovers, a dating profile is like a digital set of pom-poms; their private messages are like cheers, and getting inside her miniskirt is about as thrilling as winning the Superbowl.

Creating Your Winning Routine – Building Your Profile

Think of your dating profile like a cheerleader’s routine at halftime. It needs to be eye-catching, full of energy, and most importantly, it should showcase your best moves. Choose photos that are as diverse as a cheer squad – from you leading a dance routine to laughing with friends. Show off your versatility and let prospective dates see you can do much more than just a basic cheer.

Your bio is where your personality shines brighter than the most glittery uniform. Are you the sassy, witty cheerleader or the thoughtful, deep conversationalist who looks amazing in knee-high sports socks? Maybe you’re a bit of both? Be bold, be you, and since we’re all about embracing poly love, sprinkle in your openness to different relationship dynamics. Let them know that you’re not just looking for a single teammate but hoping to fill out the squad so you can build a triad of lust together with you as the bottom of the pyramid or the top.

Perfecting Your Cheers – Messaging Like a Champ

Messaging in the online dating world can be as nerve-wracking as performing in front of a huge crowd, but it’s also where the fun begins. Start your conversations with something that shows you’ve paid attention to their profile. Be playful, but always keep it respectful. Remember, a good cheerleader knows the power of their words.

In cheerleading, as in dating, not every squad plays fair. Stay alert for those who don’t respect your boundaries or seem more interested in a trophy fuck. Once you feel comfortable with someone you’ve connected with, choose a public spot for your first meet-up, somewhere you can both be at ease. It’s like picking a neutral stadium where both teams can perform at their best.

Creating a deep connection goes beyond having shared interests (like being into cheerleading and other sports). It’s about opening up, sharing your passions and goals, and even those moments when you didn’t stick the landing. Remember to listen—really listen—when they share their stories. After all, adult dating in a polyverse is all about building a team, not just cheering solo.

Being part of the poly cheer squad is about love, respect, and communication skills. It means understanding that your heart has the capacity to cheer for more than one person and being open about this with everyone involved. It requires honesty and the rare ability to be competitive with your lovers in the most positive way possible. Who can give the most and bring the most passion to the interpersonal relationships that make you want to step out of the locker room even if your team is behind?

You’ll Get More Out of Dating When You Choose Not To be Shy

Put on your best cheer outfit, pick up those pom-poms, and get ready to jump into the thrilling world of digital dating with gusto. Whether you are a sophomore looking for more super-fans to come to the games with you or are a MILF who gave up cheering on the sidelines decades ago, there are so many men and women looking to share your joys and become part of your team. All it takes is the willingness to give them a fair opportunity to wow you. 

Fortunately, the camaraderie and care that Adult FriendFinder has always been known for means there are thousands of like-minded adults looking for love online like you, and you can always take strength from the fact that we’re all cheering for you to find the no-strings-attached relationships that will have you smiling from ear to ear!

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Does Picking Up The Check Entitle You To Sex On The First Date? 

In the playful and often unpredictable world of dating, navigating the “who pays” dilemma on a first date can sometimes feel like a game of romantic roulette. You’re sitting there, enjoying your time, and then comes the check – a moment that can sometimes carry more weight than the entire date itself. Let’s uncork this topic with a dash of humor and a sprinkle of sass because, let’s be honest, dating should be fun – not a formula! 

When the check comes, who pays? This is the end-of-the-date dilemma. You’ve just had a fantastic first date. The conversation flowed, the chemistry was buzzing, and now the waiter drops the check right in the middle of your bliss. Who grabs it? In an ideal world, it wouldn’t matter. But we all know that, sometimes, who pays can lead to some… let’s call them ‘interesting’…expectations. 

Paying for a date doesn’t automatically give a green light, though. This old-fashioned, unwritten dating rule lurks in the shadows of modern romance, where it is assumed that the person paying for the date might expect something extra at the end of the night (cue the eyebrow wags and cheeky grins). Let’s set the record straight. Just because someone splurges on dinner doesn’t mean the night needs to end with a bedroom tango. Consent and mutual desire are the names of the game. This is not transactional romance.  

So, your date paid for dinner, and now there’s this awkward tension – a silent question hanging in the air. So… communicate! It’s okay to talk about it and laugh off the awkwardness. A simple “Hey, thanks for dinner, I had a great time!” can clear the air. Remember, a date is about getting to know someone, not keeping score or owing “favors.” 

Remember, if there seems to be any expectation, you can say ‘no’ while still being polite. If you sense that your date has the “I paid, so…” mentality, and you’re not feeling it, saying no is perfectly okay. You can keep it light yet firm. You could say something like, “I had a great time tonight, and I’d love to see you again. But for me, romance is all about the right moment, and I like to take things a bit slow.” You’ve now set your boundary without dampening the fun of the evening. 

One way to sidestep this whole conundrum is by splitting the bill. It keeps things equal and avoids any implicit expectations. Plus, it sets a nice tone for a relationship built on mutual respect and fairness. Let’s face it. It’s the 21st century. Sharing the bill is as sexy as sharing a dessert. 

You’ve made it past your first date and navigated the awkward dilemma of who pays for the date. What about the next date? Who pays then? If you’re into this person and want a round two, offer to pick up the tab next time. It’s a subtle way of saying, “Hey, I’m into you for you, not your wallet.” It balances the dating dance and shows you’re invested in this budding romance. 

It’s easy to assume your date might expect extra, but sometimes, a date paying for dinner is just that – an act of generosity. Not every gesture has a hidden agenda. If your date insists on paying, it could simply be their way of saying, “I’m enjoying your company, and I want to treat you.” Embrace the gesture for what it is – a kind, thoughtful act.  

Regardless of who pays or what happens afterward, remember it’s just one date. Whether you end up splitting the bill, one of you pays, or you play a game of credit card roulette, it’s just a small part of the dating journey. Keep it in perspective, and don’t let it overshadow the main goal – connecting and having a great time together. 

The world of first dates has its share of unwritten rules and expectations, but navigating the payment moment doesn’t have to be a source of stress. Whether you’re picking up the tab, splitting it, or being treated, remember that the real magic of a date lies in the connection. 

Conversation and chemistry are what make dates so magical. So, relax, enjoy, and let the journey of romance unfold in its own unique way. Remember, if you do end up paying, know that the only thing you’re entitled to at the end of the night is the satisfaction of having had a good time. Everything else is just the cherry on top of the dating sundae! 

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Answering the Age Old Question – Your Place or Mine?

If you’re on a date and things take a sexy turn, you may ask the age-old question: your place or mine? This article explores which location works best in certain situations and how to suggest a change of venue without sounding too eager to get naked.

Make a Plan

People spend a lot of time planning the perfect date, thinking about what to wear, where to go, and what to do. It seems tedious, but planning pays off. Especially if, after the date, both parties decide they’d like to move things to a more comfortable (and private) venue. 

Planning can help avoid disappointing goodbyes where you find yourselves standing at someone’s front door awkwardly, settling for a kiss on the cheek before sauntering off into the night. 

When figuring out how post-date logistics will work, remember that they can be a little more complex than simply choosing a location. You must build each other’s trust, get comfortable, and ensure you both know you can adjust the plan or leave quickly.

Choose a Place for the Date

Pick a date location that’s easy to get to and preferably near one or both of your homes, so you have a place that’s easily accessible should things get steamy. If you live alone or in a place where privacy isn’t an issue, your place may be the ideal choice should you decide to take things further than a public venue will allow. By bringing someone to your place, you also have the opportunity to show them the real you in case you’re hoping for more than a one-night stand. Plus, being at your place allows you to control the environment more easily. You can talk to roommates, minimize distractions, and ensure yummy snacks are available.

If your place isn’t an option, make that known early and see if your date offers theirs as an alternative. If they do, great! If not, drop a few hints towards the end of the date and see where it leads. Just try not to be too pushy, as you don’t want to scare them away.

Choose a Meeting Spot

Once you’ve mapped out your date, choose a meeting spot that works for both of you. If you’re meeting in person for the first time, you may opt to meet at a bar or restaurant so everyone feels comfortable and safe. If you’re a little better acquainted and feel safe doing so, you could propose meeting up at your place to build trust should you return later for a nightcap. In addition to helping your date feel more comfortable returning for sex at the end of the night, meeting up at your place provides plenty of conversation starters when they see your passions and what you have on display.

Should you decide that meeting up at their place is a better option, grab a glass of wine or water before you leave, use the bathroom to freshen up, and compliment the other person’s home. While you’re there, take note of any conversation starters you see lying around.

Date Dos and Don’ts

While on the date, continue to build up a comfort level between the two of you. Remember, if you suggest continuing the date at someone’s house later, you must lay the groundwork. Some people are all about physical contact when getting to know another person, while others prefer to chat a bit first. Even if you’re both looking for casual sex, read their body language to determine which category they fall into so you don’t go too far too soon.

Ease Into Things

Once you sense the date portion of the evening is coming to an end, compliment your date and let them know you’re having a great time with them. This could help you lead into a comment about not wanting the night to end, then gently suggesting you move things somewhere a little more private. A simple statement like “I had a great time tonight, do you want to come (insert specific activity)” could be the thing that starts the most exciting part of the evening. You can also mention the proximity of your place, inserting the activity or something you’d like to show them, such as artwork, music albums, or other things. Finally, if you want to go the more straightforward route, you could let them know that you enjoy their company and want to spend a little more time together.

The Fun Begins

Once you arrive at your next venue, try to avoid discussing sex the second you walk through the front door. Instead, keep things casual with great conversation, and if you offered them a reason to come up to your place, stay true to your word. If you’re heading to their place, be enthusiastic about what they’re showing you. There’s no rush, even if you’re both looking for casual sex. Maintain self-control, find things you both enjoy and let the end of the night flow naturally. Respect the other person’s boundaries, and if they’re not ready to go all the way, respect that too. Building trust starts with awareness, understanding, and tact.

When the Hangout Ends

After spending time doing aftercare, you should both be aware that spending the night at another person’s place isn’t a guarantee, even if previously implied. Take time to politely communicate with the other person, stating your intentions and letting them know your end of the night’s needs and wants. Always be aware; if a person wants to leave, let them do so without pressure. If you had a great time, let them know, and tell them you want to hang out again. Becoming friends with benefits can take time, and building trust is an essential part of the equation.

Good luck! 

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The Power of Scent And Setting the Mood

Over the last few years, ASMR has attuned many people to the importance of sound related to sex. However, there’s just as strong a connection between sex and other senses, including the sense of smell. For that reason, we sniffed around the Adult FriendFinder community for tips on enhancing the olfactory elements of your sex life.

Studies Have Shown Scent is a Key Marketing Component

Have you ever walked into a store and sensed a vague smell of fresh oranges, even though the store sold furniture or cars and had nothing to do with produce? That’s because marketing experts have proven that the smell of fresh oranges invigorates consumers who might otherwise be tired when they enter the store. The right scent means more sales for them, and it can also mean more dating success for you.

What Scents Work Best for Dating?

As usual, the answer is it depends. Reading dating profiles, chatting, and talking by phone before you meet may give you a lot of helpful hints, but here are some common examples and why they work:

Fresh Baked Cookies

Popping cookie dough in the oven before a date arrives can increase your guest’s appetite for a lot more than cookies. Add in the aphrodisiac effect of chocolate, and it’s easy to see why chocolate chip cookies usually work best.

Morning Citrus Awakens the Senses

Late-night booty calls can go horribly awry if you aren’t wide awake, even in the middle of the night. Bright scents like lemon or lavender are an excellent way to add energy to the mood.

Cinnamon

Many people subconsciously equate the scent of cinnamon with exotic memories. However, just having the subtle spice drifting through the air at your place may bring out the more adventurous side of any lover.

Ginger

Ingesting ginger can stimulate the circulatory system, and some believe that even the scent of ginger can have a similar effect, which is great for sexual stamina. Just make sure your guest hasn’t had a bad experience with figging in the past, as ginger may not be at the top of their preferred fragrance list. If you don’t know what figging is, look it up at your own risk.

Sandalwood

Often considered one of the most masculine scents, sandalwood sets the tone and lets your partner know you plan on taking charge. A simple scent can do so much to communicate your sexual intentions, and sandalwood is a prime example of that.

Leather

Unlike many other scents, leather is a fetish in its own right. This is because so many people can get completely turned on or even reach orgasm just from the unique sense memories that only leather brings out.

Perfumes and Colognes in Moderation

Let’s be honest. Nobody wants to walk into your apartment and feel like they’re swimming through a never-ending wall of your Drakkar Noir cologne. On the other hand, personal scents from perfumes and colognes can be great aphrodisiacs, and they’re also a way to plant future memories in your lover’s mind so the next time they smell your scent, they will think of you. Just be sure to use any scent in moderation. You want enough to be noticed and enjoyed, but not so much that it overpowers the mood.

A Word About Candles

You might be thinking you have the right scent to set the mood for your next date, but how would you be able to transport it to your apartment, and where would you put a huge pine tree even if you had time to acquire one? The easy answer is, scented candles! Avoid using chemical air fresheners and go with a much more romantic scented candle that provides warm light as well as the fragrance you find most appealing. As with any open flame, safety comes first, so invest in secure candle holders that won’t need to be constantly adjusted. Nobody wants to lose their erection as they wait for you to tilt the candles in another direction.

There’s Always Gwyneth Paltrow’s Vagina

If you’ve gone through the library of scented candles and still haven’t come up with the perfect scent for your sexual encounter, consider Gwyneth Paltrow’s vagina! That’s right, the Academy Award-winning actress famously released a series of scented candles unlike the ones you’ll find at Yankee Candle, and by far, her most famous was a candle she claims has the same scent as her vagina. So even if you and your new partner aren’t fans of hers, it serves as a quality conversation starter, and in some small way, banging your new beauty next to her candle is almost like having a threesome with Gwyneth herself!

A Bad Smell is the Best Example

If you think all this talk about choosing a pleasing scent is just hyperbole, here’s an easy mental exercise that proves the point. Think of the worst thing you’ve ever smelled. Was it a backed-up toilet? Perhaps it was a trip to the garbage dump? Did some weird-looking guy who insisted on sitting next to you on the bus stink in a memorable way? Now that you have that sense of memory in your mind, are you feeling sexy? Of course not… and if you imagine having sex with that stench present, you’ll quickly agree that the way the room and your lover smell matters quite a bit.

A Final Word on Making Sense of Sexual Scents

A scent, much like all the other senses, is a very personal and intimate way to create a signature in someone else’s mind. Choosing something others aren’t using that’s tied to your sensibilities can often heighten the first date or turn a casual encounter into much more. The most important thing to remember is that these things matter, and taking the time to find the right scent shows you’re the kind of thoughtful lover who takes the pleasure of others seriously.

Which scent turns you on the most?

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Is Posting Filtered Photos on Your Dating Profile Harmless Fun, or Catfishing?

There are many things to consider when putting together your online dating profile. After all, you only have a few seconds to grab someone’s attention as they scroll past potential hookups, so you have to put your best foot forward right out of the gate. For many people, that means posting your best photos so potential suitors know just what you’re working with. It’s a lofty idea, but given that this is 2022, one important question remains: is posting filtered photos considered catfishing?

Should I Use Filters For My Photos?

A wide range of photography apps use filters that can be entertaining to play around with while you’re retouching your photos. Such photos are especially fun to post to your social media accounts for a good laugh with your followers and friends. However, when it comes to your online dating profiles, you really should have at least a few images that aren’t enhanced to the point where you look like a different person. Touching up a few blemishes, fixing the lighting, and covering up your dark circles are perfectly fine. So long as you don’t overdo it and give yourself a complete facelift that leaves you looking more like a Kardashian than yourself. 

Of course, it’s essential to look your best, so long as it is, in fact, your best. You want people to get an honest impression of who you are, including your appearance. A photo or two of you as a cartoon character can be cute, but at the end of the day, nobody wants to meet someone and find out they look nothing like their profile pics.

Some Positives For Your Profile Pics

Some positives you should consider are the sheer entertainment value filters can have. They can be excellent conversation starters, putting you in different backgrounds and outfits and slightly different looks to attract attention. Such filters are fine as long as it’s obvious that you’re just having fun and don’t actually have whiskers and cute little mouse ears. 

Some Negatives to Filter Out

Filters can have some other negatives, especially for those interested in seeing authentic representations of the people they’re looking at as potential matches. However, most people in the online dating world are most interested in what a person really looks like, not what they look like with overly smoothed skin. So if a person finds too many filtered photos on someone’s profile, they may head to another profile instead of sending a note. And yes, it’s easy to tell who’s using a filter and who isn’t. 

If someone doesn’t like the way you look in a photo, they aren’t going to like the way you look in person, sure. But it’s better to find that out upfront than to waste time meeting up with someone who will only reject you when they find out they were catfished. Besides, Adult FriendFinder has millions of members anyway, so it’s safe to say that you’ll find someone who likes you just as you are. 

Is it Still Really You?

When uploading pics to your profile, the main question is, do the photos you’re uploading showcase the real you? Filters can enhance sexy pictures, bringing out a person’s eyes, bodily attributes, and expressions. Still, if you make them so heavy that they no longer show you for who you are, you aren’t doing yourself or anyone else any favors.

Individuality and self-expression are essential parts of any person’s dating profile. If you’re a fan of using filters in real life and feel they help you express an important part of your personality, then, by all means, go for it. It’s perfectly fine to express yourself, as long as you do so in moderation. Add a few photos of yourself that show the real you, including pictures of your face, body, or both. If your goal is to attract the most potential dates to your profile, a combination of both standard and filtered pictures is your best option.

Final Notes

People use Adult FriendFinder because they want to meet real people, and that starts with your profile being an accurate depiction of who you are right now, not who you wish you were or used to be 20 years ago. Look into all the creative ways you can express yourself, and fill out a bio that gives people enough information to entice them into sending that first message. Suppose you think you need filters to be worth someone’s attention. In that case, you may want to get in touch with yourself and accept this simple reminder that you are awesome, yes awesome, exactly the way you already are. All you need to do is share yourself with others to find your place in this amazing adult community online.

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How to Tell Your Family You Met Your Partner Online

Meeting a new partner online is pretty standard these days, especially since the pandemic made it impossible to meet people the old-fashioned way. 

A study from Stanford University backs up this claim, indicating that the number of people looking for partners online has skyrocketed since the early 2000s. 

“Rosenfeld, a lead author of the research and a professor of sociology in the School of Humanities and Sciences, drew on a nationally representative 2017 survey of American adults and found that about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online, compared to 22 percent in 2009.”

Despite the prevalence of online dating in our culture, certain groups may be wary of online dating; particularly older generations who may not be as keen on technology as their younger counterparts. This potentially puts some people in a difficult spot when it comes to telling their family they met their new romantic interest online. 

Safety is the Primary Concern

Some parents would rather stay out of their adult children’s love lives entirely. Thus, they may not be as concerned with how their children meet new romantic interests because they don’t want to steer them in any particular direction. Instead, they insist they’re only showing concern because they want to ensure their loved ones are safe. 

This is why it’s good to put your family’s concerns to rest as early as possible when introducing this topic. Here are a few tips to help you do it:

  • Share Any Evidence of Mutual Friends – If you and the person you’re pursuing have any mutual friends, it’s a great way to improve your family’s confidence that they are who they say they are. They will view this as something that shows some connection to people you already know and trust, which will ease their minds at least a little. 
  • Show Photos – You should have multiple photos of your interest to show your family before moving forward, even if it’s just a few PG photos from their online dating profile. Even if the relationship is casual, your loved ones will feel better if they at least see a picture of the person you’ve been hanging out with. After all, they don’t want you to end up in a “Catfish” scenario, so seeing that this is a real person can help ease their concerns a bit. 
  • Present Your Family With the Facts – Try to make your case as concise as possible, but present them with details about why meeting people online is far more common than it once was. It’s the primary way people meet in modern times and far safer than it was in the early stages of online dating. 

Concerns Your Family May Bring Up 

No matter how many details you bring to the table about the normality of online dating, your family may still present concerns about it. Many of those concerns are legitimate, and you should hear them out even if you ultimately don’t take their advice. Just respect their feelings and understand that they’re just trying to do what they think is best, even if you don’t always agree.

Reassure Them That You Know What You’re Doing

There are indeed dangerous people lurking around on the internet, and while the odds of becoming a victim are low, the risk is still there. Your family will naturally want to protect you from such dangers and will likely ask many questions about the people you’re meeting. Let them know that this isn’t your first rodeo and you know how to carefully vet potential partners before you meet in person. With the advent of social media, it has become far easier to tell a catfish from someone who is the real deal as long as you are savvy enough. 

Mutual Respect Goes A Long Way

If you’ve met someone online and want to take the relationship to the next level, meeting your family in the middle is essential. That mutual respect will ensure they are accepting of your new romantic interests, which will make bringing them around a whole lot easier.

Good luck!

 

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How To Start Adult Dating After 50

Many people over 50 find themselves in a situation where they may need to jump back into the dating pool. For many, however, it can be a difficult transition. Finding love can be incredibly complicated for those who have spent the better part of their adult lives in serious relationships that recently ended due to divorce or the death of their spouse. It can be tough to move past those feelings of sadness, anger, and grief. In addition, past relationships can bring out emotions that make looking to the future nerve-racking and, for some, a little overwhelming. However, there are ways to get past these feelings and enjoy sex and dating again. Here are some tips straight from the experts at Adult FriendFinder!

Think About What You Want

The first step to jumping back into dating is identifying the things that make you the most nervous. Then, by acknowledging your obstacles and owning your truth, you can take an intentional and proactive approach to taking care of your needs. You have already taken the first step by reading this article, so congratulations! You recognize that you’re interested in dating and are ready to make it a reality.

Get More Details

After you’ve thought about what you want, get more details. These details will help you choose the right places to meet other people, including websites to check out. Things were probably different your first time around, but there are many more options to help you find someone you’re compatible with these days. Sure, you could still meet the old-fashioned way, but there are also many websites designed to help you find a potential companion.

Take Adult FriendFinder, for example. Many people flock to the site searching for physical relationships, but many people meet the love of their life here as well. That’s why it’s crucial to thoroughly read the bios of people you’re most interested in and put what you’re interested in on your own bio. While you’re exploring, keep in mind that casual relationships, friendships, and casual sex can be stepping stones for some people as they get more comfortable in the dating world again.

As a person looking to re-enter the dating world, you may be interested in casual sex more than long-term dating. On the other hand, you also may be most interested in finding a long-term partner. Regardless of which you are looking for, communicate your needs clearly for the best results.

Find Potential Matches

Many people over the age of 50 are nervous about where they’ll find potential matches. Online dating can be a new world for people who haven’t been part of the dating pool for a long time, though it provides fantastic options for finding high-quality matches.

Reach Out

If you are going the online dating route, take a look at their bios, check out the pictures, and take the time to reach out if you’re interested. When putting your first message together, let them know that you’ve read their bio by crafting it well. You can complement the pictures they’ve posted and reference what they’ve said in their biography. People put their interests in their bios, with many referencing interests both sexual and nonsexual. Be tactful when reaching out, and take some time to communicate with the people you’re interested in multiple times before setting up a meeting. It’s good to discuss wants, needs, desires, mutual interests, and boundaries before meeting with anyone. It’s much easier to do this online than it is to do in noisy public places.

Meeting Up

It’s exciting to meet up with new people, particularly for a sexual romp. However, some planning steps are needed when thinking about meeting up, with many focused on safety. Spend some time getting to know your potential new sex partners before meeting up for the first time. Ask about safety, their thoughts on safe sex, and boundaries.

Take safety precautions when meeting up with people you don’t know as well. These safety precautions can include meeting up in a public place where other people are present. You’ll also want to tell at least one other person where you’re going, who you’re meeting up with, and provide them with a contact number where they can reach you.

Having someone available to rescue you from a bad date is also essential. If you’re giving information to a friend about where you’re going on a date, keep them updated if you move from one place to the next. Having someone aware of where you are at all times and who you’re with can be immensely helpful.

Hooking Up

Bring protection, communicate your needs, wants, and boundaries, and be safe. Remember that consent can be revoked at any point in time, and all partners should consent enthusiastically when having casual sex or dating, even in long-term relationships.

Keep In Touch

If you have a good date, make sure to keep in touch with the person you had a good time with. Whether you’re looking for casual sex, short-term dating, or long-term dating, kinky friends, potential partners, or lovers, keeping them around has many benefits. If you had a good time on your casual sex date, take some time to send them a message the day of or the day after. Let them know that you’re interested in maintaining communication and possibly even having more sexy fun. Entering the dating pool after 50 can be nerve-racking, though honest communication, dating with intention, and communicating well before, during, and after the date, can provide dividends.

Final Notes

Follow these steps, and your re-entry into the dating pool over 50 should be a smooth one. 

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Best Tips to Flirt with Your Fuck Buddy

Is there anything better than a fuck buddy relationship? You get to have amazing sex and explore your dirty fantasies without having to deal with the drama of a serious relationship. There are tons of benefits to having a fuck buddy as I am sure you’re well aware. What you may not know is how to maintain that fuck buddy relationship. 

Now that you have a fuck buddy, the last thing you want to do is mess it up. One thing that people often neglect is flirting. Just because you’ve secured a fuck buddy, doesn’t mean you should stop flirting with them! 

Letting that chemistry fizzle is a sure-fire way to ruin a great thing. Luckily for you, we’ve got a few easy tips to help you keep your fuck buddy relationship hot and steamy. So, without further ado, here are the best ways to flirt with your fuck buddy.

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1. Nudes and Sexting 

Sexting is probably the most entertaining way to flirt with your fuck buddy. Sexting is a great way to set the mood and build anticipation for when you two meet up. You can start by sending a few naughty messages. Try telling your fuck buddy what you’re going to do to them when you see them. Once the mood is set, you can start sending nudes and sexy videos on a sexting platform to really spice things up. Sending nudes is one of the best ways to flirt with your fuck buddy and set the tone for later on. 

Before you send nudes, remember that you need to tease first. Nobody wants to get a random dick pic without some foreplay first. That’s why sexting is so important to working up the horny levels. 

2. Use body language

If you want to have great sex you need to get good a flirting and teasing. We covered nudes in the last example, which is a great way to flirt. When it comes to flirting, we often try to think of the best thing to say. In reality, much of flirting has to do with body language. Think about it– you can instantly tell how someone is feeling based simply on their body language. So, if you want to flirt with your fuck buddy, you need to send the right physical signals. 

One of the most important signals is eye contact. This one is a little bit tricky since too much eye contact can come across as creepy. Just remember to meet their eyes when you’re having a conversation so they know you’re listening. Another tip for body language is to use light physical touch when you talk. You can gently touch their elbow or shoulder to show that you’re interested. 

3. Have a sense of humor

Flirting doesn’t have to be a serious endeavor. In fact, a little sense of humor is a great way to initiate the all-important chemistry. Playfully joking and sexy stories around can help both of you feel happy and relaxed. As corny as it may sound, laughter is the best way to get comfortable with each other.

On top of that, it’s well known that many people find a sense of humor one of the most attractive qualities out there. If you don’t have a knack for making jokes, try sharing some goofy videos with them. Anything to lighten the mood will help both of you relax– and that can lead to dirtier activities. 

4. Buy them a naughty gift

If you’re feeling a little adventurous, I recommend sending your fuck buddy a special gift to set the mood before you get naked. The right gift can send a clear message to your fuck buddy. Plus who doesn’t enjoy receiving a present? Giving them a naughty gift is an excellent way to flirt and the best part is, you can both enjoy the gift later! Some gift ideas are lingerie, sexy handcuffs, a blindfold, or even an adult toy. 

5. Take them for a night on the town

What better way to flirt than to hit a couple of bars, grab a bite to eat and maybe even dance the night away. I know a lot of you might be worried about your dancing skills, but it’s actually one of the best ways to flirt with your fuck buddy. Think about it– the two of you will be up close and personal, moving to the music and the endorphins are pumping. I guarantee the two of you will be ready to jump in the sack after a night out with good food, drinks, and dancing.

6. Give them compliments

Who doesn’t like hearing nice things about themself? Well, it’s safe to say the same is true for your fuck buddy. Now, you don’t want to come across as too corny, so keep the compliments simple and genuine. If you’re trying to get the good times rolling, let them know how sexy you think they are. Or how much you love it when they do that one thing. You get the idea! Compliments are a super easy but highly effective way to flirt with your fuck buddy.

7. Ask the right questions

Asking questions not only shows you’re interested, but it also gives you the opportunity to control the direction of the conversations. You can easily spice up the conversation by asking the right questions. You can even turn it into a sexy game. Ask them for the craziest place they’ve ever done the deed. Or, find out what their secret sex fantasy is. The beauty of having a fuck buddy is that you both get to explore your sexuality. Make the most of it and find out the dirty details of your fuck buddy’s sexual preferences. 

8. Watch a sexy movie together

An extremely underrated way to flirt with your fuck buddy is by watching a sexy movie together. It doesn’t have to be x-rated, but a movie with a few steamy scenes is enough to get the ball rolling. Curl up on the couch, share a blanket, and pick a good flick. Hey, Netflix and chill didn’t become so popular for no reason. 

9. Try playful teasing

Sappy compliments and cheesy pickup lines just don’t do it for everyone. If that’s the case for you, a little playful teasing may be in order. Emphasis on “playful.” The worst thing you can do is take it too far and hurt their feelings. That being said, playful teasing shows that you’re comfortable with each other and it’s a great way to build chemistry. 

10. Make a secret code

A fun way to spice things up is by creating a secret code that only you two know about. It can be something simple like, “Are you in the mood for pizza?” or even “I need to go to the carwash.” Think of a random phrase to use. Then, when one of you drops the secret code, you know it’s time to get down and dirty. 

11. Pick up on their cues

The last on this list is something that often goes ignored. We’ve all had that one friend who is completely oblivious to sexual advances. Look, the reality is, it takes two to flirt. You can put in all the effort in the world, but if you are not picking up on their cues, it’s all for naught. Great flirting is all about chemistry. That means picking up what you lay down. So, when you start joking around with your fuck buddy and they begin to tease you back, take the hint! Knowing how to flirt means recognizing when someone is flirting with you too. 

Last Advice

Having a fuck buddy is all about sex and flirting, and should be all about fun. Don’t think too hard about it, just let the chemistry fly. If you put a little effort into flirting with your fuck buddy, you can make your friends-with-benefits situation last.

 

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How To End a FWB Relationship Amicably

Having a Friend With Benefits (FWB) provides convenience, incredible orgasms, and an all-around exhilarating experience. Many even find that the new relationship energy they get from a new fuck partner is just as intense as what they get from a new romantic partner. Like traditional dating, however, not every FWB relationship will work out for the long term. The good thing about a FWB setup is more often than not, both parties are aware the relationship will eventually come to an end.

So what do you do when your FWB relationship runs its course, and you’re ready to move on to the next? Assuming your partner hasn’t done anything seriously offensive, you’re going to want to let them down easy, so they know you appreciate the time you had together, but it’s just time to move on.

Get on the Same Page

There are three ways to break it off with a friend with benefits if you feel the arrangement is no longer working for you. When determining which one of these methods you should use, consider whether or not you and your sex friend are currently on the same page. In some cases, both people know that the casual relationship is coming to a close, making it much easier to approach them about cutting ties. If you feel this is the case, the conversation may be a relief for both of you.

In other cases, something may have changed in the FWB relationship, making things less enjoyable for one or both partners. If the issue hasn’t been addressed, you may want to consider communicating with your casual friend openly and honestly to see if there is a way to salvage the relationship or move back towards the fantastic sex you were having earlier in the relationship.

In many cases, things aren’t as straightforward. For example, sometimes one person wants to continue being friends with benefits, while the other doesn’t. Other times, one person has decided to push for a full-on relationship while the other has no interest in anything serious. In these situations, awareness is the first step to moving forward.

Each of these instances has different recommendations for breaking it off and moving on. There are overlaps to each, so read on for more information.

When The FWB Relationship Fizzles

Maybe neither of you is feeling the sex anymore, or perhaps your schedules are not lining up, which leads to bickering and frustration. In this case, you should consider a straightforward, friendly, and direct approach. People appreciate honesty in their relationships, whether they’re long-term romances, friendships, or relationships that involve sex.

If you’re not planning on keeping the other person around as a friend, the conversation should be polite and direct. Navigating casual sex relationships where you’d like to keep the other person as a friend can be a bit more tricky. Focusing on all the things you enjoy about them as a person while moving away from the conversation about sex can be the best way forward. Many people find that they’ve already noticed the other person losing interest in the sexual relationship and have found themselves doing the same. This realization can lead to a sense of relief, and when the relationship ends, everyone is free to move on. All in all, this is a win-win for both people.

If There’s Hope on the Horizon

If you’re reading this article, it’s likely because whatever issues you’re having with your FWB can’t be fixed. However, there are situations where a new process, communication, or sense of awareness can restore a relationship so the amazing sex can continue. FWBs often keep going when the sex is incredible unless a new relationship enters the fold, external factors occur, or the sexual connection dissipates.

When a new relationship enters the fold, or you lose your physical passion for the other, things will likely end no matter how many discussions you have. External factors like a new job, difficulty with transportation, longer and longer periods between sexual fun, and other external factors can often be fixed. Tactfully express your needs, letting the other person know that the sex is fantastic and you love it, though other things are causing some frustration. If you can develop a mutually beneficial solution, sometimes you may decide to give it another go.

When One Person Wants to Stay FWB

Good communication is essential when one person wants to continue a FWB relationship, and the other doesn’t. As much as you might want to avoid it, it’s time to have a respectful conversation. Keep a level head and make sure you keep the conversation moving forward even if the other person resists at first. If one party no longer wants to be in the FWB relationship, it’s time to rip off the bandaid and end it.

Sex is about having fun, and many FWB relationships end as the fun fades no matter the reason. So when the time comes, bow out gracefully so you both can move on to new situations that make you happy!

If you’re looking for a new FWB, you know exactly where to look!

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How to Seduce an Older Woman

Movies like The Graduate and American Pie make it seem like mature women are just young women in older bodies. As a woman in her 40s, I can tell you that’s 100% true. I may have a few extra years behind me, but make no mistake, I’m sexier than ever and can keep up with any 22-year-old in the bedroom. But how does a younger man get an older woman like me into the sack? Let’s just say it’s a bit of an art form.

Cut The Nonsense

Older women have a lower threshold for nonsense because we’ve heard it all, and we’ve heard it many times. We’re not looking for cheesy pickup lines or some guy to swoop in and act like no one has ever complimented us before. If you’re going to give me a compliment, make it real and make it count. I would rather something like, “you have the most contagious laugh” than “I could get lost in your blue eyes.”

When I was a young lass frolicking among the fields of sexy eligible men, I would fall for pretty much any line they gave me. If someone told me I was beautiful, I would blush. If they told me they’d never met a woman like me before, I believed them. Then I heard those lines over and over again and started to appreciate the more unique approaches as I got older, such as “Roses are red, violets are blue, I like peanut butter, want to fuck?” OK, so maybe not that exact phrase, but you get the point.

Make us Laugh

Young women love to blush and feel flattered, while older women like to laugh. In all fairness, so do younger women; they just haven’t realized it can be a faster path into sexville than cheap flattery. A man that makes me laugh will get me wet…from tears of laughter, wow what were you thinking? If you’re making me laugh, we’re sharing a connection, a moment, and something real. Making me laugh takes effort and investment on his part, plus a good sense of humor goes a long way in terms of sex appeal.

Don’t Be Boring

In my youth, I could sit and talk about nothing for hours. Nothing was fascinating. But somewhere between 18 and 40, I found some depth. Now I need substance. If we’re making small talk, then let’s talk about the weather, sports, or what’s on Netflix. But small talk isn’t going to get me to go upstairs or go on a date, so try to have an opinion about something. You don’t necessarily have to go into your stance on politics or religion, but if you’re going to talk about Bridgerton, discuss how it’s an allegory for our times…WOW! That sounds fascinating, and now I’m interested. Essentially, if you want me to be interested in you, you need to be interesting to me.

Be Confident

Older women tend to be more confident because we’re over our issues about our sexuality. We’re OK with talking about sex without feeling the need to blush, and hopefully, we’ve figured out what we enjoy sexually. Because we’re more confident, we generally find ourselves more interested in confident men. The emotional wreck isn’t as entertaining anymore — confidence is what’s sexy.

Bad Cougar

It’s fun to think of an older woman as a cougar, and while some of us may wear the title with pride, most of us don’t identify with it. Sure, it’s cute, but the term cougar focuses on our age, which makes us feel older. Trust me; we don’t want that. Pointing out an age difference by being overt and saying things like “Wow, you could be my mom” or “Did you know Sting was in a band?” will make that tiny little age gap feel like the Grand Canyon, and that’s not sexy.

Young and Virile

Just because you don’t want her to feel older doesn’t mean you can’t show off the benefits of your youth. Do things for her that older men may not be able to do – it’s an excellent way for her to feel enlivened by you. I like it when I see a strong younger man because it makes me think they can handle me in bed instead of the older counterpart who may throw out his back during one of my signature acrobat moves. Plus, it’s nice when I mention the blue pill, and you think I’m talking about the Matrix.

Don’t be an A-Hole

The bad boy facade often impresses young women, but as for the older woman, we’ve been there and done that. I know I’ve dated my fair share of bad boys, and frankly, I’m no longer interested in being strung along and mistreated by some emotionally unavailable d-bag. Be a gentleman — bringing me a flower or opening a door for me won’t compromise your masculinity. Most older women have had their fair share of a-holes and left them in the dust, so why would we want a younger version?

Be Discrete

In college, it was funny when guys would brag about their sexcapades…unless you were the one in the story, then maybe it wasn’t so amusing. As a younger woman, I dealt with my fair share of sexual judgments, and I took it in stride. However, as an older woman, I’m no longer affected by people’s judgment, mainly because I don’t care. If I’m getting laid, then I’m happy and don’t give two figs what someone has to say about it. That said, I still don’t want a partner plastering it all over social media. My sexual satisfaction comes from the sex, not the stories about the sex. So if you’re going to sleep with an older woman, give the frat-boy antics a rest and be discrete.

While older women are more confident about our sexuality, bodies, and ourselves, we’re also pickier about who we chose as lovers. Whether it’s Mrs. Robinson or Stifler’s Mom that piqued your interest in older women, neither movie was wrong. Older women are amazing, but to get something that amazing, you’ll have to work just a bit harder.

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