It all started as a joke. It always does. Someone on your social media feeds had the clever idea of using the term the Covid 19 when referring to the nearly twenty pounds of weight they gained while in quarantine. Now you’re home by yourself, looking in the bathroom mirror and having the sudden realization that you’ve gained 15 or 20 pounds while staying home and socially distancing yourself from the gym. These solitary moments can be plenty hurtful for people who fear even a few extra pounds will somehow ruin their dating life. Thankfully, we can assure you that isn’t the case, and while getting in better shape is always admirable from a health standpoint, it’s not the end-all or be-all of your dating life. That much is certain.
Won’t People Stop Wanting Sex With Me?
Gaining weight doesn’t mean you’re unappealing or less attractive, so stop it. In fact, if you check Adult FriendFinder right now, you’ll find thousands of people whose profiles make it quite clear they prefer bodies carrying a few extra pounds. There are many people out there who proudly consider themselves Chubby Chasers or Big Beautiful Women (BBW) lovers, and that number hasn’t dwindled one bit since the coronavirus first hit. One of the great joys of meeting millions of open-minded adults online is that all colors, ethnicities, body types, genders, and lifestyles are welcome. That inclusivity extends far beyond your bathroom scale, and on a much grander scale, it means you can be yourself no matter what your weight or what kinks you’re into. As long as you’re willing to be honest, you’ll find people who are attracted to you and share the same mindset about sex.
Yeah, But What If I Feel Worse About My Weight?
That’s a different thing entirely. When we take a more introspective look at ourselves, there are always things that each of us wants to change or improve. Weight is hardly the only thing people want to alter. Some feel a need to learn a new language, while others feel confined by the cisgender paradigm. Some may like to shed the restrictions of monogamy or wish to explore another side of themselves as they accept their own bi-curious identity. Weight is no more or less important than all these other aspects of ourselves, and when it’s your own perspective that’s irking you, that deserves your full attention. Put simply, all of us should do what we need to do to make sure we feel good about ourselves.
There are also some objective benefits to staying fit. Again that’s different from staying a certain weight. Being fit allows your body to consume calories more efficiently, which leads to better cardio (which is a huge advantage in bed) and increased flexibility (which also helps in bed). It can also help you live a longer, healthier life.
Nobody wants to miss a hot date because they have a doctor’s appointment and being in shape is a great way to minimize your time answering questions from your Doc. Even while stuck at home during a shutdown, finding time to go for walks or to do simple at-home exercises can be a massive help to your health.
What If I’m Just Not Into Dad Bods and BBWs? Am I A Monster?!
Preferring a petite pixie of a playmate who barely weighs a hundred pounds doesn’t make you any better or any worse than someone who wants a plus-size playmate he can sink his fingers into. The measure of your character is exactly the same. Are you polite? Do you take the feelings of others into account when you communicate? Are you open, honest, and self-aware enough to accept the same from others if they dislike something physical about your own appearance? Being someone who prefers skinny or heavy or busty or slender people to have sex with doesn’t make you a bad person in any way. It means you’re normal and have preferences just like everyone else. As always, it’s about how we express those preferences and how we share ourselves with others that determines whether we’re adding something positive to the experience.
Isn’t There An Easier Way To Find People Who Fit My Own Criteria?
Instead of just going to a local bar or club and looking around the room hoping to find a match, use your Adult FriendFinder profile to select the characteristics you want in a mate. Filter your search by age, gender, height, weight, and many other niches to quickly filter your dating pool down to only the people who check all your boxes. Keep in mind that others are doing the same, which means that in a very short time, you can be browsing only the profiles of potential mates who have already matched your favorite characteristics while they seek you out as well.
As One Last Note, Keeping Your Profile Current Is The Key
Many aspects of your dating profile are unlikely to change. If you’re 6’4, you aren’t suddenly going to become 5’2 or 7′ any time soon. However, other aspects of your dating profile may change quite a bit from time to time. Things like hair color, weight, or your current location are clear examples. It’s worth checking your own profile regularly to make sure your information is current. Otherwise, you may have that awkward moment of showing up at someone’s door as a redhead when they were really in the mood for the blond you used to be or vice versa.
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