Many people dread spending time with their extended family over the holidays. The awkward questions about your life, family tension, and drama can make it hard to have a good time. However, you can still have a good time this holiday season by making the most of your casual relationships.
The Benefits Of Casual Dates For The Holidays
Whether you have a good relationship with your family or not, there are a lot of benefits to having casual dates around for the holidays. Not only is it good to have someone on your side when the awkward conversations start but knowing you’ll be getting laid later can really take the edge off as your family drills you about why you’re not married with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence yet.
If you’re hoping to turn your casual fling into something more, having them around for the holidays can also be a great bonding experience. Just be sure to communicate your intentions upfront, so everyone is on the same page. Of course, if you aren’t looking for anything serious, you can always invite a friend with benefits with nowhere to go for the holidays, so the arrangement benefits everyone involved.
Keep Things Light Over The Holidays
The appeal of casual sex is a simple arrangement where both parties connect for physical pleasure and nothing more. However, this arrangement can get a little more complex during the holidays when emotions and Christmas cheer are flowing. By keeping things light, you can minimize any confusion about intentions.
If you find yourself in this grey area, you can keep a few rules of thumb in mind. First, people you’re in strictly sex-only fuck friendships are not generally someone you would bring to your family events over the holidays. However, people you have casual friendships with can be excellent to invite. Since you have already established a friendship, chances are you have enough in common to carry on a conversation at the party, and you know if they will mesh well with your family members or not.
Taking the Right Partner is Essential
Take some time to vet potential candidates before the holidays, so you aren’t struggling to find a date at the eleventh hour. Think about who would be an excellent fit to get along with your family and keep things relaxed and simple.
Those who have no expectations for the future are generally the best choices, as you don’t have to worry that they will fantasize about one day joining the family. This also lets you have a few brief conversations about your relatives, so they know the proper etiquette and what to expect. Be open and direct while expressing your needs, wants, and desires. If you invite a friend or acquaintance, also talk about plans afterward. Managing expectations is essential.
Choosing someone who will not make things weird is also essential. Tact is necessary for family gatherings, dates, work parties, and more. Most people know that talking about casual sex, polyamory, swinging, BDSM, and other topics are not appropriate for certain types of gatherings.
Hold the Line
Many people choose not to meet the families of their casual sex friends. If you have a casual fling and are not interested in meeting their family or having them meet yours, stick with this boundary.
How To Ask
If you are in a casual relationship with someone you are interested in inviting to a family event, you need the right approach. First, make sure they know that you do not need to meet their family in return and that they will be attending the function in a “friend” capacity. Also, be sure to ask if they have any boundaries in mind so you (and your family) can be respectful at all times.
Event Etiquette
Bringing someone to a family event is one thing, and planning to have raunchy sex after is another. There are plenty of ways you can add sexy fun to your evening without giving your aunt Edna a coronary. Keep your phones on you and occasionally send naughty or dirty text messages to each other.
Also, make sure to let the other person know in advance if you plan on sending nudes from the bathroom so that they can open with discretion. You don’t want someone in the family leaning over and catching a glimpse of something you don’t want them to see!
If you want to get a little physical, plan to take a little walk or head to a more private area for a quick make-out session or peck on the cheek. However, be tactful and talk with the other person about their comfort level before doing this. Things can be a little flirtatious, but know that the comfort of everyone, including family, is important. While you and your casual sex friend might be more polarizing in general, try not to be too polarizing in family or work environments.
Have Fun!
Make it hot, make it fun, and make it welcoming. So talk it out and get ready for some sexy fun this holiday season!
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