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Answering the Age Old Question – Your Place or Mine?

If you’re on a date and things take a sexy turn, you may ask the age-old question: your place or mine? This article explores which location works best in certain situations and how to suggest a change of venue without sounding too eager to get naked.

Make a Plan

People spend a lot of time planning the perfect date, thinking about what to wear, where to go, and what to do. It seems tedious, but planning pays off. Especially if, after the date, both parties decide they’d like to move things to a more comfortable (and private) venue. 

Planning can help avoid disappointing goodbyes where you find yourselves standing at someone’s front door awkwardly, settling for a kiss on the cheek before sauntering off into the night. 

When figuring out how post-date logistics will work, remember that they can be a little more complex than simply choosing a location. You must build each other’s trust, get comfortable, and ensure you both know you can adjust the plan or leave quickly.

Choose a Place for the Date

Pick a date location that’s easy to get to and preferably near one or both of your homes, so you have a place that’s easily accessible should things get steamy. If you live alone or in a place where privacy isn’t an issue, your place may be the ideal choice should you decide to take things further than a public venue will allow. By bringing someone to your place, you also have the opportunity to show them the real you in case you’re hoping for more than a one-night stand. Plus, being at your place allows you to control the environment more easily. You can talk to roommates, minimize distractions, and ensure yummy snacks are available.

If your place isn’t an option, make that known early and see if your date offers theirs as an alternative. If they do, great! If not, drop a few hints towards the end of the date and see where it leads. Just try not to be too pushy, as you don’t want to scare them away.

Choose a Meeting Spot

Once you’ve mapped out your date, choose a meeting spot that works for both of you. If you’re meeting in person for the first time, you may opt to meet at a bar or restaurant so everyone feels comfortable and safe. If you’re a little better acquainted and feel safe doing so, you could propose meeting up at your place to build trust should you return later for a nightcap. In addition to helping your date feel more comfortable returning for sex at the end of the night, meeting up at your place provides plenty of conversation starters when they see your passions and what you have on display.

Should you decide that meeting up at their place is a better option, grab a glass of wine or water before you leave, use the bathroom to freshen up, and compliment the other person’s home. While you’re there, take note of any conversation starters you see lying around.

Date Dos and Don’ts

While on the date, continue to build up a comfort level between the two of you. Remember, if you suggest continuing the date at someone’s house later, you must lay the groundwork. Some people are all about physical contact when getting to know another person, while others prefer to chat a bit first. Even if you’re both looking for casual sex, read their body language to determine which category they fall into so you don’t go too far too soon.

Ease Into Things

Once you sense the date portion of the evening is coming to an end, compliment your date and let them know you’re having a great time with them. This could help you lead into a comment about not wanting the night to end, then gently suggesting you move things somewhere a little more private. A simple statement like “I had a great time tonight, do you want to come (insert specific activity)” could be the thing that starts the most exciting part of the evening. You can also mention the proximity of your place, inserting the activity or something you’d like to show them, such as artwork, music albums, or other things. Finally, if you want to go the more straightforward route, you could let them know that you enjoy their company and want to spend a little more time together.

The Fun Begins

Once you arrive at your next venue, try to avoid discussing sex the second you walk through the front door. Instead, keep things casual with great conversation, and if you offered them a reason to come up to your place, stay true to your word. If you’re heading to their place, be enthusiastic about what they’re showing you. There’s no rush, even if you’re both looking for casual sex. Maintain self-control, find things you both enjoy and let the end of the night flow naturally. Respect the other person’s boundaries, and if they’re not ready to go all the way, respect that too. Building trust starts with awareness, understanding, and tact.

When the Hangout Ends

After spending time doing aftercare, you should both be aware that spending the night at another person’s place isn’t a guarantee, even if previously implied. Take time to politely communicate with the other person, stating your intentions and letting them know your end of the night’s needs and wants. Always be aware; if a person wants to leave, let them do so without pressure. If you had a great time, let them know, and tell them you want to hang out again. Becoming friends with benefits can take time, and building trust is an essential part of the equation.

Good luck! 

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The Power of Scent And Setting the Mood

Over the last few years, ASMR has attuned many people to the importance of sound related to sex. However, there’s just as strong a connection between sex and other senses, including the sense of smell. For that reason, we sniffed around the Adult FriendFinder community for tips on enhancing the olfactory elements of your sex life.

Studies Have Shown Scent is a Key Marketing Component

Have you ever walked into a store and sensed a vague smell of fresh oranges, even though the store sold furniture or cars and had nothing to do with produce? That’s because marketing experts have proven that the smell of fresh oranges invigorates consumers who might otherwise be tired when they enter the store. The right scent means more sales for them, and it can also mean more dating success for you.

What Scents Work Best for Dating?

As usual, the answer is it depends. Reading dating profiles, chatting, and talking by phone before you meet may give you a lot of helpful hints, but here are some common examples and why they work:

Fresh Baked Cookies

Popping cookie dough in the oven before a date arrives can increase your guest’s appetite for a lot more than cookies. Add in the aphrodisiac effect of chocolate, and it’s easy to see why chocolate chip cookies usually work best.

Morning Citrus Awakens the Senses

Late-night booty calls can go horribly awry if you aren’t wide awake, even in the middle of the night. Bright scents like lemon or lavender are an excellent way to add energy to the mood.

Cinnamon

Many people subconsciously equate the scent of cinnamon with exotic memories. However, just having the subtle spice drifting through the air at your place may bring out the more adventurous side of any lover.

Ginger

Ingesting ginger can stimulate the circulatory system, and some believe that even the scent of ginger can have a similar effect, which is great for sexual stamina. Just make sure your guest hasn’t had a bad experience with figging in the past, as ginger may not be at the top of their preferred fragrance list. If you don’t know what figging is, look it up at your own risk.

Sandalwood

Often considered one of the most masculine scents, sandalwood sets the tone and lets your partner know you plan on taking charge. A simple scent can do so much to communicate your sexual intentions, and sandalwood is a prime example of that.

Leather

Unlike many other scents, leather is a fetish in its own right. This is because so many people can get completely turned on or even reach orgasm just from the unique sense memories that only leather brings out.

Perfumes and Colognes in Moderation

Let’s be honest. Nobody wants to walk into your apartment and feel like they’re swimming through a never-ending wall of your Drakkar Noir cologne. On the other hand, personal scents from perfumes and colognes can be great aphrodisiacs, and they’re also a way to plant future memories in your lover’s mind so the next time they smell your scent, they will think of you. Just be sure to use any scent in moderation. You want enough to be noticed and enjoyed, but not so much that it overpowers the mood.

A Word About Candles

You might be thinking you have the right scent to set the mood for your next date, but how would you be able to transport it to your apartment, and where would you put a huge pine tree even if you had time to acquire one? The easy answer is, scented candles! Avoid using chemical air fresheners and go with a much more romantic scented candle that provides warm light as well as the fragrance you find most appealing. As with any open flame, safety comes first, so invest in secure candle holders that won’t need to be constantly adjusted. Nobody wants to lose their erection as they wait for you to tilt the candles in another direction.

There’s Always Gwyneth Paltrow’s Vagina

If you’ve gone through the library of scented candles and still haven’t come up with the perfect scent for your sexual encounter, consider Gwyneth Paltrow’s vagina! That’s right, the Academy Award-winning actress famously released a series of scented candles unlike the ones you’ll find at Yankee Candle, and by far, her most famous was a candle she claims has the same scent as her vagina. So even if you and your new partner aren’t fans of hers, it serves as a quality conversation starter, and in some small way, banging your new beauty next to her candle is almost like having a threesome with Gwyneth herself!

A Bad Smell is the Best Example

If you think all this talk about choosing a pleasing scent is just hyperbole, here’s an easy mental exercise that proves the point. Think of the worst thing you’ve ever smelled. Was it a backed-up toilet? Perhaps it was a trip to the garbage dump? Did some weird-looking guy who insisted on sitting next to you on the bus stink in a memorable way? Now that you have that sense of memory in your mind, are you feeling sexy? Of course not… and if you imagine having sex with that stench present, you’ll quickly agree that the way the room and your lover smell matters quite a bit.

A Final Word on Making Sense of Sexual Scents

A scent, much like all the other senses, is a very personal and intimate way to create a signature in someone else’s mind. Choosing something others aren’t using that’s tied to your sensibilities can often heighten the first date or turn a casual encounter into much more. The most important thing to remember is that these things matter, and taking the time to find the right scent shows you’re the kind of thoughtful lover who takes the pleasure of others seriously.

Which scent turns you on the most?

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Never Underestimate The Value Of A Good Screen Name

Signing up for a new website is pretty straightforward…until it’s time to choose your screen name. Of course, it’s easier for some than others, but many people approach choosing screen names with a sense of dread and anxiety. After all, it’s how other community members will identify you forever. 

So we’ve created this handy primer for choosing screen names that will stand the test of time – and trends – to avoid potential cringing and embarrassment for you later.

1 – Use your screen name to make a good first impression.

In a world where identity is mainly online, our screen names are a crucial identifier to help others recognize us. That makes it one of the most important decisions you can make when joining an online dating community. Unfortunately, that can make you nervous if you’re joining up for the first time and don’t know much about the community. 

An easy standard for most sites is to use some combination of characters that use your real name. You may want to be more discreet on adult dating sites if you don’t want people in your personal life to know you are exploring the lifestyle. While the community is sex-positive and non-judgmental, it doesn’t mean the outside world would feel the same way, especially if you’re sharing your love of being caned like a piñata at a birthday party. 

If this is the case, you may prefer to have an alias of some type. There are plenty of strategies you can use for selecting one. Let’s take a look at some of them now.

2 – Nobody wants to date Person31X28.

Let’s get one thing out of the way: don’t be lazy about your screen name. These days, most people are internet savvy. GSmith3454345 is the name you give a bot. It’s quick and easy to program. A dull, generic name like this will automatically make people assume you’re not a human and prevent someone who may otherwise be interested from reaching out. 

Trust is one of the main differentiators on adult dating sites. Everyone is upfront about what they want, and since some of the information they’re sharing is deeply personal, there’s a lot of reality testing. 

You could choose an average-sounding name if you want a generic label. Or you can be creative and let your screen name offer a glimpse of who you are. We aren’t suggesting HugeHairyBallGuy, but you could do much worse if you’re a big guy with huge hairy balls.

3 – You may have that name for decades!

What starts as a funny joke about the size and hairiness of your balls today could be the cringe-inducing embarrassment of future you. Remember that the screen name you choose today could be one other members identify you with for years to come. Maybe you’ll always find ball jokes funny (and frankly, we probably will, too), but for most people interacting with you on the website, it’ll be how they think of you when you interact with them. 

It’s worth thinking about how you want others to see you on the site. A screen name can show your interests or a specific trait or kink that you wish to highlight about yourself. For example, if someone is looking for a big guy with huge hairy balls and you think it’s your finest feature, then HugeHairyBallGuy might actually be your best bet. 

Another approach may be to highlight an interest outside of sex, especially if you don’t have a specific fetish or kink and are just looking to find companionship along with sex. You may be surprised at how much fun it can be to find a like-minded sex partner who wants to Netflix-and-chill between acrobatic fucking sessions. 

Perhaps you want to announce that you’re looking for HairyBalls4BigTits, for example. 

4 – It can help you skip a lot of repetitive conversations.

Using a descriptive name can be very useful. It helps jumpstart a conversation while avoiding obvious questions like “do you have hairy balls and like big boobs?” 

It can also be a great icebreaker. For many people new to adult dating, it can be a little intimidating to suddenly be thrust into a world where you can be open and honest about what you want. There’s no tap-dancing around why everyone is on the site. Also, as a newbie, you might feel anxious about approaching someone and asking them if they want to fuck. A good username can help give you an easy, low-pressure way into a conversation, from a flirty introductory opening to simply inquiring about how they chose that specific username. 

So, you created your username. You have your account, and you’re having a great time finding sex partners and having tons of fun, but you’ve now realized that maybe going with that suggestion above was a terrible idea. What do you do? Adult FriendFinder allows you to change your username and find something that fits you better. However, remember that your username (and profile pic) is how people identify you, and any change to that might confuse other members at first. Especially if they’re into hairy balls.

Good luck!

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The Top 6 US Cities for Swingers

Whether you live in the United States or are just deciding where to visit the next time you’re across the pond, these are the top cities to visit, according to real swingers. 

Sure, there are plenty of swinger guides out there, but you can’t always trust those recommendations. Many are funded by groups that promote bias towards certain areas as swinger capitals to take advantage of tourist dollars. On the other hand, our guide is written by Adult FriendFinder members who aim to help swingers find the best parties and the most exciting hookup events nationwide.

6 Portland, OR

Commonly referred to as “the place where 30 year olds go to retire,” Portland, OR, was recently put on the map by the popular comedy series Portlandia. Long before that, the city was mainly known for three things: the best bookstore in the country, Voodoo Doughnut, and a massive number of swingers in a relatively small population. If you visit Portland and talk to a dozen people during your vacation, you’ll probably have spoken with 8 or 9 swingers along the way.

5 Los Angeles, CA

Los Angeles is a great swinger city for entirely different reasons. The place is packed full of aspiring actresses, singers, dancers, and models, all staying in terrific shape as they pursue a career in the entertainment industry. Many of those same people are blowing off a little steam at swinger parties all around the valley as well. Who knows, that guy or girl you met last week at a backyard orgy may soon be the celeb you see on television every week.

4 Chicago, IL

The windy city got its name from the strong air currents coming from nearby lakes, but the huge buildings aren’t the only thing getting blown in Chi-town. A great group of swingers lives in Chicago, and many traveling circuit parties go through the town from time to time. But what caught our attention was how much more organized the swinger events seem to be. It’s so easy to find swinger events online and then head out for a night or weekend of fantastic sex soon after.

3 Albuquerque, NM

The ABQ may not be the first place that comes to mind among people new to the poly lifestyle, but there is now (and always has been) a thriving swinger community in New Mexico. Maybe it’s the green chili in the food, or perhaps it’s the wide-open spaces that lead residents to yearn for adventure – in any case, Albuquerque is a place you should definitely consider visiting. 

2 Las Vegas, NV

Known for the glitz and opulence of huge casinos, fancy clubs, and showgirls, the famous saying what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas applies to your swinging life as well. It’s a big city with plenty of sexy people and even sexier parties going on at all hours of the day and night. 

1 New York, NY

The decline of the Big Apple was vastly overstated in so many ways, including the swinging lifestyle. New York has always had everything because it has a massive population and so many exciting venues to meet people. From Central Park to private parties in swanky Park Place penthouse apartments, there is always ample opportunity to meet others seeking no strings attached arrangements, dates, and group hookups in the Empire State and its central hub of Manhattan.

What are some of your favorite cities to visit as members of the sex and swinging community?

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Turn Your Bedroom Into a DIY Porn Studio

Have you ever wanted to star in your own private porn videos? You might not be quite ready to publish your productions online, but making sex tapes with other consenting playmates can be a stimulating way to spice up your adult dating interactions. The key is setting up your studio, so the videos look as good as professional porn. Thankfully, technology has made it really easy and affordable to do. Here’s how:

Find Some Good Lighting

While some choose to film in lowlight situations, lighting is one of the most important elements of pornography. Whether you’re creating home videos or looking to post here on Adult FriendFinder, lighting can significantly influence how many views, likes, and interactions you get from the videos. However, professional lighting doesn’t need to break the bank, as many hardware stores have basic lighting implements you can use. 

For a softer, more flattering look, place a piece of white paper or fabric over lamps as a budget-friendly way to diffuse the light. Ensure that these aren’t touching the light bulbs themselves and avoid any potential fire hazard, however.

In addition, you can find many affordable light options such as ring lights and studio lamps on Amazon. Having two lights in front of you, next to where the camera is, can be ideal, though some people choose to also put a third light slightly behind the filming area and off to the side. No matter what lighting setup you choose, check your cameras to ensure there’s no annoying glare coming from the lights.

Choosing a Camera

Picking out a camera can seem like quite a task, and the one you select will depend on many variables. Consider your budget when looking into cameras and how many cameras you think you’ll need. Some people use HD cams to record their homemade porn, while others use phones with high-quality video. While these can be excellent for amateur pornography you’re posting on social websites, people looking to make content for public consumption will generally want to look for higher-quality cameras.

Video camcorders are popular, and many DSL cameras also have video features. Look at reviews, and even ask around in the member advice lines to find a top-performing camera for your budget and space. 

Have a Loose Script Or Story

While most viewers like amateur content, because it’s more natural than professional porn, starting with a script or basic outline is still a good idea. A general script with a basic plot to kick off the scene lets viewers know what your scene is about and gives you a guideline to follow as things start heating up. Knowing which sex positions you will try in what order can help everything run more smoothly. Having an idea of what will happen from one transition to the next is a great idea too.

Even if there is a script, talking about safewords and motions that can be used to change the direction of the scene is common with the pros, especially when creating videos with new partners. For example, touching the person’s thigh during doggystyle can mean the person is ready to change positions. If your storyline or script involves costuming, you can also set this up in advance.

Edit Your Videos With Software

While there’s no shortage of amateur scenes out there, even in pornography, these videos are still often edited. For example, the beginning and end are sometimes trimmed a bit, and transitions between different sex positions and angles are sometimes done using specific software types. Editing software is also necessary for people who want to put a watermark on their videos to prevent plagiarism.

In some situations, color, contrast, and other parts of the video can be adjusted to give the mood you’re going for. Also, remember that just like in mainstream movies, sometimes specific parts of porn films are filmed a few different times so creators can take the best sections for the final product.

Find the Perfect Costar

Using your current partner or partners is best, especially if you’re new to making your own porn, because you’ll work best with someone you’re comfortable with. However, if you don’t have a partner in mind, you can also look to the Adult FriendFinder community for new friends who are not only willing to have sex with you on film but get off on it like you wouldn’t believe!

Ponder Positives And Negatives

There are many positives to creating porn, including having fun sex with a variety of people. In addition, some people choose to make porn with their partner and no one else, which can also help them increase intimacy and have an adventure together. That said, once your image is out there, you can’t take it back, so be mindful of where and how you post it. 

Put pictures and videos up on Adult FriendFinder, and they’ll reach many sex-positive people. However, posting videos on a porn tube site could reach millions of people. Some people are hesitant to put their pornography out there to that many people, so choose your spots wisely. 

That said, it’s an exhilarating feeling to be free of the restrictions culture puts on sexuality and public nudity. There are so many things to do regarding sex, and culture can sometimes limit how much people can enjoy it. 

Whether you’re making homemade porn for your collection, to share with others, or put out for general consumption, creating erotic content can be fulfilling, rewarding, and fun. So try it today, and remember to enjoy yourself through it all.

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The Power of Scent and Setting the Mood

Over the last few years, ASMR has gained a lot of attention as people began to think about the importance of sound as it relates to sex. Of course, it’s no secret that there’s a strong connection between sex and the five senses, including taste and smell. So now that sound has its day in the sun (or the bedroom!), let’s explore how olfactory elements can enhance your sex life as well.

Studies Have Shown Scent Is A Key Marketing Component

Have you ever walked into a store and sensed a vague smell of fresh oranges, even though the store sold furniture or cars and had nothing to do with produce? That’s because marketing experts have proven that the smell of fresh oranges is invigorating to consumers who might otherwise be tired by the time they enter the store. The right scent means more sales for them, and the right scent can also mean more dating success for you.

What Scents Work Best For Dating?

As usual, the answer is it depends. Reading dating profiles, chatting, and talking by phone before you meet may give you a lot of helpful hints, but here are some common examples and why they work:

Fresh Baked Cookies

Putting some cookie dough in the oven and opening the door with the scent of fresh cookies throughout your place increases many people’s appetite for a lot more than cookies. Add in the aphrodisiac effect of chocolate, and it’s easy to see why chocolate chip cookies usually work best.

Morning Citrus Awakens The Senses

Late-night booty calls can go awry if you’re too sleepy to enjoy them. Bright scents like Lemon or Lavender are excellent for adding some energy to the mood, so you don’t fall asleep during the fun.

Cinnamon

Many people subconsciously equate the scent of cinnamon with erotic memories. However, just having some drifting through the air at your place may bring out the more adventurous side of any lover you play with.

Ginger

Ingesting ginger can stimulate the circulatory system, and some believe that even the scent of ginger can have a similar effect, which is excellent for sexual stamina. 

Sandalwood

Often considered one of the most masculine scents, sandalwood does a great job setting the tone and letting your partner know you plan to take charge. A simple scent in a room can do so much to communicate your sexual intentions, and sandalwood is a prime example of that.

Leather

Unlike a lot of other scents, leather is a fetish in its own right. Many people can get completely turned on or even reach orgasm just from the unique sense memories that only leather can bring. 

Perfumes and Colognes In Moderation

Let’s be honest. Nobody wants to walk into your apartment and feel like they’re swimming through a never-ending wall of your Drakkar cologne. On the other hand, personal scents from perfumes and colognes can be great aphrodisiacs, and they are also a way to plant future memories in your lover’s mind because the next time they smell your scent, it’s likely they will think of you. Just be sure to use any scent in moderation. Use just enough to be noticed, but not so much that it overpowers the mood.

A Word About Candles

You might think that you have precisely the right scent to set the mood for your next date, but how would you be able to transport it to your apartment, and where would you put a huge pine tree even if you had time to acquire one? The easy answer is scented candles! Avoid using chemical air fresheners and go with a much more romantic scented candle that provides warm light as well as the fragrance you find most appealing. 

There’s Always Gwyneth Paltrow’s Vagina

If you have gone through the library of scented candles and still haven’t come up with the perfect scent for your sexual encounter, consider Gwyneth Paltrow’s Vagina! That’s right, the Academy Award-winning actress famously released a series of scented candles unlike the ones you’ll find at Yankee Candle, and by far, her most famous is a candle she claims has the same scent as her vagina. So even if you and your new partner aren’t fans of hers, it serves as a quality conversation starter, and in some small way, banging your new beauty next to her candle is almost like having a threesome with Gwyneth herself!

A Bad Smell Is The Best Example

If you think all this talk about choosing a pleasing scent is just hyperbole, here is an easy mental exercise that proves the point. Think of the worst thing you have ever smelled. Was it a backed-up toilet? Perhaps it was a trip to the garbage dump? Did some weird-looking guy who insisted on sitting next to you on the bus stink in a memorable way? Now that you have that sense of memory in your mind, are you feeling sexy? Of course not, and if you imagine having sex with that stench present, you’ll quickly agree that the way the room and your lover smell matters quite a bit.

A Final Word On Making Sense of Sexual Scents 

Scent, much like all the other senses, is a very personal and intimate way to create a signature in someone else’s mind. Choosing something others aren’t using that is tied to your sensibilities can often heighten the first date or turn a casual encounter into something more. The most important thing to keep in mind is that these sorts of things matter and taking the time to find the right scent for yourself and your place shows you are the kind of thoughtful lover who takes the pleasure of others seriously. That sets the tone and often brings out the best in each person you choose to be with.

What kind of scents turn you on the most?

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Is Posting Filtered Photos on Your Dating Profile Harmless Fun, or Catfishing?

There are many things to consider when putting together your online dating profile. After all, you only have a few seconds to grab someone’s attention as they scroll past potential hookups, so you have to put your best foot forward right out of the gate. For many people, that means posting your best photos so potential suitors know just what you’re working with. It’s a lofty idea, but given that this is 2022, one important question remains: is posting filtered photos considered catfishing?

Should I Use Filters For My Photos?

A wide range of photography apps use filters that can be entertaining to play around with while you’re retouching your photos. Such photos are especially fun to post to your social media accounts for a good laugh with your followers and friends. However, when it comes to your online dating profiles, you really should have at least a few images that aren’t enhanced to the point where you look like a different person. Touching up a few blemishes, fixing the lighting, and covering up your dark circles are perfectly fine. So long as you don’t overdo it and give yourself a complete facelift that leaves you looking more like a Kardashian than yourself. 

Of course, it’s essential to look your best, so long as it is, in fact, your best. You want people to get an honest impression of who you are, including your appearance. A photo or two of you as a cartoon character can be cute, but at the end of the day, nobody wants to meet someone and find out they look nothing like their profile pics.

Some Positives For Your Profile Pics

Some positives you should consider are the sheer entertainment value filters can have. They can be excellent conversation starters, putting you in different backgrounds and outfits and slightly different looks to attract attention. Such filters are fine as long as it’s obvious that you’re just having fun and don’t actually have whiskers and cute little mouse ears. 

Some Negatives to Filter Out

Filters can have some other negatives, especially for those interested in seeing authentic representations of the people they’re looking at as potential matches. However, most people in the online dating world are most interested in what a person really looks like, not what they look like with overly smoothed skin. So if a person finds too many filtered photos on someone’s profile, they may head to another profile instead of sending a note. And yes, it’s easy to tell who’s using a filter and who isn’t. 

If someone doesn’t like the way you look in a photo, they aren’t going to like the way you look in person, sure. But it’s better to find that out upfront than to waste time meeting up with someone who will only reject you when they find out they were catfished. Besides, Adult FriendFinder has millions of members anyway, so it’s safe to say that you’ll find someone who likes you just as you are. 

Is it Still Really You?

When uploading pics to your profile, the main question is, do the photos you’re uploading showcase the real you? Filters can enhance sexy pictures, bringing out a person’s eyes, bodily attributes, and expressions. Still, if you make them so heavy that they no longer show you for who you are, you aren’t doing yourself or anyone else any favors.

Individuality and self-expression are essential parts of any person’s dating profile. If you’re a fan of using filters in real life and feel they help you express an important part of your personality, then, by all means, go for it. It’s perfectly fine to express yourself, as long as you do so in moderation. Add a few photos of yourself that show the real you, including pictures of your face, body, or both. If your goal is to attract the most potential dates to your profile, a combination of both standard and filtered pictures is your best option.

Final Notes

People use Adult FriendFinder because they want to meet real people, and that starts with your profile being an accurate depiction of who you are right now, not who you wish you were or used to be 20 years ago. Look into all the creative ways you can express yourself, and fill out a bio that gives people enough information to entice them into sending that first message. Suppose you think you need filters to be worth someone’s attention. In that case, you may want to get in touch with yourself and accept this simple reminder that you are awesome, yes awesome, exactly the way you already are. All you need to do is share yourself with others to find your place in this amazing adult community online.

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Advice For People Going To A Nude Beach For The First Time

If you’re planning an exotic vacation to a nude beach, you may want to brush up on nude beach etiquette before you strip down. The guide below will help you avoid any faux pas so you can enjoy feeling the sun and sand on your skin to the fullest!

Make Sure it’s a NUDE Beach

Not many places allow you to be completely naked in public, and many beaches have a separate section for the nudists. So, your first step is to make sure the beach you are visiting is nude-friendly. There will often be a sign indicating where the no clothes zone begins and ends, so pay close attention, so you avoid getting fined (or worse) for being naked in the wrong area. 

Nudity is Always Optional

If you’re not sure that you’ll be comfortable taking off your clothes in front of other naked strangers, you don’t have to undress right away. Instead, if you want to test the waters first, try going to a nudist beach with some clothes on, and as you get a feel for the place, you can decide whether you want to try being naked as well.

The reason why people love nude beaches is simply that they get to be free. Once you get the opportunity to swim in a clear ocean while naked, chances are you’re never going to go back because, to put it quite simply, it’s an experience like no other.

Getting Familiar With Local Rules

Remember that while there is an overall etiquette surrounding a nude beach, rules will vary from one place to the other. So, before you get naked and hit the sand, familiarize yourself with the local laws and regulations. In addition, you should know whether going nude is officially legal or just tolerated.

In most cases, the nude beach will have the rules listed on site, but also try looking up the rules online and asking the locals ahead of time. In most cases, knowing the basic etiquette for a nude beach will be expected of every nudist on that beach.

Staring Is Never Polite

In general, people know it’s rude to stare at others. This is especially true on a nudist beach, as staring can be perceived as creepy for obvious reasons. Most people tend to be vulnerable and self-conscious when they’re nude; thus, you should avoid making them feel uncomfortable. If you don’t know what else to do, bring a book and bury your face in it.

Nobody Wants Their Picture Taken!

While taking pictures of the beach is generally acceptable, this isn’t always the case on a nudist beach. Here, people are in their most vulnerable state and don’t want their photos taken, even if they’re just a part of the background. So, avoid snapping pictures with your smartphone, and if you decide to snap a selfie, make sure you’re not making others uncomfortable.

Bring a Towel (Seriously)

A nudist beach means that you get to be fully naked; however, you’ll still need a towel. First of all, there’s sand everywhere, and you’ll need a towel to lie down. More importantly, since you’re in the nude, you’re required to bring a towel to use when you sit down in beachfront restaurants, bars, and other common areas where nudity is allowed. 

Apply. Sunscreen. Everywhere.

People new to the nude beach lifestyle tend to forget that their private areas can sunburn easily because they aren’t used to regular exposure to the sun. Now that they finally are, you must put sunscreen on all parts of your body and reapply often. 

Social Distancing is a Must

When arriving at a nude beach, you should choose a place that is not taken and does not have other nudists around. You need to have a lot of space between your towel and a stranger’s towel, as this ensures them that you have no intention of infringing on their privacy. It’s a comfort thing you need to consider.

Sexual Behavior Is Not Allowed

Although this should be relatively obvious, you cannot express any lewd behavior, whether with your partner or somebody you just met. Nudists need to know the difference between being nude and enjoying the feeling and getting down and busy with their partner. Any sexual activity is unwelcome and is seen just as criminal as it would be in other public places.

When talking about erections, it’s not that uncommon for men to get an erection randomly or because they saw something that excited them. However, if this happens, it’s common courtesy to put a towel over it, go waist under the water, or hide it in other ways until it goes away. Nobody is on the nudist beach to look at your hot stuff.

Other Things You Should Keep In Mind

Expect to get sand in unimaginable places. Even if you’re sitting on a towel, expect to get sand in every crevice of your body. Usually, nude beaches will also have showers, so it’s good to take one last dip into the water and then shower right after before leaving the beach. Then, dry yourself off with a towel and put on your clothes. Otherwise, sand will be everywhere!

Another good tip is to arrive at the beach early in the morning, so you have time to get comfortable with being naked before other people show up. It also gives you first dibs on the best spots to set up for the day.

It’s natural to feel nervous or shy your first time on a nude beach. However, keep in mind that how and when you get naked is entirely up to you. Some women prefer to just be naked on top, while others like to take everything off. Whatever makes you feel comfortable is completely fine. After a while, this is all going to seem completely normal.

Don’t be surprised if you see a lot of playful (non-sexual) behavior on a nude beach. People love to run around and play in the sand, and the best way to feel free is to do it naked. Of course, this doesn’t apply to all nude beaches, but most of them at the very least. 

Take Your Time And Relax!

Going to a nudist beach can be incredibly freeing and relaxing. Bring a book, a towel, and whatever else you might need. Enjoy swimming in the nude, sunbathing, going for a walk, sleeping, etc. Educate yourself on proper nudist etiquette, and you’re bound to have a great time at a nudist beach!

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Lips Have Become the Most Erotic Body Part   

After nearly two years of being hidden by the opaque veil of a mask, juicy lips and pretty smiles can seem even more erotic than showing cleavage or wearing a short skirt. Lips have always been considered one of the most sensual body parts. Filled with nerve endings, they are amazing when it comes to being playfully bitten, sucked, kissed, and more. Even the slightest touches can send a lot of information to our brains, providing insane amounts of pleasure. 

If you think about it, some of your fondest memories likely include lips, like your first kiss, your first makeout session, and your first experience with oral sex. 

Lips are unique, and every pair is different. So whether your preference is lips with a deep shade of red lipstick on them, natural lips, full lips, or lips of specific shapes, they ALL look better unmasked!

 The Beauty of Lips

There are many ways to use lips as a way to seduce your sexual partners. Lips are a huge part of dirty talk, reading erotica, and the first time you sexually interact with another person in many cases. Most of the time, it’s kissing, though sometimes it’s blowjobs or oral sex. Lips are beautiful whether they’re enhanced with lipstick or completely bare. The soft feelings they share are a turn-on, and many people focus on creating plump lips look due to the feelings it can bring out in their partners.

Lips are a Symbol of Fertility

Lips have always been sexy, even if you look back thousands of years. 

They have long been considered a symbol of fertility, and while many people consider thicker lips to be better for kissing, this is a myth. Pleasure comes from lips of all shapes and sizes, and the best times people have when kissing come from experimentation and exploration, not aesthetics. 

In fact, lip trends tend to ebb and flow in the fashion world. There have been times when thinner lips have been considered the most attractive, and there have also been times when plump and thicker lips have been the most popular.

The Interest in Lips is Suddenly Spiking

With so many people wearing masks over the last few years, lips have been hidden from view at a much higher rate over the last few years. This made looking at a person’s lips feel a lot more intimate than it had before. As protocols surrounding masks are slowly lifted, people can finally see each other’s lips. As social interactions have increased, people find it almost thrilling to see each other’s full faces, adding to the excitement. 

Practice Makes Perfect

Practice makes perfect when it comes to using your lips, especially when it comes to dirty talk, making out, and giving oral sex. If you’re practicing how to talk dirty, try talking in front of the mirror in different tones. You may like how your lips look when whispering, speaking more quickly, or somewhere in between. Many people also practice taking selfies and putting their lips in slightly different positions to get the best pout. 

The Allure of the Cupid’s Bow

One of the most admired parts of a lip is the cupid’s bow. There are many ways to accentuate this part of the lips, such as lipstick and lipliner. In addition, cupid’s bows can be enhanced further by cosmetic enhancements such as fillers, a procedure that has become increasingly popular over the last few years.  

Keeping Your Lips Looking Youthful

You can do things to keep your lips looking luscious, even as you get older. Professionals recommend that people not smoke, stay out of the sun and use SPF-rated lip balms. This helps keep people’s lips naturally full and supple as they start aging. Also, don’t forget to moisturize before bed, as that can prevent fine lines from forming around the mouth.

Final Notes

For many people, lips are more erotic now than ever, and for a good reason. Lips are among the most sensitive erogenous zones, along with the ears and neck. This makes them one of the few sensitive spots that can be seen while fully clothed. There are many ways to tease lips, and since they have not been seen as much over the last number of years, now is the time to experiment. Have fun!

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Here’s Everything You Need to Know About Sex Influencers

Sex education has become far more accessible over the last decade, thanks to the internet and changing attitudes towards sex. However, while this is excellent news for almost everyone, sifting through all of the information can be a bit confusing.

There are tons of mainstream resources for learning about fashion, beauty, dating, and relationships. For sex education, on the other hand, many people turn to sex influencers. The term “sex influencer” is still relatively new, and if you’ve never heard it before, you may have many questions about what it means.  

What is a Sex Influencer?

A sex influencer is a person who posts content about topics that were once considered taboo. Now more open and encouraged as discussion, these topics have many cheerleaders helping create a more sex-positive world. Posting accurate information is essential, and these are the people who are leading the charge. The qualifications needed to be a sex influencer are virtually non-existent, with some getting tons of attention on social media even if they lack professional credentials. This is why it’s important to pay close attention to who you’re looking to for information. 

Are Sex Influencers Trustworthy?

When reading articles and looking at sources, take some time to follow up and make sure they’re coming from reputable sources. For example, if you encounter a new sex educator, check out who they have worked with, read some of their articles, and look for people focused on consent and inclusivity. Sex educators also often pride themselves on addressing the overlooked issues in conventional education. This can include consent, survivor-led sexuality, non-binary sex, the intersectionality of race and sex, BDSM and fetishes, potential red flags, etc.

However, if you’re looking for reviews on the latest sex toys and other pleasure aides, a Ph.D. is hardly required. In those cases, you would just look for someone who loves sex and gives honest reviews rather than just sponsored content. 

Exploring Your Goals

It’s essential to explore your goals, especially because many sex educators and influencers have goals of their own when they put out content. For many, it’s about getting the masses to talk more openly about things like masturbation, sex positions, and sexual health. Unlike certified sex educators, sex influencers are focused on their perspective, tapping into their own experiences and what they have learned over the years. Sex influencers come in all body types, sexualities, and genders; the variety is impressive and very inclusive. This variety makes it easier to follow influencers who have similar experiences as you.

There is Variety in Topics and Experiences

The good thing about having sex influencers from all walks of life is that it gives the audience a wide array of topics and experiences to learn from. Many pro-sex feminists are open to studying and chatting about various topics like BDSM, sex parties, swinging, etc. Many of the most influential and respected sex educators can also pass on information in small, understandable pieces, making the more complex areas of sex and sexuality easy to digest for the masses. There are also fantastic educators in the LGBT plus community and beyond who are highly entertaining through animations, graphics, comedy, and more. Some influencers are more candid than others, using words and terms that some people may not be used to hearing on social media. However, some educators use light language for those looking for a softer touch. The beauty of having a variety of sex influencers to choose from is that you decide how you get your information. 

There Are Certifications

There are various Certifications and college degrees that can guide you on your journey to becoming a respected sex influencer. Some sex therapists are certified in things like women’s sexuality, sociology, and other degrees useful for specializations. These also help people connect in different ways. Many love sharing information about sex and sexuality with new people, and they are passionate about achieving these goals. Some are most interested in helping couples strive for better sex. There are also sex influencers who focus on using other improvements within a relationship to improve happiness and sex. While certifications and degrees can be helpful, many sex influencers gain popularity because of their ability to empower their audience. They are looking to provide answers to your most burning questions, including casual sex, safe sex, insecurities, and more.

There Can Be Overlap

The information can come from many different directions when it comes to sex positivity, sex education, and beyond. Some people are sex educators, specifically therapists, and psychologists, while others come out of the adult entertainment industry highly educated and excited to share their knowledge. There are also sex toy store owners, authors, podcasters, trauma therapists, bloggers, counselors, artists, and more. Each type of sex influencer uses their own experiences and strategies to engage. Many sex influencers and educators also have accounts on AdultFriendFinder, so using your account to connect with them can be an excellent way to push forward on your educational adventures.

Can I Become A Sex Influencer?

Many think that being a sex influencer is as simple as posting cute pictures on Instagram, but it takes a lot of work. Marketing, writing, research, and public relations are just a few of the skills you have to master if you want to make it in this game. However, with hard work, passions, and the proper education, pretty much anyone has the power to become a sex influencer. 

What Are My First Steps

If you decide to take the plunge, look at what other influencers post for inspiration. Think about the personality and approach you want to use and take some time to focus on how to put out accurate and helpful information. Learn new ways to explain concepts, touching on topics that not everyone is covering. Then, start building up content, get comfortable with presentations, expand awareness on issues and hot button topics, and make sure you are inclusive.

Are you interested in anal sex, sex toys for men, sex toys for women, BDSM, swinging, open relationships, sexual psychology, queer sex, consent, communication, or other topics? It’s possible you’re interested in many of these things, so having a specialization can be beneficial. Many sex educators and influencers expand to additional topics over time; there is plenty of room for growth. Take some time to brainstorm the messages you’d like to put out, whether they’re about sex, sex tips, mental health, wellness, activism, lifestyles, or other topics. Consider getting certified as well, since certifications can be a great way to connect with other educators and people in the industry who can help boost you up.

Final Notes

Sex influencers use many different mediums to get their message across. Some are all about writing and blogging, some are into podcasts, and others make explicit sex education films. With many different platforms to explore, focus on the ones you are most interested in. If you already use certain platforms, you can continue using those while finding excellent people to help you along your journey. 

Learning more about sex and sexuality starts by being proactive, and reading this article is a great first step!