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Holiday Gift Ideas For Casual Sex Buddies

The holidays are here, and people are always excited to give and receive gifts. However, gift-giving can be a little more complicated when it comes to fuck buddies and friends with benefits (FWB). You may want to give them a memorable and impactful gift without giving the wrong idea. Therefore, it’s essential to chat with your partner about expectations and revisit them before the holiday to avoid potential miscommunications. As for the gifting part, well, we’re here to help with that! 

Navigating Casual Sex Relationships Through Good Communication

Revisit how things are going with your casual sex friends every few months, especially right before the holidays. Tell your partner that you want to keep things casual and don’t foresee that changing any time soon. Having this discussion a few weeks before the holidays can help clear up any confusion that could come from giving them a gift. Still, the gift you pick can have a connotation to them, so choosing tactfully and based on your relationship with the person is essential.

What Kind Of Casual Sex Relationship do You Have?

Evaluating the type of relationship you have is an essential part of the process. The gifts you choose will reflect the kind of relationship, the message you want to send, and more. For example, if someone is involved in a sugar daddy relationship, pampering and luxury gifts generally come with the territory. That means that if you’re the sugar baby, you can expect lavish gifts most would only reserve for serious relationships. 

If you’re looking to get a sugar daddy a gift, you may want to gauge what you feel their intentions are. In many sugar daddy relationships, the sugar baby themself is the gift, so doing something special together can be gift enough.

For those in casual sex relationships, something relating to sex can be a wise and safe decision. An example is purchasing a unique set of lingerie that you know they will enjoy. 

Having playful conversations about sex toys you would like to try can also be an excellent way to figure out what your sex friends might like. Of course, going to a sports game, movie, or another type of event could also work. But, for the most part, stay away from things considered romantic, such as lavish jewelry, fine dining experiences, and flowers. If this is a regular part of your casual adult dating experiences, not deviating too much from the norm can be the top option.

Sometimes no Gift is the Best Gift

To some people, no strings attached means no strings attached. They don’t want to give or receive gifts, or go on dates or outings; they want to get together, bang, and get on with their day. If you’re with one of these types of people, you should definitely discuss gift-giving possibilities before you go shopping. Another option is to get something small so you have something ready in case they unexpectedly surprise you with a gift. That way, if they don’t, you just hold on to it, but if they do, things don’t get awkward. 

If All Else Fails, Talk About It

There are many benefits to bringing up the possibility of gift-giving before the holidays come around. People often like setting up spending ranges or limits between themselves and the other person; each is another way to keep things informal and help them ensure that one person is not outspending the other. For example, $20-$25 is the universal limit for no strings attached relationships. Many gift-givers also decide to give things that both people can use together, such as handcuffs or flavored lube. Gift certificates for a fine dining restaurant to use together or for a hot air balloon ride, as another example, can be considered a little more romantic than is preferred, but if that’s the vibe in your sexual relationship, go for it. 

You Can Still Put Thought Into Your Gifts

Getting something thoughtful for friends, casual sex buddies, and people you care about is part of the spirit of the holidays. For example, if you’re getting a sex toy for you and your casual sex buddy to use, you can also get lube, throw in condoms, or add some of your own creativity to it. A note or card about how the sex is fantastic and how much you enjoy connecting with the other person can also be a nice touch. However, remember not to overdo it; some people like giving gifts and continue adding until the gift is much larger than initially intended. This is why talking about potential budgets is essential. 

The Gift That Keeps on Giving 

Giving a small token of appreciation to someone you’re in a sexual relationship with is a good way to acknowledge that you want them to continue being a part of your life, even if it’s casually. In addition, the right gift can help you maintain the current status quo. While some people are nervous that a gift could lead the other person to want more from the relationship, communication and tactful gift-giving make navigating the holiday season so much easier!

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Must-Have Items for Your Kink Drawer

Everyone has one. A shoebox under the bed, a bed stand drawer, or perhaps a massive room most houseguests aren’t allowed to see. 

If you don’t have a drawer full of kinky goodies hiding somewhere but get excited at the thought of having all the sexy delights you can handle at your fingertips, then now is as good a time as any to get started. 

Stocking your kink drawer can be almost as fun as putting your gear to use with your favorite playmates. So let’s look at what every kinkster should have on hand, plus some less known devices that might amp up your creativity the next time you decide to meet up with a like-minded partner for roleplay!

1 – Cuffs

Cuffs and restraints are a must-have item for even the most vanilla bedroom. Why? With over half the population having some fantasy about being restrained or wanting to restrain a sex partner, it’s a very common way to play. 

There are plenty of options for the beginner to become more experienced. If you’ve never tried cuffs before, opt for a pair with fluffy liners and softer materials. The idea here is to keep hands, or maybe ankles restricted, but not necessarily in a painful way. 

As a novice, you’ll want to choose cuffs with big, easy-to-use buckles to start. Sure, it may seem too easy to get out of, but once your hands are covered in lube, you’ll be thankful you went with ease-of-use over there-is-no-way-they-can escape. Also, at least at the start, it’s much more about the feeling of being restricted than being completely unable to free oneself.

Are you feeling a little more adventurous after gaining some experience? Select a tougher material or something that appeals to the fetishist inside you. Leather, rubber, and metal are all available at various price points, with metal being the most expensive. Again, make sure that whatever closing mechanism you choose is simple to use.

If you don’t want to invest in hardware because you have company often or share space, look at something simple like bondage tape. It’s cheap, disposable, and looks like a regular roll of tape when being stored if someone else discovers it in your home. It also won’t hurt the skin coming off.

One important warning for anyone just starting to experiment with cuffs: avoid using police handcuffs or anything with a similar adjustable closing system. You can cause real injury by misusing them, as they’re intended for locking down violent criminals, not for submissives who are desperately seeking orgasm permission from you.

2 – Blindfolds

Like cuffs, blindfolds are a solid mainstay in the toy chest. Sensory deprivation can be a sexy way to heighten sensitivity because they can’t see what you’re doing or what will happen next. Just remember to start slow if you’ve never tried it. For some people, it can be disorienting and may cause anxiety, so as with any kink play, always have a safe word ready ahead of time.

Blindfolds come in various shapes, sizes, and materials, including BDSM-lite fluffy fabrics or leather. A step above standard blindfolds are hoods and masks. These cover the whole head and may include a mouth hole. Low-end hoods are made from Lycra and may or may not have additional layers over the eyes. Once again, listen to your partner and use a safe word when you start experimenting. 

3 – Electric Wands

Available in various styles, Shock Play has gained a lot of popularity recently after a wave of videos on kinky porn sites made the practice popular.

Many low-voltage wands provide just enough pop to earn your partner’s full attention. Be sure you and your partner are healthy enough to engage in kinky sex before trying these devices. Consulting your doctor is always a good idea, especially if you have a pacemaker or other medical device that could be affected.

From a quick orgasm to extensive edging sessions, an electric wand is an incredibly fun toy to play with, and it provides a much more elegant solution for sub-training sessions than a crop or whip ever would. No mess, no marks… just the joy of knowing you hold the ability to focus their attention any time you like, right in the palm of your hand. 

4 – Clamps

Your next step down the kink path is clamps. A clamp is what it sounds like, a mechanism that lets you apply pressure to something. Nipple clamps are the most common kind of sex clamp. They may be the screw type or use springs. Either way, clip them over the nipple and gently let the pressure build up. 

The screw type is probably the best bet for beginners as it lets you keep the pressure adjusted to a tolerable level. While they cost a little more than the regular spring-loaded clamp, you’re more likely to have some success when the pain can be controlled. 

Important safety tip: Makeshift devices like clothespins aren’t a great way to start because they lack the sort of fine-tuning control that real clamps allow. Go with real clamps from a sex toy store, and you’ll be glad you did.

For the adventurous, there are also genital clamps available that use similar mechanisms but come in different sizes and configurations to clamp the specific body part. For example, labia clamps usually come with four clamps and chains to help keep the lips spread open. 

5 – Lube

An often overlooked but critical part of your toy chest is lube. There are many types of lube available, but they all do the same thing. So whether you’re embarking on a marathon sex session, using toys, or trying to put new things inside your partner’s orifices, lube is the key to a successful and pleasurable evening without the risk of friction burns and unnecessary discomfort. 

There are several different types of lube available, and each has its uses. You may stick with one type or have a variety depending on your desires.

Oil Based Lubes – A scented oil-based lube can be used for sensual massages that will help get your lover in the mood and can also be used to help the orifice of your choice prepare for penetration. Oil lubes are great because they don’t get sticky or lose effectiveness. However, they may degrade latex toys and condoms, so they are usually not great for insertion.

Water-Based Lubes – Won’t stain your sheets, won’t damage your toys, washes off easily but doesn’t last as long as other lube types. Very kind to the skin but get a big bottle because you’ll need to reapply often.

Silicon-Based Lubes – Gentle on your skin and hypoallergenic, so it might be a great choice for sensitive partners. It lasts longer than water-based lubes but may degrade silicone toys and make them less sanitary over time. A good choice for skin-to-skin play but not the best for solo toy adventures.

6 – First Aid Kit

While it may not seem like an obvious item to add, just ask any experienced kinkster what they’d bring on their dirty desert island getaway, and they will tell you that a first aid kit is always at the top of their list. That includes a fully charged phone if you need to call an EMT, standard things like band-aids and salves, and other items like calm music for aftercare.

Sure, you will follow the advice other people have given you and have safe words and gestures pre-planned before you start playing with BDSM, but accidents can happen. Let’s face it, two people going at it and rolling around can run even a small risk of a minor muscle pull. Or, if you’re really out of practice, a not so minor one. Once you start playing in the kink arena, those small risks may include the odd bruise or abrasion.

You don’t need anything more than the basics, some antiseptic cream, band-aids, alcohol wipes, etc., but just be sure you have them easily accessible and know where they are ahead of time just in case.

7 – Your Imagination

Most importantly, have an active open imagination and do some planning ahead. The best toy drawer in the world is still completely dependent on its owner to turn inanimate objects into amazing tools of sexual satisfaction!

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How to Approach Your Partner About Exploring New Kinks and Fetishes

You’ve been together a while. Long enough to start noticing your interests are wandering but not long enough to feel completely comfortable talking about exploring new kinks and fetishes with your partner. How do you get over that awkward hump and find ways to include your long-term lover in the adventures you’re eager to embark upon sometime soon?

We asked some of our top Adult FriendFinder experts, and after going through their replies, we noticed a few main points that came up nearly every time. In this article, we’ll share their lessons to help you discover the joy of sharing sex with your partner without being hindered by any uncertainty along the way.

The 3 Keys To Discussing New Kinks

It all comes down to three relatively simple keys, and fortunately, all three are elements of any quality relationship. Characteristics we can all exhibit and goals worthy of our focus as we seek to expand the value of all our current and future relationships:

1. Transparency

Transparency is all about dismantling the emotional walls we build around ourselves so we can let those closest to us get inside our world. We all become jaded as we mature, and we develop defense mechanisms to prevent us from experiencing heartbreak or causing discomfort in others. Still, the side effect of those defenses is the inevitable downward spiral of what we want – genuinely intimate relationships.

Being transparent means more than just blurting out “I want to get into cosplay and Shibari robe bondage” one day over brunch. It includes being in touch with your feelings and communicating those emotions with your partner as well.

Perhaps start with something like “Shibari rope bondage is something I’ve been thinking about lately. I’ve always been fascinated with watching that sort of stuff on video, but I’m thinking it’s something we might try out if you’re up for it. I found a class we could take and a really cool instructor teaches it. If it works out, great, if not at least it’s a fun couple Saturdays together trying something new. Are you in?”

2. Honesty

Honesty sounds way too apparent until you consider the meaning more deeply. On the one hand, you do need to be honest with your partner. Being transparent about some things while holding back others isn’t being open at all. On the other hand, it’s even more important to be honest with yourself.

Are you interested in exploring a new kink or fetish with your current partner, or are you just so unhappy in your relationship that you’re looking for a way out and using a newly discovered interest in bondage play as an excuse to break things up? One of the worst possible outcomes is one partner asking the other to try something new, the other partner agreeing, and then having the first partner choosing to move on anyway because it was never really about that new fetish in the first place.

Be honest by saying something like: “I know this is kind of coming out of nowhere because I haven’t brought it up before, but the idea of cross dressing is something that’s been in the back of my mind for as long as I can remember. Now it seems to be bubbling up to the surface and I’m a little freaked out that it won’t be acceptable to some of the people I know. I really value our relationship, and I’m hoping you can be supportive by trying this out with me to see if its really what we want, with an open mind and that smile of yours I love so much.”

3. Trust

Then we can watch as all the “What Ifs” roll in! Bringing up a new fetish or asking your partner to get kinkier with you is an emotional risk. Those kinds of choices in love always unearth questions in our minds. What if they reject the idea? What if they think I’m weird? What if they want to break up over me bringing it up in the first place?

The better question is, what if you’re in a great relationship with a partner you can trust, but you never actually find out because you’re too nervous about testing the waters with them? Simply put, if you can’t trust them to be open-minded and supportive of your sexuality, how can you trust them at all? And if you can’t trust them, why are you still in the relationship?

Trust is easy to evoke with a simple statement like, “We’ve been together for a while, and as we have discussed before, sex is a two way street. So I know I’m asking you to come out on a limb with me as we try out the kind of roleplay fantasies I’m suggesting, but I want to also make sure you know that if you have any other kinks or fetish wishes you’ve been unsure about bringing up, I’m definitely interested to hear them and help you explore them as well. I really think you’re awesome and I believe we can be here for each other in the best way possible over the long term. That’s not something I take lightly because I know how rare a relationship like this one is, and how rare and amazing a person you are.”

If you put these three keys to use in your conversations about kink, that doesn’t guarantee your partner will always say yes. Still, it ensures you’re going about it the right way, which gives you the best possible chance of succeeding in sex, in love, and every other aspect of your life.

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Starter Sex Toy Kit Advice For Men

You and your partner have had lots of great sex at their place, but now you think you’re ready to host. So what should you have in hand as part of your new Sex Toy Kit to enhance the experience? It’s a checklist worth making and one we can help you create with these easy tips.

It’s About Variety

If you had just one steady lover, it would be easy to identify what they like most and gather sex toys aimed at that sensation. However, being a man of the world like you are, it’s pretty obvious you plan to be having sex with a variety of partners, and that means having a wide selection of sex toys to enjoy together with each of them. 

One of your lovers may be an ASMR freak who can’t cum without a set of binaural headphones chirping at them, while another may love the stamina a tight cock-ring provides. So while their interests may be diverse, your sex toy kit should be inclusive enough to welcome all of their fetishes and curiosities.

Sex Toys Should Empower Your Partners, Not Replace Them

Nobody wants to hear that their lover wants to plug in a 220v vibrator into the kitchen refrigerator outlet to maximize the volume of their next orgasm instead of making use of the hard human dick that’s right in the same room. Similarly, taking out a FleshLight to give your lover even more pleasure may be an exciting addition to your sex kit, but taking one out to use it while they lay next to you, wondering why you wouldn’t prefer their affection is a mistake. Be sure whatever you add to your toy kit always has the desires of your partners and their direct interaction in mind.

Batteries Not Included!

Many modern sex toys are electronic devices that need a power source. So, unless you’re still using a medieval wooden dildo as your sex toy, be sure to have all of the ancillary items you need to maintain them. Batteries are obvious, and an appropriate cloth and cleaning solution should also be kept handy. After all, hygiene is essential, and especially if you’re engaging in sex with more than one partner at a time, keeping things fresh is crucial to making sure everyone heads home without any regrets. Your kit can also show your lovers that you’re a caring and thoughtful lay, which is likely to get you plenty of second dates.

You Aren’t A Super-villain

Many of us have lofty goals when we start engaging in polyamorous sexual encounters. When we think of a sex toy kit, our mind races, and we’re suddenly trying to find the biggest motorized machines and wildest new toys to play with. But it’s important to remember this is about sex; we aren’t making a high-budget action film full of explosions and CGI special effects. So try to simplify your kit, at least at the start. Rather than complicated costumes, dangerous suspension devices, high-powered gasoline-fired sex machines, and all the rest – just put together a box or drawer full of obvious items you know how to use well. Vibrators, clamps, lube, restraints, a blindfold, and some other basic tools of the trade will do a lot more to impress an actual lover on a date than any giant robotic monster dong with lasers firing out of its cum hole ever will.

Get Input From Your Lovers About Your Kit

Is that fourteen-inch double-headed vibrator you can barely fit in the box making your lovers more intimidated than turned on? The only way to know for sure is to ask openly. You don’t need to interview anyone with a series of leading questions to get valuable answers. Just a simple “hey anything else you’d like to see in here” sort of question is probably all you’ll need. The bonus is that discussion almost always leads to chat about things they’ve never tried before and an invitation to experiment with them!

What Not To Have Around

This is perhaps the most important thing to keep in mind when making your new sex toy kit. If you aren’t into something, you don’t need to include it in a box full of toys you make available at your next orgy. For example, a cage may be a good idea if you love CBT, but if you dislike sensory deprivation play, why in the world would you hand a new lover a box of sex toys with a blindfold in it?! 

Whatever goes into your kit is likely to spark the imagination of your lovers and will eventually find its way into your lovemaking, so choose wisely and don’t include anything in the kit that you wouldn’t want to use with them for your pleasure and theirs.

Aftercare Is Always Important

Whether you had a long slow romantic sex session or a rough quickie in the stairwell, you and your lover will likely be together for at least a short while after the deed is done. Your sex kit should take that into account with some simple but essential additions like breath mints, a first aid kit, or even some thoughtful gift ideas like a poem or keepsake you can gift them. It all comes down to making your kit about the entire dating experience rather than just the sex itself. The better your kit provides for the well-being, excitement, and emotional feelings of your lovers, the more likely they will be to keep coming back for more.

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Starter Sex Toy Kit Advice for Women

Even the best artist is better with the right tools, and the same rules apply to the art of pleasure. Every good pleasure artist has a treasure chest full of sex toys, gadgets, and gizmos aplenty. If you’re new to the lifestyle and looking to start your collection, it can feel pretty intimidating with so many products on the market. Just relax, take a deep breath, and KISS (Keep it, simple sweetheart). All you need to get started is a toy or two that fits into a tidy shoebox under your bed or can be stored in an easy-to-access nightstand drawer for your next one-night stand. 

Sex Toys Come In All Shapes And Sizes

Whether you’re in the mood for a big thick cock, a vibrator that hums a mile a minute, or something carefully crafted to tickle even the most hard-to-reach places – there is a toy for it, and you can own it if you like. Unfortunately, what you can’t do is wave your magic wand and make a new toy arrive during intercourse with your new lover. Even same-day delivery is unlikely to be fast enough to get the toy you fancy into your hands before this fantasy session has reached its climax. So, the lesson here is to order in advance!

Suppose you’re considering several devices to try first, splurge, and get them all. Of course, you won’t need three similar items that all do the same thing, but having different devices that offer a variety of sensations will empower you to tick all the right boxes during your next rendezvous.

Think of New Toys As Accessories 

When you’re alone, you may want to focus on that one signature toy you can count on to get you off every time. However, when you’re with a partner, the goal changes quite a bit. You aren’t trying to take out a giant toy that makes your new lover feel inferior to his mechanical overlords. Instead, you want to enhance the experience you’re both enjoying together and share the excitement.

Look for toys designed to accessorize lovemaking. A glove with vibrating fingertips is a good example of an item that includes your lover while heightening their ability to arouse you. 

Batteries Not Included!

Beware of the dreaded moment when you’re both about to cum as your new toy grinds to a halt and ends the moment before you both reach sexual nirvana. If it’s a rechargeable toy, remember to plug it in before your date arrives. If it uses traditional batteries, be sure you have a drawer full of replacements just in case your next session in bed goes hours longer than you anticipated. 

Lube Now or Be Sore Later

Strangely, many seem to forget the importance of having quality lube in their kit until they feel the wrath of their hubris at least once. Why wait until after you’re sore and uncomfortable from hours of intense friction to obtain the right lube for next time when you could add a variety of lubes to your kit right now? A simple water-soluble condom-safe lube is an excellent place to start. Something a bit greaser can come in handy if backdoor adventure is on your wish list, and you add even more excitement with some conversation starters like flavored lubes, scented lube, or warming lube to keep your encounters spicy! Recently, CBD lubes have gained popularity, so you may want to explore those as well. 

Many Ideas, Many Devices

Sex in a rut is worse than no sex at all. If you were going from one date to the next and digging out the same trusty dildo over and over again, you probably would be better off just staying home to masturbate with that dildo on your own. That’s why it’s crucial to think about variety when putting together your treasure trove of delights. Think about past encounters and ask yourself what would have been handy to have in the box to make that afternoon even more exciting. Then, imagine upcoming dates with new mates and let your mind unravel as you think up some out-of-the-ordinary items that might turn on your partners even more. Yes, that leash from the pet store is a good idea, but so is a vibrating egg if it’s unlike anything already in your kit.

Ask For Input From Your Lovers

If you’re thinking about putting together your kit in one shot, you may want to reconsider. Think of your sex toy kit as an always-evolving entity. One where you take out items that have become boring and add new ones that fit your current mood much the same way you would change the music playlist on your phone. Just like a playlist, you will likely find that input from others can lead to significant improvements. Be willing to ask your latest lover if they see anything that might be missing from your kit or anything in it that might turn them off. 

You don’t want to give anyone else control over what you put into your sex toy kit; it’s a very personal decision and one only you should make. But having a fresh set of eyes and opinions can always be helpful. 

What Not To Have Around

This is perhaps the most important consideration. It’s your new toy kit, and it needs to be all about you. If you’re not into anal, don’t hand your new lover a box full of butt plugs and give them the wrong ideas. Dislike pain? Then avoid keeping nipple clamps in your top drawer. Whatever goes into your kit is likely to spark your lover’s imagination and will find its way into your lovemaking. So be smart about what you choose to include, and leave out anything that doesn’t get you excited. 

Always Think About Aftercare

It sounds simple, but it can make all the difference if you include some simple household items in your kit as well. Breath mints can go a long way. A lighter is vital if you plan to play with candles, and so is a first aid kit, just in case. Try to think about what may happen from the moment your lover knocks on your door to the moment they leave. Sex isn’t only about what happens between the sheets, and your kit should reflect that fact. Sometimes the most appreciated part of your sex kit may be an ice pack or a spare key to the handcuffs after your primary key falls down the heating vent.

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The Top New Sex Toys of 2021

The first sex toys in recorded history were wooden and stone dildos depicted in cave drawings thousands of years ago. Times have changed since then, as a whole new era of mobile, haptic and virtual devices have created a brand new ecosystem for sex toy enthusiasts to explore. These days, you can find pretty much any sex toy you can think of: big ones, small ones, fancy ones, simple ones, interactive toys, toys shaped like aliens, and more. So, with so many toys on the market, how do you choose what works best for you?

We know it can feel intimidating, so we put together this handy guide to the best (affordable) sex toys of 2021.

 

MysteryVibe Poco

This unassuming toy is perfect for sex toy newbies and those with a bit more experience. The Poco is a g-spot vibe that comes with several “play cards” that act as detailed instructions for all the ways that you can use the Poco to replace your fingers. Thanks to its bendable design, it can be manipulated to find all the right spots to send you into ecstasy. With dual motors and plenty of intensity options, it’s got enough subtlety to start the job and enough kick to knock your socks off. It’s the perfect choice if you’ve never tried G-spot stimulation because of its manageable 6″ size, gentle settings, and adjustable shape.

While the Poco can be used by itself, the toy can also be controlled via the Internet, making it perfect for long-distance couples willing to download an app.

Lovense Lush 3

There are many Bluetooth-enabled toys out there, but the biggest problem they all seem to have is one of range. Due to Bluetooth’s low power, it doesn’t take much flesh to make that smart toy as dumb as a box of rocks.

That’s where Lovense Lush blows the competition away. Due to the design, which places the antenna and controls outside the body while the vibrator itself is placed inside, there are no issues with losing connectivity during a hot remote play session, whether via Bluetooth or the Internet app. The size of the bulb shape is big enough to feel good without being too large and intimidating. In addition, the motor can rev up to provide intense stimulation, and the antenna carries that sensation to provide clitoral stimulation if placed inside the vagina.

While the toy can be controlled from the buttons on the antenna, the real power lies in the smartphone app. From within the app, you have a ridiculous amount of options that allow for custom patterns of speed and intensity that will meet the needs of anyone using it. You can also create and store your own patterns that can be used once-through or looped for extended play sessions. Lovense also allows you to upload these to their website to share with other users. In the same way, you can download other users’ patterns, and there are hundreds to choose from.

You can also load playlists from your device and use the built-in microphone so you can literally talk your partner to ecstasy. From the app, you have the option of local Bluetooth control or, if your partner with the toy also has the app, control it via the Internet, which is perfect for long-distance playtime.

Paloqueth G Spot Rabbit

The Rabbit quickly became one of the most popular toys on the market because it was the first design that intentionally stimulated all the primary female erogenous zones. The rabbit ears stimulate the clitoris, the shaped head to reaches the G-spot, and the length and girth that stimulate the vagina itself. There are hundreds of rabbit clones out there, but this one is our budget choice because it has the design aesthetics, and functionality of a luxury toy at a fraction of the cost. From its soft curves and rounded head to the happy bunny ears, and quiet motor, it’s a great discreet toy to have in your arsenal.

Magic Wand Rechargeable Personal Massager

Yes, that Magic Wand. While it’s been rebranded, this is an updated rechargeable version of the immensely popular original. The new Magic Wand charges quickly and runs for hours on one charge. Rather than the switches on the original model, the updated version also has three buttons to help control the intensity of your experience. These buttons show how well thought out the design was because they’re responsive enough that they’re easy to press and large enough that you won’t give yourself a surprise by accidentally hitting the wrong one. They are also stiff enough that you can’t accidentally turn it off – which means you and your lovers will always stay turned on! The old hard plastic head has also been replaced with a softer rubber material, making contact with the body much more comfortable. It should be noted that the size has not changed, so if you have any attachments for the previous model, they are still compatible.

Now that you’ve read up on our favorites, what are some of yours? Let us know in the Adult FriendFinder member discussion groups!

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Sex Toys Reviewed – We Vibe Nova

It’s hard to avoid the space puns when reviewing a toy called Nova, so we’re just going to get it all out of our system now: Blast off! Take a rocket to the orgasm zone! An explosion of pleasure awaits!

There, that’s better. Now we can get into the review.

The Basics and Not-So-Basics

The Nova is basically We-Vibe’s take on the rabbit-style vibrator, featuring dual vibrating heads — one for vaginal stimulation and one for clitoral stimulation.  We say “rabbit-style” because in the original dual-head vibrators, the smaller arm was often shaped like a rabbit with ticky vibrating “ears.”

It’s sheathed in hot pink silicone, with a contrasting white silicone handle. The advertising copy says its waterproof and encourages you to take it into the bath or shower, and the silicone sheathing means you’re less likely to lose your grip while fooling around.

How it Works

Each head’s vibration pattern and strength can be independently controlled either by buttons on the toy’s handle or via the We-Connect smartphone app. There are dozens of pattern variations to play with. The shorter clitoral arm is highly flexible, allowing it to stay in contact with your tender parts even as you move around. It also delivers consistently stronger vibrations than the g-spot arm.

The Nova isn’t quite “whisper-quiet” as advertised, but it’s still pretty low-noise. Especially compared to other toys on the market, so no worries that your neighbors might catch on to what you’re doing (although your moans of pleasure might still give it away).

The “Ins and Outs”

The controls are fairly intuitive – up and down to increase or decrease vibration strength, left or right to change the vibration pattern. You might have better luck finding them by feel than by sight however, as they’re little more than bumps and divots. In fact, it’s easy to mistake the little magnetic recharging port (clever!) for the control buttons if you’re the type who prefers to ditch the manual and dive in. Alas, pressing that shiny metal port will do you no good whatsoever.

That’s right — like other We-Vibe toys, Nova doesn’t require external batteries and is instead rechargeable via USB port. There’s a handy indicator light that will flash when you’re running low on power, which shouldn’t happen often, as Nova holds a charge for about two hours at a go. (It does take a full 90 minutes to recharge, though.)

The WeVibe App

Like other We-Vibes, you can sync this up to your smartphone via a downloadable app.  You can only sync up one We-Vibe toy at a time to the app, and the sync process can sometimes be a little tricky. But once you’re hooked up, you also have the option of letting your long-distance lover (whether they’re a room away or across the country) control your toy. It makes cam dates much more entertaining, I bet.

Final Thoughts

If you’ve been looking for a classier version of the classic rabbit vibe – or one that was waterproof – look no further. Nova is the toy you’ve been waiting for. If you find multiple points of stimulation more distracting than satisfying, or if you’re looking for deep, focused G-spot stimulation, the Nova probably isn’t for you.

I wouldn’t recommend a toy this pricey for rabbit-style newbies (test-drive a cheaper version first), but if you’re a double-your-pleasure fan looking for an upgrade, the Nova just might become your new best friend! The Nova retails for $149 and shipping is free on orders within the US over $50. Adult FriendFinder members also get a special 5% discount off their entire order with the coupon code AFFWEVIBE at checkout.

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Sex Toys Reviewed – We Vibe Ditto Toy Review

If you or your partner(s) love anal play, a vibrating butt plug is a must-have. If you can invest in a remote-control vibrating butt plug, even better. Now what about a waterproof, vibrating butt plug sheathed in easy-to-clean, skin-friendly silicone? That requires no batteries and recharges via USB port? I think we have a winner.

The Ditto by we-Vibe is a cute little plug, available in deep purple or midnight blue, with a classic bulb-and-stem shape for the insertable portion. One side of the bulb is fairly flat and the other is plump and curved. Use the curved side to provide extra stimulation to your prostate, if you have one, or your g-spot if you don’t. The stem is attached to a comfy, surfboard-shaped base that nestles securely in the crack of your ass. This contoured base shape is a vast improvement over many cheaper butt plug models that often feature a simple and not-so-cozy round base. (And you do know not to use any anal toy that does not have a flared base at all, right? Not unless you want the entire staff at your local ER to know all about your hot date earlier that evening, anyway.)

The Ditto has no batteries, which means no battery compartment, which means it’s easier to make this toy truly waterproof. It recharges via a USB cord that attaches magnetically to a port on the underside of the base. The magnetic charger is smart in theory, but in practice it is easily dislodged, so you might want to find a safe and level place to recharge your toy – not a narrow bedside table, in other words. The Ditto holds its charge for approximately two hours.

This butt plug also features a small handheld remote you can use to control the vibrating sensations deep within. Use the remote for solo play, or hand it off to your partner for some extra-spicy surprise sensations. The remote is small and comfortable enough to conceal in the palm of your hand, offering some potential public play opportunities as well. Regardless of whether you’re in public or in private, with a partner or alone, using the remote to control the vibration is probably a better bet than trying to press the tiny button on the underside of the plug once it’s in place (although it might be fun to try). You can choose from a dozen vibration patterns and intensities; one of them is sure to hit the spot, so to speak.

The only downside to the Ditto is its size. This is a butt plug aimed for timid beginners, not size queens. Seriously, the business end is narrower than my two fingers side by side. It’s shorter than my pointer finger, too. Hungry asses are thus likely to be disappointed by this product, robust vibrations notwithstanding. Hopefully the We-Vibe will consider scaling up for future toy releases.

Like all We-Vibe products, you can sync up the Ditto with an app on your phone. As far as I can tell, in close range the app merely duplicates the functions of the handheld remote. If you have a long-distance lover that you like to video chat with, however, you might get a lot of fun out of fiddling with the pastel wave patterns displayed on the We-Vibe app and watching your partner’s reactions as the sensation in their ass changes according to your whim. Do keep in mind, though, that you can only sync up one We-Vibe toy at a time to the app, at least for now.

If you’re looking for a classy vibrating plug to introduce yourself or someone else to anal play, the Ditto is definitely worth checking out. It’s pricier than many non-vibrating “beginner” butt plugs, but the cost reflects its thoughtful design and suite of features. It’s ideal target are “eager, but shy” folks who already know they like some back-door stimulation but aren’t quite ready for the big toys. I have some good news in that department as well, though: if you use the Ditto often enough, you may find that the vibrations help you learn to relax your ass for more strenuous play later. Whether that’s “later in the evening” or “later next week/month/year” is ultimately up to you.

The Ditto retails for $129 and shipping is free on orders within the US over $50. Adult FriendFinder members also get a special 5% discount off their entire order with the coupon code AFFWEVIBE at checkout.

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Sex Toys Reviewed – Rave by WeVibe

Prince fans will know what I mean when I say the Rave G-spot vibrating stimulator by We-Vibe looks more than a little like a purple banana, and has the potential to make you “go crazy,” too. Or – deep cut joke alert – maybe just “Rave Un2 the Joy Fantastic.”  (Thumbs up to those of you who don’t need a translation from Prince-Speak.) Seriously, I think the toy designer was a secret fan, because the coincidences are a little bit too (G-)spot on.

The Purple Pleaser

The Rave is a sleek silicone baton, gently curved and also slightly asymmetrical. It feels great in your hand, and its surface is utterly smooth – so smooth, in fact, that at first I wasn’t sure where the input socket was. It turns out there’s a tiny little dimple where you insert the adapter when you need to recharge this beauty. The seamless design means the Rave is “splashproof,” which is a fancy way of saying water-resistant. In other words, don’t drop it in the tub or run it through the dishwasher, but don’t worry if you spill your bedside glass of water (or other, more organic fluids) on it either.

Does Rave Hit the Spot?

While the Rave advertises itself as a G-spot stimulator, most effective G-spot vibes have a more pronounced curve or hook than the Rave does, so it may take a little fiddling to get it to, um, hit the spot. Fortunately, the Rave is much more versatile than its advertising might make it appear. Its shape makes it lovely for clitoral stimulation, too. It’s super-quiet and features a range of vibration patterns and intensities, so you’re sure to find a setting that works for you. The controls are easy-to-use by touch, and it holds charge for up to two hours so you can take your time getting to know it.  Like all We-Vibes, the Rave is free from BPA, phthalates, and latex so it’s completely body-safe as well.

The WeConnect App

All We-Vibes can sync up with a smartphone app that allows you to control its speed, intensity, and vibration pattern remotely. Syncing up the app and the toy via Bluetooth was a little tricky; the first time I tried it, my phone crashed. (I have an Android phone, for what it’s worth.) The second attempt went more smoothly, however. Lacking long-distance lovers, I have no easy way of testing the remote feature at the moment, but pair it up with a video chat app and it sounds like the fixings for one hot virtual date!

Price

The Rave retails for $119 and shipping is free on orders within the US over $50. Adult FriendFinder members also get a special 5% discount off their entire order with the coupon code AFFWEVIBE at checkout.

Final Thoughts

The Rave is full of fun — its gentle curve and asymmetrical design feels good in the hand. It delivers a range of strong but controllable sensation, it’s easy to maneuver and clean, and its controls are pretty intuitive. It’s rechargeable, holds a charge for up to two hours, and doesn’t take any batteries. This allows the Rave to be completely sheathed in silicone, leaving it sleek, attractive, and splash proof. You can insert it or use it externally, or move back and forth as you see fit. This is one of the most handsome toys I’ve seen on the market in a while, a definite keeper.

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Sex Toys Reviewed – WeVibe Jive

Sex toys are a great way to spice up your sex life, so when the awesome people at WeVibe offered to send us some products to try out, we were more than happy to oblige.

After receiving a sampling of their most popular products, the editorial team took our pick of what we wanted to test out ourselves. Since I got first dibs (seniority has its privileges), I grabbed the Jive and headed home to surprise the hubby with a little wine and lots of sex.

Fresh Out the Box

One great thing about Jive is the packaging is sleek and super compact. Unlike a lot of other sex toys on the market this one fits discreetly in my purse, which is great since I forgot it was there during my trip to Bevmo on the way home. Imagine opening my purse at the checkout line with a huge vibrator on full display. Ha!

Once I got it home and opened the box, the first thing I noticed is how pretty the vibe is. I know this type of product is more about function than style, but if I’m gonna put something inside my body I want it to look pleasing and not scary. The Jive is a pretty ice blue color, with smooth edges and a flexible band that helps the device fit the contours of different body types. So whether you’re slender, BBW, or somewhere in between, you should have no trouble using this.

Do You Speak Jive?

Jive gives you the ability to play solo or with a partner, and the best part is your partner can control your vibe from anywhere in the world as long as they have the WeConnect app on their phone. They can control your orgasm with pre-set rhythms on the app, or create their own. This feature was my personal favorite as it leaves plenty of room for creativity.

Pleasure You Can Wear

The WeVibe site says Jive is comfortable enough to wear during your normal activities, and that’s mostly true. I wore mine at home and at the office with no issues, though I didn’t keep it in for very long because it can feel a bit too noticeable after a few hours. While it never fell out, I wouldn’t recommend using it while walking as it can be kinda distracting to get a buzz while you’re hustling to a meeting in heels. Don’t ask me how I know that…

The WeConnect App

The app works great on both iPhone and Android. It’s easy-to-use and didn’t crash once, even with hours (and hours!) of use at a time.

We did run into one minor snafu – we each had a toy (review on his coming soon) and tried to use them at the same time in the same room, which apparently you can’t do.  As we tried to sync them up, the app kept un-syncing because it couldn’t decide which toy it was connecting to.

What it Feels Like

Once we got the app situation figured out, we got down to business. The Jive is super smooth and comfortable to put in. The size is also just right, as I’ve found other wearable vibes to be a little too large and bulky for their intended purposes.

While the pre-set vibrations are great (cha-cha-cha is my favorite), I was the most excited when my partner took control and created his own rhythms. All he had to do was trace his fingers around the screen in different patterns which made for a really fun time.

About the Company

WeVibe was founded ten years ago by a husband and wife who came up with the concept after going on vacation to Australia and having a lot of sex. During their sex-cation they began to wonder why there wasn’t a vibrator couples could use to stimulate both partners during the act. And thus, an idea was born.

Since then, WeVibe has become the #1 couple’s vibe in the world, with over six million sold. And honestly we can see why.

Pros:

  • Bluetooth controlled (for long distance)
  • Waterproof
  • Sleek
  • WeConnect App is easy-to-use
  • Quiet vibrations
  • Rechargeable (cables included)
  • Lasts up to 2 hours per charge
  • Made from body safe, medical grade silicone

Cons:

  • Can’t use multiple devices in the same room at the same time

Price

The Jive retails for $119 and shipping is free on orders within the US over $50. This is a really good price considering the quality of the product. It’s also $50-$75 cheaper than similar products I found in adult stores and on the internet.

The Final Verdict

This is hands down the best toy we’ve used in ages, and it now has a permanent place in our “fun drawer.” If you would like to see for yourself (and we HIGHLY recommend that you do), enter the coupon code AFFWEVIBE at checkout for 5% off your entire order.

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