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How Men Can Achieve Orgasms Without Penetration

The penis is one of the most sensitive areas on the body, with thousands of nerve endings that make it easier to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. However, there are many ways that people with a penis can have an orgasm without penetration.

If you have a penis and want to explore how to orgasm without penetration, this guide is for you! 

While we won’t be covering blowjobs as those are considered penetrative sex, we will be looking at things like licking, fondling, and other forms of genital stimulation. We’ll also take a look at some different erogenous zones, as well as orgasms that can happen with no touch at all. There are many unique personalities regarding sex, so we’ve thrown in a little something for everyone. 

Explore Your Body

Sexual exploration is essential to getting a person to orgasm without penetration, but learning the ropes can take some time. The orgasm itself should not be the end goal; people can get many pleasurable feelings without an orgasm. Expecting or pushing too hard towards orgasm can detract from getting to the orgasm itself, adding unnecessary pressure and possible stress to the experience.

Get in the Zone

Erogenous zone-only orgasms can feel amazing, but it takes a lot of experimentation to get it right. Have fun with this process, communicating with your partner along the way. Some people know how to instruct others on how to drive an orgasm without touching their penis, especially those in touch with their own body.

Orgasms that originate in erogenous zones can take time, even with someone who knows how to do it themselves. There should not be an expectation of orgasm, though; just an awareness that it can happen with understanding, attention, and exploration. For example, some people can reach orgasm from nipple play, kisses on their neck, playing with their hair, fingers on the inside of their elbows or knees, foot play, and much more.

Finding the erogenous zones on a person’s body, even the unique ones, can often be done with light touches, feathers, and other implements that give soft pleasure. More sensitive places tend to be the spots used to guide people to orgasm. It all starts with good communication, however.

Show the Penis Some Love

The penis has several zones, including the balls, shaft, and head. Each has nerve endings that can create pleasure and help the body reach orgasm. Licking, sucking, nibbling, and using your hands on these zones can lead to orgasm without penetration. Lube is recommended in many cases, however. You should also think about combo orgasms for an even more intense feeling. For example, a person can be touching or licking a person’s penis while stimulating other erogenous zones simultaneously.

Good Communication is Crucial

The main cornerstone to great sex is communication. It is essential to orgasming without penetration and can take people’s sex lives to new levels. Talking to your sexual partner or partners about boundaries, limits, needs, wants, desires, and what sorts of things turn you on the most is a great place to start. Of course, exploration is also part of the fun, with thousands of new things to try when it comes to sex. 

Talk about what you know you like, as well as some of the things you want to explore. You can also let the other person know about areas of the body where you might orgasm without penetration and which areas your partner should avoid, if any. 

Try touching new areas at different times, with other body parts and varying intensities. This is one path to having harder orgasms and getting off more often. Some men get off while giving pleasure, including while giving other people oral sex or queening.

Many people in your area are looking for sexual exploration with new people, so exploring new ways to both give and receive pleasure opens up many doors. 

Defining Orgasm

Each person can, and should, find what an orgasm is for them in their own way. Orgasms can be big or small and can happen under many different circumstances. There are full-body orgasms, genital-only orgasms, mental orgasms, and many other types. A calm orgasm can be mind-blowing, and helping other people get off can be orgasmic for everyone involved as well.

The Many Different Paths To Alternative Orgasms

Alternative orgasms can happen in many different ways, without penetration. Light touching, licking, blowing, or using sex toys for pleasure on the penis can lead to orgasms. Many people also like to use their hands, nails, and teeth to create light sensations on the penis. Each person is different in terms of what they enjoy.

Some people can even get off simply by watching other people have sex. Many Adult FriendFinder members spend time on member webcams doing just that and sometimes even meet up in person for some voyeur fun. However, keep in mind that orgasming without penetration can take some time and multiple meetups to accomplish.

Rub One Out

One way that men can get an orgasm without penetration is through rubbing orgasms. By dry humping the bed, pillows, stuffed animals, or other things, an orgasm can come naturally. It all starts with excitement, repetition of pleasurable feelings, and then orgasm.

Hearing can also be a fantastic way to get to orgasm, with many men enjoying ASMR and some getting to orgasm without even being touched. Dirty talk, erotic talk, sensual talk, moans, and other sounds, can stimulate a person’s mind to the point of orgasm. In addition, ASMR is often combined with other strategies, leading to intense combo orgasms.

Tickling and other forms of domination that do not involve penetration can also help people get off. This can include spanking, lightly scratching, giving erotic massages, and more. In addition, many men can orgasm solely from sensations on their necks or ears. Nipple orgasms are more talked about for women, though men also have sensitive nipples and can orgasm from these sensations. 

Whether you need multiple sensations at once, where the mind jumps back-and-forth, or would rather fixate on one particular feeling, getting to orgasm through neck pleasure, ear pleasure, foot pleasure, or hair pleasure, is common. 

Have fun!

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How to Seduce an Older Woman

Movies like The Graduate and American Pie make it seem like mature women are just young women in older bodies. As a woman in her 40s, I can tell you that’s 100% true. I may have a few extra years behind me, but make no mistake, I’m sexier than ever and can keep up with any 22-year-old in the bedroom. But how does a younger man get an older woman like me into the sack? Let’s just say it’s a bit of an art form.

Cut The Nonsense

Older women have a lower threshold for nonsense because we’ve heard it all, and we’ve heard it many times. We’re not looking for cheesy pickup lines or some guy to swoop in and act like no one has ever complimented us before. If you’re going to give me a compliment, make it real and make it count. I would rather something like, “you have the most contagious laugh” than “I could get lost in your blue eyes.”

When I was a young lass frolicking among the fields of sexy eligible men, I would fall for pretty much any line they gave me. If someone told me I was beautiful, I would blush. If they told me they’d never met a woman like me before, I believed them. Then I heard those lines over and over again and started to appreciate the more unique approaches as I got older, such as “Roses are red, violets are blue, I like peanut butter, want to fuck?” OK, so maybe not that exact phrase, but you get the point.

Make us Laugh

Young women love to blush and feel flattered, while older women like to laugh. In all fairness, so do younger women; they just haven’t realized it can be a faster path into sexville than cheap flattery. A man that makes me laugh will get me wet…from tears of laughter, wow what were you thinking? If you’re making me laugh, we’re sharing a connection, a moment, and something real. Making me laugh takes effort and investment on his part, plus a good sense of humor goes a long way in terms of sex appeal.

Don’t Be Boring

In my youth, I could sit and talk about nothing for hours. Nothing was fascinating. But somewhere between 18 and 40, I found some depth. Now I need substance. If we’re making small talk, then let’s talk about the weather, sports, or what’s on Netflix. But small talk isn’t going to get me to go upstairs or go on a date, so try to have an opinion about something. You don’t necessarily have to go into your stance on politics or religion, but if you’re going to talk about Bridgerton, discuss how it’s an allegory for our times…WOW! That sounds fascinating, and now I’m interested. Essentially, if you want me to be interested in you, you need to be interesting to me.

Be Confident

Older women tend to be more confident because we’re over our issues about our sexuality. We’re OK with talking about sex without feeling the need to blush, and hopefully, we’ve figured out what we enjoy sexually. Because we’re more confident, we generally find ourselves more interested in confident men. The emotional wreck isn’t as entertaining anymore — confidence is what’s sexy.

Bad Cougar

It’s fun to think of an older woman as a cougar, and while some of us may wear the title with pride, most of us don’t identify with it. Sure, it’s cute, but the term cougar focuses on our age, which makes us feel older. Trust me; we don’t want that. Pointing out an age difference by being overt and saying things like “Wow, you could be my mom” or “Did you know Sting was in a band?” will make that tiny little age gap feel like the Grand Canyon, and that’s not sexy.

Young and Virile

Just because you don’t want her to feel older doesn’t mean you can’t show off the benefits of your youth. Do things for her that older men may not be able to do – it’s an excellent way for her to feel enlivened by you. I like it when I see a strong younger man because it makes me think they can handle me in bed instead of the older counterpart who may throw out his back during one of my signature acrobat moves. Plus, it’s nice when I mention the blue pill, and you think I’m talking about the Matrix.

Don’t be an A-Hole

The bad boy facade often impresses young women, but as for the older woman, we’ve been there and done that. I know I’ve dated my fair share of bad boys, and frankly, I’m no longer interested in being strung along and mistreated by some emotionally unavailable d-bag. Be a gentleman — bringing me a flower or opening a door for me won’t compromise your masculinity. Most older women have had their fair share of a-holes and left them in the dust, so why would we want a younger version?

Be Discrete

In college, it was funny when guys would brag about their sexcapades…unless you were the one in the story, then maybe it wasn’t so amusing. As a younger woman, I dealt with my fair share of sexual judgments, and I took it in stride. However, as an older woman, I’m no longer affected by people’s judgment, mainly because I don’t care. If I’m getting laid, then I’m happy and don’t give two figs what someone has to say about it. That said, I still don’t want a partner plastering it all over social media. My sexual satisfaction comes from the sex, not the stories about the sex. So if you’re going to sleep with an older woman, give the frat-boy antics a rest and be discrete.

While older women are more confident about our sexuality, bodies, and ourselves, we’re also pickier about who we chose as lovers. Whether it’s Mrs. Robinson or Stifler’s Mom that piqued your interest in older women, neither movie was wrong. Older women are amazing, but to get something that amazing, you’ll have to work just a bit harder.

Are you looking to mix it up with a few older women and get tips from fellow cougar lovers? Find them all on Adult FriendFinder now!

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The Buyer’s Guide For Real Sex Dolls

Real Sex dolls are life-size dolls with life-size tits, asses, and realistic holes that you can fuck. Thanks to massive improvements and new technologies, these masturbation tools are highly sought. So whether you’re looking to treat yourself to a Real Sex doll for Christmas, purchase one for a friend, or are simply curious about the benefits and what to look for to get the most value, this article is for you!

Why People Love Real Sex Dolls

Sex toys are popular, but the realism that comes from Real Sex dolls has many elements that other toys don’t have. Cocks sleeves, for example, can feel phenomenal though the experience they give is a lot less immersive. Real Sex dolls allow for many different sex positions and offer the feeling of natural sex. Plus, they can pleasure multiple places on your body at once. 

Kiss the Real Sex doll on her neck, tits, or other places, as you pound away at her ass or pussy. Moan whatever name you like, pulling from rule 34 porn, favorite television show characters, or other fantasies. Some even use their Real Sex dolls with live sex cams, pretending that they are fucking the cam girl in their positions on their screen. 

Real Sex Dolls Offer Diversity

Real Sex dolls come in a ton of varieties to please almost anyone. With a wide range of options available, fans can quickly seek out the types of builds they are most interested in, including tit sizes, ass sizes, ethnicities, and more. Many offer a wide range of skin tones as well. 

Most real sex dolls fit into three specific categories. Within each of these three categories are additional features. For example, some of them have limbs or partial limbs that can be moved, making it easier to put the real sex doll into a broader range of sex positions. Others are predominantly designed to be used with missionary or doggy style. The three types of real sex dolls available include Bottom Only, Bottom And Chest, And Full Body.

Many People Get Their First Introduction With Bottom Only Sex Dolls

Bottom Only dolls have many benefits because they are easier to transport and are a fantastic entry-level option for people looking to use them as a masturbatory toy. There are no tits or heads on this type of real sex doll, which goes from the hips to the top of the thighs. It gives full access to the ass and pussy, providing a realistic experience compared to other toys. The ass and pussy cavities are designed to mimic the feeling one would get from fucking a real person.

Another option is the Bottom And Chest, which only adds tits to the bottoms and comes in many different sizes. With realistic nipples, and sometimes including a neck, these sex toys are fantastic for people who want to feel the doll’s tits against them as they are fucking it. Coming in at a higher price point, these dolls also benefit when moving them into different sexual positions. 

A person’s breasts affect how they lay on another person, and the benefits of having them here can be a difference-maker for some. More tactile people can also find other benefits, as they can lick the nipples, put them in their face, fuck their tits, and use many different strategies to give and receive. Imagine getting titty fucked by a woman with the perfect body as you lick her pussy. Bottom And Chest sex dolls provide this opportunity and more.

Full Body Real Sex Dolls

With full legs, arms, necks, and heads, these types of sex dolls come in at a higher price point than the others while providing additional perks and benefits. With a full face, making out, kissing ears, kissing on the neck, and sticking your cock in their mouth all become options. In addition, these models include longer legs and arms, allowing people to position the dolls exactly how they would like. If they want to be held, for example, it can happen. There are other perks and benefits, including feeling the person’s head beside yours as you are fucking them missionary style. 

Still available with a wide range of body types, including tit sizes, ass sizes, and featuring many different skin tones available, these XXX toys are phenomenal for people looking for the complete real sex doll experience. In addition, some full-body sex dolls come with additional perks, including the ability to utilize them with vibrators and more. Clothing fits on them as well, allowing you to dress up your sex doll to take on whatever role you choose. 

Special Considerations For Purchasing Real Sex Dolls

Here are a few important things to consider before purchasing your Real Sex doll. First, the material the sex doll is made of is important. The sex educators at AdultFriendFinder recommend realistic silicone products for both feeling and body safety. Always make sure to match the sex toy material with the appropriate lube, as real sex dolls will require lubricant for the best results. In addition, focus on real sex dolls that are easier to clean. Check the cleaning instructions provided by the manufacturer before making your purchase.

 

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The Mandatory Guide To Manscaping

You never get a second chance to make a good first impression, and that’s especially true when it comes to dating and hooking up. Sometimes, the tiny details make some of the biggest impacts, and one thing that often gets overlooked is pubic hair management. Manscaping (or lack thereof) can make a huge difference during those sneaky link sessions, especially if you’re hoping to go back for more. For example, most women hate getting stray hairs in their mouths while giving BJs. 

So, if you don’t wanna be the guy who gets ghosted because you didn’t groom properly, we got you! Here is the complete guide to manscaping! 

You Have Already Gotten This Far

If someone is checking out your manscaping, remember that you have already gotten this far, so clearly, they’re at least thinking about getting physical. Manscaping is not a make or break for most people, but it can have lasting impacts. It’s also important to pay attention to the cleanliness of your cock and the surrounding areas when preparing to get it on. Again, the idea of manscaping is not a specific look but rather making sure everything is clean, well put together, and ready to go.

There Are Three Main Manscaping Strategies

There are three main manscaping strategies for pubic hair on men. The first is to trim away just enough, so partners know you put in some effort. Then, depending on the type of underwear you wear, trim around your thighs so that long hairs are not sticking out of the edges, giving you a well-kept appearance. Some women love the natural look on men and having long hair can be appealing to them. That said, trimming things up to look neat is still essential, so keep that in mind any time a hook-up is on the horizon.

Another strategy people have is to trim a specific pattern or shape. Rather than just focusing on the length of the hair, shaving strategic areas is an option. For example, some people choose to make the hair on their balls shorter. If you are feeling particularly adventurous, you could choose to shave your pubic hair completely smooth. This can make your cock look bigger and create sensations you and the person you are playing with can enjoy. 

If you’re unsure what to do, chat with your play partner about what they like and use that as your guideline. You may be surprised at who likes it smooth and who prefers the natural look. 

Safety Tips And Tricks

Take care when using razors to shave your genitals, and make sure to spend some time in the bath with your pubic hair submerged before getting started. Shaving cream and other shaving products can help get the smooth feeling you are looking for. Just like shaving the face, it is recommended to shave the day before sexual fun as the area could be a little more sensitive just after. Take care when shaving around your penis and balls, though, as they are sensitive parts of the body. 

If you have a beard trimmer, choose a shorter attachment that still protects your sensitive parts. Many people also use a trimmer on the pubic hair above their cock. Using a shorter length for the outside regions of pubic hair is often preferred, though many also like to leave the hair all the same length in this area. 

After you are done shaving, make sure to clean the area thoroughly, preferably in the shower, so the leftover hairpieces move toward your feet and down the drain. Some people use aftershave on the area above their cock and balls, which is another reason to groom the day before as your partner may be sensitive to the products you use. 

Which Pubic Hair Strategy Is The Best For You?

As individuals, personal preferences are varied. If you do not have a personal preference yourself, make sure to communicate with your partner about what they like. Many find satisfaction from pleasing their partners, and if the type of manscaping you have does not impact you, it may do something for your sexual partners.

Make sure to be tactful with new sexual partners or dates, however. Many do not prefer to talk about pubic hair or even sex until a few dates have passed. Keep in mind that the other person may have personal preferences for their landscaping as well, so don’t jump to negative judgments if the person’s hair is too long, too short, or does not suit your tastes. Instead, respect their needs, wants, and desires while politely expressing your own.

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Chivalry Isn’t Dead, It Just Looks Different

The word chivalry automatically instills specific images in our heads of men opening car doors for women and putting their coats over puddles. While those cartoonish ideas seem outdated and silly now, they were very much a part of courtship in mid-century America. In the 21st century, chivalry gets a bad wrap because some ideals associated with the word are often associated with misogyny. The truth is that chivalry is still very alive in the 21st century and can be an aphrodisiac when executed correctly. To understand the nuances of modern-day chivalry, you must first understand its history and how societal changes have influenced its evolution. 

What is Chivalry?

The definition of chivalry is a knightly code of religion, morality, and social conduct. While the contemporary definition may be a little watered down, it still follows the same concepts of being a gentleman, especially toward the fairer sex. The code came about because it was a way for knights of old, who were basically hired thugs of the nobility, to achieve a status of gentlemen and make maidens feel safer among the brutes. In modern times, chivalry has taken on the meaning of being kind, generous, and protective of those around you, especially the women you are courting. This included actions like opening doors and pulling out chairs for women, even if it meant rushing in front of them or standing up every time a woman enters a room or leaves the table. 

Is Chivalry Dead?

Traditional chivalry has taken a hit in the new age because many of its tenants are thought to be sexist, like a man ordering for a woman or the idea that the man should always pick up the check. Even ideas that are still kind but somewhat outdated, like opening a woman’s door for her, could be construed as assuming that the woman is too weak and incapable of opening her own door. Since many of these ideas have faded or are fading, it has left many in the last few decades to incorrectly assume that chivalry is dead. However, chivalry is nowhere near dead; it has just morphed into something that may be a little more nuanced but is the best definition yet of a centuries-old term. 

What Chivalry Looks Like Now

So if chivalry isn’t dead, but it’s also not the same, it begs the question; what does it look like now? At its very heart, chivalry has always been about protecting the most vulnerable around you. While the idea of who is considered vulnerable has changed, the idea of protecting them has not. One way you can show your chivalrous side is to stand up for marginalized people around you and protect those who need to be protected, whether it be a small child or a person being yelled at on the subway for no reason. Chivalry may not be so much about protecting a woman from stepping in a puddle anymore, but it is about lifting her and supporting her, whether that be on a challenging mental health day or when she takes risks to reach for her career goals. Of course, it doesn’t mean that you can’t open a door or pull out a chair for a lady every once in a while to be polite. 

What Can You Do?

You may find yourself in a position where you are dating for the first time in a while, and the idea of chivalry has changed drastically, forcing you to question how courtship works now. It can be intimidating, and you may find yourself accidentally misstepping once in a while, but there are plenty of ways to still be chivalrous in the 2020s. 

  1. Be Respectful

The days of “If you treat them like dirt, they’ll stick to you like mud” are over. Women know their worth and want to be treated like partners and not pets. So not only should things like name and cat-calling be thrown out the window, but you should also respect her bodily autonomy. Respect goes well beyond keeping your hands to yourself – you should also respect her ideas and opinions on important matters. 

  1. Listen 

This may be the core tenant of modern-day chivalry. Listening is a sign of respect and that you care what she has to say, whether it is the first date and she is talking about her career or if you live together and she is telling you about her day. 

  1. Go Above and Beyond

Just because traditional chivalry is dead doesn’t mean that you can’t go above and beyond sometimes to show how much you care. All those old cliches like buying flowers will still work in the 21st century; just do it as a surprise to show how much you care and not as an apology. In the same vein, some of the older ideas of chivalry may seem old-fashioned but are still welcome, like offering a woman your coat if she seems cold. Perhaps the simplest way to go above and beyond and the perfect way to put 21st-century chivalry into context are the good morning and good night texts to let them know you are thinking of them when you go to sleep and when you wake up. 

  1. Be Genuine

At the end of the day, you can only be you, but be the best version of yourself. Chivalry is about letting your guard down a bit and being genuine in everything you do, from complimenting a stranger to standing up to a bully. Women love a man who is genuine in his convictions whether they agree with him on everything or not. 

Use It to Your Advantage

There are too many men (and women) out there that think that chivalry is a thing of the past. Use their ignorance to your advantage by being a classic man for the 21st century. If you practice these behaviors, they will begin to become natural to you even if they once were not. Once modern-day chivalry becomes a personality trait, you will see a piqued interest from women, and other men will flock to you to learn the secrets of your ways. 

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Starter Sex Toy Kit Advice For Men

You and your partner have had lots of great sex at their place, but now you think you’re ready to host. So what should you have in hand as part of your new Sex Toy Kit to enhance the experience? It’s a checklist worth making and one we can help you create with these easy tips.

It’s About Variety

If you had just one steady lover, it would be easy to identify what they like most and gather sex toys aimed at that sensation. However, being a man of the world like you are, it’s pretty obvious you plan to be having sex with a variety of partners, and that means having a wide selection of sex toys to enjoy together with each of them. 

One of your lovers may be an ASMR freak who can’t cum without a set of binaural headphones chirping at them, while another may love the stamina a tight cock-ring provides. So while their interests may be diverse, your sex toy kit should be inclusive enough to welcome all of their fetishes and curiosities.

Sex Toys Should Empower Your Partners, Not Replace Them

Nobody wants to hear that their lover wants to plug in a 220v vibrator into the kitchen refrigerator outlet to maximize the volume of their next orgasm instead of making use of the hard human dick that’s right in the same room. Similarly, taking out a FleshLight to give your lover even more pleasure may be an exciting addition to your sex kit, but taking one out to use it while they lay next to you, wondering why you wouldn’t prefer their affection is a mistake. Be sure whatever you add to your toy kit always has the desires of your partners and their direct interaction in mind.

Batteries Not Included!

Many modern sex toys are electronic devices that need a power source. So, unless you’re still using a medieval wooden dildo as your sex toy, be sure to have all of the ancillary items you need to maintain them. Batteries are obvious, and an appropriate cloth and cleaning solution should also be kept handy. After all, hygiene is essential, and especially if you’re engaging in sex with more than one partner at a time, keeping things fresh is crucial to making sure everyone heads home without any regrets. Your kit can also show your lovers that you’re a caring and thoughtful lay, which is likely to get you plenty of second dates.

You Aren’t A Super-villain

Many of us have lofty goals when we start engaging in polyamorous sexual encounters. When we think of a sex toy kit, our mind races, and we’re suddenly trying to find the biggest motorized machines and wildest new toys to play with. But it’s important to remember this is about sex; we aren’t making a high-budget action film full of explosions and CGI special effects. So try to simplify your kit, at least at the start. Rather than complicated costumes, dangerous suspension devices, high-powered gasoline-fired sex machines, and all the rest – just put together a box or drawer full of obvious items you know how to use well. Vibrators, clamps, lube, restraints, a blindfold, and some other basic tools of the trade will do a lot more to impress an actual lover on a date than any giant robotic monster dong with lasers firing out of its cum hole ever will.

Get Input From Your Lovers About Your Kit

Is that fourteen-inch double-headed vibrator you can barely fit in the box making your lovers more intimidated than turned on? The only way to know for sure is to ask openly. You don’t need to interview anyone with a series of leading questions to get valuable answers. Just a simple “hey anything else you’d like to see in here” sort of question is probably all you’ll need. The bonus is that discussion almost always leads to chat about things they’ve never tried before and an invitation to experiment with them!

What Not To Have Around

This is perhaps the most important thing to keep in mind when making your new sex toy kit. If you aren’t into something, you don’t need to include it in a box full of toys you make available at your next orgy. For example, a cage may be a good idea if you love CBT, but if you dislike sensory deprivation play, why in the world would you hand a new lover a box of sex toys with a blindfold in it?! 

Whatever goes into your kit is likely to spark the imagination of your lovers and will eventually find its way into your lovemaking, so choose wisely and don’t include anything in the kit that you wouldn’t want to use with them for your pleasure and theirs.

Aftercare Is Always Important

Whether you had a long slow romantic sex session or a rough quickie in the stairwell, you and your lover will likely be together for at least a short while after the deed is done. Your sex kit should take that into account with some simple but essential additions like breath mints, a first aid kit, or even some thoughtful gift ideas like a poem or keepsake you can gift them. It all comes down to making your kit about the entire dating experience rather than just the sex itself. The better your kit provides for the well-being, excitement, and emotional feelings of your lovers, the more likely they will be to keep coming back for more.

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The Pornstache is Back

There’s no facial hair arrangement more iconic than the pornstache. If you’ve been living under a rock or perhaps just blocked the 70s out from your mind completely, the porn mustache is a prominent mustache without a beard. These days, some would say it gives a sleazy or cheaply, but in the 70s and 80s, it was the look among manly men. 

Actor Tom Selleck famously sported his pornstache with pride as he fought crime on “Magnum PI” and was widely known as one of the most desirable men of the 80s. Let’s not forget about Freddy Mercury, a legend who almost always had a full mustache. This look was incredibly favored in the 70s and 80s by well-known beefcakes, pornstars, and cops. It’s only in recent times that the term pornstache was looked upon in a derogatory fashion. 

With that said, it is worth noting that the porn mustache is making a comeback thanks to leading men such as Paul Rudd, Eddie Murphy, and Milo Ventimiglia.

Why the Sudden Comeback?

There’s a growing theory that the return of the pornstache is thanks in part to No-Shave November. If you’re not familiar, this is an annual event during which men grow their beards and mustaches during November to raise awareness for men’s health. These issues include prostate and testicular cancer, as well as men’s suicide. 

After November, many men have a fully-grown beard they can’t wait to shave off. Many actors, however, decided to keep (and style) their mustaches last year, and suddenly the pornstache made its way back to the forefront of pop culture. 

Why You Should Consider A Mustache

Growing out a mustache is much easier than having a full-fledged beard. In addition, it will bring a visible change to your face that could turn out to be your signature look. Of course, before you decide on this, it is always good to check out how a porn mustache looks on various faces. 

Many celebrities have great porn mustaches you can take inspiration from. For example, Arjun Kapoor, Ayushmann Khurrana, Ranveer Singh, and others have shown off their heavy mustache. The pornstar mustache does have a couple of different variations. Still, fans know the most famous heavy mustache as one with slightly elongated ends and no other facial hair. Thus, there’s no reason for you to try out just one mustache style.

Your Pornstache Style

Finding your signature pornstache style can take a bit of trial and error, which is what makes No-Shave-November the perfect time to try it out. One primary reason men tend not to find their signature style is they’re too afraid to experiment. But, remember, it’s just facial hair. So if you don’t like how a pornstache looks on you, shave it off and start over with a different look. The good thing is facial hair is in right now, so chances are the ladies will love it either way. 

A Mustache Does Not Require That Much Effort!

People think that having a mustache requires a lot of work, but that’s not true. Growing and keeping up a neat mustache isn’t that difficult, and upkeep is easy so long as you have the right tools. Splurge on a quality trimming and shaving kit, and don’t be afraid to invest in good products to keep your stache’ clean and hydrated as well. 

What Makes It Popular?

Pornstaches give men a formal, masculine look which is probably why they’re so popular among the burly crowd. Think about every iconic, hyper-masculine Hollywood character you’ve ever seen, and chances are, they’re rocking the pornstache with pride. Anchorman Ron Burgundy, Ron Swanson from “Parks and Rec,” the appropriately named George “Pornstache” Mendez from “Orange is the New Black,” and Hopper from “Stranger Thing” all rock a sweet mouser than drives the ladies wild. 

So, whether you have a dinner event, a date night, or even just a regular day at work, a mustache will surely add to your fashion quotient. Match it with a classy suit or a blazer, and you’re bound to have all eyes on you.

November is on the horizon, so if you need a gentle push into the world of facial hair, this is it. Your pornstache season is finally here! 

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Ten Ways to Get a Stronger Erection

Remember the days when you could hang a towel off your cock? You were probably a teenager at the time (and basically a walking erection), but you can still put the “joy” back in your joystick no matter what age you are.

Here are a few tips to help you increase the size, strength, and stamina of your boners.

Eating Habits

This tip may sound boring, but it’s probably the most effective. You can’t expect to have a healthy hard-on if all you do is eat crap, so keeping a healthy diet is a must. You need to eat lots of protein, cut out carbs, add lots of healthy fats, and eat your vegetables. Pineapple may make cum taste better, but swapping out that greasy plate of hot wings for broccoli will make you cum harder, regardless of what it tastes like going down.

Exercise

Exercise boosts testosterone, which gives you a better hard-on. Not only will working out make you want to do it more often, but you’ll be able to do more positions and increase your stamina. You’ll be the battery bunny of sex gods once you get in shape.

Smoking and Drinking

I know, now I’m just a party pooper, but if you want to have good sex you need to smoke and drink less. No one likes to hear it, but smoking is bad for your health, and it’s been a long time since smoking was sexy anyway. Now it just stinks and kills your sex drive. It also hurts your circulation, and in order for you to get a woody, your wiener needs good blood flow. So your after sex cig might become your “can’t get it up” smoke.

As far as drinking goes, it might make you feel sexier but it won’t make your cock perform better. Drinking numbs your penis and inflates your prostate.  So besides the fact that being sloppy drunk is not a turn-on, even mildly drunk may put the breaks on sexy time. If you want to get laid, make it a 3 drink minimum.

Calm Down

Stress can be the biggest erection killer, so if you find yourself feeling stressed or anxious your dick may not want to cooperate. We all know that sex is a stress reliever, but it can be your worst cock blocker too. Find a way to regularly relieve your stress, and if you’re planning to have sex then make sure to do your stress relieving activity that day. Try meditating, running, or hitting a punching bag — exercise is great for stress and as we said before, great for your boner.

 

Don’t Be So Sensitive

Sometimes we’re just too sensitive and blow our load too quickly, so if this is your problem then you just need to turn it down a notch. Wearing a condom is one of the best ways to do it. In fact, most men complain about condoms because it makes them less sensitive.

Edging

Edging is a technique where you bring yourself up to the point of orgasm and then take it back down. This is a great technique for stamina training, and training for multiple orgasms. It takes a bit of practice at first, so you should try it yourself by masturbating to the point of orgasm and then stopping before you come. Then, bring it back up and stop. Rinse and repeat. You’ll learn how to control the moment when you come and this will allow you to last longer once you try it with a partner.

Cock Ring

This is my favorite sex toy and stamina tool. A cock ring is meant to go around your erection and trap the blood flow, thus increasing and maintaining your erection. Some cock rings have vibrators that both you and your partner can feel, and others have rubber nubs so your partner gets a little extra sensation. Keep in mind that you should not wear one for more than 15-20 minutes, but it will keep you hard long enough to hit the finish line. I recommend taking a break in the middle of sex to put your cock ring on. It changes things up but then you get more bang!

Supplements

There are a lot of supplements and over the counter performance enhancers you can take, but you may wanna talk to your doctor first. These supplements can interfere with medication you’re on or cause their own health issues. Most supplements work by increasing your overall blood flow and are similar to performance enhancers for workouts. There are some multi-vitamins you can get to do the same job, however.

Medications

If your stamina issues come on suddenly, it could be a symptom of a larger health , so get yourself checked out. If you’re already being treated for a medical issue, it could also be a side effect of medication you’re taking. Erectile dysfunction is a common side effect of anti-anxiety and anti-depressants, so take a look at the medications you’re taking to see if they could be the reason your little man isn’t standing so tall.

Masturbation

Contrary to popular belief, masturbation is good for your sex life. There’s a longstanding myth that if you fap too frequently you won’t be able to perform, but this isn’t entirely true. If you’re someone who can only cum once a day, you may want to put yourself on a masturbation training regimen where you masturbate to climax several times a day. Once you’re trained, masturbation a few hours before sex will usually release the anticipated build up and help you go longer when the time comes. If you’re untrained and planning on having sex that night, however, then maybe hold off on handling your tiny captain.

If you’re having legitimate erectile dysfunction issues, you need to go to the doctor and get checked out. But most of the time the cure is as simple as diet, stress management, and exercise. So get fit and start fucking like a 22-year-old!

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A Male’s Guide to Multiple Orgasms

Some might think multiple orgasms are just for women, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Men can have multiple orgasms – it just takes time, practice, and a better understanding of orgasms in general. For instance, most men think an orgasm is just cumming while ejaculating, which is something a guy can usually only do once without a break. However, if you learn how to orgasm without ejaculating, you can have more orgasms in a single sexual session without the recovery time in between.

Understanding the male orgasm.

Men have four different types of orgasms:

  1. Ejaculation orgasm
  2. Non-ejaculation orgasms
  3. Peaking non-ejaculation orgasms
  4. Prostate orgasms

Most men report that the last three of the four kinds of orgasms are more intense, have a no-refresh period, and can last much longer than a traditional orgasm — sometimes up to 10 minutes.

Sounds great, right? So let’s get down to the nitty-gritty of how to make this happen.

Just keep fapping.

To have non-ejaculation orgasms, you’re going to have to learn how to control your ejaculation. You’ll have to get comfortable with masturbating for 10 or more minutes with constant stimulation. This means no starting and stopping — just keep fapping. This is necessary because you’ll have to be able to bring yourself to the edge of having a non-ejaculate orgasm and then hold yourself at the threshold. Remember that you’ll need to masturbate every day, as missing even one can set you back in your training.

Blocking the cum.

You may be wondering how you stop the cum from, well, coming. This is where Kegel exercises come into play. I’m sure you’ve heard of these in reference to the ladies, but Kegels, like multiple orgasms, are not just for women. The PC muscle is a muscle that stretches from your pelvis to your tailbone to form the pelvic floor – it’s also the muscle you use to stop the flow of urine.

To flex your PC muscle (do a kegel), just flex the same way you would to stop peeing. This same muscle can also control the flow of ejaculate, so exercise yours until it could crack a walnut. You also want to have a vice-like grip behind your penis to stop that ejaculate. Start by practicing your Kegels two to three times per day, and hold each kegel flex for 20+ seconds. At that point, you should be able to squeeze hard enough to pull yourself back from the edge of ejaculation during masturbation.

Once you’ve mastered Kegels, don’t stop doing them. You need to keep that muscle strong, and the only way to do that is to consistently work it out.

Living on the edge.

While you’re masturbating, try something called “edging.” This is where you bring yourself up to a 9.5 in stimulation (10 being ‘the big bang'”), and then bring yourself back down to about a 6, then bring yourself back up, and then back down again. Stay in the range as long as possible without actually ejaculating, and squeeze your PC muscle super hard to help bring you back down. The point of this exercise is to help you become very aware of how close you are to ejaculation at all times.

Separating the orgasm from the cum.

Surprisingly, the feeling of orgasm isn’t tied to ejaculation. The two just tend to happen simultaneously, which is why your body isn’t used to separating the feelings. That’s why you have to train it to do so.

Try masturbating to the point of no return, and then squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can and for as long as you can. You’ll feel your penis start to twitch and swell, but your ejaculation will be delayed. The cool part is the orgasm won’t be delayed, so you’ll feel a couple of seconds of orgasm before the ejaculate arrives. Now that you can do that, the next step is to orgasm without any ejaculation.

The non-ejaculatory orgasm.

Now it’s time to switch things up a bit. Once you hit the point of no return and start squeezing your PC muscle, STOP stroking your penis and open your eyes. This will help you attain a non-ejaculatory orgasm because you’ll either stop too early and not have an orgasm or do it too late and have your orgasm while you ejaculate. Once you nail down this technique, you’ll finally be able to have your first non-ejaculatory orgasm. Once you do, you’ll notice that you’re not spent, just cooled down to a 5 or 6 again and still able to keep going.

Don’t be surprised if it doesn’t happen the first time, though, as it’ll take practice. Many times the first one may not even be that great, but trust us, it’ll get better.

Intensify your orgasm.

The intensity of your non-ejaculate orgasm is based on how close you were to ejaculating when you had it. The closer you were, the better the orgasm. This is why it’s crucial to become very self-aware of your ejaculation.

If you’re doing a long, hard squeeze at the end and it doesn’t feel that pleasurable, try changing it up with a few medium-length contractions or a bunch of really quick ones. There’s no right or wrong way, as it’s just about what works best for you.

The prolonged orgasm.

So now you know how to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm, and if you’ve been practicing, you’re probably getting good at having more than one. Now, how do you prolong it? Well, the simple answer is once you have your first one, immediately try to have another one without letting yourself cool down. Shift the focus to the head of your penis and do a fast stroke to keep yourself on the edge. You should be able to get yourself to the peak again. As you try this quick succession of peaks, you’ll learn how to shorten the gaps between orgasms and hold yourself in that orgasmic state.

Once you’ve figured out how to have non-ejaculate orgasms on your own, you can start practicing with your partner. This will take some trial and error, but it’ll be well worth the effort once you figure out how to bring those multiples into the bedroom.

Looking for a few tips, or maybe even someone to practice with? Head over to AdultFriendFinder.com now to find local people who can…give you a hand!

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Eight Tips to Attract Hotter Women With Your Online Dating Profile

Adult FriendFinder has been bringing sexy people together with their fantasy partners for over two decades. There are many incredibly sexual women and men on the site and they are all looking for casual fun, love, or dating. In order to increase your chances of attracting one of these hotties, you’ll want to put your best foot forward. Follow these online dating tips to attract hot men and women on your favorite dating websites.

1. Don’t make assumptions

Just because a woman is on the site doesn’t mean she’ll have sex with you, and the same thing goes with men. Get to know the people you’re interested in, and treat them with respect and dignity. Each person has different sex preferences and you might be just what the person you’re attracted to is looking for, but you’ll never know unless you ask first.

2. Take time on your dating profile pics

Successful dating and casual sex can start with investing a little bit of time into your pictures. The pictures on your dating profile are often one of the first things people look at when they visit any online dating site. Pick a few images you want to represent you, and have a few of your friends look at them and give their thoughts. Select a recent picture that represents your personality and your interests. Giving an honest presentation of both you and your looks is important.  People are interested in a wide variety of body types, personalities, and hair colors, so don’t think you need old pictures and filters to attract a date. You are most definitely someone’s cup of tea!

3. Take time on your dating profile text

Your dating profile text is a window into your personality, desires, and wants. In order to attract hot men and women, you’ll be best served to be honest and come up with a few interesting things about your life. Anything from knitting to Marvel movies, riding bicycles, traveling, Netflix, and more, can be one of the things that sparks conversation between you and an interested party. Sometimes the initial conversation is the most challenging part of getting to know new people, and on online dating websites the opportunity to send out lots of personal messages can be easier than trying to start conversations in places like bars and clubs.

4. Take some risks

A well thought out and well-worded message can make a huge impact. If you join a casual sex dating website and are enamored by a woman or man with a hot body, go ahead and send them a message. If the point of the site is getting hookups, know that many people love compliments about their pictures. Mix this information in with a few sentences that prove you’ve read their profile and learned a little about them. Ask a question or two in the conversation as well and you’ll increase the likelihood of a response.

5. Focus on the things you have in common

In any dating situation, it’s the things people have in common that tend to draw them together initially. This can include hobbies, sports, politics, and many other things. Many people tend to avoid politics, but on casual sex websites sometimes politics are mentioned in the profile. If you come across someone with similar political beliefs, feel free to send them a message about it. If you come across someone with opposing political views, you may want to steer clear. The choice is yours though, as sometimes people of differing political beliefs actually do very well together. When it comes to casual sex, two people can also choose not to talk about things like politics or religion and just focus on the sex.

6. Be yourself

People are attracted to many different things, and people who choose to be themselves are more likely to find casual sex matches. Finding casual sex matches is kind of the point of hookup websites, so you should try to increase the likelihood that it happens.

7. Be positive

There may be quite a few negative things happening in anyone’s life at a given point in time. When it comes to casual sex, however, many people are looking for something to take them away from the real world. By staying positive and focusing on the joys in your life and in general, positive feelings will be more likely to stay at the forefront. This means more casual sex, and better casual sex as well.

8. Don’t wait too long to ask to meet

Meeting people in person can be quite nerve-racking. There are plenty of things that prevent people from sending a message suggesting to meet. Most of the time people either ask too soon, or wait too long to ask. When you find someone on a dating website, if you’re having consistent conversation you can ask people to meet in as little as a week or two. Some of this depends on the connections you make, because if you have an intense connection right away it might make sense to bring up meeting earlier. For most people, it will take a little bit of time for them to want to meet someone. An easy way to bring this up is in the first two or three conversations. Ask them if they have ever met someone on the service and if it’s something they might be interested in doing for the right person at some point. It is an open-ended question that allows them to speak their mind and give you some perspective about whether meeting up for casual sex or dating in person might be in the cards.