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How to Plan Your First Orgy

Anyone who has ever masturbated knows one is too few people for a quality orgy. But if you’ve gone to a big sex party and felt a bit out of place, then you also know that hundreds of people make an orgy much less intimate than you may desire. So, how many people should you invite to your next orgy, and what else should you know about creating a great guest list that will satisfy every participant?

Planning an orgy takes time, consideration, and tact. There are numerous ways to plan one, so if you’re interested in hosting an orgy, the tips below can help you get started. In orgies, consent is vital, as is trust. While some people prefer to have orgies with strangers, others only invite people they know and trust.

Space is a Consideration

Many people consider five to be the minimum number of participants for an orgy. Three people is a threesome, four is a foursome, and five or more is an orgy. The amount of available space is a determining factor in finding your ideal orgy numbers. People should be able to get comfortable, with a proper amount of furniture to play on. In most cases, oversized chairs, beds, and couches will suffice. Some people choose to put placemats and mat covers on the floor, another option for creating more space where many people can roll around at once. Smaller pieces of furniture can be limiting if multiple people want to touch each other simultaneously.

If you’re considering having an orgy and don’t mind who hosts the event, you can talk amongst the people involved to determine the ideal space among those available. However, keep in mind that if you don’t know someone well, you may want to do some vetting before considering their place for your next orgy. 

Think About Establishing Safety Protocols

Will your orgy require people to have condoms and switch between partners? Are you going to be asking for a recent STI test? People have different standards when it comes to setting up an orgy. Those who are considering attending will have questions. They will want to know about safe sex practices, and they will also want to know about how you are vetting people for the party. Gather your thoughts on these things and communicate them to your guests in advance so they can be prepared. 

The Right Number of People For an Orgy – It’s About the People

The best number of people for an orgy is also impacted by who is there. If one person is sucking the positive energy out of the room, one less person (that one) might be better. This is why vetting is so necessary. If you’re hosting a party and a person is causing issues, removing them may be the best option. The goal is for everyone at the party to have a good time, so be a good host and help that happen.

Sending Out Invites

When organizing an orgy, do not give the address of the orgy to just anyone. To maintain an ideal number of people in the orgy, you will want to limit the numbers. After determining the perfect number, it’s time to find people for the event. For example, if you’re inviting friends and friends of friends, pick two or three people to invite first, and ask them if they have people they vouch for who would also like to attend.

Ensuring that each person has somebody they are least familiar with outside of themselves can help increase comfort levels and get the action going faster.

If you’re looking to meet new people you can invite to your sex party, Adult FriendFinder is a fantastic resource. You may already have people in your network looking for orgies to attend – all you have to do is ask! Adult FriendFinder makes it easy to vet potential invitees so you can discuss consent and their thoughts on what an orgy should be. 

Don’t Start Too Big

Orgies have many moving parts, and one mistake people make is trying to plan an orgy that is much larger than they can manage easily on a first go ahead. There are logistics to planning an orgy, including space, snacks, vetting, and others. Each of these things takes time, and some take experience as well. As you continue to plan orgies, the vetting aspect will get easier. It also takes some time to figure out the appropriate amount of people for the space.

Having too many people in the space can make it hard to have the sexual fun you would like to have. Remember, people need to move around and get into different positions. There should also be an area dedicated to socializing for people who need a break or are not interested in watching other naked people fuck for the entirety of the night.

On the other hand, if you have ample space with few people, the party can feel empty. This can take away from the mood for some people, who may feel like “practically nobody showed up.” Starting small allows you to alleviate these fears. One way that people move through this is by starting with four people they know will show up. Then, invite a few more people, and know that even if only three or four people show, fantastic group sex will happen. If you have enough space for more than five people, take some time to invite an additional two or three people as not everybody will come to your event each time.

Final Notes

It is always wise to think about your goals for your event. For example, if the goal is sex with strangers, the vetting process may differ. In addition, there may be more people overall. For example, many sex lovers are interested in orgies, and gangbangs are also popular. When considering the number of people to invite, consider specific genders attending. In orgies, people touch other people’s bodies, and gender is often not an issue.

Once your plan is in place, you’re ready to get going!

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Are You And Your Date Ready For Your First Sex Party?

You met online, and you’ve been hooking up for a while now. Nothing too serious but a good friends with benefits arrangement that has you both satisfied sexually with the bonus of being able to hang out and share a few laughs whenever the mood strikes. You’ve both been seeing other people all along, and now one of you has gotten an invite to a local swinger’s sex party. Attending a sex party together is a big step, but are you ready for it?

1 – Leave Your Jealousy At The Door

No-strings-attached doesn’t necessarily mean there aren’t feelings involved. It just means you’ve agreed not to be a couple and all the baggage that entails. But you’re still human. It’s one thing to have an open relationship where you pursue your paramours independently. It’s another when you’re watching your partner fuck someone else in front of you, even if you thought it was hot as a fantasy. 

Be honest with yourself about whether you’ll feel jealous or possessive. Be prepared to ease yourself into the situation, just in case you find yourself surprised by the odd twinge of the green-eyed monster.

2 – Have A Candid Conversation Before You Go, Rather Than During

Ok, sure, it’s NSA, but this is now on the table for discussion. In the same way, you negotiated your first few hookups to learn about likes and dislikes, chat about how you both feel before jumping into the Uber and heading to the party. If you have any concerns, no matter how trivial, bring them up now. One benefit of developing a relationship with someone you met on Adult FriendFinder is that sex has always been a topic of discussion. The same rules apply now, though you may have developed a deeper friendship and may feel some nervousness about approaching the subject. 

3 – Discuss What You Want Out of The Event And Each Other

Be sure to cover what you feel comfortable with, as well as any limits or hard stops. If you feel more comfortable with them by your side at first because you’re, bring it up now. They may be the only person you know at the party and vice versa. Be sure that you both understand each other’s expectations and agree to them. 

4 – Have A Safe Word In Place In Case It’s Time To Go

While you’re developing your game plan, be sure to have some signals in place in case either of you gets uncomfortable, tired, or just aren’t feeling the vibe. Agree to honor them, even if you’re having a great time – ultimately, you decided to do this together.

5 – Be A Good Wingman 

You checked your issues and discussed everything with your fuck buddy. You both set up a list of what you want to get out of the evening and prepared an escape hatch if you need it.

Now go and have fun!

As a first-time participant, it may seem a little overwhelming. Just remember, these are people who love sex just like you, so enjoy the experience. When you first arrive, try to relax and get a sense of the vibe. You’re the newbies, so you’re likely to get attention pretty quickly. Still, it’s rare for people to be overly pushy and not respect your space or desires. People will be cool with hearing ‘no’ if they make an offer that doesn’t interest you. Don’t cock-block your partner if they want to do something unless it goes against what you’ve agreed – although your partner should support you regardless and not do anything you’re uncomfortable with.

In the same respect, don’t be assholes. Understand the house rules and be respectful when approaching someone. There will be plenty of other opportunities if the person you’re interested in playing with shoots you down. 

Sex parties are an exhilarating and liberating experience when everyone is in sync and ready to have fun. People are, generally, very respectful of other couple’s wishes. So if your partner wants to get in on that gangbang, or be the focus of it, be supportive (or join in) and expect the same from them. 

6 – Make Sure You Both Have Fun So You Can Do It Again

Hopefully, by the end of the night, you’re both grinning ear to ear, your genitals are buzzing from overstimulation, and you have some wild stories discuss on the way home.  If you used the tips above, you likely had a fun time without any uncomfortable moments. You ingratiated yourself with your hosts and their guests while pleasing your fuck buddy with an exciting evening out. That’s usually enough to get invited back or give you enough confidence to find other sex parties you can go to together.  

The Bottom Line

Swinging and sex parties can be an incredible experience. There’s a reason they’ve been happening for thousands of years and continue to gain in popularity. Sex comes with lots of baggage and potential hang-ups. Adding more people into the mix can exacerbate some of those, especially if you’re not in sync with your partner or partners that invited you. Respect for your hosts, their guests, and your partner will always make for a more positive and relaxed experience. By planning out your wants, likes, dislikes, and limits with a trusted partner before going out, your first sex party can be wildly successful and satisfying.