Having a Friend With Benefits (FWB) provides convenience, incredible orgasms, and an all-around exhilarating experience. Many even find that the new relationship energy they get from a new fuck partner is just as intense as what they get from a new romantic partner. Like traditional dating, however, not every FWB relationship will work out for the long term. The good thing about a FWB setup is more often than not, both parties are aware the relationship will eventually come to an end.
So what do you do when your FWB relationship runs its course, and you’re ready to move on to the next? Assuming your partner hasn’t done anything seriously offensive, you’re going to want to let them down easy, so they know you appreciate the time you had together, but it’s just time to move on.
Get on the Same Page
There are three ways to break it off with a friend with benefits if you feel the arrangement is no longer working for you. When determining which one of these methods you should use, consider whether or not you and your sex friend are currently on the same page. In some cases, both people know that the casual relationship is coming to a close, making it much easier to approach them about cutting ties. If you feel this is the case, the conversation may be a relief for both of you.
In other cases, something may have changed in the FWB relationship, making things less enjoyable for one or both partners. If the issue hasn’t been addressed, you may want to consider communicating with your casual friend openly and honestly to see if there is a way to salvage the relationship or move back towards the fantastic sex you were having earlier in the relationship.
In many cases, things aren’t as straightforward. For example, sometimes one person wants to continue being friends with benefits, while the other doesn’t. Other times, one person has decided to push for a full-on relationship while the other has no interest in anything serious. In these situations, awareness is the first step to moving forward.
Each of these instances has different recommendations for breaking it off and moving on. There are overlaps to each, so read on for more information.
When The FWB Relationship Fizzles
Maybe neither of you is feeling the sex anymore, or perhaps your schedules are not lining up, which leads to bickering and frustration. In this case, you should consider a straightforward, friendly, and direct approach. People appreciate honesty in their relationships, whether they’re long-term romances, friendships, or relationships that involve sex.
If you’re not planning on keeping the other person around as a friend, the conversation should be polite and direct. Navigating casual sex relationships where you’d like to keep the other person as a friend can be a bit more tricky. Focusing on all the things you enjoy about them as a person while moving away from the conversation about sex can be the best way forward. Many people find that they’ve already noticed the other person losing interest in the sexual relationship and have found themselves doing the same. This realization can lead to a sense of relief, and when the relationship ends, everyone is free to move on. All in all, this is a win-win for both people.
If There’s Hope on the Horizon
If you’re reading this article, it’s likely because whatever issues you’re having with your FWB can’t be fixed. However, there are situations where a new process, communication, or sense of awareness can restore a relationship so the amazing sex can continue. FWBs often keep going when the sex is incredible unless a new relationship enters the fold, external factors occur, or the sexual connection dissipates.
When a new relationship enters the fold, or you lose your physical passion for the other, things will likely end no matter how many discussions you have. External factors like a new job, difficulty with transportation, longer and longer periods between sexual fun, and other external factors can often be fixed. Tactfully express your needs, letting the other person know that the sex is fantastic and you love it, though other things are causing some frustration. If you can develop a mutually beneficial solution, sometimes you may decide to give it another go.
When One Person Wants to Stay FWB
Good communication is essential when one person wants to continue a FWB relationship, and the other doesn’t. As much as you might want to avoid it, it’s time to have a respectful conversation. Keep a level head and make sure you keep the conversation moving forward even if the other person resists at first. If one party no longer wants to be in the FWB relationship, it’s time to rip off the bandaid and end it.
Sex is about having fun, and many FWB relationships end as the fun fades no matter the reason. So when the time comes, bow out gracefully so you both can move on to new situations that make you happy!
If you’re looking for a new FWB, you know exactly where to look!
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