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Get Noticed on the AFF Hottest Member Photos Page!

If you’re looking for ways to capture the attention of that special someone(s) on Adult FriendFinder, one thing that could move you to the top of their “to-do” list is appearing on the Hottest Member Photos page. This section is where all the highest rated photos on the site appear, and it’s one of the easiest ways to get noticed!

So, how do you take a photo that’s worthy of the Hottest Member Photos page? Here are a few tips, straight from some of Adult FriendFinder’s most successful members.

Put Your Best Face Forward

It’s easy to assume that because AFF is an adult dating site, showing photos of your private parts is the easiest way to get attention. However, that’s not always the case, as many members crave a connection beyond their physical urges. Lots of top-rated photos on the site include at least part of the member’s face, so if you are gunning for that top spot, this is one tip you should consider when snapping selfies to post on your profile. If you’re trying to be discreet, try showing the lower or top half your face, as even that’s enough to pique the curiosity of potential mates as they browse the site.

Your Body of Work

While it’s essential to put your best face forward, it doesn’t hurt to show off your other assets, especially if you aren’t comfortable showing your full face in photos. Choose a body part you are proud of, and keep in mind that it doesn’t need to be X-rated. If you have an impressive meat-hammer, a pretty pussy, or a phenomenal ass, by all means, show it off! But pretty feet, great abs, and legs that won’t quit can garner just as much, if not more attention in many cases.

Show Off Your Personality

You don’t have to be a supermodel to have highly-rated photos, but you have to be genuine. Members want to connect with you on some level, so don’t be shy about showing them who you are. Show yourself in action doing something you love, whether it’s sexual or not. One popular couple on Adult FriendFinder frequently graces the Hottest Member Photos page by posting photos of themselves doing fun outdoor activities like skiing, hiking, and rock climbing. Sometimes they’re nude and sometimes they’re not, but either way, they’re fun to look at, and people can’t seem to get enough. Not the outdoorsy type? Here are a few other ideas that have worked on the site:

Novelty lingerie – One member posted photos of her backside in various 90s novelty panties, and people loved it so much that her photos were the most highly rated on the site for weeks!

Costumes/Cosplay – You don’t have to save the sexy costumes for Halloween. Many of our most popular members love to show off their best cosplay outfits, and it gets them lots of attention from their fellow members.

Hobbies – Nude painting, sunbathing, and even cooking are activities people love to see. How much skin you choose to show while doing them is entirely up to you, of course!

Post High-Resolution Photos

Try to post high-quality photos so people can see what you have to offer. You don’t need to hire a professional photographer to make this happen, seeing as how you probably have a smartphone sitting in your pocket right now that takes better photos than any webcam can. We’re not looking for IG models with highly edited and filtered material, just something that isn’t blurry or pixilated so people can see you clearly.

Get Inspired

Study other top member photos and note what you like and don’t like about their pictures. Take notice of any poses that may work for you and any themes you want to incorporate. You can even take it one step further and reach out to people whose photos you admire for advice. It’s a great way to make new friends and maybe even find your next hot hookup!

Things to Avoid

A messy background – You want to be the focal point of your photos, and a cluttered background will take the focus off of you, so be sure to clean up before snapping that selfie in your room. No one expects your place to be spotless, but just making sure everything is neat within the frame of your photo can make a huge difference in how people react to the pictures you post. 

Don’t post anything the violates the site’s TOS – Photos containing minors, animals, and other people who are not a part of your profile are against the TOS (even if they are just in the background) and will get your photo taken down. Repeat offenses could even get you banned from the site, so ensure the only one in your photo is you! 

Bonus Tip: Take Advantage of Member Photo Contests!

Adult FriendFinder hosts member photo contests regularly, so enter often to gain even more exposure. You could win a free one-year Gold membership, plus you never know who you might meet in the process.

Login to AdultFriendFinder.com and see who’s on the Hottest Member Photos page now!

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Horny for the Holidays – New Positions to Try This Season

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, and what could make your season even better? Lots of great, festive sex! Here are some new, holiday-themed sex positions to try out if you’re in the mood to get naughty this Christmas. And yes, these are all real.

Santa’s Little Helper

We assume this position got the name Santa’s Little Helper because it looks like the woman is sitting on the big guy’s lap to tell him if she’s been naughty or nice. This one is pretty simple; the woman sits on the man’s lap facing away from him and lowers herself down onto his, um, candy cane. He then guides her hips up and down as she rides him to prove just how naughty she is. 

The Stocking Stuffer

The woman lays on her back and places her legs on her partner’s shoulders so he can stuff her stocking with some g-spot stimulation and loads of orgasms. It sounds a lot more fun than the usual stocking stuffers unless you reaaalllly like loofas and shower gel.

Jingle Bells

The male lays down flat on his back while the female rides him reverse cowgirl style. As she slides her body up and down his shaft, she reaches down and proceeds to, you guessed it, jingle his bells. Simple, practical, and extra festive if you sing the song while you’re in the act.  

The Sleigh Ride

This move is excellent for people who want to do a little festive frolicking but don’t have the stamina for more challenging positions. The female lays on her stomach with her legs straight out. The man mounts and enters from behind, riding her like the sexy little sleigh she is. Hopefully, like Rudolph, she too will come first. 

 Gift Wrap

If you’re looking for something a little more intimate, the Gift Wrap position is about as close as you can get. The man sits with his legs crossed, then the female sits on top and wraps her legs around him. He then holds her hips as she rides face-to-face for plenty of kissing and eye contact. It’s the gift that keeps on giving in more ways than one.

The Grinch

This one is our favorite because everyone can enjoy it. One partner stands up straight while the other gets on their knees and performs oral from underneath. Refinery29 says this position is named after The Grinch because the giver should slither around on the floor first, imitating the Grinch sneaking in to steal the Who’s presents. That sounds a little creepy, so we like to think it’s because if your partner is untrimmed, you’ll have a nice beard like your favorite cranky Christmas character. 

 The Tree Stand

If you want to have some fun while you’re putting up the tree, this one is for you! Grab your tree stand and use it to prop one leg up for some leverage during standing sex. The stand will help support everyone’s weight while you have a little holiday tryst. 

Are you looking for more sex positions you can try any time of the year? Check out our previous posts, Weird Sex Positions That Really Work, and Big Tall, Short and Small, A Guide to Sex Positions for Different Body Types.

 For more tips, check out the Adult FriendFinder Member Advice Lines!

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Don’t Let Politics Ruin a Good Hookup

The temperature of the United States’ political climate is hotter than ever. Citizens on both sides of the political aisle have strong opinions, and often what could be a civil conversation quickly deteriorates into endless bickering and hurt feelings. So, when it comes to dating, how should you handle your political beliefs? Here is what the experts have to say.

Suggestion #1 – Keep Your Politics to Yourself

If you’re looking for a spouse and hope to build a family together, it probably makes sense to get your opinions out in the open early and see if you’re politically compatible with your date. However, if you plan to have a no-strings-attached relationship with a new playmate, it’s probably unnecessary. Chances are your mouths will be busy with other activities during most of your time together anyway, so why waste your breath prattling on about political issues?

Suggestion #2 – Some People Enjoy the Heat

If you’re a political junkie who watches all the Sunday morning talk shows and listens to political radio all day, politics may be a big part of your life. In that case, you should decide if the heat and friction caused by disagreements on policy is the sort of thing that also puts a little extra lead in your pencil! For example, they may be “wrong” about their stance on climate change, but does having that argument get you thinking about how sexy they look when they’re at the end of the bed with their palms in your sheets, asking for forgiveness?

Politics can be an exciting backdrop for all kinds of roleplay. Are you a law enforcement officer making a naughty deal to let a mouthy protester off with just a slap on the wrist? Perhaps you’re the older hippie professor trying to teach your new conservative student that Keynesian economics works best with her panties around her ankles? Go ahead and show her how much fun it can be to rub up against Adam Smith’s invisible hand!

Suggestion #3 – Put the Ball in Their Court

If politics aren’t your thing, you may want to ask your new playmate if it matters to them. See what they say and let them take the lead. If they want to share their views, go ahead and give them the green light. If they prefer to cast it all aside, let them know you support that option as well.

What Matters the Most

The most important thing to keep in mind is that there’s never a reason to be rude or allow others to be rude to you. Dating is about matching your needs and wants with those of another person. That’s why Adult Friend Finder has been so successful over the years. It’s a beloved community of lovers, singles, and couples seeking fun with new friends who share the same sexual tastes.

If someone can’t handle a difference in political beliefs, feel free to move on and choose another partner for yourself. Don’t be so quick to turn away a hot new sexual conquest simply because they didn’t vote the same way you did in the last election, however. Getting the last word in may feel good for a moment, but you might be missing out on feeling good for hours and hours because you prioritized politics over pleasure.

We’re all human, and while we may try to complicate our relationships with all sorts of intellectual endeavors, it’s that physical need for intimacy that makes us all much more alike than we could ever be apart. Give people the space they need, let them be their true selves, and offer a genuine ear and an honest perspective. Chances are, you’ll find that whether you’re a long-term match or not, the short-term sexual gains are almost always well worth it!

Do you need more information about the politics of hooking up? Head over to Adult FriendFinder now to check out our member advice lines and interest groups!

 

 

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Sexnic – Dating Traditions Remastered For the Modern Era

For most people, the thought of a picnic usually conjures up images of champagne and charcuterie boards, not passionate outdoor flings in secluded areas. However, that image changed over the last few years as daters took up picnicking together to overcome the constraints of the COVID era. Taking it a step further, some even partook in the occasional sexnic so they could enjoy intimate encounters while still following CDC guidelines. 

Now that the weather is heating up and things are slowly returning to normal, sexnics are still more popular than ever. 

How did sexnics get popular in the first place?

As with anything, the most obvious answer is often the right one. So when the government started shutting down restaurants and telling people that socializing was the safest outside, most greeted the message with a sigh of frustration. Fortunately, those of us who try to turn lemons into lemonade quickly reimagined the excitement of eating outside, among other things.

Suddenly, a soft fluffy blanket laid on a secluded patch of beach sand or park turf, with a basket full of fun items to share with your new hookup, became an easy-to-pack solution for all that frustration. Imagine you and your new lover under the stars, in the clean, fresh air, unmasking to share your first kiss before reaching deep in the basket to find the toys you tucked away beneath the champagne glasses. It’s a moment we can all fondly remember as we think back on our own picnic basket hookup histories.

What if someone else is watching?

As with any outdoor sexual adventure, it’s important to be aware of your surroundings so you don’t end up giving an eyeful to some unsuspecting family out for a leisurely nature walk. 

Find a location that’s out of sight, preferably somewhere you can find cover from trees, bushes, and other vegetation. You should also pick a time when there’s less foot traffic, like early morning or evening, since afternoons tend to be much more crowded. 

You should also wear clothing that’s easy to take off and put back on in case you need to make a quick escape. And as always, keep the volume down, no matter how good getting fucked outdoors feels! 

What should always be in your sexnic basket?

The starters are simple enough; you’ll always want a light, easy-to-eat snack that isn’t all that messy. Remember, Cheetos sound like a good idea until your lover heads home (or back to work) with fluorescent orange crumbs all over their collar.

Next, you should be sure to include items that show your partner you see this picnic as a shared celebration. Of course, champagne always makes a great impression, but do your best to find classy reusable glasses to avoid throwing away plastic. And try not to use actual glass to prevent accidental breakage that can ruin an otherwise perfect moment in sexnic paradise together.

Unlike traditional picnics, you’ll also want to include the kinds of party favors you’ll want on hand if things go well. Condoms and lube are always necessary; from there, the long list of what else you may want to have handy comes down to the kind of kink you and your lover plan to share.

When messaging each other to arrange your picnic hookup, don’t be shy about asking what they want in the sexnic basket. Your partner may naively start by saying they don’t like brie, but steer the chat correctly, and they may tell you how to ensure your basket is heavy with the items you need for a truly orgasmic experience. 

Most of all – make sure your sexnic is FUN!

Instead of awkwardly chit-chatting about having breakfast outside, why not focus on which cartoon character that giant cloud looks like in an otherwise sunny sky? If it’s an evening sexnic, find your favorite constellation and point it out on your moonlit date while cuddling under the stars together.

You aren’t on a sexnic just because you love nature; you’re on a sexnic because the desire for your partner made you willing to go the extra mile. Let’s face facts, for the right hookup, you’d be willing to wear SCUBA gear in a sandstorm during 120-degree heat if that’s what it took to make them happy. So let that level of desire be your guide, and make sure your lover always knows it’s about your lust for them more than anything else.

Will sexnics continue to be popular?

Nobody knows, but what we do know is that sexy people will always find ways to congregate together no matter what’s going on in the world. Whether that means meeting virtually on a site like Adult FriendFinder, finding a perfect sexnic spot, or strapping on your snorkel to brave a sandstorm – hooking up is a prime directive of our entire species and one of the few cravings we all share. No pandemic, regulation, or social shift in society will ever quell the cravings horny people have for each other. Right now, sexnics appear to be one of the more popular manifestations of lust in modern society. So let’s all enjoy them and have the hottest summer ever! 

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Five Tips for Hooking Up At Work

TV and film have long romanticized office romance as a thing of fantasy. Two coworkers catch each other’s eye from across the hall, maybe accidentally brushing up against one another at the water cooler. Then before you know it, they’re fucking on the copy machine after-hours and sneaking off for lunchtime romps.

But is it really that hot to hook up with a coworker despite the possibility of awkwardness should you both get caught with your pants down? As someone who has engaged in my share of office hookups, I can tell you the answer is a hard YES…as long as you know how to do it. 

Now that people are returning to the office after two years of working from home, coworker hookups are sure to be on the rise. So, here are my top five tips for hooking up at work.

Keep it Quiet

It can be tempting to tell your closest work friends about how you’re banging the hot new guy in marketing but don’t. The more people who know, the more likely others will find out. And let me tell you, nothing kills the heat of an office romance faster than a strongly worded email from HR asking you to please stop fucking your office mates. You may have people at work you trust, but even the most well-intended confidant can slip up every once in a while and blow your secret.

Discuss Your Expectations

Generally, an office romance is all about sex, but make sure everyone is on the same page so no one gets hurt. It’s always a bummer when the coworker you’ve been banging for months informs you they just started seeing someone, but it’s even more of a bummer if you developed feelings for them along the way and didn’t talk about it.

Location, Location, Location 

Always try to hook up off-site if you can, as that’s the best way to keep things private. Nothing is hotter than escaping the office at lunchtime for a quickie, only to later sit across from your coworker, knowing their scent is still all over you. Sometimes your urges get the best of you, though, and when that happens, make sure you pick a secure place to do it. Sure, getting bent over a desk after your department Happy Hour is fun, but it’s also risky should someone come back to the office because they forgot something.

Instead, look for places like a utility closet, a clean bathroom, or even a locker room if your workplace has a gym. I used to work in an office that had showers, and that was the best place to have a late-night romp because it was tucked away, and the doors gave an extra layer of sound protection.

Keep Work and Sex Separate

This isn’t an issue if you’re in different departments, but if you work together closely or worse yet, one of you is the other’s subordinate, you must keep those things separate. You don’t want a lover’s quarrel to turn into a work disagreement, especially when the rest of your team is present. You also don’t want to make others feel that favoritism is involved because they sense you have a personal relationship. Just try to keep it professional during work hours, and you should be fine.

Respect Each Other’s Relationships 

That means no going after married or attached coworkers whose partners are unaware of what’s going on. If they are in an open marriage or relationship and have their SO’s permission, then play ball. But if either of you has a partner at home who has no clue what’s happening, you’re both asking for trouble. Wanna know a real boner-killer? When someone’s pissed off wife rolls up in the middle of the day and announces to your entire office that her husband has been cheating on her with you. I saw this happen to two former coworkers several years back, and believe me; it wasn’t pretty. Both were humiliated and, worse yet, terminated for disrupting the workplace. The husband also found himself in divorce court, and when all was said and done, both agreed their fling was not worth the risk.

Want more tips on making an office hookup work, or want to read some real member stories about fucking at the office? Check out the AdultFriendFinder.com member blogs and advice lines! 

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Steamy Member Stories – AdultFriendFinder Hotel Meet-Up

Hi, I’m Sandy,” she said as I opened the door. During our texting sessions, Sandy had insisted that I have a hotel room and that she was not doing any meet at a private residence.

“Hey, Sandy, come on in. I hope this room will work for you.“ I showed Sandy into the room. It was a standard Marriott-type room with a queen-size bed and a window overlooking the Puget Sound. The curtains were open all the way, and the view from the 27th floor of the Puget Sound and the City of Seattle was impressive, at least to me.

“Oh, this is nice,” she said, walking over to the window.

“Would you like something to drink?“ I asked as she stood in front of the window.

“No, thank you. I have about 45 minutes.“

I walked behind her and put my hands around her waist. “Do you like the view?“ I asked.

“Yes, it’s nice.“ I started nibbling around her neck as she relaxed into my arms and pushed her ass against my dick. “Mmmmm. That’s nice, too. Someone is happy I’m here,“ she said, reaching back and caressing my hard-on.

“I can’t help it. You were looking so sexy in front of this window,” I replied.“I told you when we were texting, I don’t have sex on the first meet. All I am going to do is suck your cock.“

“It’s a shame that you get to suck my cock and I don’t get to lick your pussy.“

“Rules are rules. When we first meet, I suck your cock. If I like the way you fuck my mouth, you get to fuck the rest of me. But, today, this is a ‘get to know you’ encounter.” She made the air quote gesture as she said it.

Sandy turned around and undid my pants. She lowered my pants and boxers, and my dick sprang out as if released for the first time in months. She sat on the footrest next to the window and pulled me over to her. My dick lined perfectly with her face and, with my pants around my ankles, she grabbed my ass and pulled me forward, taking my dick completely in her mouth. I was definitely hard, And I was turned on by the fact that she knew exactly what she wanted to do. That is always sexy to me when a woman knows exactly what she wants. But I usually enjoy eating pussy, first before getting head.

She worked my dick with her mouth, and she played with my balls and squeezed my ass. It usually takes me a long time to come from oral sex, if I come at all. So I settled in, in my head, to enjoy the experience as she performed tongue tricks along my shaft, stroked and squeezed my balls, and toyed around with my ass with her fingers.

After a few minutes, her face and my dick were a wet mess from all of her saliva.

“Are you close to coming?“ She looked at me. That was the first time I saw her eyes in a few minutes. They were beautiful brown to match her dark brown skin. The contrast against my light brown skin was also a turn-on for me.

“Not really…“ I replied.

“How do you come?“ she asked.

I grabbed her braided hair and brought her face back to my dick. I took my dick in my hand and put it back in her mouth. And then, using her hair, pulled her head back-and-forth on my dick. She moaned as I fucked her mouth. Then, holding the back of her head, I went all in, slamming my dick into her mouth and throat. After a few minutes of me force fucking her mouth, she put her hands against my stomach and pushed me away.
“Damn, do you want me that bad? Show me how bad you want me. Fuck my mouth. Come in my mouth!”

“Take your pants off. Play with your pussy while I fuck your mouth.” I told her.

“Oh, fuck.“ She said.

Sandy stood and undid her jeans and pulled them down. While she took off her pants, I took off my clothes. I walked over and sat on the bed. Sandy stood next to the bed. “Remember, just my mouth. I’m trusting you to not touch the rest of me.”

“Lay down here,“ I said, standing. Bottomless, she walked over to the bed and lay down.

“Play with your pussy. Make yourself come.“ I commanded.
Sandy started to stroke her pussy. “Fuck, I am so wet. Fuck yes…“ She said as she started rubbing her pussy. I got on the bed, straddling her torso. I positioned myself so that my dick was back in her face.
“Make yourself come. I’m going to fuck your mouth, now,” I said.

I put my dick in her mouth and fucked her. I can’t say I wasn’t forceful; I was really turned on. She moaned as I took her mouth and as the aroma of her pussy filled the air. I could feel her body grinding against her hand as she worked her pussy. I didn’t look back. I tried to keep my head in the game, pun intended.

Her moaning got loud and high-pitched. Then, she did this moan that sounded like a release, and her legs shook.

“Are you coming?“ I asked.

“MMM-HMM,” she said, slightly nodding her head.

“Don’t stop. Take another one,“ I coached. Her moaning didn’t stop. It was rhythmic and increased in intensity, and within moments I could hear her release again.

I climbed off of her, and I backed away. “Are you sure you don’t want me to fuck this pussy?“ I asked.

“Rules are rules. Blow job on the first meet.”

“I do understand.” I started stroking my dick. I might have come from her oral play, eventually, but it seriously takes me a long time. I figured I would help it along.

“Are you close to coming?“ Sandy asked.

“I’m going to get myself there, now.” I replied.

Sandy got on her knees in front of me. “I want you to fuck this mouth. I want you to come in my mouth and all over my face. I want you to give me my reward for a fantastic blow job,” she said. I was stroking my dick as she coached me. I could feel her breathing inches away from my dick.
“Put it in my mouth. Come for me.“ Sandy commanded. I put my dick back in her mouth. I grabbed the back of her braided head and assaulted her face. She made a “UMF“ sound with every impact. Both of her hands were on my ass as I moved in and out.

“I think I can come. Play with your pussy. Make yourself come again.“
Sandy dropped her hands and started making more noises. Her sounds turned back into high-pitched squeals until finally, she made the release sound again. That was it; that was what I needed to bring me close.
“I’m gonna come…“

Sandy made “MMM-HMM“ sounds with every stroke. It was as if she was coaxing me in for my landing. My orgasm started deep within, and when I felt it move its way to my head, I pulled out, grabbed my dick, and stroked the first splash onto her face.

“Oh, fuck! Fuck yeah!” she said as come splashed on her face or times. She grabbed my dick back in her mouth and milked the rest of my orgasm. I grabbed the back of her head again and pushed my dick in her mouth to the hilt. Sandy sucked and tongued my dick from the inside, which felt so good after this big release. Finally, I was able to take a relaxing breath and pull out of her mouth.

“Shit, that was hot.” Sandy relaxed on the floor next to our huddled pile of clothes. She had semen on her face and her blouse. I reached my hand down to help her up. She took my hand and stood in front of me.

“Would you kiss me with your come all over my face?“ I took her head and kissed her very deeply.

“I’m not afraid of my own come.“ I kissed her again, and her legs shook. I held her close.

“Oh, shit.“ She whispered. “I think I just came again.”

“No way.“

“Yeah, I think I did.“ She looked at her smartwatch. “Damn, I need to go.“
Sandy picked her pants and headed toward the door. Standing in front of the door, she put her jeans back on.

“This was fun. I’m definitely going to reach out to you again so that we can really fuck. I can’t believe you made me so fucking horny.“

“I feel like it was more -sided. I’m glad you got something out of it, too.“
She turned and opened the door, waiving as she left. I sat down on the bed, and after a few minutes, I realized that she had never wiped her face or her blouse before she left. I was instantly hard, again.

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How to Prepare For a First Date You Met Online

Dating should be a fun experience, and preparing can be part of the fun as well. Some avid daters find the process stressful and taxing, so here are some tips to help you enjoy getting ready for a night on the town…or in the bedroom!

Grooming

Shave, get a haircut, and take this opportunity to get yourself looking good. Many use going on a date as an excuse to pamper themselves, and we see nothing wrong with this logic. If there’s at least the possibility of sex, don’t forget to groom down there, too. Shave, wax, trim, manscape, or whatever else you have to do to feel confident when you’re going into a situation with a new partner.

Get a Mani/Pedi

At the very least, trim your nails and make sure they look clean. People of all genders should consider getting a manicure or pedicure before a date as well, regardless of whether you choose to go with colors and nail designs. Again, it’s about looking polished and being confident when you meet that potential mate.

Take a Bubble Bath or Shower

Get yourself clean with a relaxing bubble bath or hot shower before you step out of the house, so you look and smell fresh. Bust out the fancy soaps, too – whatever you have to do to get yourself psyched up for your date. Some people prefer to do their shaving in the shower before a date, and this is another excellent way to prepare. You can even put some music on, which leads to the next piece of advice…

Tunes to Get You in the Mood

Music can provide the motivation you need before heading out for your date. While everyone has different musical interests, it’s generally best to stick to something upbeat. On the other hand, if you’re the type of person who needs a whole playlist, try choosing different songs to play while you’re taking a shower, getting dressed, or doing your makeup. Regardless of what route you decide to go, music adds a sense of energy to the preparation process that might not be there without it.

Details, Details, Details

Ensure you know the right reservation time for dinner, showtimes for a movie, and the pertinent details for the activities planned for a date. Think about whether or not you need to stop and fill up your gas tank, make sure that you have the correct address to pick your date up if that’s a thing, and make sure you have enough cash on-hand just in case. Most times, you’re fine with just a credit card, but you want to be prepared in case you end up somewhere that’s cash-only. By reaffirming all of the details of a date, you’ll make sure you’re on time, prepared, and ready to make a great first impression.

Dress to Impress

This is the part that stresses people out the most. You may be tempted to buy a whole new outfit, but be sure to pick something you are both comfortable and confident in. Buying a new outfit for a date, taking on a drastic new haircut, changing aspects of your facial or pubic hair, or even trying an extreme new makeup style you’re unsure of might impact your confidence and your ability to close the deal. Whatever you do, choose something that expresses your personality and lets you comfortably be yourself.

Clean Up All Visible Areas

This can include your car if you’re picking someone up for a date, as well as your kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom if you think you may be having sex at your place later. If you’re unsure, though, go ahead and do all of them. Make sure that you have enough toilet paper in the bathroom, too, and make sure you have condoms, lube, and sex toys in a place that are not readily visible but easily accessible. Keep a bottle of wine or some hard liquor (with mixers) on-hand, too, in case you need a nightcap.

Extra Items to Bring

Putting gum in your pocket, mints, and maybe even a hair tie can provide good opportunities to make a good impression on a first date. Odds are most of these things won’t be needed, but being able to offer your date a piece of gum or a mint is almost always appreciated. Hair ties might also come in handy for active dates, especially if an impromptu BJ happens out of nowhere. A few extras to keep in your car: an umbrella, jumper cables, and a few different types of USB cables so your date can charge their phone.

The biggest thing to remember is to be yourself and have fun. Not all of these things necessarily have to be done before each date, but if you have time and plan well enough in advance, they are all great suggestions that could help you make a great impression as you get to know each other.

For more dating advice, check out the member forums at Adult FriendFinder!

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How To Keep Your Family Holidays Sexy With Adult Friend Finder

Many people dread spending time with their extended family over the holidays. The awkward questions about your life, family tension, and drama can make it hard to have a good time. However, you can still have a good time this holiday season by making the most of your casual relationships. 

The Benefits Of Casual Dates For The Holidays 

Whether you have a good relationship with your family or not, there are a lot of benefits to having casual dates around for the holidays. Not only is it good to have someone on your side when the awkward conversations start but knowing you’ll be getting laid later can really take the edge off as your family drills you about why you’re not married with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence yet. 

If you’re hoping to turn your casual fling into something more, having them around for the holidays can also be a great bonding experience. Just be sure to communicate your intentions upfront, so everyone is on the same page. Of course, if you aren’t looking for anything serious, you can always invite a friend with benefits with nowhere to go for the holidays, so the arrangement benefits everyone involved. 

Keep Things Light Over The Holidays

The appeal of casual sex is a simple arrangement where both parties connect for physical pleasure and nothing more. However, this arrangement can get a little more complex during the holidays when emotions and Christmas cheer are flowing. By keeping things light, you can minimize any confusion about intentions. 

If you find yourself in this grey area, you can keep a few rules of thumb in mind. First, people you’re in strictly sex-only fuck friendships are not generally someone you would bring to your family events over the holidays. However, people you have casual friendships with can be excellent to invite. Since you have already established a friendship, chances are you have enough in common to carry on a conversation at the party, and you know if they will mesh well with your family members or not. 

Taking the Right Partner is Essential

Take some time to vet potential candidates before the holidays, so you aren’t struggling to find a date at the eleventh hour. Think about who would be an excellent fit to get along with your family and keep things relaxed and simple. 

Those who have no expectations for the future are generally the best choices, as you don’t have to worry that they will fantasize about one day joining the family. This also lets you have a few brief conversations about your relatives, so they know the proper etiquette and what to expect. Be open and direct while expressing your needs, wants, and desires. If you invite a friend or acquaintance, also talk about plans afterward. Managing expectations is essential.

Choosing someone who will not make things weird is also essential. Tact is necessary for family gatherings, dates, work parties, and more. Most people know that talking about casual sex, polyamory, swinging, BDSM, and other topics are not appropriate for certain types of gatherings. 

Hold the Line

Many people choose not to meet the families of their casual sex friends. If you have a casual fling and are not interested in meeting their family or having them meet yours, stick with this boundary. 

How To Ask

If you are in a casual relationship with someone you are interested in inviting to a family event, you need the right approach. First, make sure they know that you do not need to meet their family in return and that they will be attending the function in a “friend” capacity. Also, be sure to ask if they have any boundaries in mind so you (and your family) can be respectful at all times. 

Event Etiquette

Bringing someone to a family event is one thing, and planning to have raunchy sex after is another. There are plenty of ways you can add sexy fun to your evening without giving your aunt Edna a coronary. Keep your phones on you and occasionally send naughty or dirty text messages to each other. 

Also, make sure to let the other person know in advance if you plan on sending nudes from the bathroom so that they can open with discretion. You don’t want someone in the family leaning over and catching a glimpse of something you don’t want them to see! 

If you want to get a little physical, plan to take a little walk or head to a more private area for a quick make-out session or peck on the cheek. However, be tactful and talk with the other person about their comfort level before doing this. Things can be a little flirtatious, but know that the comfort of everyone, including family, is important. While you and your casual sex friend might be more polarizing in general, try not to be too polarizing in family or work environments.

Have Fun!

Make it hot, make it fun, and make it welcoming. So talk it out and get ready for some sexy fun this holiday season!

 

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The Benefits of Creating Your Own Blog On Adult FriendFinder

You’ve been an Adult FriendFinder member for a while now and have seen the benefits that come with having access to a massive amount of sexy people worldwide. But, now you may be asking yourself how you can stand out from the crowd and garner the widespread attention you deserve? Creating your own blog on Adult FriendFinder may be the easiest, most creative way to get the attention you deserve. 

Think of Your Blog As An Extension of Your Profile

Instead of just showing people how you look and giving them some basic stats about yourself, you can use your blog to help them better understand what you’re into and how your mind works.

Your Blog Keeps You Current

When someone sees your profile stats, they may wonder if the information is recent or something you posted years ago when you joined the site. When members see a new blog post, they know your info is current, and they can see your way of looking at the world right now, as opposed to how you felt about things when you were new to the site. As your dating horizons expand, so does your blog, and all your AFF friends are along for the journey! 

Your Blog Can Set The Mood

Are you looking for a romantic date? Are you interested in a one-night stand with a new mate? Have a fantasy you want to explore for the first time with someone patient? Your blog can explain any of that to potential mates browsing your profile, which helps you sort out actual potential dates from people who are on another wavelength. Sharing your interests and what excites you is another way to find the right dates even faster.

Amateur Erotica Doesn’t Require A License

You can take no class on what you think is sexy; you are the only arbiter of that domain. Unfortunately, too many people think erotica is something “a professional author,” writes and that their writing skills are somehow insufficient to create one sexy paragraph after another. Your blog is the perfect place to showcase your amateur erotic fiction, and with a bit of practice, you’ll find your voice on the page pretty quickly. Here are some helpful tips:

1 – Start by writing about something that actually happened

Pure fiction is much harder to write than something that really happened, along with some embellishments to enhance the story. You can change names and places for the sake of privacy, but keep the framework of your past encounter as the backdrop. Did you once get busy in a bathroom at a bar? Are you the guy who tried having sex underwater in a public pool while dozens of other people were only a handful of meters away? Those moments are great starting points for your most amazing blog posts.

2 – Leave Out What Isn’t Sexy

In your story about having sex on a pool table after hours in a swanky hotel, you don’t have to mention the part about the lube bottle spilling out all over the carpet unless you think that adds something sexy to your story. Arguments and “make up sex” are common themes, but your blog should be much less about the argument and much more about the make-up sex!

3 – Make Sure The Story Is True To Your Desires

Remember, others will be reading your blog, so if you simply want personal memories to look back on, use a diary instead. What you write on your blog should always be about what you think is sexy right now. So, if, for example, you used to really be into cosplay and aren’t any longer, a new blog post about your past cosplay sexual experiences is likely to bring out potential lovers who want to try cosplay with you now – even if that’s not what you are into any longer. Keep your blog current with themes, ideas, kinks, and come-ons that match your current mood, so you attract the kind of people who share your sentiment, and you can get sexy with the sort of dating enthusiasts who can give you fuel for your next few blog stories to come.

4 – Practice Makes Perfect

Read your blog after you write it. Try to read it as if you were seeing the words for the very first time and see if it brings out the sort of reaction in you that you want to bring out in others. If it doesn’t, don’t fret, that just means you may need to rewrite part of it or write about something else instead. Nobody is expecting your first draft to be perfect. The simple truth is, the more you write, the better you get at it, and each new story or blog post you put up will be better than the last. Enjoy the process, be excited to share your stories, and help potential lovers discover who you are – because all the wonderful things about you are just waiting to be unearthed. Your own fictionalized erotic stories are the best way to share more than any picture or video could ever convey.

If You Do It Right, You’ll Cum Too

Your blog doesn’t have to be some PG nonsense. You can get as down and dirty as you like, sharing your own flair for erotica, sprinkling in stories of your past, or ideas from your favorite fantasies to create the right mood. So go ahead and show your potential dates that you have what it takes to make any date memorable and enjoy your own posts as much as they will. Many dating enthusiasts agree that a fantastic read can be even more erotic than a handful of photos!

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AFF Member Erotic Story – Finally Together

I am nervous as I knock on your door. We have been planning this for weeks, and now I can’t believe the time is here! I am wearing what we discussed: a cute mini skirt and blouse. What we didn’t discuss was my underwear, and I can’t wait for you to see it.

You open the door, and I smile at you, seeing the breath catch in your throat for just a second before you reach out and pull me into you. Quickly closing the door, you push me against it and stand back, appraising me. You can see I’m nervous and you enjoy it. I bite my lip gently, and I hope you remember my one request for today, the one thing that will alleviate my nerves.

I breathe out as you step closer and brush my lips with yours. I hadn’t realized I was holding my breath, and when I breathe in, I am overwhelmed by your scent. You are so aroused and lean against my body as I melt into your kiss, trapping me against the door.

Your hands cup my face as your tongue pushes deeper and deeper into my mouth. I am breathing heavily and drink you in, gently sucking on your tongue and moaning quietly. Your hands make your way down my body so slowly that the anticipation almost hurts me. I note quickly that you ignore my breasts, as requested, but I am soon lost in your tongue again.
Your hands hook the bottom of my mini skirt and slide it up over my hips. You haven’t peeked at what I’m wearing, you just slide your hand between my thighs and rub your fingers against my juicy cunt. As you part my lower lips with your fingers, more juice gushes out over your hand. You groan but don’t stop kissing me, pressing me harder into the door.

You rub my slit for a few more seconds, then push two fingers deep inside. There is no resistance, and I let out a long, low moan as your fingers find my g-spot. I start bucking against your hand, your fingers curled, so they don’t slip out as you let me fuck your hand.

I reach my climax quickly, and you respond to my sharp intake of breath by covering my mouth with yours, your tongue lazily licking mine as my cunt contracts around your fingers. My body shudders and shakes from head to toe, and my moan is caught in your mouth as you give me the time to ride the orgasm wave racking my body.

When my orgasm subsides, you slowly withdraw your fingers and tongue, but my body is still pressed against the door. I open my eyes to see you smiling down at me, those two fingers in your mouth as you taste me for the first time.

I smile up at you, and you step back, indicating the rest of your home behind you, and mutter, “Shall we?”

To be continued…

Story submitted by Adult FriendFinder member Honeymeadows .

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