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A Beginner’s Guide To Cuckolding

For some, cuckolding is about a hot wife that has many male lovers outside of her loving relationship. For others, it’s about roleplay. Sometimes it’s about watching another person get it on with their partner. Those who like to walk on the wild side can also incorporate kink and BDSM into the cuckolding experience. 

Thus far, we’ve covered what cuckolding is, as well as some advanced techniques for those already in the lifestyle. In this beginner’s guide to cuckolding, we will cover the basics for those who are curious but haven’t taken the plunge yet. 

What is Cuckolding?

In general terms, cuckolding is when a woman engages in sex with someone other than her husband with his approval and consent. Sometimes the husband watches, and sometimes he doesn’t, but either way, he enjoys his wife being taken by a more dominant male, referred to as the bull. 

There are a few different forms of cuckolding, though most people do either couples cuckolding or BDSM cuckolding, which sometimes involves roleplay humiliation. Cuckolding can happen when the male partner or cuck watches, though some people also use the term to describe one partner going out and fucking another person while the other partner knows about it and stays home. This can include BDSM roleplay, sexual activity after the person returns home, roleplay humiliation, and more. 

People who cuckold can also be considered polyamorous, though not always as often the bull is not a part of the primary relationship. 

Is Cuckolding Cheating?

Though cuckolding involves sex with someone other than your spouse, it has a distinct element of consent and communication. Couples and play partners often talk about the experience in advance, though the rules might be a little laxer in swinger communities and at sex parties. Following the agreed-upon boundaries, limits, and philosophy makes it not cheating.

Consent and conversation are the two main parts of cuckolding, keeping in mind that cuckolding can be cheating if done without consent.

Bringing Cuckolding Up To Your Partner

Starting a conversation about cuckolding with your partner involves tact, respect, and knowledge. First, research cuckolding and have a good idea of what you’re looking for and why you’re interested. After you have a good idea of what you’re looking for, bring up the conversation casually and respectfully. Try to avoid moments or times that are particularly busy.

Bringing cuckolding up as a casual joke in passing can be a fantastic way to put the thought in somebody’s mind. Then, approach the person at a later point, letting them know that you’ve been thinking about it and that it might be something you would be open to. Gauge how the conversation is going and continue the discussion. If either person wants to do more research or take some time to learn more on their own, that’s okay. Being open, nonjudgmental, and tactful is essential for bringing up new sexual activities to your partner. Remember to respect your partner’s limits and boundaries, regardless of whether they’re interested in cuckolding or not. Also, keep in mind that there are live cam shows on Adult FriendFinder where you can explore cuckolding fantasies from the comfort of your home, without direct involvement from your partner.

What Happens After The Yes?

After your partner says “yes,” have a serious talk and set guidelines for each other. If you have boundaries and limits, talk about those as well. Each of these things takes research and introspection. Also, keep in mind that the idea of cuckolding is fluid. As time goes on, people may need to adjust their needs, wants, desires, boundaries, and limits. Solid communication is key to having a successful cuckolding relationship.

Sometimes couples go through some drastic changes initially. Sometimes people have feelings of withdrawal, fear, or excitement. Many people describe the start of their cuckolding adventure as a roller coaster of emotions. That’s why it’s important to iron out the details and figure out how you and your partner will approach people beforehand. If you and your partner are not on the same page, it can turn people off to cuckolding with you and make it very difficult to find the right bull for your situation. 

Planning Your First Cuckolding Date

Understanding the different types of cuckolding is essential, as it helps couples figure out how they should go about planning their first date. If your partner is leaning towards a couples cuckolding experience, each meeting is most often short-term. In many cases, the woman will not need her partner to choose the male. Instead, the focus is on physical enjoyment, and possible first dates may involve meeting for sex instead of meeting for drinks.

People looking for this type of sex should consider birth control, STI tests, and conversations about needs, wants, and expectations. Keep in mind that consent can be revoked at any time, and while many cuckold experiences in this category are one-time things, some people have regulars that they love to cuckold with. 

For people who are more interested in the BDSM version of cuckolding, take note that it may take a little bit more time and involvement to find the right match. There are also limits and boundaries to discuss, including comfort levels with roleplay humiliation, domination, and other types of involvement the cuckold could have. Will they just be watching? Is it okay if they masturbate well? What happens after the date? Are other elements of kink in BDSM acceptable during the session?

Top Places To Find Cuckolds

Use resources like Adult FriendFinder to vet potential bulls, and keep in mind that these arrangements can take a little longer to come together sometimes because every person involved has some input. You may also have friends or casual acquaintances you’re interested in. However, keep in mind that there’s a risk that you may complicate your relationship with this person after the cuckolding experience. 

If you’re looking for variety, attend local swinger and BDSM events, letting it happen naturally by giving one person a “hall pass.”

No matter how you approach it, just be sure to have fun. Good luck! 

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An Advanced Guide To Cuckolding

Cuckolding comes in many forms, including BDSM, couple’s cuckolding, and hotwife exploration. Everyone has a slightly different definition of cuckolding, which works for them. This is because cuckolding takes on many different definitions based on what couples are looking for. Whether you are looking to become a single person in a cuckold, or you and a partner or sex friend are looking to get more involved with cuckolding, this advanced guide gives more information about the many aspects of this lifestyle.

Explore What You Are Looking For

There are many ways for people to spice up their sex lives, and some of them choose cuckolding. Cuckolding should not be approached as a quick fix for relationships. Also, note that both people need to be enthusiastically consenting to the cuckolding, in most cases, for it to work out long term. Most forms of cuckolding are a sort of open relationship, where people open up to sex with others. In many cases, the women can have sex with someone outside of their relationship for the mutual enjoyment of themselves and their partner. In contrast, the other person in the relationship might not have this ability as the cuckold. Again, cuckolding can take on multiple qualities, so it is essential to discuss it with your partner.

Two Types Of Cuckolding

Couples cuckolding brings a format that most often has the woman not needing her husband, boyfriend, or sexual partner’s approval in choosing the other male. Their input is not the focus; short-term physical enjoyment is the focus. The possible first dates for couples cuckolding may involve meeting up for sex rather than drinks, food, or talking things out. However, some conversations still need to happen, including birth control, boundaries, limits, STI testing, and more. In some cases, this is done online.

BDSM cuckolding is another form, which can take more time overall to organize. The husband/boyfriend tends to have more input in this, and there is often a date or get-together beforehand where people can chat. Planning may be a bit more intricate, as there may be other BDSM elements introduced to the cuckolding experience. Whether spanking, paddling, roleplay humiliation, or someone is licking the cum out of another person’s pussy or cleaning the woman’s wetness off the other guy’s cock, there are thousands of options for how BDSM cuckolding can work. Having solid communication about safety and boundaries is essential for protecting the relationship and for increased comfort levels and safety overall.

What If The Women Is Shy About Cuckolding?

For some people, the idea of cuckolding can be overwhelming. Approaching the conversation with tact is essential in this case. Some people also worry about whether the relationship will survive the experience. This can increase the amount of caution they have when actively seeking the cuckolding out. It is essential to talk about reluctance, do research, and only proceed with the experience when both people are comfortable. This pays dividends in the long run, as she will need to be comfortable talking about her needs, wants, and desires. To communicate effectively, she needs to be comfortable in the experience. Increasing comfort levels can also positively impact her enjoyment and is key to having multiple experiences. Women who are shy often still try out cuckolding, as it is something that they are interested in. Finding a cuckold experience is similar to finding threesomes in some ways; both can use similar resources. If she says yes to the experience, talk with her about the types of people she would be most interested in, whether or not she is okay with you watching, and how to build into the experience slowly and with the most amount of comfort possible.

Setting Up Boundaries

Cuckolding conversations come with talks about boundaries. Threesome boundaries tend to focus more on protecting the existing relationship, building trust, and providing a sense of well-being by ensuring that needs are met. Cuckolding boundaries are different. Physical safety is essential, and protecting the relationship while communicating information is also vital. Talking about possible limits and boundaries in advance is also crucial. Moving outside of these boundaries and limitations could be considered cheating, so make sure to communicate your needs, wants, desires, boundaries, and limits well. In many cases, people should revisit this conversation a few times before their first cuckolding experience. Also, keep in mind that this conversation can be revisited at any point, as relationships and philosophies behind cuckolding can change over time.

Finding Cuckolds

The search experience is different than finding a person for a threesome. Cuckolding is more about how the couple relates to each other rather than how they relate to the invited male. That said, there are cuckolding couples who look for specific qualities while seeking a third person for sex fun. Whether you are looking for a one-time experience, a regular cuckolding partner, or people who might be interested in having group sex after, Adult FriendFinder has many options, and you can use your account to find them.

Cuckolding Is Not Gendered

Cuckolding is not gendered, and a man does not have to be the cuckold. It is possible to enjoy any of the ideas of cuckolding regardless of who is watching. It is also possible to enjoy cuckolding without actually sleeping with anyone else. There are many ways to enjoy it, including via live cam, dirty talk, roleplay, and more.

Choosing The Other Person

In many cases, the woman chooses the other male, but sometimes they ask their husband, boyfriend, or sex partner for advice. Depending on the experience she is seeking, many different types of males can be considered. The boyfriend/husband/sex partner’s involvement should be agreed upon in advance, and in most cases, should be limited. However, there are elements of BDSM cuckolding where he may have a larger impact.

Aftercare Is Essential

Whether you are doing BDSM cuckolding or couples cuckolding, aftercare is essential. Talk about what your needs may be after the cuckolding session. Keep in mind that your needs, wants, and desires in terms of aftercare may change over time. For many people, it is cuddling, sleeping in the same bed together, or expressing love or words of affirmation for one another after. There are plenty of other options for aftercare as well.

Final Notes

Conversation, consent, and awareness are essential with many different types of cuckolding. For some people, their cuckolding fantasy involves a wife with many male lovers outside of her loving relationship. Sometimes it is about domination, where the dominating wife does roleplay humiliation on her husband by taking another lover. Sometimes the husband is in the room watching, and other times she is out having dates and going back to the other guy’s place to get it on before returning to her husband.

Cuckolding can also take the form of a wife wanting to know what it’s like to have sex with someone outside of a relationship and experience other men. Discussing comfort levels, limits, boundaries, and expectations is important, and people in cuckolding relationships need to be comfortable with the concept. Cuckolding can bring massive pleasure, hard orgasms, better overall communication, and other benefits to people’s lives. Talk with other members of Adult FriendFinder about it now; the cuckolds here love to chat about their experiences!

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The Psychology Behind Cuckolding and Why Men Enjoy It

Traditionally, the word cuck (cuckold) referred to a man whose wife was having a sexual affair behind his back. 

The word cuckolding was derived from the cuckoo bird, which has a habit of laying its eggs in other bird’s nests and was metaphorically used to allude to a woman laying with a man who is not the husband, or what we now know as adultery.     

Today, cuckolding is known as a sexual fetish in which the cuck gets sexually aroused by watching their partner (the hotwife/cuckoldress) engage in sexual intimacy with another person (the bull). It’s not restricted to a heterosexual relationship, meaning any couple can jump at it, provided they are both comfortable doing so.

Cuckolding is indeed a form of BDSM, but you might be surprised to know that some couples use it to build stronger and happier marriages.

The Psychology Behind Cuckolding

From a psychological perspective, cuckolding is meant to arouse feelings of humiliation and inadequacy in the partner who is being cuckolded. The subconscious inadequacy could have formed early in life due to lack of privacy, abusive parents, lack of attention, or narcissistic parents. The humiliation plays a significant role in the power-play dynamic, which arouses the cuck, fulfilling his fetish. 

There are different levels of cuckolding, like any other fetish, depending on how far the partners are willing to go. If you’re not comfortable with the thought of watching your partner have sex with another person, you may derive pleasure from listening to them flirt explicitly without getting physical. The details of their sexual fantasies or previous sexual experiences can be an excellent way to dip your toe into cuckolding if you’re scared to go all the way at first.

If you don’t mind trying a higher level, you can watch your partner flirt with another person in a bar or watch them make out. Even more interesting, you can instruct the bull on what to do to your partner, watch from a distance or even join in and make it a threesome, because why not? Whichever level you decide on, make sure both you and your partner are game before you get started.

Why Do Men Love to be Cucks?

Some men enjoy being sexually humiliated and feeling inadequate for their partners. The fetish turns deep-rooted feelings of insecurity and inadequacy into sexual pleasure. Primarily it’s based on the woman’s (or partner’s) ability to enjoy sex with the bull rather than with their partner (the cuck.) Losing control, moaning harder, orgasming, and letting loose scales the levels of inadequacy in the partner, causing them to become more aroused.

Some men also enjoy cuckolding as it’s a safe space to release their deep sexual desires. It demands high levels of communication between partners, which leads to a more powerful, playful, and emotionally intimate relationship. Plus, it spices up the act of sex by engaging in fantasy play, making sex more intense and more pleasurable.

What do Cucks Get out of Watching their Partners have sex with the bull?

Pleasure, and lots of it! Some also say that it doubles as a stress reliever because it rips away the expectations of having to satisfy your partner, opening both you and your partner to a pool of explorations.

Cuckolding fanatics also say it helps them explore their sexuality and keep sex fun and novel. The cuckoldress is given the dominance and right to have sex with other people while the cuck remains loyal. The roles are, however not fixed, and can thus be switched at any time. You can also give the bull dominance while in action to shake things up a bit.

The Downsides of Cuckolding and How to Avoid Them

Any game of power can be dangerous, and one involving intimacy is even worse. Cuckolding can push one past their sexual and psychological limit, causing the relationship to go south. One might be up to trying it but halfway realize they weren’t ready for it, only to feel upset that once your partner engages in sex with another person (the bull), it can’t be reversed.

To avoid such, make sure that you both understand the consequences before you dive in. Also, make sure to maintain open communication between you and your partner, both before and after cuckolding. If someone gets uncomfortable and decides to stop halfway, the others should respect their decision. It would also help if your relationship is not founded on toxic monogamy and jealousy, and both of you are on the same page when it comes to exploring wild and freakier fetishes.

Common Questions to ask the “Hot Wife” after Cuckolding

The goal of cuckolding is to make the cuck feel inadequate in satisfying their partner, which in turn satisfies their fetish. For this reason, they tend to ask the cuckoldress some explicit questions to help scale up the inadequacy.

The questions include:

– Did he fuck you better than me?

– Did you enjoy his cock?

– Is his cock bigger than mine?

– Did he cum inside you?

– Did he penetrate deeper than me?

– Did you tongue kiss?

– Did his cock fit in your mouth?

– Was his tongue game better than mine?

– What freaky thing did he do to you?

Are you ready?

If you’re ready to try cuckolding and hotwifing for yourself, the Adult FriendFinder advice lines are a great place to start. You can interact with people from all experience levels who live the lifestyle and love to offer guidance to those looking to explore!