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Guide to Outdoor Sex – Winter Edition 

Sex outdoors can be a thrill. The rush, the risk of getting caught, and the adrenaline-fueled orgasms could be enough to get anyone’s blood pumping. And while most people think sex outside should be reserved for warm, sandy beaches, there are ways to heat things up outdoors during the winter. 

In fact, some of the hottest sex happens when it’s cold outside. It can be a huge turn-on during cupcaking season, plus the sex also has an edge to it in terms of new experiences.

While an outdoor tryst in colder climates can undoubtedly be sexy, you should also exercise extreme caution to keep everyone safe. The cold can make it harder for some people to get an erection, and the colder air can also affect the sensitive skin surrounding the genitals in more extreme cases. But, of course, there are ways to safely have sex outdoors in frigid temperatures, so let’s explore how.

Take Care When Choosing A Spot

As with any outdoor sex, choosing the right location is everything. Places where people are likely to come across you having sex, or areas where you will be on a video camera you don’t have control of, are all locations you should avoid. Make sure to choose a spot you’re comfortable in and consider other people in your decisions.

Many people choose to have their first outdoor sex experiences on private property, whether renting a cabin in the woods, having sex in their backyard or garage, or getting comfortable in other places that people don’t frequent. But, of course, there are other considerations when having sex outside in the wintertime.

While having sex in the winter is exhilarating, be aware of the temperature outside, how windy it is, and more. If you feel your face start to freeze the moment you step outside, it’s likely too cold to have sex outdoors. But, of course, if you’re feeling adventurous, you can use some strategies to have fun in the freezing cold.

Choosing a partially indoor spot or one protected from the wind can help protect you against the wind chill factor. Some people have outdoor hot tubs, for example, that offer an invigorating contrast between hot and cold. Many people also choose to have sex outdoors while camping, opening up some windows in their tents and enjoying nature. The tent can help keep the warmth in, and some people also use sleeping bags and blankets to help keep them warm. If you can plug a body heater in nearby, that’s another option. That said, there is a more simple way to keep warm when having sex outside.

Keep Some Clothes On

Many people are used to having sex naked, but there are benefits to leaving some clothes on. This is particularly true in the winter when being able to pull down your pants to give accessibility to your private parts can be a godsend. In addition, you can wear sweaters, jackets, pants, boots, and layer up to help keep your body warm.

The other benefit to partial clothing is if you hear people coming, you can quickly pull your pants back up. There also have been scientific studies showing that people who wear socks have an easier time getting off, plus they keep your feet toasty in the snow. If you’re wearing a skirt, pair it with crotchless tights or leggings. This gives easy access to your genitals while keeping your legs warm. 

Eliminate Expectations

It’s healthy to have expectations of orgasm with sexual experiences, but that doesn’t have to be your only goal. Sex should also be about adventure and passion, all of which can be explored without orgasm. 

Also, it may be easier for one person to get off outside in the winter than another. Oral sex, fingering, remote control sex toys, and other options are available. You and your play friends can alternate who’s getting pleasured, the location, what people are wearing, and more. Keep things practical, have reasonable expectations, and think about potential obstacles beforehand.

Always Be Safe

There are many places to have orgasms in the winter, even outside. That said, keeping it safe means understanding the environment. The sex should be quick and dirty, with a minimum amount of time spent having sex. Many people also recommend using different strategies for foreplay so that both people are ready to go when it is time to fuck. Dress as warm as you can and keep your clothes off only for short periods. You can always continue the fun inside if you’re still really turned on. 

In terms of physical safety, you should always watch for signs of frostbite while out in the snow. It can be tough to focus on that at the moment, but your health should always come first no what else is going on. So before venturing out into the cold, be sure to research frostbite and make sure everyone involved in the sex is aware of potential risks.

Always Plan Ahead

Part of having a fantastic outdoor sexual experience is planning ahead. Make sure you’re getting the right gear, aware of the weather, and selecting appropriate clothing for the weather. Many people discuss the possibility of sex outside in advance but still keep things relatively spontaneous. Rather than carrying around lube, things like long-lasting vaginal moisturizers can be an alternative. Some lubricants last for up to three days, giving a larger window. Keep in mind that cleaning up after may also need to be done if you have sex on outdoor surfaces. Remember, it’s important to be courteous to those who may come along after you and your partner have left. 

Final Notes

Outdoor sex is a fantastic winter activity, though you need to be safe and mindful about it. It can also be one of the hottest experiences, and awareness, research, and planning are three things that make it even better. 

As always, have fun and be safe! 

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Making the Most of the Holidays When Your Family Doesn’t Approve of Your Lifestyle

The holiday season is supposed to be full of bliss and cheer. Still, many individuals and couples alike know that their holiday plans can be severely derailed by family members who do not understand and/or agree with their lifestyle and sexual choices. While it is emotionally taxing to spend time around people who are so judgmental, sometimes it feels unavoidable. Therefore, we want to provide some valuable tools and ideas for surviving holiday gatherings that involve people who are less than kind about the way you live. 

Decide What is Worth Fighting For 

Heading into a holiday gathering with a negative attitude and the expectation that a clash of ideals is about to occur is a sure way to make that possibility far more likely. In other words, if you head to a family gathering believing that you are going to have disagreements, then you probably are. This is why it is so important to pick your battles and decide what you must speak up about. For example, imagine that you are part of an LGBTQ couple, and you are bringing your partner around family members who are upset by this fact. You might need to stand up and say something if they:

  • Directly insult or attack your partner or yourself because of your sexuality.
  • Use insensitive and disrespectful terms towards you or your partner.
  • Suggest that you and your partner are not welcomed at the gathering because of your sexuality (in this event, you may want to simply leave)

However, there are also times when it might be better to accept that parts of your family will be less than welcoming to you and your partner. You might decide to hold your tongue regarding: 

  • Differences in political or religious views
  • Uncomfortable silences, glances, or minor comments
  • A slight coldness shown towards you or your partner

None of these things are pleasant to experience, and none of them should happen in a fully functional and loving family. Still, there are also situations in which it might be easier to simply move on and try to have as nice of a gathering as possible despite the lack of warmth exhibited by specific individuals. 

Know That You Should Be Able to Express Affection Towards Your Partner

The holiday season brings up feelings in most of us that make us want to cling to our loved ones and show them a physical expression of our affection for them. Of course, this is perfectly acceptable to do around your family, as long as the PDA is kept within reasonable limitations. Obviously, you don’t want to carry things too far and make people uncomfortable, but you shouldn’t have to feel like you cannot express feelings towards your partner at all. Advocate.com recommends the following regarding PDA:

I wouldn’t have a full make-out session in front of your parents. (I’m not exactly sure why you would want to do that.) But a peck on the lips, hugging, hand-holding, and calling each other “honey” is completely fine. At least if those expressions of affection would be appropriate in your family and culture if you were straight.

These are all things that straight couples do without thinking about it and asking permission to do so. It is assumed that their expressions of affection are perfectly acceptable to everyone there, and this is why they don’t even think twice about it. Same-sex couples should have the same freedoms and flexibility to do what they want. 

Try to Understand Where Others Are Coming From

LGBTQ individuals are not the only ones who might feel a bit of iciness that has nothing to do with the weather outside when they come home for the holidays. Other sexual minority groups have also felt the sting of misunderstanding, disguise, and general rejection when they come around their families. Swingers, those who are into particular sexual fetishes, and other groups of people have said that they also sometimes experience less than inviting family holiday gatherings. It is a sad reality, but it is one that those individuals have no choice but to combat. 

One of the most helpful things that people in these situations can do is attempt to understand where their family is coming from. This is not to say that they have to accept homophobia or any other type of discriminatory behavior. Still, it is helpful to guide those who might be ignorant or scared of others towards a more open-minded understanding of how the world works. It is quite possible that there are minds that can still be changed and people who can be saved from heading down the path of hatred. 

If it seems best to avoid the topics of your sexual life, then do that, but if members of your family have questions about how you live your life, perhaps try to be open about it with them. It might feel very personal and even a little uncomfortable for you, but you just might help someone better understand how you live and why they shouldn’t be afraid of you or your lifestyle. It can open up a conversation that genuinely touches someone else’s heart. 

Always Keep the Option to Leave in Your Back Pocket 

Not every situation is salvageable, and not every person can handle certain situations. Don’t subject yourself to abuse simply to try to spend time around people who are supposed to love you for who you are. If they cannot give you any respect at all, they may simply have to accept that you are not going to stick around to continue to experience their abuse. Sometimes, walking away is the only option you have. 

Remember, you are not a bad person for wanting to spare yourself from the shame, embarrassment, and pain of emotional abuse at the hands of your family. You have to move forward in your life, which may mean walking out the door during a family holiday gathering. Do not let people in your family guilt trip you for leaving the event if they cannot be respectful enough to have you in their home and treat you with basic human dignity. 

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What is Cuffing Season, and Why Does it Happen During the Holidays?

Cuffing season is on the horizon, and lonely singles everywhere are scrambling to find a partner to keep them warm during the chilly months. Flying solo is all fun and games during spring fever and even sexy summer when everyone is wearing less and hooking up more. But come October, people start longing for a bit more intimacy in their sexual relationships.  

Urban Dictionary defines cuffing season as: 

“Usually the colder months; i.e. fall or winter, when new relationships start and old relationships turn into engagements. The persons in said relationships are “cuffed,” meaning that they no longer seek non-platonic relationships with others.”

So, what is it about cuffing season that makes everyone feel extra romantic?

Winter Brings a Mood Change

The cuffing season starts in late fall, as soon as the temperatures drop, and ends right after Valentine’s Day. Without the natural dopamine hit we get from regular sun exposure, many start looking for other ways to make themselves feel good. Sex and cuddling are scientifically proven to get those chemicals pumping and boost your mood. That makes October through February the perfect time to find a sexy new partner to help you see the bright side of things. 

Tis’ the Season for Cuffing

The holidays tend to put people in a better mood, which inspires all sorts of sexual activity. Halloween is arguably the sexiest holiday of the year, but while people are out partying, they’re keeping an eye out for their next romantic partner. After all, who wants to show up to Thanksgiving dinner without a date and spend the day dodging questions about your relationship status from nosey family members?

Thanksgiving also provides plenty of opportunities for people to get cuffed, especially with hometown exes and everyone visiting home for the holiday. The night before Thanksgiving is known as one of the biggest party nights of the year, and many take advantage of the festive mood before heading to their big family dinner the next day. That makes it the perfect opportunity to link up with an old flame for the holiday season. 

Christmas and Hanukkah also inspire their fair share of hookups, as the season of giving means many will be getting the gift of extra sex and cuddles. It’s also worth mentioning that many see sex as a great pick-me-up to get them through the stressful holiday season, so why not take advantage and hook up with your hometown crush for the next few weeks or months?

Perhaps the most exciting holiday during cuffing season is New Year’s Eve because once you’re cuffed, you’re guaranteed to have someone to kiss at midnight. And of course, have a little private after-party after the big celebrations. 

Valentine’s Day Caps Off Cuffing Season

The most romantic day of the year also marks the end of cuffing season. Of course, if you’re in a relationship, it’s the time to celebrate your love, but even if you’re not, at least you already have a date, so you don’t end up celebrating alone on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s.

Get your Cuffing Season Roster in Order Now

The fall and winter months are busy on Adult FriendFinder, so now is the perfect time to freshen up your profile with an updated bio and sexy new photos to pique the attention of potential lovers. If you’re looking for other ways to get attention, try broadcasting live or start a blog to bring your fellow members along on your cuffing season adventures. 

Good luck, and happy cuffing! 

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How To Keep Your Family Holidays Sexy With Adult Friend Finder

Many people dread spending time with their extended family over the holidays. The awkward questions about your life, family tension, and drama can make it hard to have a good time. However, you can still have a good time this holiday season by making the most of your casual relationships. 

The Benefits Of Casual Dates For The Holidays 

Whether you have a good relationship with your family or not, there are a lot of benefits to having casual dates around for the holidays. Not only is it good to have someone on your side when the awkward conversations start but knowing you’ll be getting laid later can really take the edge off as your family drills you about why you’re not married with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence yet. 

If you’re hoping to turn your casual fling into something more, having them around for the holidays can also be a great bonding experience. Just be sure to communicate your intentions upfront, so everyone is on the same page. Of course, if you aren’t looking for anything serious, you can always invite a friend with benefits with nowhere to go for the holidays, so the arrangement benefits everyone involved. 

Keep Things Light Over The Holidays

The appeal of casual sex is a simple arrangement where both parties connect for physical pleasure and nothing more. However, this arrangement can get a little more complex during the holidays when emotions and Christmas cheer are flowing. By keeping things light, you can minimize any confusion about intentions. 

If you find yourself in this grey area, you can keep a few rules of thumb in mind. First, people you’re in strictly sex-only fuck friendships are not generally someone you would bring to your family events over the holidays. However, people you have casual friendships with can be excellent to invite. Since you have already established a friendship, chances are you have enough in common to carry on a conversation at the party, and you know if they will mesh well with your family members or not. 

Taking the Right Partner is Essential

Take some time to vet potential candidates before the holidays, so you aren’t struggling to find a date at the eleventh hour. Think about who would be an excellent fit to get along with your family and keep things relaxed and simple. 

Those who have no expectations for the future are generally the best choices, as you don’t have to worry that they will fantasize about one day joining the family. This also lets you have a few brief conversations about your relatives, so they know the proper etiquette and what to expect. Be open and direct while expressing your needs, wants, and desires. If you invite a friend or acquaintance, also talk about plans afterward. Managing expectations is essential.

Choosing someone who will not make things weird is also essential. Tact is necessary for family gatherings, dates, work parties, and more. Most people know that talking about casual sex, polyamory, swinging, BDSM, and other topics are not appropriate for certain types of gatherings. 

Hold the Line

Many people choose not to meet the families of their casual sex friends. If you have a casual fling and are not interested in meeting their family or having them meet yours, stick with this boundary. 

How To Ask

If you are in a casual relationship with someone you are interested in inviting to a family event, you need the right approach. First, make sure they know that you do not need to meet their family in return and that they will be attending the function in a “friend” capacity. Also, be sure to ask if they have any boundaries in mind so you (and your family) can be respectful at all times. 

Event Etiquette

Bringing someone to a family event is one thing, and planning to have raunchy sex after is another. There are plenty of ways you can add sexy fun to your evening without giving your aunt Edna a coronary. Keep your phones on you and occasionally send naughty or dirty text messages to each other. 

Also, make sure to let the other person know in advance if you plan on sending nudes from the bathroom so that they can open with discretion. You don’t want someone in the family leaning over and catching a glimpse of something you don’t want them to see! 

If you want to get a little physical, plan to take a little walk or head to a more private area for a quick make-out session or peck on the cheek. However, be tactful and talk with the other person about their comfort level before doing this. Things can be a little flirtatious, but know that the comfort of everyone, including family, is important. While you and your casual sex friend might be more polarizing in general, try not to be too polarizing in family or work environments.

Have Fun!

Make it hot, make it fun, and make it welcoming. So talk it out and get ready for some sexy fun this holiday season!