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Let’s Talk About the Clitoris – Increasing Sexual Pleasure

The clitoris is one of the body’s main pleasure organs and is where most orgasms in women occur. It comprises a smaller outer part, which can be seen and played with directly, and a much bigger internal part, which can be simulated indirectly. Many people with vaginas do not regularly orgasm from vaginal penetration alone; stimulation of the clitoris often gets them to climax.

While many people use clitoral stimulation during their sex, whether in relationships or casual sex, others are still unaware of the immense pleasures the clit can bring. Outside of this, exploration of this area of the body can be lacking even in relationships and sexual partnerships where general awareness of the clit exists.

If you want to learn more about putting the clitoris front and center, this article is a great place to start. While talking about sex, and sexual imagery, have been increasing over the last few years, there’s still a lot of vague conversation about how sexual pleasure and the body works.

Some of the most significant barriers to sexual pleasure often stem from the sex-negative attitudes and structures society sometimes brings. Prioritizing both male and female satisfaction and encouraging all genders to explore their bodies is essential to learning. Whether a clitoris is in the picture or not, recognizing there is always more to learn when it comes to pleasure with your partners is a significant step towards increasing sexual satisfaction for everyone involved.

Tips For Increasing Clitoral Pleasure

First, pay attention to the parts of the clitoris. One of them, the clitoral glans, is often considered the entire clit. Scientists have studied this area of the body for decades, though in recent times, scientists have learned the clitoris has multiple parts, with this being just one of them. With many nerves, all located in a small surface area, the clitoral glans are a sensitive body area. Each person with a vagina is unique in how their body looks and presents. Some clitoral glans are more prominent, while others are smaller.

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Exploring this body area can be beneficial no matter who you’re interacting with sexually. Discussing it is also critical because people have different preferences and sensitivity levels. For people who have explored their clit on their own, there is often a wealth of knowledge they can impart.

The clitoral glans are easy to access, and many ways exist to stimulate them. Putting pressure on the clit is one, and others include licking it, nibbling on it, sucking it, and placing a vibrator on it. Exploring and changing things can help keep things fresh, whether with a dating partner or hookup.

Build Up Slowly and Focus on Variety

Building up slowly and focusing on variety can have immense benefits. Keep things fresh, having fun with the clitoral glans using your fingers, tongues, vibrators, dildos, and more. Try out different types of sex toys if you’d like, including glass toys, steel toys, silicone toys, and other styles. Always ensure the toys you use are made with body-safe materials, as your safety is a top priority.

Clitoral stimulators also utilize air and suction to bring people intense orgasms. Whether you are using sex toys or other ways to pleasure the clit, it is often a good idea to start slow unless your sex partner has informed you they are turned on in other ways. This area of the body is quite sensitive, and too much too fast can sometimes negatively affect the overall mood and energy.

Explore the Clitoris Inside as Well

While a small and noticeable part of the clit is outside of the body, the majority of it is located inside. The clitoris has two more extended parts that attach it to the pubic bone, and it also has two bulbs found alongside the vagina and urethra. It is fascinating that the tissue here is made of the same erectile tissue that penises are made of.

This area of the body fills itself with blood when the owner of the clit feels arousal. As it is located inside the body, this area cannot be reached directly from the outside. You can please it indirectly, however. Going through the vagina and pleasuring the front part of the pussy wall about two inches in is a popular way to make it happen. This method hits the G-spot, which some people believe is a separate organ or unique area of the body unto itself. However, this area of the body is where the bulbs of the clitoris, the vagina, and the urethra come together.

An up-and-down motion is often best rather than using an in-and-out motion to explore and pleasure this area. Fingers and G-spot toys are often ideal for pleasuring the G spot, as well as other parts of the clit.

Focus on Other Areas of The Body as Well

Focusing on other areas of the body is essential. Some people get caught up with the pleasures the clit can bring, paying less attention to the other erogenous zones. Moving slowly can help with this, as can focusing on other zones before moving toward the clit.

Getting the other person aroused before pleasuring this region can yield faster and better results. In addition, stimulating multiple erogenous zones simultaneously can lead to intense orgasms. Kissing the neck, licking the nipples, nibbling on the ears, and gently touching pretty much everywhere can complement the clitoral play.

Mix things up and focus on variety. Communicate with your partner to understand more about what they are most interested in, and remember sex is meant to be pleasurable and fun. Enjoy yourself, and always take the time to learn more!

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Fisting 101 – The Complete Guide

Fisting can feel pretty intimidating to someone who’s never tried it before, especially if you’ve only seen depictions of it in movies like Chasing Amy, Waiting, and Fifty Shades of Grey. While it’s certainly not for the faint of heart, fisting is far more intimate than one would gather from watching Ben Affleck cringe as Joey Lauren Adams does spirit fingers through an imaginary butthole. In fact, enthusiasts swear that fisting triggers powerful orgasms they can’t achieve otherwise when done with the right partner.  

If you’re looking to try your hand at fisting, this guide will help ease your way into things so you feel safe, comfortable, and satisfied!

Make a Plan

Fisting isn’t something you should try on a whim, as you could get hurt in the process. That’s why you need to plan out when you’re going to do it, how you’re going to do it, and, most importantly, who you’re going to do it with. Decide if you want to try anal fisting, vaginal fisting, or both. And please, for the love of all that is holy (no pun intended), don’t even think of attempting both at the same time.

Find the Right Partner

If you’re new to fisting, you must find a partner you can trust. If you’re not in an intimate relationship, your best bet is to find an experienced partner. If you’re currently in an intimate relationship and you and your partner want to learn together, go for it! But be sure to take it slow and do your homework before you begin.  

Gather Your Supplies

Yes, you need supplies to do this right, and there’s no way around it. Here’s what you’ll need:

Lube – You’re going to need several large jars of good fisting lube. There are many great brands on the market, and the one you choose should depend on whether you’re going in anally or vaginally. We’ll break this down for you later.

Towels – Things will get messy, so have a stack of clean, dry towels nearby at all times.

Fisting Mitt (Optional) – If you and your partner want to be extra careful about STDs, then a fisting mitt can provide you both with an extra layer of protection.

Douche Kit (Optional) – This is great if you want to clean yourself out before the festivities begin. Be sure to only use it for anal, though. Vaginal douching can wreak havoc on your pH balance, which is the last thing you need when you’re already trying something as invasive as fisting.

Stuff Happens

We’re all adults here, so let’s not pretend we don’t know what can happen when butt stuff is involved. If you’re worried about certain things slipping out upon exit, clean yourself out with an anal douche before you play. Do this earlier in the day, however, so you can be sure everything is out beforehand. If you’re serious about being clean, you can also stop eating about 12 hours before the fun begins. It may not be the easiest way to prep, but many porn stars do it before a big anal scene to make sure they are nice and clean. And if something does happen, well, that’s what the towels are for.

Smooth Lube

Fisting requires more lube than you can imagine. Let’s dive into the different types of lube before you dive into, well, you get the point.

Vaginal Fisting: The vagina lubricates itself naturally, which does help, but it’s still not nearly enough when something as big as a fist is going in. Hybrid lubes are best (water and silicone mix) because they’re super slippery and gentle enough not to irritate the delicate vaginal skin. Sliquid and Liquid Silk are two good options to consider.

Anal Fisting: Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so lube with staying power is essential. Silicone and oil-based lubricants can offer the stickiness you need without irritating the anus. Boy Butter is one great option.

Crisco: This one is trendy but doesn’t smell very good, and it’s not compatible with latex condoms. It can also cause vaginal irritation, so if you want to go the natural route, try coconut oil instead.

Numbing Lube: Most experts urge consumers to stay away from lubricants that contain numbing agents because it makes it hard for your partner to know if something doesn’t feel right. No one wants to end up with surprise trauma at the end of what they thought was a great fisting session, so skip the numbing lube at all costs. 

Prepping the Fister

The fistee isn’t the only one who has some prep work to do. If you’re the person doing the fisting, be sure to wash your hands and arms before going in, and remove anything that could scratch or otherwise injure your partner. Clip your fingernails, and remove all nail polish, jewelry, and anything else that could harm these sensitive areas during the act. If you don’t want to remove your nail polish or want to be super careful, you can also slip on the handy fisting mitt mentioned above. Listening is the most crucial part of being a good fisting partner, so come prepared to hear your partner out when something feels good or not. Ensure they know they have full control of the situation; this will help them relax so you can get in easier.

Take it Slow

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and you can’t expect yourself to take in a whole fist in a day, either. Prepare yourself with various-sized sex toys alone or using one finger at a time with a partner. If you’re serious about anal fisting, invest in an anal training kit to get you ready for backdoor intimacy. Either way, don’t forget the lube, and remember to add more as you go up in size. Some people are unable to take a whole fist their first time, and that’s ok. Once you make it happen, ensure the exit is just as slow as the entry to avoid any trauma.

The Importance of Aftercare

After being fisted for the first time, the fistee is going to need some aftercare whether you did it vaginally or anally. There shouldn’t be any pain if you did things right (taking it easy, using enough lube, etc.), but some soreness is normal after the first time. Keep the area lubricated and if you need to take some over-the-counter pain reliever, then, by all means, do it. If you’re the fister, check in with the fistee over the following days to see how they’re feeling and let them know you had a good time.

For more tips on anal and vaginal fisting, check out the Adult FriendFinder Member Advice Lines!

 

 

 

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National Lingerie Day – Your Best Self Edition!

There’s a reason we wear the good underwear out on dates even if we don’t plan on getting intimate. It makes us feel sexier, bolder, and more confident. So, it’s only fair that lingerie deserves its own day after everything it does for us.

If you’re new to the fancy knickers game or need to update your top drawer with a few new pieces, you may need a little help choosing what’s best for your body type. If that’s the case, don’t worry, we got you. Our guide to killer lingerie will help you highlight your best features, whether you’re sexy in Savage Fenti, vivacious in Victoria’s Secret, or tantalizing in Target!

If you want to highlight your booty…

You’ve been blessed with a juicy peach, so why not make the most of it? Cheeky panties make your derrière look nice and round, while a thong really shows off what you got as you lead your partner to the bedroom for dessert.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

If you want something figure-flattering…

Larger body types look amazing in lingerie, so don’t be afraid to flaunt your curves. In fact, the body positivity movement really embraces Lingerie Day as an opportunity to show that you can look sexy as long as you feel sexy. If you’re self-conscious about your midsection, try a corset that cinches in the waist and pushes up your cleavage, so your best assets are on full display. If you want to be a little more comfortable, try a baby doll with a slight flare at the bottom.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

If you want to show off your abs…

If you’re looking for something a little more stylish than your standard bra and panties, try a sexy bodysuit or negligee with cutouts in the torso.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.
Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

If you want to highlight your killer rack…

If you’re blessed with amazing breasts, show them off in a demi bra that provides maximum support for all the extra activity you’ll be doing throughout the evening.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

If you have legs for days…

High-cut panties and bodysuits make long legs look even sexier, giving the illusion that you just stepped off the runway of a Victoria’s Secret fashion show.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.
Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

If you have thick thighs…

Thick thighs save lives, but they also make it harder to keep your thigh-high stockings from rolling down. That’s when garter belts come into play because they look hot and keep everything up so you can focus on more important things.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

 

If you’re a baddie on a budget…

Sexy lingerie doesn’t have to be expensive. In fact, you can find gorgeous, flattering pieces at Target, Walmart, and even Amazon if you know what to look for.

Individuals pictured are models and are used for illustrative purposes.

Whether you want to look your best for your partner or you just want some sexy selfies to post to your profile, these pieces are meant to be seen. If you need a little more in the way of inspiration, don’t forget to check out the Adult FriendFinder Hottest Member Photos page to see what your fellow members are doing!

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The Women’s Guide to Taking Nude Selfies

In the age of social media, selfies have become the norm, especially when it comes to flirting. Of course, when you’re ready to take the flirting up a notch, that’s when you might consider sending the object of your flirtations a nude selfie or two. 

If you’ve been sending nudes for a while, then posing for the camera and hitting “send” is probably no big deal. If you’ve been out of the game for a while, however, the thought of sending a naughty photo of yourself to someone you’re interested in can feel downright intimidating. 

Taking a hot nude selfie is an art, and this guide is designed to help you master that art to send sexy, flattering nudes that are sure to stop your partner dead in their tracks!

Confidence Is Key

The most important thing you need when taking a nude selfie is confidence. Remember, you don’t need the physique of an Instagram model to look great in nude selfies. You just need to work what you have and know that you are the sexiest thing on the planet to the other person. 

The first step to building that confidence is to admire your body and take it all in. Stand naked in front of a mirror and do your best not to pick yourself apart, instead focusing on what you like about yourself. Maybe you have incredible boobs, pouty lips, or an ass that won’t quit. The chances are that if you like it, someone else will, too. 

Practice, Practice, Practice 

Now that you’re comfortable with your appearance in the mirror, it’s time to get comfortable with how your naked body looks in photos. Try different poses, take a bunch of pictures, look through them, and pick out the best ones to recreate when the time is right. If you’re not entirely comfortable taking naked pics right out of the gate, try wearing some lingerie or a sexy outfit, and build up to full nudes at your own pace. 

Set The Scene

You are the focal point of your selfies, but you should still make sure you set the scene behind you as well. If you are taking selfies at home, for example, find some clean spaces and areas where you can show off properly. Piles of clutter and dirty clothes behind you can be a huge turn-off no matter how sexy you are. If you’re too busy to clean your place up, you can minimize the time it takes to tidy up your background using doors, walls, and other interesting places as a backdrop. You should also think about how props can enhance the overall tone of your pics. For example, a glass of wine, a fantastic piece of art, or lingerie on the bed can turn up the heat on your already sexy selfies. 

Learn About Lighting

Gret lighting is essential when it comes to taking sexy selfies. While many intimate moments happen in the dark and at night, the best selfies often come from bright white lighting. Yellow household lighting is generally unflattering, so try to find an area of your home flooded with natural daylight. If you have to take selfies at night or the lighting in your home isn’t super great, you can also purchase a ring light on Amazon for under $50. 

Once you have the proper setup, experiment with light and how it looks on your body. Some people find that having light shining on them from one side creates fantastic shadows that are quite flattering. Having a light that hits you on both sides can also look great. 

Use Angles That Feel Good

Finding your most flattering angles can take some trial and error. The best poses can depend on what you want to emphasize, and testing a bunch of them out can be the best option. Many people find that parts of their bodies they did not consider flattering are more flattering than they thought. Consider the tools you are using when exploring angles; you may want to buy an inexpensive tripod for a digital camera or cell phone. This can help shoot your whole body from a distance, providing more options in terms of angles. Remote or timer camera features can also allow you to shoot from higher up, which can also be flattering. Shooting from the ground can also be exciting, making you look longer and taller in the process. 

Highlight Your Best Features

If you love your bust and want to be more creative about showing it off, try straight-on shots of you grasping your boobs. Using other strategies such as showing off manicured nails in the pictures, doing light scratches, and touching on different emotional expressions can all work well. There are many options for butt shots, too. If you want your booty to be the focus of your pics, try arching your back, throwing your shoulders back, and popping out your butt. Silhouettes from behind are a great option if you want to get creative (and minimize your tummy area). 

Love Your Body

It’s hard not to be overly critical of yourself while taking nude selfies. Social media has created impossible standards that the average person cannot achieve without filters and plastic surgery. However, remember that bellies, thighs, and scars are all beautiful and a big part of what makes you unique. Furthermore, your potential partners are likely sick of seeing highly photoshopped pics and will appreciate seeing what you look like in all your natural glory. That said, comfort is essential. It can take some time to get more comfortable being naked on camera, including taking selfies, so go at your own pace, knowing you will look fabulous no matter what you do. 

Relax

Talking to trusted friends about your interest in taking nude selfies can help with your confidence. Plus, it’s a great way to get tips from people with more experience in the nude selfie game. Some people are nervous about taking selfies due to their thoughts on privacy and identification. Due to this, many choose to hide their faces in their pictures. If you’re worried about the recipient posting your photos online one day, then leaving your face out of the pictures is a wise choice. You should also consider covering up identifying marks such as tattoos as well. 

Express Yourself 

A facial expression can make or break a nude selfie. Sure, you’re showing off your body, but if you look bored or uncomfortable, it can ruin the whole tone of the photo. Practice your facial expressions in the mirror, and try out a few to suit your various moods. Sexy, playful, sultry, and intense are all options that work great for sexy selfies. While practicing expressions and getting comfortable with your feelings, emotions, and needs is essential, trying too hard can show in pictures. That’s why it’s important to make sure your expressions always look natural. 

Send Safely And Securely

Where and to whom you send nude pictures matters. Make sure you’re using secure servers, and never send nudes using public wifi or an email address that isn’t fully protected with two-factor identification. If you want to use a super-secure system, you can also send photos to the object of your desire via private message on Adult FriendFinder. 

If taking pictures on your phone, look into whether your device has a remote erase option to protect your photos in case your device ever goes missing.

Consent is Key

If you’re thinking about sending someone nude selfies, chances are it’s because you have already been talking and engaging with them in a sexual way. Still, it’s vital to get their consent before sending nude photos of yourself, so they know what to expect when they open their device. You would hate for them to open up a nude photo of you in a public setting by accident, or worse yet, receive nude images they didn’t want. 

When it comes to sending selfies, the goal is to have fun and feel good about yourself. So, whatever you choose to do, make sure you’re enjoying yourself, and that will shine through in your photos! 

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How Women Can Achieve Orgasms Without Penetration

There are many ways to achieve orgasm, which for women can include clitoral, vaginal, anal, and combination orgasms. Each can deliver a unique experience and intensity, moving through the body in different ways. Women can also orgasm without penetration, thanks to the numerous erogenous zones found throughout the body. While the clit is arguably the most obvious zone, it can also include the ears, nipples, neck, elbows, and knees, among other body parts.

Each of these places can have pleasurable reactions when they are touched, kissed, and played with. For more sensitive people, continuous play can lead to orgasm. There are also ways to focus on these erogenous zones, increasing the likelihood that orgasm will occur. There are many different personalities regarding sex, and how you approach achieving the best orgasm without penetration can vary from one person to the next.

General Strategies For Orgasm Without Penetration

One way women can orgasm without penetration is through the clitoris. Outside of the clitoris, however, there are many other ways to make orgasms happen. For example, to achieve a combo orgasm, people can use clitoral stimulation and stimulation in other erogenous zones. This action can cause a person’s mind to go back and forth from the pleasure they are feeling in one part of their body to the pleasure they are feeling in another. There are also erogenous zone-only orgasms, which are achieved exclusively through a lot of experimentation with a partner. While some are sensitive enough and know how to instruct partners on how to help them orgasm without penetration or clitoral stimulation, it is still rare.

Orgasms stemming from erogenous zones can take time, even for someone with experience. They are never an expectation, though, as they can only happen with awareness, understanding, and exploration. For example, some can orgasm from a kiss on the neck, teeth on their nipples, or fingers on the inside of their elbows. One of the best ways to find erogenous zones is to use a feather or other light external object and note where the best and worst sensations are felt. Some people have an aversion to being touched on certain parts of their body, so talking about sexual exploration with your partner is essential.

Communication Is Key

Communication is an essential part of orgasming without penetration. Talk to the other person about your limits, boundaries, wants, and desires. Explore these things and talk about different areas of the body that you would like to explore with your partner. 

Talking about what you want and how and where you want it done is the best way to ensure maximum pleasure. Talking about where you want to explore and what you’d like to do in the future, including areas of the body where you think you might be able to orgasm without penetration, is also a good plan. Many women can orgasm with their clitoris and know how they like to be touched there to orgasm. It is the other erogenous zones that are a little trickier.

If your regular sexual routines are not getting you off, experimenting with touching new areas at different times is a great step toward having harder orgasms. Some women, for example, get off while giving other people pleasure, including when giving oral sex. Others love a combination of head scratches and nipple stimulation.

You and your partners can always start slow, exploring different feelings and sensations together. Communicate about whether you’d be open to trying BDSM and what types of BDSM you’d like to try. Clitoral stimulation, along with spanking and other fetishes, can lead to some of the most intense orgasms. Everybody experiences orgasms and sex in different ways. Sex does not come with a manual, so explore in the moment and communicate.

The Stages to Orgasm

There are multiple stages when it comes to sexual response. These include excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Masters and Johnson wrote a book detailing all of these, but the basics are a great place to start and are, in many cases, enough. The first stage is excitement when a person is initially being turned on. Plateau is the repetitive motion that feels pleasurable, while orgasm is the burst of pleasure and the release of this pleasure.

The refractory period is known as the resolution. While this is too general in some ways, and the stages can cross over, it is a fantastic starting point. One of the inaccuracies, however, is vital to address. Sex does not always end in orgasm; there are many ways to have sex that are pleasurable, amazing, and intense without orgasm. In addition, suggesting that sex ends in orgasm may deny some women orgasms by expressing that sex stops when a male partner finishes. Also, take note that orgasms do not mean sex is great.

Defining Orgasm

Orgasms can be small, big, and can happen multiple times in a row or just once, and it is also okay if they don’t happen at all. Rather than defining the orgasms by someone else’s description, describe them using your own. This can help you avoid shorting yourself pleasure. A calm clitoral orgasm can be mind-blowing, and your partner’s ejaculation can be exciting. Combo orgasms can be fun, and there are many other descriptive words that people can use to describe the different types of orgasms. Every person’s body is different, so orgasms are different as well. However, the path to fantastic orgasms almost always involves communicating, experimenting, and trying again.

The Many Different Paths To Alternative Orgasms

There are many different ways to achieve orgasm, and each person is unique in what they enjoy. For example, some people love watching sex, whether on a screen or live in person. The live member webcams here on Adult FriendFinder are one great example. 

Rubbing orgasms, including rubbing on the clit and dry humping, is another way people can orgasm without penetration. Being fully clothed and rubbing up on things can arouse, tickle, tease, and be very intense.

Some people also have orgasms in their sleep, and while this is not an active motion, it is worth mentioning as a type of orgasm that does not have penetration. Others can orgasm specifically by hearing erotic words, sensual sounds, or otherwise. ASMR is also the cause of many intense orgasms; sometimes, people using it can have orgasms without penetration and touch.

Tickling is a fetish that leads to some of the hardest orgasms for some, and you don’t need an intense tickle session with a partner to have a tickle orgasm. Sometimes people’s sensitivity allows them to be aroused with hands, breaths, and various tickling tools for a calm orgasm from tickling.

Many people also have orgasms from sensations on their necks or ears. In many cases, these types of orgasms and nipple orgasms involve a person fixating on the sensations moving through their entire body. Hair is another orgasm type that fits in this category, with different speeds and sensations that can come from squeezing, pulling, scratching, petting, and more.

You can combine these techniques for a blended orgasm, which is an orgasm that uses multiple strategies to reach climax simultaneously. You can use these to achieve orgasms without penetration, give your partner orgasms without penetration, or combine these strategies with penetration to give intense orgasms. They are just a few of the many erogenous zones and orgasm strategies to discuss with your partner. Enjoy!

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A Landscaping Guide For Her

The excitement that comes from showing someone your lady bits for the first time can be immense, whether you are looking to have your first sexual experience with another person or just showing off the beauty you have between your legs. For many, the way a person trims or landscapes their pubic hair is about individuality, expression, first impressions, and pleasure. Landscaping hair between your legs can be a fun experience, and this article explores the many ways it can be a functional part of your sex life as well. 

Why Do People Landscape?

People groom their pubic hair for many reasons, the most common one being for their partner. First impressions are important, and giving yourself a clean look helps make things look more inviting. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go full-on Brazillian, but cleaning things up when you’re expecting company is always nice. 

Personal comfort and pleasure are also good reasons to keep things clean. For example, some people enjoy the feeling of a bald kitty, while others prefer to avoid potential stubble between their legs between shaves and opt for a good trim instead. 

Efficiency and cost also play a role in people’s hygiene and maintenance choices, so research is essential. Luckily, we’re here to help with that! 

Fully Natural

The natural look is one of the least expensive ways to maintain pubic hair, as it requires very little maintenance. A full bush is thought to be a more old-school look, and some partners may indeed prefer the cleaner look that other options provide; plus, it’s not always fun to find stray hairs when eating their sexual partners. That said, many men are still into hairy pussy.

Long and Trimmed

This option presents as clean and well put together while also taking only small amounts of time and money to maintain. Many women use a beard trimmer or other shaver to maintain this look. Find an attachment that suits your needs, using the thicker attachments for longer hair. Decide whether you want the hair that moves out towards your hips, further away from your pussy, shorter, or shaved. Hairy pussy has become a turn-on for many people over the last number of years, and while it has always had some popularity, it is also much more in trend now than ten years ago.

Short And Trimmed

When it comes to expressing individuality, short and trimmed is a great strategy because it’s clean while leaving room for creativity. You can try different shapes, landing strips, even words if you have the skill. The shorter settings on a trimmer are ideal for this. Some patterns you can try are racetracks, rectangular formations, triangles, and intricate shapes like hearts, and even more complex designs. Maintaining these patterns involves a little bit of shaving, and trimming might be necessary more often. 

Silky Smooth

A bald kitty is always in fashion, and it offers a broader range of sensations during sex. To achieve this look, you can DIY with a good razor and shaving gel to prevent irritation or get professionally waxed. Going to a pro is more costly, but you only have to do it every 5-6 weeks, so it saves a lot of time in the long run. 

If you’re going the DIY route, keep in mind that stubble will start to appear after a few days, which can irritate both you and your partner. 

More consistent maintenance is often needed for this type of landscaping, though it is a strong preference for many people because it’s cost-effective and can be done at home. 

Final Notes

It can take a bit of trial and error before you find the landscaping method that works best for you. Think about the look and feel you want, and discuss it with your partner if you want to take their preference into account as well.

Either way, have fun with it! 

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Starter Sex Toy Kit Advice for Women

Even the best artist is better with the right tools, and the same rules apply to the art of pleasure. Every good pleasure artist has a treasure chest full of sex toys, gadgets, and gizmos aplenty. If you’re new to the lifestyle and looking to start your collection, it can feel pretty intimidating with so many products on the market. Just relax, take a deep breath, and KISS (Keep it, simple sweetheart). All you need to get started is a toy or two that fits into a tidy shoebox under your bed or can be stored in an easy-to-access nightstand drawer for your next one-night stand. 

Sex Toys Come In All Shapes And Sizes

Whether you’re in the mood for a big thick cock, a vibrator that hums a mile a minute, or something carefully crafted to tickle even the most hard-to-reach places – there is a toy for it, and you can own it if you like. Unfortunately, what you can’t do is wave your magic wand and make a new toy arrive during intercourse with your new lover. Even same-day delivery is unlikely to be fast enough to get the toy you fancy into your hands before this fantasy session has reached its climax. So, the lesson here is to order in advance!

Suppose you’re considering several devices to try first, splurge, and get them all. Of course, you won’t need three similar items that all do the same thing, but having different devices that offer a variety of sensations will empower you to tick all the right boxes during your next rendezvous.

Think of New Toys As Accessories 

When you’re alone, you may want to focus on that one signature toy you can count on to get you off every time. However, when you’re with a partner, the goal changes quite a bit. You aren’t trying to take out a giant toy that makes your new lover feel inferior to his mechanical overlords. Instead, you want to enhance the experience you’re both enjoying together and share the excitement.

Look for toys designed to accessorize lovemaking. A glove with vibrating fingertips is a good example of an item that includes your lover while heightening their ability to arouse you. 

Batteries Not Included!

Beware of the dreaded moment when you’re both about to cum as your new toy grinds to a halt and ends the moment before you both reach sexual nirvana. If it’s a rechargeable toy, remember to plug it in before your date arrives. If it uses traditional batteries, be sure you have a drawer full of replacements just in case your next session in bed goes hours longer than you anticipated. 

Lube Now or Be Sore Later

Strangely, many seem to forget the importance of having quality lube in their kit until they feel the wrath of their hubris at least once. Why wait until after you’re sore and uncomfortable from hours of intense friction to obtain the right lube for next time when you could add a variety of lubes to your kit right now? A simple water-soluble condom-safe lube is an excellent place to start. Something a bit greaser can come in handy if backdoor adventure is on your wish list, and you add even more excitement with some conversation starters like flavored lubes, scented lube, or warming lube to keep your encounters spicy! Recently, CBD lubes have gained popularity, so you may want to explore those as well. 

Many Ideas, Many Devices

Sex in a rut is worse than no sex at all. If you were going from one date to the next and digging out the same trusty dildo over and over again, you probably would be better off just staying home to masturbate with that dildo on your own. That’s why it’s crucial to think about variety when putting together your treasure trove of delights. Think about past encounters and ask yourself what would have been handy to have in the box to make that afternoon even more exciting. Then, imagine upcoming dates with new mates and let your mind unravel as you think up some out-of-the-ordinary items that might turn on your partners even more. Yes, that leash from the pet store is a good idea, but so is a vibrating egg if it’s unlike anything already in your kit.

Ask For Input From Your Lovers

If you’re thinking about putting together your kit in one shot, you may want to reconsider. Think of your sex toy kit as an always-evolving entity. One where you take out items that have become boring and add new ones that fit your current mood much the same way you would change the music playlist on your phone. Just like a playlist, you will likely find that input from others can lead to significant improvements. Be willing to ask your latest lover if they see anything that might be missing from your kit or anything in it that might turn them off. 

You don’t want to give anyone else control over what you put into your sex toy kit; it’s a very personal decision and one only you should make. But having a fresh set of eyes and opinions can always be helpful. 

What Not To Have Around

This is perhaps the most important consideration. It’s your new toy kit, and it needs to be all about you. If you’re not into anal, don’t hand your new lover a box full of butt plugs and give them the wrong ideas. Dislike pain? Then avoid keeping nipple clamps in your top drawer. Whatever goes into your kit is likely to spark your lover’s imagination and will find its way into your lovemaking. So be smart about what you choose to include, and leave out anything that doesn’t get you excited. 

Always Think About Aftercare

It sounds simple, but it can make all the difference if you include some simple household items in your kit as well. Breath mints can go a long way. A lighter is vital if you plan to play with candles, and so is a first aid kit, just in case. Try to think about what may happen from the moment your lover knocks on your door to the moment they leave. Sex isn’t only about what happens between the sheets, and your kit should reflect that fact. Sometimes the most appreciated part of your sex kit may be an ice pack or a spare key to the handcuffs after your primary key falls down the heating vent.

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Your Guide to the Best Lubricants

If you read the title of this article and immediately thought, “spit is the best answer,” you’re either Amish, or you just haven’t become aware of the amazing technological advancements that have taken place in the lube market over the last few years. These days you can avoid “high viscosity breakdown” during sex by choosing a top-tier lube for you and your partners to use. So how do you choose and which one would be best? Of course, the answer depends on what you’re planning to do, so let’s have a look into the pool of lubes available right now!

First, let’s talk about how to lube. Although there is no correct way to use it, in all cases, the lubes you’ll use for sex are acceptable for use. The only potential issue is if you have any allergies where you might find that some lubes will cause some minor irritation. Which is why we’ll cover all the four major types of lubes and their properties. 

Lubrication is an integral part of vaginal sex and masturbation for those that don’t want to risk friction burns. It’s critical if you’re going to do butt stuff. There’s no correct amount of lube to use, but you may want to start with a little and see if it’s enough rather than over-lubricate, which may cause a loss of sensation for some partners. 

Water-Based

These lubricants are among the most versatile, and you can use them for pretty much anything. Because they’re water-based, they won’t have any adverse effects on toys or condoms, latex, silicone, or non-latex. Unlike some other options, it won’t contribute to the risk of a condom breaking. It’s non-toxic, and you can find several flavored options. 

Pluses for water-based lube:

It washes off easily.

It doesn’t stain clothes or sheets.

It won’t cause a reaction to your skin. 

Downside: It can dry out faster than other options, making it so tacky that a long sex session will require multiple applications. You can also have issues if you’re having sex in the water, and remember, water is not a lubricant, no matter how many movies try to convince you that hot-tub sex is a romantic and sexy thing.

Major brands that are water-based are Astroglide, K-Y, and Juicy Lube. 

Silicone Based

If you find water and oil-based lubricants cause some irritation, then silicone-based lube will likely be a good match for you. It’s hypoallergenic and lasts longer than water-based options. It’s another lube that won’t wash away if you’re partial to shower sex. 

It’s also safe to use with condoms, both latex, and non-latex. 

One of the primary drawbacks of silicone-based lubes is their effect on silicone-based toys. Over time a silicone-based lube will deteriorate the surface of your toys. This can cause abrasions and pitting that mar the toy’s smoothness and make cleaning them more difficult because the germs and bacteria will now have an environment to grow. 

Another downside of silicone-based lubricants is that they will dry out over time and get sticky while they dry slower than water-based lubricants. Just keep it close by so you can reapply whenever it’s necessary.

Oil Based

Examples of oil-based lubricants include baby oil, most massage oils, coconut oil, and several commercial options formulated specifically for sex. These options are very easy to obtain and purchase without being embarrassed about buying something specifically for sex. They can also be cheaper than buying commercial branded water-based lubes. 

Some women who are sensitive to certain ingredients within water-based lubricants may find that oil-based is a great alternative that won’t irritate those sensitive places. Because it’s oil, you will also find that it lasts a lot longer than the other options out there and will not be washed away by water if you decide to go the romantic hot-tub route.

On the downside: Oil-based lubes may degrade latex-based condoms and weaken them. Oil can also cause stains, so if you’re thinking of having a marathon sex session on your best sheets, think about putting down a towel or be frugal with your level of lube.

It’s also important to note that some oil-based lubricants are not ideal for some women’s lady parts. Petroleum jelly can cause irritation and urinary infections. 

If you’re using coconut oil, consider potential cross-contamination issues if the jar you’re sticking your hand into to lube up during anal sex is also the one that you use for cooking. Just don’t do it. 

The Bottom Line

Whichever way you like your slippery shenanigans, it’s worth investing in a few different types of lube that suit the mood and kind of play you want to indulge in. Sometimes light massage oil can start an evening with a sensual rub down and be just right for a yoni massage or penetrative sex. For anal play, you may find an oil-based lube that has the perfect properties for foreplay, warming up, and some hard fucking. It’s all about finding the right match of lubrication, sensitivity, and control – just like every other aspect of sex!

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A Female’s Guide to Multiple Orgasms

Aaaaaah, multiple orgasms. Who can resist the big O, O, O, and O? Men might say women are lucky because they can have multiple orgasms, leaving many women to ask, “what is this amazing talent you speak of?” It’s true — for many women, multiple orgasms are still elusive, even after years of practice.

The Mystery of the “Big O”

First, let’s talk about the wonders of an orgasm. If you’re a woman and you’re having orgasms, then good for you. Lots of women aren’t even able to have one successful orgasm, let alone multiples. So if you’re able to have an orgasm with relative ease, consider yourself one of the lucky ones and go masturbate in celebration! Seriously, go masturbate. If you want to achieve multiple orgasms, you’re going to need to practice a lot.

Now that we’ve explored orgasms let’s take a look at multiple orgasms, as there are a few different interpretations of what that means.

Multiple Concurrent Orgasms: This is where you orgasm, and then before you ride that wave back down, you have another, and then another, often within seconds of each other. If this was a series of waves, it would be like jumping from peak to peak to peak.

Riding the Wave: When you orgasm, you build-up to the release. After the release, you come back down. While you’re riding the wave, you start to come back down, but instead of going back to zero, you start your ascension back up. Your orgasm is not concurrent but is still very close to the first one.

Independent Multiples: This is a traditional orgasm that builds up, peaks, and then comes back down. Then you keep having sex or doing whatever you were doing and start the build-up again. Usually, there’s a fair amount of time between these orgasms, which is why they are sometimes not considered “multiple.”

When you look at multiple orgasms, you need to understand that anything more than one in a sexual experience is considered “multiple.” Not everyone can have “multiple concurrent” or “ride the wave” orgasms, so don’t feel bad if your body won’t do that. In fact, many women struggle with having more than one orgasm in a single sexual encounter.

Everyone’s body is different and responds differently. Just because one woman can squirt and have concurrent screaming orgasms doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to — and that’s ok. What’s more important is that you find the orgasms you do have to be satisfying.

So now that you love yourself and your orgasm, let’s see if we can love ourselves into having more than one. The first thing you need to do is understand what kind of orgasms you have. Do you have penetrative, clitoral, anal, a combo, or all of the above?

Techniques

Stimulation and more stimulation: If you have clitoral orgasms, you can often stimulate yourself into having more than one. Masturbate yourself to orgasm, and then let yourself come down a bit. Before you come all the way down, start masturbating again and start the climb back up to another release. If you’re not able to attain the release, but you can achieve the build-up, just keep practicing. That will help get your body used to the idea of having multiple climaxes.

This stimulation technique works with any kind of orgasm. If you are penetrative, let yourself come down a bit and then resume masturbating. Remember that you’ll have to change your speed or stimulation technique to build yourself back up.

The switch-a-roo technique: If you’re able to have orgasms from different kinds of stimulation, give yourself an orgasm from the one that’s the hardest for you to achieve. Once you’ve done that, switch to the method that allows you to cum the most quickly. You probably won’t cum as quickly as usual, but you’ll have an easier time getting your body to embrace the next orgasm, and you won’t be as tired.

Bringing in the tools: Using the help of a vibrator or dildo can be a great way to teach your body to have multiple orgasms. Again, the first orgasm should be the one that is harder to achieve. Once you have that one, work on the second. If the second just seems completely elusive, bring in some outside help, like your vibrator. The electronic stimulation can push your body back into orgasm mode and force you into an orgasm. In fact, some people practice “forced orgasm” using powerful sex tools like a Hitachi Wand or Sybian.

Stimulate everything: After you have your first orgasm, change up the stimulation. If you like butt plugs, pop one in and keep fapping. If you want a glass dildo, start using it but don’t stop stimulating your clit. Bringing in additional stimulation can help your body to begin to climax again. Often times the second orgasm will require stimulation that feels different than the first orgasm.

Just like anything worth having, practice makes perfect. If you cannot have multiples, start by having one and then trying for another 20 minutes later. Once you can do that, try 10 minutes later, then 5, then 2, then 1. Once you can have a couple in a row, start trying to have them closer together. Don’t let yourself come completely down from the first one before working on the second. The more your body gets used to the feeling of multiple orgasms, the more it will embrace them.

Not everyone will be able to have them concurrently or even “ride the wave.” Maybe you’ll be able to ride the wave on some days but not others. It’s ok, and keep in mind that the more you pressure yourself, the less likely you will have any. Remember, you are doing this because it feels good and is fun!

All Hands on Deck.

Once you’re comfortable having multiple orgasms alone, trying getting your partner in on the action. If you tell them what’s been working for you, you can ask them to incorporate that technique into sex. However, keep in mind that bringing in a partner can significantly change the path to orgasm because the sensations are different. Just as it took time for you to get there on your own, it will take time to get there with your partner as well.

Start things off with orgasm during foreplay – either your doing or your partner’s — then try for another during sex. Or have your first during sex and the second one right after. 

Just like in practice, changing up the stimulation can be really helpful. If you had your first orgasm during penetrative sex, try adding digital (finger) stimulation into the mix and see if you can build it up again. If you had one with penetration, stop the penetration, switch to oral, and see if you can have another.

The key to having multiple orgasms is to enjoy the orgasm and the process of getting to the orgasm as well. If you don’t have one, or two, or three, you can still enjoy the process.

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Sex Toy Review – Sex in the Shower Vibrating Mesh Sponge

I generally am not a fan of bringing sex toys into the shower only because the logistics can get a little complicated. If you aren’t fortunate enough to have a fancy shower with a seat or your shelves are already filled with hair and body care products, where do you keep your pleasure device until you are ready to use it? Do you leave it in the shower and risk guests finding your pleasure stash, or keep it in your bathroom drawer where you have to tiptoe out of the shower dripping wet to grab it?

The Sex in the Shower Vibrating Sex Sponge (NoLimitNovelties.com, $19.32) is a neat little device that eliminates those issues because it hangs neatly over your faucet until you are ready to turn it – and yourself – on. The unassuming pleasure device is as discreet as it gets, looking like nothing more than the standard body poof many people use to apply their body care products. Unlike most shower poofs, however, this one is packing a tiny but mighty silver bullet in the middle that is designed to do a whole lot more than just help you lather on your favorite Bath and Body Works shower gel.

Pros

The bullet, which can’t be seen unless you are really looking for it, has a standard one-touch button operation that makes it easy-to-use. It packs a decent punch for something so tiny, too, so it’s perfect for releasing a little tension in the shower before or after work. Or, if you prefer, it’s also amazing to use with a partner when you really want to get wet and wild. You can even use it as a body massager as well which makes for a full body experience.

Cons

The only con is that there are no instructions inside the box – but rather on the bottom of the box where most people wouldn’t think to look. The instructions are pretty simple – just open the bullet and remove a little plastic sheet from the battery to get it working, but again, something inside the box should state that. Pro tip: slide the bullet outside of the poof before you attempt to open it as it can be a little challenging to unscrew the top with all the mesh blocking your fingers.

Final Verdict

This product is Adult FriendFinder approved! It’s so discreet no one would ever guess it’s a sex toy, and it really gets the job done for under $20.

Disclaimer: This product was provided compliments of NoLimitNovelties for review purposes. All opinions are our own and we were not paid for this review.