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Guide to Outdoor Sex – Winter Edition 

Sex outdoors can be a thrill. The rush, the risk of getting caught, and the adrenaline-fueled orgasms could be enough to get anyone’s blood pumping. And while most people think sex outside should be reserved for warm, sandy beaches, there are ways to heat things up outdoors during the winter. 

In fact, some of the hottest sex happens when it’s cold outside. It can be a huge turn-on during cupcaking season, plus the sex also has an edge to it in terms of new experiences.

While an outdoor tryst in colder climates can undoubtedly be sexy, you should also exercise extreme caution to keep everyone safe. The cold can make it harder for some people to get an erection, and the colder air can also affect the sensitive skin surrounding the genitals in more extreme cases. But, of course, there are ways to safely have sex outdoors in frigid temperatures, so let’s explore how.

Take Care When Choosing A Spot

As with any outdoor sex, choosing the right location is everything. Places where people are likely to come across you having sex, or areas where you will be on a video camera you don’t have control of, are all locations you should avoid. Make sure to choose a spot you’re comfortable in and consider other people in your decisions.

Many people choose to have their first outdoor sex experiences on private property, whether renting a cabin in the woods, having sex in their backyard or garage, or getting comfortable in other places that people don’t frequent. But, of course, there are other considerations when having sex outside in the wintertime.

While having sex in the winter is exhilarating, be aware of the temperature outside, how windy it is, and more. If you feel your face start to freeze the moment you step outside, it’s likely too cold to have sex outdoors. But, of course, if you’re feeling adventurous, you can use some strategies to have fun in the freezing cold.

Choosing a partially indoor spot or one protected from the wind can help protect you against the wind chill factor. Some people have outdoor hot tubs, for example, that offer an invigorating contrast between hot and cold. Many people also choose to have sex outdoors while camping, opening up some windows in their tents and enjoying nature. The tent can help keep the warmth in, and some people also use sleeping bags and blankets to help keep them warm. If you can plug a body heater in nearby, that’s another option. That said, there is a more simple way to keep warm when having sex outside.

Keep Some Clothes On

Many people are used to having sex naked, but there are benefits to leaving some clothes on. This is particularly true in the winter when being able to pull down your pants to give accessibility to your private parts can be a godsend. In addition, you can wear sweaters, jackets, pants, boots, and layer up to help keep your body warm.

The other benefit to partial clothing is if you hear people coming, you can quickly pull your pants back up. There also have been scientific studies showing that people who wear socks have an easier time getting off, plus they keep your feet toasty in the snow. If you’re wearing a skirt, pair it with crotchless tights or leggings. This gives easy access to your genitals while keeping your legs warm. 

Eliminate Expectations

It’s healthy to have expectations of orgasm with sexual experiences, but that doesn’t have to be your only goal. Sex should also be about adventure and passion, all of which can be explored without orgasm. 

Also, it may be easier for one person to get off outside in the winter than another. Oral sex, fingering, remote control sex toys, and other options are available. You and your play friends can alternate who’s getting pleasured, the location, what people are wearing, and more. Keep things practical, have reasonable expectations, and think about potential obstacles beforehand.

Always Be Safe

There are many places to have orgasms in the winter, even outside. That said, keeping it safe means understanding the environment. The sex should be quick and dirty, with a minimum amount of time spent having sex. Many people also recommend using different strategies for foreplay so that both people are ready to go when it is time to fuck. Dress as warm as you can and keep your clothes off only for short periods. You can always continue the fun inside if you’re still really turned on. 

In terms of physical safety, you should always watch for signs of frostbite while out in the snow. It can be tough to focus on that at the moment, but your health should always come first no what else is going on. So before venturing out into the cold, be sure to research frostbite and make sure everyone involved in the sex is aware of potential risks.

Always Plan Ahead

Part of having a fantastic outdoor sexual experience is planning ahead. Make sure you’re getting the right gear, aware of the weather, and selecting appropriate clothing for the weather. Many people discuss the possibility of sex outside in advance but still keep things relatively spontaneous. Rather than carrying around lube, things like long-lasting vaginal moisturizers can be an alternative. Some lubricants last for up to three days, giving a larger window. Keep in mind that cleaning up after may also need to be done if you have sex on outdoor surfaces. Remember, it’s important to be courteous to those who may come along after you and your partner have left. 

Final Notes

Outdoor sex is a fantastic winter activity, though you need to be safe and mindful about it. It can also be one of the hottest experiences, and awareness, research, and planning are three things that make it even better. 

As always, have fun and be safe! 

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Making the Most of the Holidays When Your Family Doesn’t Approve of Your Lifestyle

The holiday season is supposed to be full of bliss and cheer. Still, many individuals and couples alike know that their holiday plans can be severely derailed by family members who do not understand and/or agree with their lifestyle and sexual choices. While it is emotionally taxing to spend time around people who are so judgmental, sometimes it feels unavoidable. Therefore, we want to provide some valuable tools and ideas for surviving holiday gatherings that involve people who are less than kind about the way you live. 

Decide What is Worth Fighting For 

Heading into a holiday gathering with a negative attitude and the expectation that a clash of ideals is about to occur is a sure way to make that possibility far more likely. In other words, if you head to a family gathering believing that you are going to have disagreements, then you probably are. This is why it is so important to pick your battles and decide what you must speak up about. For example, imagine that you are part of an LGBTQ couple, and you are bringing your partner around family members who are upset by this fact. You might need to stand up and say something if they:

  • Directly insult or attack your partner or yourself because of your sexuality.
  • Use insensitive and disrespectful terms towards you or your partner.
  • Suggest that you and your partner are not welcomed at the gathering because of your sexuality (in this event, you may want to simply leave)

However, there are also times when it might be better to accept that parts of your family will be less than welcoming to you and your partner. You might decide to hold your tongue regarding: 

  • Differences in political or religious views
  • Uncomfortable silences, glances, or minor comments
  • A slight coldness shown towards you or your partner

None of these things are pleasant to experience, and none of them should happen in a fully functional and loving family. Still, there are also situations in which it might be easier to simply move on and try to have as nice of a gathering as possible despite the lack of warmth exhibited by specific individuals. 

Know That You Should Be Able to Express Affection Towards Your Partner

The holiday season brings up feelings in most of us that make us want to cling to our loved ones and show them a physical expression of our affection for them. Of course, this is perfectly acceptable to do around your family, as long as the PDA is kept within reasonable limitations. Obviously, you don’t want to carry things too far and make people uncomfortable, but you shouldn’t have to feel like you cannot express feelings towards your partner at all. Advocate.com recommends the following regarding PDA:

I wouldn’t have a full make-out session in front of your parents. (I’m not exactly sure why you would want to do that.) But a peck on the lips, hugging, hand-holding, and calling each other “honey” is completely fine. At least if those expressions of affection would be appropriate in your family and culture if you were straight.

These are all things that straight couples do without thinking about it and asking permission to do so. It is assumed that their expressions of affection are perfectly acceptable to everyone there, and this is why they don’t even think twice about it. Same-sex couples should have the same freedoms and flexibility to do what they want. 

Try to Understand Where Others Are Coming From

LGBTQ individuals are not the only ones who might feel a bit of iciness that has nothing to do with the weather outside when they come home for the holidays. Other sexual minority groups have also felt the sting of misunderstanding, disguise, and general rejection when they come around their families. Swingers, those who are into particular sexual fetishes, and other groups of people have said that they also sometimes experience less than inviting family holiday gatherings. It is a sad reality, but it is one that those individuals have no choice but to combat. 

One of the most helpful things that people in these situations can do is attempt to understand where their family is coming from. This is not to say that they have to accept homophobia or any other type of discriminatory behavior. Still, it is helpful to guide those who might be ignorant or scared of others towards a more open-minded understanding of how the world works. It is quite possible that there are minds that can still be changed and people who can be saved from heading down the path of hatred. 

If it seems best to avoid the topics of your sexual life, then do that, but if members of your family have questions about how you live your life, perhaps try to be open about it with them. It might feel very personal and even a little uncomfortable for you, but you just might help someone better understand how you live and why they shouldn’t be afraid of you or your lifestyle. It can open up a conversation that genuinely touches someone else’s heart. 

Always Keep the Option to Leave in Your Back Pocket 

Not every situation is salvageable, and not every person can handle certain situations. Don’t subject yourself to abuse simply to try to spend time around people who are supposed to love you for who you are. If they cannot give you any respect at all, they may simply have to accept that you are not going to stick around to continue to experience their abuse. Sometimes, walking away is the only option you have. 

Remember, you are not a bad person for wanting to spare yourself from the shame, embarrassment, and pain of emotional abuse at the hands of your family. You have to move forward in your life, which may mean walking out the door during a family holiday gathering. Do not let people in your family guilt trip you for leaving the event if they cannot be respectful enough to have you in their home and treat you with basic human dignity. 

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Foot Fetishes are More Common Than You Think

Feet. Many of us don’t give them much thought, but did you know it’s one of the most common fetishes? In fact, one 2007 study of fetishes showed that the most common fetish in their sample was feet and objects associated with feet, including shoes, pantyhose, and socks. Supporting this study is a thriving market for foot pictures that continues as fetish content becomes more accessible each year. 

So, why are so many people sexually fascinated with feet? Is it something to worry about if you find yourself wanting to suck on toes? Or is it more common than we think?

Let’s look at foot and shoe fetishes and see if we can unpack this.

Who Fantasizes About Feet?

According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute, about 14% of participants in his survey had some kind of sexual fantasy in which feet or toes played a role. Of course, this doesn’t mean they are all foot fetishists, but there’s an interesting breakdown.

First of all, men are more likely to fantasize about feet than women, with the highest percentage, 21%, being gay or bisexual men. And amongst women, lesbian and bisexual women are more likely to be into feet than straight women, at 11% and 5%, respectively.

Maybe this does map to who wears and doesn’t wear high heels. Or perhaps women are just less willing to reveal their fetishes. Which might tell us something about…

Why Feet?

A fetish, or paraphilia, is a kind of conditioning. Your brain becomes trained to associate a specific object with sexual arousal. Feet have several, well, complicated associations. Here are some of the reasons people might go for feet:

  1. It really is about those high heels. We associate certain types of footwear with sexiness and sometimes with sluttiness. Do a Google search on “Sexy shoes,” and you’ll find SexyShoes.com (which sells drag queen shoes, amongst other things), sinfulshoes.com, and all kinds of other sites that specifically associate shoes with being sexy, which can lead to associating the shoes with arousal. Images of women in languorous poses wearing high heels may well explain why men are more likely to go for shoes.
  2. Biology. Feet share nerves with your genitals, which is why some people are turned on by having their feet licked and sucked. Which then provides a great opportunity for people turned on by, well, doing the licking. Feet do have many nerve endings, so you could argue that being attracted to feet is, in fact, perfectly normal.
  3. Dominance/submission. This is where foot fetishes cross over with kink. Being literally at or under a domme’s feet is the turn-on for many men, with the subversion of traditional gender roles. After all, the classic “uniform” of the dominatrix includes amazing boots. Shoes thus end up great toys for dominance games.

So, what makes people foot fetishists?

The tendency to develop a fetish may be genetic. As children, we also see and touch feet a lot, which can result in sexual imprinting, especially in a society where we keep our genitals thoroughly covered. One foot fetishist blames his urges on the fact that a girl he had a crush on once left her sneakers at his house, allowing him to play with them.

Either way, feet are a common fetish target for biological and social reasons, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Does Fantasizing About Feet or Enjoying a Foot Massage Make you a Fetishist?

Enjoying a foot massage, which can be sexual to some people, doesn’t mean you’re a fetishist. Having your feet “treated” is going to feel good; that’s normal.

Most people have unique sexual fantasies. A fetishist needs the involvement of the object they’re fixated on to achieve arousal. So, a foot fetishist is likely to want and need to involve feet and shoes in their foreplay somehow.

Experimenting with foot licking also doesn’t make you a fetishist; it might just be a fun thing to try. But, on the other hand, if you think you have a foot fetish, don’t be afraid to play with it and where it goes. 

Are Foot Fetishes Harmful?

Absolutely not. Somebody who has a foot fetish might look at foot pictures instead of or in addition to regular porn. In fact, some women who wouldn’t otherwise engage in “sex work” will sometimes sell photos of their feet. They might also involve shoes in masturbation and foreplay or buy sex toys that look like feet. (Because, of course, there are foot-shaped pocket pussies out there).

The only time a foot fetish can cause harm is if the person with the fetish seeks a partner who is very much not into having their feet involved in sex, so it’s best to find that out early.

What Kind of Feet Play Might You Want to Try?

So, you think you might have a foot fetish? Or you’re dating somebody with a foot fetish and want to make them happy. Many, but not all, foot fetishists like to lick, suck, and nibble on feet, but there are a few other things you can explore, like the above-mentioned foot-shaped sex toys.

Some foot fetishists are attracted to adorned feet. They might want their partner to get their toenails nails done and wear an anklet or foot jewelry. To people like this, nail paint and foot jewelry are equivalent to getting your partner to wear sexy underwear.

If you’re into shoes, you could try keeping your shoes on or having your partner keep their shoes on, or ceremonially removing shoes much the same way you might undress your partner.

There’s absolutely nothing weird about being into feet, and a lot more of us probably are to some degree than admit it. Like most fetishes, podophilia is entirely harmless. Lots of us have some kind of fetish, and there’s nothing weird or strange about it.

In fact, it’s very healthy to explore your potential fetishes and find other people to practice and celebrate them with! 

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How to Plan Your First Orgy

Anyone who has ever masturbated knows one is too few people for a quality orgy. But if you’ve gone to a big sex party and felt a bit out of place, then you also know that hundreds of people make an orgy much less intimate than you may desire. So, how many people should you invite to your next orgy, and what else should you know about creating a great guest list that will satisfy every participant?

Planning an orgy takes time, consideration, and tact. There are numerous ways to plan one, so if you’re interested in hosting an orgy, the tips below can help you get started. In orgies, consent is vital, as is trust. While some people prefer to have orgies with strangers, others only invite people they know and trust.

Space is a Consideration

Many people consider five to be the minimum number of participants for an orgy. Three people is a threesome, four is a foursome, and five or more is an orgy. The amount of available space is a determining factor in finding your ideal orgy numbers. People should be able to get comfortable, with a proper amount of furniture to play on. In most cases, oversized chairs, beds, and couches will suffice. Some people choose to put placemats and mat covers on the floor, another option for creating more space where many people can roll around at once. Smaller pieces of furniture can be limiting if multiple people want to touch each other simultaneously.

If you’re considering having an orgy and don’t mind who hosts the event, you can talk amongst the people involved to determine the ideal space among those available. However, keep in mind that if you don’t know someone well, you may want to do some vetting before considering their place for your next orgy. 

Think About Establishing Safety Protocols

Will your orgy require people to have condoms and switch between partners? Are you going to be asking for a recent STI test? People have different standards when it comes to setting up an orgy. Those who are considering attending will have questions. They will want to know about safe sex practices, and they will also want to know about how you are vetting people for the party. Gather your thoughts on these things and communicate them to your guests in advance so they can be prepared. 

The Right Number of People For an Orgy – It’s About the People

The best number of people for an orgy is also impacted by who is there. If one person is sucking the positive energy out of the room, one less person (that one) might be better. This is why vetting is so necessary. If you’re hosting a party and a person is causing issues, removing them may be the best option. The goal is for everyone at the party to have a good time, so be a good host and help that happen.

Sending Out Invites

When organizing an orgy, do not give the address of the orgy to just anyone. To maintain an ideal number of people in the orgy, you will want to limit the numbers. After determining the perfect number, it’s time to find people for the event. For example, if you’re inviting friends and friends of friends, pick two or three people to invite first, and ask them if they have people they vouch for who would also like to attend.

Ensuring that each person has somebody they are least familiar with outside of themselves can help increase comfort levels and get the action going faster.

If you’re looking to meet new people you can invite to your sex party, Adult FriendFinder is a fantastic resource. You may already have people in your network looking for orgies to attend – all you have to do is ask! Adult FriendFinder makes it easy to vet potential invitees so you can discuss consent and their thoughts on what an orgy should be. 

Don’t Start Too Big

Orgies have many moving parts, and one mistake people make is trying to plan an orgy that is much larger than they can manage easily on a first go ahead. There are logistics to planning an orgy, including space, snacks, vetting, and others. Each of these things takes time, and some take experience as well. As you continue to plan orgies, the vetting aspect will get easier. It also takes some time to figure out the appropriate amount of people for the space.

Having too many people in the space can make it hard to have the sexual fun you would like to have. Remember, people need to move around and get into different positions. There should also be an area dedicated to socializing for people who need a break or are not interested in watching other naked people fuck for the entirety of the night.

On the other hand, if you have ample space with few people, the party can feel empty. This can take away from the mood for some people, who may feel like “practically nobody showed up.” Starting small allows you to alleviate these fears. One way that people move through this is by starting with four people they know will show up. Then, invite a few more people, and know that even if only three or four people show, fantastic group sex will happen. If you have enough space for more than five people, take some time to invite an additional two or three people as not everybody will come to your event each time.

Final Notes

It is always wise to think about your goals for your event. For example, if the goal is sex with strangers, the vetting process may differ. In addition, there may be more people overall. For example, many sex lovers are interested in orgies, and gangbangs are also popular. When considering the number of people to invite, consider specific genders attending. In orgies, people touch other people’s bodies, and gender is often not an issue.

Once your plan is in place, you’re ready to get going!

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Must-Have Items for Your Kink Drawer

Everyone has one. A shoebox under the bed, a bed stand drawer, or perhaps a massive room most houseguests aren’t allowed to see. 

If you don’t have a drawer full of kinky goodies hiding somewhere but get excited at the thought of having all the sexy delights you can handle at your fingertips, then now is as good a time as any to get started. 

Stocking your kink drawer can be almost as fun as putting your gear to use with your favorite playmates. So let’s look at what every kinkster should have on hand, plus some less known devices that might amp up your creativity the next time you decide to meet up with a like-minded partner for roleplay!

1 – Cuffs

Cuffs and restraints are a must-have item for even the most vanilla bedroom. Why? With over half the population having some fantasy about being restrained or wanting to restrain a sex partner, it’s a very common way to play. 

There are plenty of options for the beginner to become more experienced. If you’ve never tried cuffs before, opt for a pair with fluffy liners and softer materials. The idea here is to keep hands, or maybe ankles restricted, but not necessarily in a painful way. 

As a novice, you’ll want to choose cuffs with big, easy-to-use buckles to start. Sure, it may seem too easy to get out of, but once your hands are covered in lube, you’ll be thankful you went with ease-of-use over there-is-no-way-they-can escape. Also, at least at the start, it’s much more about the feeling of being restricted than being completely unable to free oneself.

Are you feeling a little more adventurous after gaining some experience? Select a tougher material or something that appeals to the fetishist inside you. Leather, rubber, and metal are all available at various price points, with metal being the most expensive. Again, make sure that whatever closing mechanism you choose is simple to use.

If you don’t want to invest in hardware because you have company often or share space, look at something simple like bondage tape. It’s cheap, disposable, and looks like a regular roll of tape when being stored if someone else discovers it in your home. It also won’t hurt the skin coming off.

One important warning for anyone just starting to experiment with cuffs: avoid using police handcuffs or anything with a similar adjustable closing system. You can cause real injury by misusing them, as they’re intended for locking down violent criminals, not for submissives who are desperately seeking orgasm permission from you.

2 – Blindfolds

Like cuffs, blindfolds are a solid mainstay in the toy chest. Sensory deprivation can be a sexy way to heighten sensitivity because they can’t see what you’re doing or what will happen next. Just remember to start slow if you’ve never tried it. For some people, it can be disorienting and may cause anxiety, so as with any kink play, always have a safe word ready ahead of time.

Blindfolds come in various shapes, sizes, and materials, including BDSM-lite fluffy fabrics or leather. A step above standard blindfolds are hoods and masks. These cover the whole head and may include a mouth hole. Low-end hoods are made from Lycra and may or may not have additional layers over the eyes. Once again, listen to your partner and use a safe word when you start experimenting. 

3 – Electric Wands

Available in various styles, Shock Play has gained a lot of popularity recently after a wave of videos on kinky porn sites made the practice popular.

Many low-voltage wands provide just enough pop to earn your partner’s full attention. Be sure you and your partner are healthy enough to engage in kinky sex before trying these devices. Consulting your doctor is always a good idea, especially if you have a pacemaker or other medical device that could be affected.

From a quick orgasm to extensive edging sessions, an electric wand is an incredibly fun toy to play with, and it provides a much more elegant solution for sub-training sessions than a crop or whip ever would. No mess, no marks… just the joy of knowing you hold the ability to focus their attention any time you like, right in the palm of your hand. 

4 – Clamps

Your next step down the kink path is clamps. A clamp is what it sounds like, a mechanism that lets you apply pressure to something. Nipple clamps are the most common kind of sex clamp. They may be the screw type or use springs. Either way, clip them over the nipple and gently let the pressure build up. 

The screw type is probably the best bet for beginners as it lets you keep the pressure adjusted to a tolerable level. While they cost a little more than the regular spring-loaded clamp, you’re more likely to have some success when the pain can be controlled. 

Important safety tip: Makeshift devices like clothespins aren’t a great way to start because they lack the sort of fine-tuning control that real clamps allow. Go with real clamps from a sex toy store, and you’ll be glad you did.

For the adventurous, there are also genital clamps available that use similar mechanisms but come in different sizes and configurations to clamp the specific body part. For example, labia clamps usually come with four clamps and chains to help keep the lips spread open. 

5 – Lube

An often overlooked but critical part of your toy chest is lube. There are many types of lube available, but they all do the same thing. So whether you’re embarking on a marathon sex session, using toys, or trying to put new things inside your partner’s orifices, lube is the key to a successful and pleasurable evening without the risk of friction burns and unnecessary discomfort. 

There are several different types of lube available, and each has its uses. You may stick with one type or have a variety depending on your desires.

Oil Based Lubes – A scented oil-based lube can be used for sensual massages that will help get your lover in the mood and can also be used to help the orifice of your choice prepare for penetration. Oil lubes are great because they don’t get sticky or lose effectiveness. However, they may degrade latex toys and condoms, so they are usually not great for insertion.

Water-Based Lubes – Won’t stain your sheets, won’t damage your toys, washes off easily but doesn’t last as long as other lube types. Very kind to the skin but get a big bottle because you’ll need to reapply often.

Silicon-Based Lubes – Gentle on your skin and hypoallergenic, so it might be a great choice for sensitive partners. It lasts longer than water-based lubes but may degrade silicone toys and make them less sanitary over time. A good choice for skin-to-skin play but not the best for solo toy adventures.

6 – First Aid Kit

While it may not seem like an obvious item to add, just ask any experienced kinkster what they’d bring on their dirty desert island getaway, and they will tell you that a first aid kit is always at the top of their list. That includes a fully charged phone if you need to call an EMT, standard things like band-aids and salves, and other items like calm music for aftercare.

Sure, you will follow the advice other people have given you and have safe words and gestures pre-planned before you start playing with BDSM, but accidents can happen. Let’s face it, two people going at it and rolling around can run even a small risk of a minor muscle pull. Or, if you’re really out of practice, a not so minor one. Once you start playing in the kink arena, those small risks may include the odd bruise or abrasion.

You don’t need anything more than the basics, some antiseptic cream, band-aids, alcohol wipes, etc., but just be sure you have them easily accessible and know where they are ahead of time just in case.

7 – Your Imagination

Most importantly, have an active open imagination and do some planning ahead. The best toy drawer in the world is still completely dependent on its owner to turn inanimate objects into amazing tools of sexual satisfaction!

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Steamy Member Story – Exhibitionist Play

It all started with a text that Saturday afternoon.

“Wanna come watch,” was all it said, and I knew what you had in mind. 

So, I replied, “Of course!! When and where?”

I knew your exhibitionist streak was kicking in, but I didn’t know what you had in mind.

“My place in about 1/2 hour,” came the quick reply, followed by, “she will let you watch but not touch if that is ok.” I figured I had nothing to lose, and I enjoy watching you, so I sent a quick, “see you then!”

I raced to get ready, wondering exactly what was going to happen. I figured it would be fun to watch, and maybe you would decide to take care of me after.

I arrived and knocked on your door. You opened it smiling. You stepped out of the way and let me in. On your couch was a pretty lady dressed in a short skirt, heels, and a button-front shirt. It was obvious that was all she had on as well. You were dressed almost the same, except you had removed your shoes. She smiled and said, “Please watch but don’t touch; I am only into women.”

“You can trust me only to do what you agree to,” I responded.

You walked over, bent over her, showing me you also had nothing under your skirt and kissed her like you owned her. She kissed you back as though she was drowning, and your kiss was the only way to get air. Clothes quickly flew everywhere as you forgot I was even there. Kisses turned into hard bites as you both aggressively attacked each other. Nipples sucked hard, clits devoured until you were both in a frenzy. She pulled out a double-headed strap on and inserted one end deep inside herself, then grabbed you and pulled you into her lap, impaling you on the other end. You both began to ride the other, and you looked over at me as if you just realized I was there. You stared, licked your lips, and rode her hard.

She noticed where you were looking and looked over and asked, “enjoying the show?” She managed to pant.

“Very much,” I replied. 

You looked up and pleaded, “move closer!”

So, I slid right beside the two of you for a very close view of the strap on sliding in and out of you both.

You looked at her and begged, “I need more!”

She grinned and said, “go ahead.”

You reached down and kissed me hard. “Stand up,” You panted.

As soon as I did, you unzipped my jeans, reached in, and pulled out my hard throbbing shaft. You engulfed it almost all the way in just one thrust. As you did, she increased her speed and power and slammed the strap on home as hard as she could. You moaned out your pleasure as you began pulling my jeans down and off.

She watched intently as you sucked me, finally pulling off long enough to gasp, “fuck my mouth hard! Make me take it!”

I grabbed your head and began to thrust my entire cock down your throat. You began to shudder as an orgasm hit. You grabbed my hips and pulled me out to beg, “fuck my ass! I want to be DPed hard!”

I moved around to slide my cock deep inside your tight little ass. You again began to shudder in orgasm.

She looked around you and asked me if I would move back to your mouth because she had never seen a guy cum up close and wanted to watch.

You panted out, “cum on my face! I want you to fuck my mouth until you are close, then pull out and cum on my face and tits!”

How could I refuse a request like that? So, I again repositioned to the back of the couch where you began sucking on me. She was sitting in a way that let her watch closely. Before long, I began to feel the stirring in my balls when I suddenly felt a tongue on the bottom of my shaft as your mouth circled the head. She had gotten so carried away that she was tasting my cock and balls as you plunged down on my shaft again and again. You were both in an orgasmic frenzy as you continued to ride each other while sharing my shaft. I began to twitch and pulled my cock from your mouth. Your hand quickly stroked me as I shot my first spurts right on your mouth. You continued to stroke me spraying the next shots on your chin, neck, and tits. She was positioned just right to get hit in the mouth with a few of them.

Smiling, she asked, “Does it all taste this good?”

You responded by kissing her and feeding her the drops from your lips, “his does.” You winked at me as I collapsed beside you as you continued to kiss and lick my cum from each other and grinding the strap on to one final shuddering orgasm where you both coated each other in an explosive spray of cum.

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Find Your Sexual Soulmate

What is a sexual soulmate? Simply put, it’s someone you connect with so profoundly on a sexual level that it feels like you were made for each other. 

In some ways, finding a sexual soulmate is less complex than finding an emotional one. A lot of what people seek when finding a sexual soulmate has to do with physical attraction, sexual personality, excellent communication, and an open mind.

While some people feel nervous or embarrassed when telling another person about their deepest fantasies and desires, it is often a necessary step in finding someone you connect with sexually. Telling someone your deepest sexual desires can be a vulnerable spot to be in, but it’s an essential step to finding that person that makes you feel like no one else can.

So, how do you start the search for your sexual soulmate? Here are some tips to get you on the right path. 

Practice Nonjudgment And Seek Nonjudgment

For you and a potential partner to figure out if you’re sexual soulmates or not, you must both be open and honest with one another. That can only happen if both parties feel they can discuss their sexual preferences without the risk of judgment. Having an open mind and being nonjudgmental does not mean you need to consent to everything a sex partner suggests, but rather that you will listen to them and consider whether the activity could be a good match for you. 

Practice Excellent Communication

Communication is essential in any relationship, and while many are looking for their sexual soulmate through natural connections, it most often doesn’t happen this way. Finding your sexual soulmate still requires a little work along the way. Communication about your needs, wants, and desires, as well as the things you like in bed, is essential. Talking about the different ways you prefer to communicate can also have an impact. Sexual soulmate matches are about more than just sex. Some people like to be called or texted once a week, while others prefer daily. Communicating outside of the other person’s preferences can have an impact over time. There are also many benefits to learning about sex and growing together. By digging into the other person’s desires and communicating well, you can see your relationship satisfaction grow over time.

Take Some Chances

For people looking for casual sex, short-term relationships, or long-term relationships, taking some chances can pay big dividends. You never know who will be great in bed, and sometimes a person’s sexual energy and personality will make them your ideal lover, even if it’s not immediately clear when you first meet. 

Even if you feel like you have a type, you shouldn’t be afraid to explore beyond those limitations to see what else is out there. Each person has different nuances, personality traits, and talents. When connecting with people, pay attention to sexual chemistry and sexual compatibility, not just immediate physical attraction. You never know who might surprise you!

Sexual Chemistry Versus Sexual Compatibility

Sexual chemistry is best described as that instant spark that makes people feel physically drawn to one another. Sometimes this happens within moments of meeting, and the chemistry is undeniable. However, in many cases, the physical attraction is coupled with compatible personalities, further feeding the energy. While this type of chemistry can often lead to passionate sex, adding sexual compatibility into the mix truly determines if someone is a sexual soulmate or just a great fuck. 

Many people can confuse sexual chemistry with sexual compatibility, but feeling a spark does not guarantee that a person will have natural sexual compatibility with someone. People have different sexual styles in bed, other wants, needs, and desires, and each of these things cannot be determined just by meeting a person and having a brief conversation. Sexual compatibility develops through communication and often extends the sexual chemistry they feel.

No Match Is 100% Perfect

There is no such thing as a perfect match, even when it comes to sexual soulmates. Perfection should not be an expectation, and having this expectation can lead to relationships ending prematurely. Instead, find a sexual partner you have chemistry with and who is open to hearing about your sexual needs and desires. Get a partner who wants to reciprocate and share their sexual needs with you as well. Another thing to consider is redefining what the term sexual soulmate means to you. Believing that there is one perfect sexual match for you can negatively impact your sexual satisfaction and relationship success. Many studies have touched upon this and found that people who define a sexual soulmate as a perfect sexual match or a person destined to be their ideal sexual match report lower levels of sexual satisfaction and relationship success. Meanwhile, couples who acknowledge that fantastic sex comes from communication, working at it, and increasing awareness have a much higher success rate.

Be Proactive

A proactive approach can bring you closer to your ideal sexual matches faster and more efficiently. Having a proactive mindset can dramatically change how you approach sex and dating and can also elevate your level of satisfaction in bed. Consent is essential, and so is communication. Many people do not communicate with potential matches nearly enough. Send out notes to people you are interested in and take a little time to connect. Then, as the sexual relationship advances, continue updating the other person and communicating with them about your needs, wants, and desires. Putting yourself out there can show vulnerability, sure, but it encourages other people to put themselves out there as well. 

So, be proactive in teaching someone how to be your sexual soulmate. Be patient, open-minded, and keep in mind that everyone’s preferences are different regarding sex and sexuality. 

Be Patient

Mind-blowing sex comes with time and constant communication. Finding someone you have a spark with is an excellent first step, and learning more about each other keeps things fresh. Changing things up, learning new things, and exploring together is essential for sexual soulmates to flourish. Both people should put their energy towards keeping the connection going. The search for your sexual soulmate can also take some patience; there may be people with chemistry who do not jive with you in other ways. There is a big difference between a sexual soulmate and a single night of mind-blowing sex. Taking the time to find ideal matches to go on sexual adventures with will pay off in the long run. 

How Do You Know You’ve Found Your Sexual Soulmate?

After you’ve had a few body-shaking orgasms, you may be wondering whether or not you have found your sexual soulmate. If you always consider passing on plans because you’d rather stay at home in bed with your partner, your sexual compatibility and chemistry may be off the charts. If you have that with a person who knows how to please without too much instruction, you may have found your sexual soulmate. 

If you’re on the search for your sexual soulmate, AdultFriendFinder.com is always a great place to start! 

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Hollywood’s New Movie Ramp Up Leads to Rise in Cosplay Opportunities

Millions of cosplayers around the world are suiting up in some of the hottest costumes in preparation for Hollywood’s upcoming releases that have sparked more interest than ever before. In 2022 alone, numerous movies are being released that provide hype and opportunity for costume enthusiasts to broaden their adventurous side and mimic some of the coolest, sometimes scary, and often desirable characters.

Scream

The sarcastically scary and easy-to-replicate Halloween favorite, Scream (2022), was released on January 14th. It includes some of the original cast, such as Neve Campbell, Courteney Cox, and David Arquette, which could make this an excellent time for a Deputy Dewey costume. But for cosplay, it’s Ghostface that steals the stage.

The Batman

Opening on March 4th, The Batman stars Robert Pattinson as Bruce Wayne. This movie presents an even darker side than before and includes DC characters The Penguin, played by the sexy Colin Farrell, and Paul Dano as the Riddler.

Morbius

This new Sony release is about a scientist who unintentionally turns himself into a vampire while searching for a cure for his rare blood disease. This flick, starring Jared Leto, is undoubtedly one of the most anticipated for those heavily into vampire cosplay. The general theme offers a mysterious costume opportunity that adds a lot of thrill to the fun.

Sonic the Hedgehog 2

An excellent choice for those with fursona (wanting to emulate a furry character or avatar), Sonic the Hedgehog is the ultimate cosplay character who first conquered the world through the video game console released by Sega in June 1991.   

Since then, Hollywood brought this adorable, high-octane character to life through motion pictures in 2020. Sadly, Sonic did not get the chance to be seen in cosplay due to the pandemic, so he will likely be a popular cosplay character this year, with his second movie coming in April.

Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness

This highly anticipated film has astonishing graphics and is one of the first Marvel Universe entries for 2022. Not only does Doctor Strange provide a magical spin on cosplay, but the character is easier than most to replicate. In addition, the film will undoubtedly tie in to and highlight other Marvel characters, giving fans the chance to bring out their costumes from earlier Marvel films. 

Furthermore, this film includes the sexy Scarlet Witch (played by Elizabeth Olsen), who can break the laws of physics while dressed in deep red hues that hug every curve of her gorgeous physique. 

Jurassic World Dominion 

The last Jurassic movie ended with the declaration that humans would have to co-exist with dinosaurs, thus making this film even more thrilling for cosplayers who desire an intriguing adventure, especially if they wish to relish in the behavior that a dinosaur portrays. While such a character role requires an extensive amount of effort, we’re confident that many will be lured and fascinated by those willing to go that extra mile to achieve the wow factor in the world of cosplay.  

Thor: Love and Thunder

With the return of a star-studded cast, Thor: Love and Thunder features costumes that attract attention with armor attire that showcases the character’s sexy physiques. While difficult to pull off without broad shoulders and a strong statue, you will undoubtedly take center stage if you can replicate Thor and his mannerisms.

Additionally, there is an abundance of cosplay opportunities to mimic from this feature film, including Drax the Destroyer, Mantis, Star-Lord, Grandmaster, Valkyrie, and Groot, all providing a unique charisma. However, Thor is arguably the sexiest of the bunch to portray.

Fantastic Beasts: The Secrets of Dumbledore

Escape into the magical world of wizardry with the spin-off and prequel to the Harry Potter film series. Fantastic Beasts: The Secrets of Dumbledore enchants cosplay viewers to become mystical while achieving a role quickly.

Aside from Professor Albus Dumbledore, you can easily cosplay characters from this Hollywood flick by sporting a woolen overcoat, a scarf, or a tie with a stick as your handheld novelty weapon. While not exactly alluring in cosplay visual effects, those who mimic magicians and wizards who have a trick or two up their sleeves will always draw attention.

Black Adam

This long-awaited film starring Dwayne Johnson (also known as The Rock) will attract the masses at the movies and ignite some new costume displays. As the nemesis of Shazam, Black Adam goers will appear in a tight-fitting black material that clings to every inch of the body like a glove and is exceptionally sexy for those who have muscular, solid builds. Furthermore, this dark character allows cosplay fans to channel their dark and vengeful side, making this character fun to play.

Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse (Part One)

An all-time classic for less muscular bodies that love the feel of Lycra stretched around them, Spider-Man is back in the first of this two-part film which, while is animated, still enables keen cosplayers to portray their favorite neighborhood superhero.

You can find a plethora of Spidey costumes available online, and no matter which you purchase, everyone will know exactly who you are without knowing who you are, which makes it more exhilarating to roleplay as the character.

The Flash

With multi-verses being all the rage in 2022, it comes as no surprise that DC continues with the trend in this upcoming movie that features Ezra Miller, Ben Affleck, and the return of Michael Keaton.

While the plot in this flick is unknown, The Flash’s costume is yet another Lycra clenching outfit that oozes sexy in the cosplay community, because who doesn’t love a superhero in tights, right?

Cosplay is a way to release yourself from the stress of this world and experience adventures you never thought imaginable. Consider trying your hand at cosplay at home first to find your comfort level and then broaden your horizons and see what the fantasy world can offer you!

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A Beginner’s Guide To Cuckolding

For some, cuckolding is about a hot wife that has many male lovers outside of her loving relationship. For others, it’s about roleplay. Sometimes it’s about watching another person get it on with their partner. Those who like to walk on the wild side can also incorporate kink and BDSM into the cuckolding experience. 

Thus far, we’ve covered what cuckolding is, as well as some advanced techniques for those already in the lifestyle. In this beginner’s guide to cuckolding, we will cover the basics for those who are curious but haven’t taken the plunge yet. 

What is Cuckolding?

In general terms, cuckolding is when a woman engages in sex with someone other than her husband with his approval and consent. Sometimes the husband watches, and sometimes he doesn’t, but either way, he enjoys his wife being taken by a more dominant male, referred to as the bull. 

There are a few different forms of cuckolding, though most people do either couples cuckolding or BDSM cuckolding, which sometimes involves roleplay humiliation. Cuckolding can happen when the male partner or cuck watches, though some people also use the term to describe one partner going out and fucking another person while the other partner knows about it and stays home. This can include BDSM roleplay, sexual activity after the person returns home, roleplay humiliation, and more. 

People who cuckold can also be considered polyamorous, though not always as often the bull is not a part of the primary relationship. 

Is Cuckolding Cheating?

Though cuckolding involves sex with someone other than your spouse, it has a distinct element of consent and communication. Couples and play partners often talk about the experience in advance, though the rules might be a little laxer in swinger communities and at sex parties. Following the agreed-upon boundaries, limits, and philosophy makes it not cheating.

Consent and conversation are the two main parts of cuckolding, keeping in mind that cuckolding can be cheating if done without consent.

Bringing Cuckolding Up To Your Partner

Starting a conversation about cuckolding with your partner involves tact, respect, and knowledge. First, research cuckolding and have a good idea of what you’re looking for and why you’re interested. After you have a good idea of what you’re looking for, bring up the conversation casually and respectfully. Try to avoid moments or times that are particularly busy.

Bringing cuckolding up as a casual joke in passing can be a fantastic way to put the thought in somebody’s mind. Then, approach the person at a later point, letting them know that you’ve been thinking about it and that it might be something you would be open to. Gauge how the conversation is going and continue the discussion. If either person wants to do more research or take some time to learn more on their own, that’s okay. Being open, nonjudgmental, and tactful is essential for bringing up new sexual activities to your partner. Remember to respect your partner’s limits and boundaries, regardless of whether they’re interested in cuckolding or not. Also, keep in mind that there are live cam shows on Adult FriendFinder where you can explore cuckolding fantasies from the comfort of your home, without direct involvement from your partner.

What Happens After The Yes?

After your partner says “yes,” have a serious talk and set guidelines for each other. If you have boundaries and limits, talk about those as well. Each of these things takes research and introspection. Also, keep in mind that the idea of cuckolding is fluid. As time goes on, people may need to adjust their needs, wants, desires, boundaries, and limits. Solid communication is key to having a successful cuckolding relationship.

Sometimes couples go through some drastic changes initially. Sometimes people have feelings of withdrawal, fear, or excitement. Many people describe the start of their cuckolding adventure as a roller coaster of emotions. That’s why it’s important to iron out the details and figure out how you and your partner will approach people beforehand. If you and your partner are not on the same page, it can turn people off to cuckolding with you and make it very difficult to find the right bull for your situation. 

Planning Your First Cuckolding Date

Understanding the different types of cuckolding is essential, as it helps couples figure out how they should go about planning their first date. If your partner is leaning towards a couples cuckolding experience, each meeting is most often short-term. In many cases, the woman will not need her partner to choose the male. Instead, the focus is on physical enjoyment, and possible first dates may involve meeting for sex instead of meeting for drinks.

People looking for this type of sex should consider birth control, STI tests, and conversations about needs, wants, and expectations. Keep in mind that consent can be revoked at any time, and while many cuckold experiences in this category are one-time things, some people have regulars that they love to cuckold with. 

For people who are more interested in the BDSM version of cuckolding, take note that it may take a little bit more time and involvement to find the right match. There are also limits and boundaries to discuss, including comfort levels with roleplay humiliation, domination, and other types of involvement the cuckold could have. Will they just be watching? Is it okay if they masturbate well? What happens after the date? Are other elements of kink in BDSM acceptable during the session?

Top Places To Find Cuckolds

Use resources like Adult FriendFinder to vet potential bulls, and keep in mind that these arrangements can take a little longer to come together sometimes because every person involved has some input. You may also have friends or casual acquaintances you’re interested in. However, keep in mind that there’s a risk that you may complicate your relationship with this person after the cuckolding experience. 

If you’re looking for variety, attend local swinger and BDSM events, letting it happen naturally by giving one person a “hall pass.”

No matter how you approach it, just be sure to have fun. Good luck! 

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How to Approach Your Partner About Exploring New Kinks and Fetishes

You’ve been together a while. Long enough to start noticing your interests are wandering but not long enough to feel completely comfortable talking about exploring new kinks and fetishes with your partner. How do you get over that awkward hump and find ways to include your long-term lover in the adventures you’re eager to embark upon sometime soon?

We asked some of our top Adult FriendFinder experts, and after going through their replies, we noticed a few main points that came up nearly every time. In this article, we’ll share their lessons to help you discover the joy of sharing sex with your partner without being hindered by any uncertainty along the way.

The 3 Keys To Discussing New Kinks

It all comes down to three relatively simple keys, and fortunately, all three are elements of any quality relationship. Characteristics we can all exhibit and goals worthy of our focus as we seek to expand the value of all our current and future relationships:

1. Transparency

Transparency is all about dismantling the emotional walls we build around ourselves so we can let those closest to us get inside our world. We all become jaded as we mature, and we develop defense mechanisms to prevent us from experiencing heartbreak or causing discomfort in others. Still, the side effect of those defenses is the inevitable downward spiral of what we want – genuinely intimate relationships.

Being transparent means more than just blurting out “I want to get into cosplay and Shibari robe bondage” one day over brunch. It includes being in touch with your feelings and communicating those emotions with your partner as well.

Perhaps start with something like “Shibari rope bondage is something I’ve been thinking about lately. I’ve always been fascinated with watching that sort of stuff on video, but I’m thinking it’s something we might try out if you’re up for it. I found a class we could take and a really cool instructor teaches it. If it works out, great, if not at least it’s a fun couple Saturdays together trying something new. Are you in?”

2. Honesty

Honesty sounds way too apparent until you consider the meaning more deeply. On the one hand, you do need to be honest with your partner. Being transparent about some things while holding back others isn’t being open at all. On the other hand, it’s even more important to be honest with yourself.

Are you interested in exploring a new kink or fetish with your current partner, or are you just so unhappy in your relationship that you’re looking for a way out and using a newly discovered interest in bondage play as an excuse to break things up? One of the worst possible outcomes is one partner asking the other to try something new, the other partner agreeing, and then having the first partner choosing to move on anyway because it was never really about that new fetish in the first place.

Be honest by saying something like: “I know this is kind of coming out of nowhere because I haven’t brought it up before, but the idea of cross dressing is something that’s been in the back of my mind for as long as I can remember. Now it seems to be bubbling up to the surface and I’m a little freaked out that it won’t be acceptable to some of the people I know. I really value our relationship, and I’m hoping you can be supportive by trying this out with me to see if its really what we want, with an open mind and that smile of yours I love so much.”

3. Trust

Then we can watch as all the “What Ifs” roll in! Bringing up a new fetish or asking your partner to get kinkier with you is an emotional risk. Those kinds of choices in love always unearth questions in our minds. What if they reject the idea? What if they think I’m weird? What if they want to break up over me bringing it up in the first place?

The better question is, what if you’re in a great relationship with a partner you can trust, but you never actually find out because you’re too nervous about testing the waters with them? Simply put, if you can’t trust them to be open-minded and supportive of your sexuality, how can you trust them at all? And if you can’t trust them, why are you still in the relationship?

Trust is easy to evoke with a simple statement like, “We’ve been together for a while, and as we have discussed before, sex is a two way street. So I know I’m asking you to come out on a limb with me as we try out the kind of roleplay fantasies I’m suggesting, but I want to also make sure you know that if you have any other kinks or fetish wishes you’ve been unsure about bringing up, I’m definitely interested to hear them and help you explore them as well. I really think you’re awesome and I believe we can be here for each other in the best way possible over the long term. That’s not something I take lightly because I know how rare a relationship like this one is, and how rare and amazing a person you are.”

If you put these three keys to use in your conversations about kink, that doesn’t guarantee your partner will always say yes. Still, it ensures you’re going about it the right way, which gives you the best possible chance of succeeding in sex, in love, and every other aspect of your life.