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How Cybersex Has Changed Since the 90s

To say that cybersex has evolved since its beginnings in the early 1990s is a huge understatement. Once a taboo topic only discussed for shock value on late-night cable shows, cybersex is now a popular topic in mainstream media.

So what brought about this steady rise in popularity? Changing attitudes towards sex, technological advances, and global events like the COVID-19 pandemic have contributed to the growth of cybersex.

With humble beginnings involving text-based chat, picture sharing, and more simple interactions, cybersex has evolved to be much more sophisticated. Sites like Adult FriendFinder have long been hotspots for horny people looking to engage in sexual behavior virtually with people from across the world. Now, people have access to live sex cams, adult XXX games, more advanced text-based chatting, and more.

What Is Cyber Sex?

The most simple definition of cybersex is two or more people connected for sexual fun virtually, using a computer or mobile device. Other words used interchangeably with “cybersex” include cybering, Internet sex, computer sex, tiny sex, and virtual sex.

While technology has made cybersex far more pleasurable over the years, its roots stem from the early 90s, when phone sex hotlines were one of the most popular ways people used to experience casual sex with people who weren’t in the same location.

Since the early 2000s, cybersex was elevated once again by model webcam sites such as Camistocks.com. Suddenly, people could masturbate on camera while watching someone else, and the visual appeal of this medium made cybersex more popular than ever. With newer technology coming out each year, the options are endless. Virtual reality devices, remote control sex toys, and other interactive technologies have brought even more options for cybersex fans.

It All Started With Chat Rooms

Messaging directly between two people has been available for quite some time, though cybersex really took off in the 1990s with the advent of chatrooms. Chat rooms helped people connect, all-in-one place, over mutual interests. With topics covered like online gaming, movies, television shows, music, and more, chat rooms became places for people to hang out and get to know one another anonymously. However, it didn’t take long for people to figure out that it was also a great way to get naughty with strangers. In these NSFW chat rooms, people could share these things publicly or through private messaging. Of course, capabilities were limited, but chat rooms provided a fantastic alternative to phone sex and only required an Internet connection.

Why People Love Cyber Sex

People love cybersex for a variety of reasons. It’s hot, it’s a quick way to get off without any physical contact, and it helps people stay connected to long-distance lovers. This became especially important when COVID-19 shut the world down, leaving many without a way to see their long-distance sex partners for months on end. Suddenly, cybersex was the only way they had to maintain intimacy during a time of chaos and loneliness for so many.

For those not in a relationship, anonymity can be another appealing aspect of cybersex. It allows people to get off with virtual strangers without anyone ever knowing their true identity. People who love masturbation, sex, and getting off, meeting people in chatrooms, on live sex cams, in adult sex games, and using interactive virtual worlds can create an alter ego for themselves and get it on anonymously. It’s a great way to create an alter-ego to experiment in a welcoming environment where they will not be judged or run into the complications of in-person sexual exploration.

Safe sex also plays an integral part in the rise of cybersex. During the 1990s, the threat of HIV was a massive consideration for single people. As a result, they became less interested in having casual sex, opting for other safer options. Cybersex provided them a way to get off hard from the comfort and safety of their home.

How Cyber Sex Has Evolved

What started as people sending simple text-based messages to express their desires evolved quickly over the years. First, people began sharing nude pictures and erotic videos via text and email. Then social media entered the picture, and now sharing erotic thoughts and content is easier than ever.

Technology is changing every day, making the impossible seem possible, so who knows how far cybersex will go in the future. Either way, we can’t wait to find out!

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Get Noticed on the AFF Hottest Member Photos Page!

If you’re looking for ways to capture the attention of that special someone(s) on Adult FriendFinder, one thing that could move you to the top of their “to-do” list is appearing on the Hottest Member Photos page. This section is where all the highest rated photos on the site appear, and it’s one of the easiest ways to get noticed!

So, how do you take a photo that’s worthy of the Hottest Member Photos page? Here are a few tips, straight from some of Adult FriendFinder’s most successful members.

Put Your Best Face Forward

It’s easy to assume that because AFF is an adult dating site, showing photos of your private parts is the easiest way to get attention. However, that’s not always the case, as many members crave a connection beyond their physical urges. Lots of top-rated photos on the site include at least part of the member’s face, so if you are gunning for that top spot, this is one tip you should consider when snapping selfies to post on your profile. If you’re trying to be discreet, try showing the lower or top half your face, as even that’s enough to pique the curiosity of potential mates as they browse the site.

Your Body of Work

While it’s essential to put your best face forward, it doesn’t hurt to show off your other assets, especially if you aren’t comfortable showing your full face in photos. Choose a body part you are proud of, and keep in mind that it doesn’t need to be X-rated. If you have an impressive meat-hammer, a pretty pussy, or a phenomenal ass, by all means, show it off! But pretty feet, great abs, and legs that won’t quit can garner just as much, if not more attention in many cases.

Show Off Your Personality

You don’t have to be a supermodel to have highly-rated photos, but you have to be genuine. Members want to connect with you on some level, so don’t be shy about showing them who you are. Show yourself in action doing something you love, whether it’s sexual or not. One popular couple on Adult FriendFinder frequently graces the Hottest Member Photos page by posting photos of themselves doing fun outdoor activities like skiing, hiking, and rock climbing. Sometimes they’re nude and sometimes they’re not, but either way, they’re fun to look at, and people can’t seem to get enough. Not the outdoorsy type? Here are a few other ideas that have worked on the site:

Novelty lingerie – One member posted photos of her backside in various 90s novelty panties, and people loved it so much that her photos were the most highly rated on the site for weeks!

Costumes/Cosplay – You don’t have to save the sexy costumes for Halloween. Many of our most popular members love to show off their best cosplay outfits, and it gets them lots of attention from their fellow members.

Hobbies – Nude painting, sunbathing, and even cooking are activities people love to see. How much skin you choose to show while doing them is entirely up to you, of course!

Post High-Resolution Photos

Try to post high-quality photos so people can see what you have to offer. You don’t need to hire a professional photographer to make this happen, seeing as how you probably have a smartphone sitting in your pocket right now that takes better photos than any webcam can. We’re not looking for IG models with highly edited and filtered material, just something that isn’t blurry or pixilated so people can see you clearly.

Get Inspired

Study other top member photos and note what you like and don’t like about their pictures. Take notice of any poses that may work for you and any themes you want to incorporate. You can even take it one step further and reach out to people whose photos you admire for advice. It’s a great way to make new friends and maybe even find your next hot hookup!

Things to Avoid

A messy background – You want to be the focal point of your photos, and a cluttered background will take the focus off of you, so be sure to clean up before snapping that selfie in your room. No one expects your place to be spotless, but just making sure everything is neat within the frame of your photo can make a huge difference in how people react to the pictures you post. 

Don’t post anything the violates the site’s TOS – Photos containing minors, animals, and other people who are not a part of your profile are against the TOS (even if they are just in the background) and will get your photo taken down. Repeat offenses could even get you banned from the site, so ensure the only one in your photo is you! 

Bonus Tip: Take Advantage of Member Photo Contests!

Adult FriendFinder hosts member photo contests regularly, so enter often to gain even more exposure. You could win a free one-year Gold membership, plus you never know who you might meet in the process.

Login to AdultFriendFinder.com and see who’s on the Hottest Member Photos page now!

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Billionaires Are Proving Monogamy Doesn’t Work

For centuries humanity had no preconceived notions about sexual relationships codified into religious dogma and sectarian law. Humanity somehow thrived, even though most people were simply fucking whoever fit their mood. Then came the sexual dark ages, with many people being constricted into the confines of marriage and monogamy to please an ethereal deity or society as a whole. Now, the world is waking up to the fact that having multiple partners can be beneficial.

Where Billionaires Fit In

Recently the news has been dominated by stories of the vanity space race between billionaires Jeff Bezos, Richard Branson, and Elon Musk. However, for those of us paying closer attention, it seems these billionaires and others are also setting the stage for a new sexual revolution. 

For years, Branson has been pushing the narrative that he’s a wild playboy with a voracious sexual appetite. He even named his company Virgin to reinforce the sexual undertones his image clings to for branding and engagement. Bezos famously paid out dozens of billions of dollars to his now ex-wife in part because he found his new girlfriend Lauren Sanchez even more fuckable.

Even Bill Gates has been chasing ass around the Microsoft campus, enough to spur an internal investigation by the company, as well as a costly divorce from his wife, Melinda French Gates. Musk seems happy enough with his wife Grimes, but she isn’t his first wife.

In an era where most people view the ultra-wealthy as role models, it’s fair to say that this jet-set crowd proves the adage that people are only as monogamous as their options. 

Where Regular People Fit In 

The idea of multiple partners may sound daunting to someone who works in a cubicle and needs two jobs to afford rent. However, when you completely remove the financial element from the equation, it’s tough to find anyone at the top of the economic pyramid voluntarily choosing to be in a closed sexual relationship with just one other person.

Take a look at the number of lottery winners who end up getting divorced once the millions hit their bank account, and the point gets proven once again that money leads to other options. This can break any monogamous relationship, no matter how solid it seemed before the cash rolled in. 

Are All Adult Dating Enthusiasts Billionaires?

Of course not, but that shouldn’t stop the rest of us from living sex lives that rival those of our billionaire counterparts. As a great thought experiment, look around the room and ask yourself what wouldn’t change if you had a few billion dollars in the bank right now.

Perhaps you have a lucky charm on your keychain you would still keep no matter how much more money you had. Maybe you really like your wallet, or wouldn’t want to bother getting another new mobile phone? Those items and experiences in your life that you would continue even if you became a billionaire are the ones you should focus on and replicate in all aspects of your life.

You’re likely not living in as nice a house as you would own if you had a few billion, your car would probably be newer and shinier if you had real mogul money – but there are plenty of aspects of your life you would keep exactly the way they are already.

So Why Can’t You Have A Billionaire Sex Life?

The short answer is, you can. There are plenty of 18-50-year-olds having better sex than Warren Buffet ever could. They are free to fuck whoever they feel like, eschewing the useless trappings of monogamy and sharing their fantasies with partners from all around the globe. 

Whether you’re celibate, feeling locked into a relationship of convenience, or just looking for some NSA sex, your financial status shouldn’t keep you from getting what you want.  

Is Adult Dating Even Better Than Going Into Outer Space?

Let’s face it, anyone who watched Bezos’ Blue Origin space launch had to notice the fact that his spaceship looked like a giant penis penetrating the sky. That can’t have been a total accident, can it? Yeah yeah, it was just for purposes of aerodynamics, right?! You may not be able to launch yourself into the stratosphere on a billion-dollar cock rocket right now. Still, you can easily find your own new Latina girlfriend every bit as hot as Lauren Sanchez (or hotter) and enjoy each other in ways that give you both orgasms the mind-bending size of a supernova. 

If You Can’t Beat Them, Join Them

Why sit on the sidelines waiting to win the lottery when you can get lucky on Adult FriendFinder any time you want? 

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Adult Dating Sites Build Deeper Sexual Connections

Adult dating has gotten a bad rap over the years, with most vanilla folks assuming sites like Adult FriendFinder are rife with catfishing and debauchery. The ironic thing about adult dating sites is they’re far more honest, open, and forward-thinking than so-called mainstream dating sites. 

Why would someone go on a “mainstream” dating site that’s all about finding a future spouse for a long-term relationship if all they’re interested in is a no-strings-attached arrangement that leads to exciting, consensual, and memorable sex? Adult dating sites do away with all the pretense and allow consenting adults to cut to the chase.  

Is that to say every experience will be purely no strings attached sex devoid of connection? Absolutely not, but by jettisoning the nonsense found on mainstream sites designed to appeal to timid hausfraus looking for hand-holding while watching lifetime movies forever, you cut through the traditional resistance and talk about what matters to you. 

“Do you want to fuck? Do you want to fuck me? And do you like Sushi?”

It makes for a refreshing bottom-up experience – both figuratively and literally. And it’s certainly better than messing around with faux-coy and blandly flirty introductions, a couple of uncomfortable phone calls, and a pleasant dinner or two while you tap dance around critical issues like”when can I see your boobs?” or “how big is your penis?”

Adult dating sites blow that dance away by placing the issues front and center in your profile. With the sex question already out in the open, everyone can focus on the how, why, when, and whom? Since wanting to have sex is a given, it also makes approaching strangers so much easier. No more worrying that they’ll think you’re a perv when they’re just on a dating site for cups of tea, conversation, and cookies.

By acknowledging the importance of sex over endless questions about morality, politics, and economics, adult dating sites surprisingly provide a much broader relationship experience. Of course, you can use the site to have as much casual NSA sex as you can handle. Still, since we all enjoy and need physical intimacy, it’s also the core of many long-term relationships, regardless of a monogamous commitment. 

Adult Friend Finder is a great case study of what an adult dating site is. If people just used the site to hook up, there wouldn’t be the rich community that’s developed. But, whether it’s the active forums or member diaries – there’s a lot of human interaction going on beyond swapping spit and sweat. 

By being open about your kinks, fetishes, and sexual preferences, you can easily find people with similar interests. For many people, it may be the first time they’ve been able to discuss that aspect of themselves and find others to share it with. That may seem trivial, but for many people, it can be an incredibly empowering environment that helps them find even greater sexual satisfaction in their lives. With the bonus that AFF is designed to enable casual hook-ups, you can easily find partners to experiment with no matter what sort of play you have in mind as part of your intimate dating experiences.

Let’s be honest: who hasn’t had a relationship where everything clicked well, but the moment you got into bed, it was a veritable shit-show of incompatibility. Rather than looking at each other to say, “I guess we would be better off as friends,” you end up wasting time trying to make things work, only for it to collapse in a smoldering heap of resentment and sexual frustration.

Sex dating websites help you avoid all that. Instead, you find a fuck buddy and work out for yourselves what you want to make it after you’ve given each other multiple orgasms. 

Before cellphones and swipe-dating apps, adult dating sites lived in a porn ghetto with members joining via popup ads on adult content sites or a whispered suggestion from a more worldly-wise friend. Dating sites were uniformly deep-dive exercises into your personality, and any hint of wanting to have sex was sanitized. 

Hook-up and casual dating websites nowadays keep gaining popularity because people have finally realized that ultimately it’s our initial sexual attraction that drives a relationship. While our social media and image-conscious trends seem driven by younger demographics, you’ll also find a widely diverse set of demographics in most adult dating site memberships.

Yes, there is a major difference between mainstream and adult dating. One relies on acknowledging the primary human condition of enjoying sex with other people is a critical aspect of human interactions. The other doesn’t.

Whether you’re looking for Mr or Ms or Zs Right, many of them, or something longer term, it seems pretty clear which platform provides a more realistic environment to achieve those goals!

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How to Turn Potential Dates into Bed-mates with Your Online Dating Profile


Finding casual sex on dating sites is about more than just showing up and creating a free account. With so many members looking for the same thing you are, it can be hard to stand out. That’s why it’s important to start your search with a great dating profile that tells potential bed-mates who you are and what you’re looking for.

Here are six tips to help you create an enticing profile that will help you pique the interest of potential hookups.

Our Top 6 Profile Building Tips

  1. Perhaps the most obvious piece of advice for using your dating profile to find casual hookups is to put it in a place where it can be effective. If you’re on a site like Adult FriendFinder, you already know that members are there looking for sex, so you can feel more at ease about making your desires known right away. Looking for hookups on Adult Friend Finder is accepted, so go ahead and let people know your intentions. There are many casual sex sites out there, but Adult FriendFinder leads the pack with millions of members and the best features in the business. Plus, a standard membership is free so you can try the site out and make sure it’s for you before shelling out for a gold membership.
  2. Many people are hesitant to put pictures of themselves on their dating profile, particularly if they are looking for casual sex. While that’s completely understandable, keep in mind that people tend to respond to online dating profiles with photos at a drastically higher rate than they would otherwise.  For your main photo, try to select a high quality picture that shows your face. If you’re not comfortable showing your face right off the bat, you can also select a photo that shows off your favorite body part, like your abs or your butt. For additional pictures, make sure they are good quality and show something about you that is not highlighted in your other dating profile pics. This can include activities, your body, tattoos, and other interests that you may have.
  3. Be specific about your interests, and if you can, add a few that are a little bit more unique. If someone who happens to share these more unique interests happens upon your profile, they will be more likely to send you a message. Even though hooking up is physical in nature, finding someone with common interests can make your time together much more exciting.
  4. It can be tempting to post old photos and lie a little about your height and weight, but keep in mind that if you ever plan to meet in person, you may as well be honest from the jump.  This will help potential partners determine if you’re what they’re looking for right away so neither of you waste your time.
  5. Communicate your intentions and your dating /casual sex needs. Many people are looking for hookups and booty calls online, and they are doing so for different reasons. Some people may be looking to experience sex that is a little bit more taboo than what they are used to, while others just want to get their sexual needs fulfilled without having to invest time in love and dating. Others are in relationships where they have not had sex for many years, and they just need to get some sexual relief. It’s perfectly okay to ask people what their reasons for being on the site are and tell them yours as well. Being upfront about your personal preferences and why you are on the site can increase the likelihood of having multiple experiences with the same person.
  6. Instead of just sending messages that say “hey, wanna bone,” take a quick minute to look at member profiles and include some of what you learned in your opening line. It doesn’t take long and can help you make a strong first impression. If you see similar interests to your own, go ahead and talk about those. By adding information into your messages like this, it lets them know that you are more likely to follow through on further conversations, dates, and casual sex. You will come off as more relatable, more likable, and will get more dates.

Your online dating profile is the number one thing that impacts whether or not you will find booty calls on casual sex sites. Reaching out and communicating with others as if they are people and not sex objects will also score you more results. Even if you’re on a casual sex dating website, being personable, tactful, and real will still help you get the results that you want.

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Your Guide to Getting More Sex in 2019

If your goal is to have more casual sex, this how-to guide will help make 2019 your year.

While some may be hesitant to try casual sex, it can have a lot of benefits if you’re not looking for a serious relationship. Hooking up with new people can help you explore your sexuality without the need for a serious commitment. Many also find casual hookups to be a lot more primal and raw than regular sex because it’s easier to release your inhibitions and let passion takeover.

The key to enjoying these kinds of passionate, casual hookups is finding the right partner. Here are some tips on how to find a casual sex partner that will rock your world.

1. Decide What You Want (Short Term and Long Term)

In the long run, you might be looking to date or get married. In the short term, you may just be looking for a friend-with-benefits or even just a booty call. It’s important to figure this out first so you can narrow your search down to exactly what you’re looking for. That way you can spend less time vetting potential partners and more time hooking up.

2. Communicate Your Wants and Needs

Some people like hot sex with partners who don’t spend the night afterward, while others prefer something a little more intimate but with no future expectations. Others like to plan for an entire weekend sex romp every six months or so. Because everybody thinks differently about casual sex, it’s essential to communicate your needs and wants clearly. Sites like AdultFriendFinder offer messaging and chat features that help you figure this out before the first in-person meeting.

3. Use Reputable Sex Dating Sites

The easiest way to find casual sex is on adult hook up sites Adult Friend Finder.  Many rely on these sites as a way to get to know people before starting a relationship with a weekend lover, fling, or fuck buddy.

On Adult FriendFinder you can connect, send messages, view profiles, and find lovers that are sexually compatible with you. The site puts fantastic casual sex at your fingertips with all the tools you need to find your ideal sexual match. If you’re looking to get it on but don’t have the time to date, seek out love, or maintain relationships long-term, Adult FriendFinder is likely the best choice for you.

4. Let’s Talk About (Safe) Sex

If you’re having casual sex with a variety of partners, it’s important to be safe. While not everyone is concerned with safe sex, many people are and just by starting the conversation you are opening yourself up to both types of hookups. Making safe sex a big part of the experience will earn you the respect of people who consider it a big deal. Additionally, it will protect you by decreasing your likelihood of getting STI’s.

5. Be Yourself

This is huge. Many people go onto hook up websites like Adult Friend Finder thinking that they need to change who they are and present a wildly different persona. The key is to bring out elements of your personality that are real. It takes a lot of energy to maintain a fake persona and it can ruin your chances of hooking up once you meet in person and your cover is blown.

6. Focus

Sex is a fantastic thing, and the number of people who are interested in doing it on the regular is off the charts. If you want to have steamy casual sex, sometimes the best way to express your passion and desire is to focus on what you love most about sex. Let potential partners know exactly what you need – whether its oral sex, anal sex, kinky sex, or anything else you can think of.

7. Skip the Bar/Club Hookups

A night out at a bar or club can cost quite a bit of money between cover charges, drinks, and transportation. Not to mention you could put in all the effort and still go the entire night without meeting a potential match. Why waste time and money on something that’s not a sure thing when an Adult FriendFinder membership costs less than a night out and allows you to communicate with the people you know are looking to hook up just like you?

Stop wasting your time and go with a process that is much more efficient. More and more people are using the Internet for dating each month, and you’ll find many of them on Adult FriendFinder. The trend is sure to continue in 2019 and beyond, so go with a sure thing and make this the year you get all the casual sex you’ve ever wanted!  

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Three Things to Avoid When Sex Dating

There’s nothing in the world quite like making just the right connection when online dating. It’s like that feeling Marshawn Lynch had after the Seahawks smeared the San Francisco 49ers. (Too soon?)

It’s that feeling. Times ten.

But when you’re struggling to make those connections in the sex dating scene, it’s like the feeling the Niners had after that same playoff game. (Too soon?)

Like many things in life, success in online dating can depend drastically on the individual. Some people take to it like a duck to water. For others, it’s not as intuitive, and doesn’t seem to hold many advantages over different ways to hook up with people.

At sites like Adult FriendFinder, it’s easy to find success stories. EPIC success stories, across all genders (including non-binary) and sexual preferences. Hell, the Colonel himself can tell you tales that you would swear could not occur in the natural world. Tales of human debauchery that defy the laws of man. Tales that would turn a religious man to the bottle, and send a godless heathen running to sweet baby Jesus.

And sometimes all you need to make connections at sex dating is one little victory.

So how do you know if you’re doing it wrong? Well, obviously, you do a little research by smelling what the Colonel is cooking and observing some very basic tips. (I promise, just the tip … )

Here are some massive fails that will guarantee that all you’ll be doing this weekend is catching up on WWE and whittling your wood until it turns into Pinocchio, becomes a real boy, and goes out and gets some hot sex action.

  1. For the Last Time, No Dick Pics!

I mean, really. Do we have to have this conversation? Judging by the penile polaroids that flood my female friends’ inboxes … yes.

I know your weenus is special to you. You’ve had it all your life. It’s always there for you, regardless of the incessant ebb and flow of circumstances beyond your control, or even your mortal ken. Your weenus understands you, and you understand it. It’s your special purpose, after all.

But listen to me. Please. Put that thing away for now.

I don’t care if it’s the size of a tire iron.

I don’t care if you can hold it up to a beer can and not suffer in the comparison.

I don’t care if your mom told you that it was the greatest pee-pee God ever bestowed betwixt a pair of hairy legs.

I don’t care if you dress it up to look like Alexander Hamilton and teach it how to sing.

Put it away.

I’m not saying that hooking up in an online dating app with someone who will respond to a dick pic increases your likelihood of getting critters so ornery that the people at the free clinic will think you’ve opened up a Joe’s Crab Shack in your pants. It just puts you in a higher risk bracket.

So why not show people your face? Like Rocky told Clubber Lang, “Ain’t so bad.”

  1. No means no. From soup to nuts.

If you bring a gamer attitude to sex dating, you will not succeed. This is not the comments section of your favorite YouTube video. When you join an online dating community, you are literally making a social compact that assumes everyone here is here for the same reason – hookups and relationships.

And why would you act hostile or get into an argument with someone who is just here to do the same thing you are? When you don’t move on after someone uses their right to not communicate with you (a right I’m sure YOU use all the time), it makes you look like a weak, petulant child.

If you don’t feel like acting like a grown-ass man, why should you get the benefits of being one?

Grow the fuck up, or spend your days stacking up terabytes of tentacle porn. (Editor’s Note: Colonel Lingus has no issue with tentacle porn; it’s just his position that it is a poor substitute for the touch of another human being. Unless you’re Krieger from ‘Archer.’)

  1. Don’t Be Afraid to Jump in the Water. Be Like Barbecue Sauce … Bold.

Once you’ve sufficiently mastered No. 2 on our list, it’s good to project strength and security by not being afraid to move the process to the next level, if your target does not.

Research has shown that often women who are using an online dating app or service often are looking for someone who goes for what they want in life. If that’s not you, it’s time to fake it till you make it. Just sayin’.

Suggest a meetup tailored to this specific person. Sometimes this can mean an early evening coffee, sometimes it’s the last stool at your local dive bar sometime ‘round midnight. Remember that everyone is different, just as you’re not the same as everyone else.

If you follow these tips, you’ll go far to making connections and having lots and lots of sex!