You and your partner have had lots of great sex at their place, but now you think you’re ready to host. So what should you have in hand as part of your new Sex Toy Kit to enhance the experience? It’s a checklist worth making and one we can help you create with these easy tips.
It’s About Variety
If you had just one steady lover, it would be easy to identify what they like most and gather sex toys aimed at that sensation. However, being a man of the world like you are, it’s pretty obvious you plan to be having sex with a variety of partners, and that means having a wide selection of sex toys to enjoy together with each of them.
One of your lovers may be an ASMR freak who can’t cum without a set of binaural headphones chirping at them, while another may love the stamina a tight cock-ring provides. So while their interests may be diverse, your sex toy kit should be inclusive enough to welcome all of their fetishes and curiosities.
Sex Toys Should Empower Your Partners, Not Replace Them
Nobody wants to hear that their lover wants to plug in a 220v vibrator into the kitchen refrigerator outlet to maximize the volume of their next orgasm instead of making use of the hard human dick that’s right in the same room. Similarly, taking out a FleshLight to give your lover even more pleasure may be an exciting addition to your sex kit, but taking one out to use it while they lay next to you, wondering why you wouldn’t prefer their affection is a mistake. Be sure whatever you add to your toy kit always has the desires of your partners and their direct interaction in mind.
Batteries Not Included!
Many modern sex toys are electronic devices that need a power source. So, unless you’re still using a medieval wooden dildo as your sex toy, be sure to have all of the ancillary items you need to maintain them. Batteries are obvious, and an appropriate cloth and cleaning solution should also be kept handy. After all, hygiene is essential, and especially if you’re engaging in sex with more than one partner at a time, keeping things fresh is crucial to making sure everyone heads home without any regrets. Your kit can also show your lovers that you’re a caring and thoughtful lay, which is likely to get you plenty of second dates.
You Aren’t A Super-villain
Many of us have lofty goals when we start engaging in polyamorous sexual encounters. When we think of a sex toy kit, our mind races, and we’re suddenly trying to find the biggest motorized machines and wildest new toys to play with. But it’s important to remember this is about sex; we aren’t making a high-budget action film full of explosions and CGI special effects. So try to simplify your kit, at least at the start. Rather than complicated costumes, dangerous suspension devices, high-powered gasoline-fired sex machines, and all the rest – just put together a box or drawer full of obvious items you know how to use well. Vibrators, clamps, lube, restraints, a blindfold, and some other basic tools of the trade will do a lot more to impress an actual lover on a date than any giant robotic monster dong with lasers firing out of its cum hole ever will.
Get Input From Your Lovers About Your Kit
Is that fourteen-inch double-headed vibrator you can barely fit in the box making your lovers more intimidated than turned on? The only way to know for sure is to ask openly. You don’t need to interview anyone with a series of leading questions to get valuable answers. Just a simple “hey anything else you’d like to see in here” sort of question is probably all you’ll need. The bonus is that discussion almost always leads to chat about things they’ve never tried before and an invitation to experiment with them!
What Not To Have Around
This is perhaps the most important thing to keep in mind when making your new sex toy kit. If you aren’t into something, you don’t need to include it in a box full of toys you make available at your next orgy. For example, a cage may be a good idea if you love CBT, but if you dislike sensory deprivation play, why in the world would you hand a new lover a box of sex toys with a blindfold in it?!
Whatever goes into your kit is likely to spark the imagination of your lovers and will eventually find its way into your lovemaking, so choose wisely and don’t include anything in the kit that you wouldn’t want to use with them for your pleasure and theirs.
Aftercare Is Always Important
Whether you had a long slow romantic sex session or a rough quickie in the stairwell, you and your lover will likely be together for at least a short while after the deed is done. Your sex kit should take that into account with some simple but essential additions like breath mints, a first aid kit, or even some thoughtful gift ideas like a poem or keepsake you can gift them. It all comes down to making your kit about the entire dating experience rather than just the sex itself. The better your kit provides for the well-being, excitement, and emotional feelings of your lovers, the more likely they will be to keep coming back for more.
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