Dating enthusiasts have started to wonder aloud what the “new normal” will look like in a post-pandemic dating world. From the surveys and data available in the Adult FriendFinder community anonymously, we can piece together some of the upcoming trends in the kinkster community. One that has clearly gained immense popularity as of late is Rope Bondage play.
Rope Bondage has become so popular lately that Cosmopolitan Magazine recently did a multi-page spread explaining 14 Rope Bondage Sexual Positions to their readers. While that title is titillating, we found it a bit scary that they made very little reference to the sorts of safety precautions novices need to know if they want to enjoy safe, fun, and satisfying rope play. So, we have taken it upon ourselves to ask the Adult FriendFinder dating community experts about their rope play best practices for your benefit.
5 Important Things To Know As Novice Rope Bondage BDSM Playmates
1 Know Your Experience Level And Play Accordingly
Maybe you’ve seen rope play in a few porn videos. Perhaps you read a book or two that mentioned certain types of rope bondage in an excerpt. In the nicest way possible, we need to say that doesn’t make you a rope bondage expert… yet! Take the time to practice, and understand that rope experts have devoted hundreds or thousands of hours to mastering the nuances of each knot, so they know precisely how much pressure is being exerted at each point of rope play on their submissives. It’s great to be a novice, and learning should be celebrated at every step along your sexual journey.
2 You Can Learn A Lot Online From Rope Experts
In some larger cities, you may be able to find rope play classes among the local kink community. There are also many rope experts available to you online. It’s not the sort of thing that will be commonplace on a YouTube DIY channel, but in a kinkster dating community like Adult FriendFinder, there’s never a shortage of rope experts willing to share what they’ve learned with novices that are following in their footsteps. Be ready to ask questions and be open to listening to answers. Take what you can use and be patient with yourself as you become an expert yourself, and eventually, as you be able to share what you’ve learned with others.
3 You Can Always Tighten More Later
Ask any carpenter about woodworking, and they are bound to mention the old adage “measure twice, cut once.” That’s because you can always cut more later, but you can’t easily turn two pieces of wood back into one. That analogy is even more important when it comes to rope play. Whatever positions you try or style of rope play you’re discovering, it’s important to always keep in mind that a rope can easily be tightened at any point, but if you go too tight, you may cause unintentional pain or damage before you can loosen the knots again. Always start light and gradually tighten up your ties as you tighten up your skillset. There’s no urgency to reach the pinnacle of bondage from the start, and the slower, more gradual approach adds a level of suspense to suspension play that can be exhilarating in its own way.
4 The Rope Itself Matters Quite A Bit
Rope Bondage isn’t about heading out to a local hardware store and grabbing the first piece of course rope for your next play session. The rope itself matters quite a bit. Some experts prefer wax-coated clothesline to reduce skin friction. Many look for ropes with flat surface areas to avoid unintentional lacerations. Other components of rope play, like lubrication, can make a big difference in certain positions. Take the time to find the right materials because they are every bit as important as finding the right rope play sex partners.
5 Communicate Completely In Advance
Like any other form of bondage, you and your partners must communicate in advance of any play session when it comes to rope play. Always establish a simple safe word and a physical safe motion that your partner can make even after being tied up. Take the time to discuss what you are into, exactly what will happen, and to ensure you and your partners share a similar mindset before you wrap that first length of rope around any part of their trembling bodies.
Is Rope Play For Everyone?
Like many aspects of sex that suddenly become popular, rope play is going through a bit of a spike in the adult dating community these days. However, that doesn’t mean everyone will enjoy it, so be honest with yourself and your partners. If you aren’t into it, say so. If you’re just experimenting, say so. If this is your time to shine because you’ve been waiting to be tied up, say so. The most important part of sex is communicating honestly with your sexual partners before, during, and after every encounter.
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